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NGL i've been there before, and the whiplash change in interest can throw you through a loop - Especially if you've not really experienced much before. Words are cheap, and anyone announcing they lo…
Can we talk about how bad the current Shopify Admin UI is? — How has this continued to be a thing, and how did this get approved internally? The Shopify Admin UI is a complete mess. It's genuinely hard to believe this shipped — and worse, that it's still the c…
Is there a better way to create posts that actually match your brand? — As a solo builder, I’ve been working on a small idea I think might be useful — especially for startups and B2B teams trying to stay consistent with branded content on instagram. The problem: Creatin…
Is Getting Ripped Apart Normal in Product Design? — I’m new to product design, and at this startup, I wear both the product designer and product manager hats. I meet regularly with the CEO (my boss), and during our sessions, we review the website and r…
Why am I losing keywords? — I'm a bit lost. For the past 6 months I have been working on improving the rank of my website. When I first started, I just left an agency that wasn't doing a great job. When I switch from them, they …
Looking for CAC/CPC benchmarks for a coffee e-commerce in the U.S. — Hi, I’m starting an online coffee e-commerce business in the U.S., selling both exotic and regular coffee bags. I’m trying to estimate how much I should invest to get started. Does anyone here know t…
My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote — Hey All, A few months ago, I shared my story here (original Reddit post in comments) about starting an IT consultancy business in the Netherlands with a friend right after graduation. At that time, w…
Suggestions for affordable shipping for large unusual sized boxes and regular box that’s a bit heavy. — Im launching EV AirCare. We ship DIY Air Filter replacement kits for Teslas. It’s niche, with about 30% of Tesla drivers opting to DIY. I have all-in-one kits that aren’t available anywhere else. I’m …
Sanity check on my front to shopify — Using shopify for the checkout but didn't want to be constrained by their system for the main site (had been trying to stretch the $5/month plan as far as possible so I couldn't edit the templates...)…
Different Businesses Need Different Content Formats – Here's Why (i will not promote) — Hey everyone! One thing I see often overlooked is the fact that **not all businesses need the same type of content formats**. Depending on your target audience and the type of business you run, the …
Etsy integration that allows products not listed on my Shopify store? — Hi all, I'm trying to get started with Etsy integration with my Shopify store... Would like some suggestions on which app to use. I've looked around myself and maybe I'm misunderstanding how this who…
Building a paid video course site on WordPress — Hey everyone, I’m building a WordPress site that will work like Udemy — users will pay to access video lessons. I’ll be uploading football training videos, and only paid users should be able to watch…
How do you inspect what actually changed in container images? (My Git-based approach) — Hey everyone, When working with CI images or debugging build issues, I often need to understand *exactly* what changed in a container layer - not just which files were added or removed, but what was …
Strange page name changes to en dashes from regular dashes. Bad for G4. — This is a bit of an odd question, but I noticed in google analytics that the page names have changed from a hyphen to a en dash (option + dash) – . The dashes are automatic where it puts the page name…
Stategies for scaling out MySQL/MariaDB when database gets too large for a single host? — What are your preferred strategies when a MySQL/MariaDB database server grows to have too much traffic for a single host to handle, i.e. scaling CPU/RAM or using regular replication is not an option a…
Need help cleaning up my customer list — We use Shopify POS at our local nonprofit science center for IRL interactions only: admissions, gift shop, concessions. We also have memberships that we sell both online and in person. I have been tr…
“No Referring Sitemaps Detected.” — **Why your web pages might not show up on Google — even if they’re indexed** I ran into this issue while checking Google Search Console and thought it might help others here. Many of our indexed pag…
Wordpress custom REST API — I have a WordPress-based learning portal with various user roles including Administrator, Tutor Instructor, HR Manager, Accounting Manager, and Academy Instructor. Students are able to log in and view…
Wordpress Staging vs. LocalWP for website redesign — Hey everyone, I’m working on a full redesign and cleanup of an existing WordPress website, and I want to make sure the development process doesn’t hurt the site’s current SEO at all — both during deve…
How many orders have you missed in your email? — I’ve missed a number of orders because I couldn’t check my emails regularly so I created a bot that sends a WhatsApp alert of the whole order message whenever a new order lands in my email. It’s like …
How many orders have you missed in your email? — I’ve missed a number of orders because I couldn’t check my emails regularly so I created a bot that sends a WhatsApp alert of the whole order message whenever a new order lands in my email. It’s like …
Are There Any Tech Billionaires Who Weren’t ‘Nerds’ Growing Up? I will not promote — I’m doing a school research project on tech billionaires for a class, and I have a question. It seems like most successful tech entrepreneurs were into tech or coding from a young age, but I’m curious…
Tried all the steps to bootstrap, without funding. I will not promote. — I will not promote. So I spent a lot of time in the local world volunteering. All with the spoken language of "here's how you get your startup funding". So I've helped with community projects, other s…
Shoppay rewards options deteriorating with use? — I saw some people post some shop pay questions on here so I hope I’m not in the wrong spot… I use the shop pay app fairly regularly. So I have accumulated more rewards that I need to use. I typically…
I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …
Struggling with losing my best friend/coworker, anxious attachment + limerence making it unbearable — Hi everyone, I apologize in advance for this long post. I’ll just post the TL;DR at the start. TL;DR: Lost my best friend/coworker of 7 years after a conflict. He’s now cold/avoiding me but friendl…
Seeking self-closure — To give a brief overview. Had a multi year situationship with someone I had fallen for, a fearful avoidant. Much pulling and pushing until it ended by her pushing everything away. A year later she st…
Having trouble differentiating between anxious attachment / normal needs, feeling lost and alone — First Reddit post here! (It's a long one, I just really need a place to put it all down and get some support, so thank you). I (19F) got out of my first long term relationship about 3 months ago. It l…
The New Agora: Daily WWYD and light discussion thread — Welcome to the New Agora, a place for you and others to have casual conversations, seek advice and [first aid](https://modernstoicism.com/two-types-of-stoic-therapy-by-john-sellars/), and hang out tog…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
I earned secure attachment in 4 months... — I can't believe I'm writing this. I did this without dating a secure person and without spending money on courses/apps. I promise I'm not selling anything. Big disclaimers: * I am only mostly secure…
How do i stop the cycle of freaking out when im away from my partner? — When me and my partner dont see eachother for a long time, i just shut down. Everyday were apart the urge to pick apart every message is so strong and eventually when its too much, i just break down. …
What I'm realizing: I relate closest to others with deep trauma and that is a troublesome recipe. — TW: addiction, suicide, physical and emotional abuse, CSA. I have CPTSD, routine struggles with depression and anxiety and the corresponding executive dysfunction. I grew up with an alcoholic parent…
Self-help group for anxious attachment? — Hi folks, are there regular anxious attachment self-help group meetings out there? If not, I'd like to start one. I'm looking for something that's very specifically focused on anxious attachment. I…
Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…
Update: Self-help group for anxious attachment — Thank you to everyone who responded to my [**prior post**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AnxiousAttachment/comments/1plm1g1/selfhelp_group_for_anxious_attachment/) re starting a self-help group. (Yes, The…
Inner Child healing exercises? — Do you have recommendations for good exercises for healing the wounded inner child that might drive one's anxious attachment? - Good: Names of books, podcasts, etc. - Better: specific pages, chapte…
Weekly Newcomer Questions, Support, Vents & Victories — As the community continues to grow and attract people who are just figuring this all out, we've decided to change the weekly thread focus to be more open and encourage newcomer questions and support. …
Dismissive - Anxious dynamic catch 22, how could we make it work? — I'm having issues with a relationship that's really important to me. It's someone who I dated last year for 6 months. We have very intense and wonderful attraction and connection in a way that is rare…
Trying to navigate a "casual" relationship — Hi everyone, I (30F, trans) have been talking to/seeing a woman (24F, cis) for about 5 months. The chemistry is legitimately the strongest I’ve ever experienced - emotional, intellectual, creative, s…
Is this an emotional affair? — I (36F, single), have a good guy friend (40M) who has been dating a new woman for 2 ish months now. Full disclosure I don’t like her very much and I think they’re moving super fast (already saying I …
what do i do? my anxious attachment is getting REALLY bad. — i haven't been like this since i last had a really close online friendship w someone 2 years ago, but i recently started talking to a new friend online and we've known each other for only a few days. …
My girlfriend [20F] has scrubbed all photos of me [21M] from her social media and her room. How do I handle her explanation? — My girlfriend and I have been getting into quite a few "back and forth" fights over the past month, and it feels like nothing is changing. Recently, she started removing photos of me from her Instagra…
3 years in. Bro, it gets wild. — Okay, so a large part of this community seems to use SATS as a high-preparation, ritual method and yes it’s very powerful in that way. But you’re literally God. Why keep yourself so limited? Nevill…
Pregnancy seems to have opened something up — I am recently pregnant, and have been doing gateway for about 15mo. When I found out I was expecting, I decided to pause on focus levels where I was exerting more energy or opening myself to other ene…
I'm not a gnome, no seriously though — So the r/shrooms sub banned me for a short period of time because of my posts, even though they literally have a flair that says "Meme" it all started with a post about me slowly feeling like becomi…
A friend fell for me, even though he knew I'm happily married. After trying to distance himself for a while, he's now back but acting hostile towards me. I don't know what I've done to deserve his anger, nor how to fix the situation. Any thoughts or advices? — Me (31F) and my husband (32M) have a friend group we often hang out with. We used to be pretty close with this one friend there (30M), who would hang out with us often even outside the group. He came …
Lost my lucid dreaming ability the same day I told someone about it ,could metacognition explain this? — Hi everyone, I’m curious if anyone has experienced something similar. For about two years I practiced lucid dreaming very consistently. I used reality checks, dream journaling, and other methods, and …
DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…
I have done absolutely horrible things. I might be the worst human being to ever live. — 20M. This might be the longest post you'll ever read. I believe I have OCD and do nothing but ruminate 24/7 about my past. I have been in isolation for the last 3 years. It started as a fear of adult…
42M. Do these things basically disqualify me entirely? — I'm 42, Male, home owner almost half way paying off the mortgage, university post-graduate education, full time job in retail middle management that I actually enjoy doing, a bunch of mostly solitary …
Everyone coming here from the other subs is blessed to have finally sought a break from the emotional self-harm that seems to be at the core of the methodology in these other groups... which I took pa…
The very first paragraph really struck me. I haven’t learned how to copy text here yet since I’m new to Reddit. But “Non-intrusive and engaged curiosity from parents about what you were feeling and ex…
Yeah I understand. So one thing you'll notice if you try formal meditation is when when you begin to relax the eyes you become aware of the tension and strain that is *already* there. With patience an…
Probably around the same length that anyone has had a regular dream for. Not sure what the longest recorded dream is but on average I think it’s a bit over an hour, but I suspect that in rare conditio…
I've asked two different entities, and they gave me partly conflicting answers. The self-proclaimed deity said most humans and all animals go to an enormous astral...warehouse waiting room thingy. Th…
I’m not sure any research has been done. Except maybe some about narcoleptics, but for regular folks probably not. But if you search the sub there are a lot of posts of people describing this.
I’ve tried it and it hasn’t worked. The only successful “manifestations” I’ve had required me to work hard until the very end which leads me to believe I was just setting goals and taking action like …
Thank you. I will ask the op to insert these links into her other post. They are a good addenda and are a beneficial part of the record. We may make her post a part of our index as well. It is a very…
Then why does MC recommend NC during SP missions? Because, many times, that is the appropriate conventional action, at that moment. Either because they are increasingly fearful of you, or unfairly ho…
I am in a similar position to you OP. I've been seeing my fiancée for over 2 years. We live separately due to circumstances at her end, and we see each other roughly once a week, usually at weekends…
Most people lived in small villages(or close proximity) and wouldn't be that far away from each other about...70-80 years ago, and even before the internet you'd be close by your partner (otherwise, h…
Not specifically with my T but I regularly shift between all 4 attachments depending on who I’m blending with. Lately I’m DA with most, holding them as some flavour if contempt or patronizing, or ge…
That’s cool and all but how would you know if you are compatible seeing each other on a regular basis?
Stop stepping into a mummy role. You can’t help your partner, he’s a grown ass 40 year old man who needs to step up and help himself. There are tons of free resources available as well as therapy and …
I know it's not quite what you're asking, but I'd happily advocate for spending the big money again on DataDog and Auth0. Both get very costly at scale, but both solve their respective problems very…
Start SEO now for launch, then phase in paid campaigns while tracking website traffic, conversions, CAC, and ROAS with regular reports from a competent, data-driven agency, even without specific niche…
Simple SEO is beneficial for the site, and you can use ChatGPT to make sure to highlight keywords and phrase your page descriptions in a way that makes it stand out in the algorithm. Social media is…
One thing I am selling is the difference between Standard Operating Proceedures (SOPs) and "releases". Our customers are resistant to any idea of change at more than an 6 or 3 month interval, but what…
Umm.. I think your % is off and there are way more lurkers here and some real people out there. I thought about doing posts, a podcast, or a book as an entrepreneur about how hard it was for years ru…
It’s a common challenge. It sounds like you might need a stronger structure for cross-functional communication. Try setting up clear documentation (like a shared roadmap), defining goals for each team…
Honestly the amount doesn't matter. Everyone pretty much starts the same way. Worked a full time job while starting my business. Essentially spent every moment of free time before and after work …
Someone’s gotta be on the other end. He might be pushing, and looks like he usually is, but you’re pulling every time you entertain him. Because most people wouldn’t keep letting him in again, which y…
This is best description that I've heard, just amazing. My partner (now probably ex, as he decided we'll "take a pause" - of course without saying for how long or what does it mean) accused me of "not…
I got this issue, the more I like the other person the more intense the fear becomes. It causes me to execute a lot of testing behavior. I’m still working through it but I notice regular intense exerc…
You’ve taken the first (huge) step which is self reflection, congrats! A good therapist really is best, BUT there are many other resources to help. 1) Start regularly meditating (5-10 minutes a day…
Love this comment. I’ve found it to be so true. For a regular ex I was with for nearly a decade and we had a fairly normal/stable/secure attachment to each other, maybe a little bit dependent on each …
>Whatever the actual proportion is, I bet there is definitely a rise in non-secure attachment overall. Yeah, agreed. People keep citing these dated and dubious "statistics" that 50% of the populati…
As a regular of that sub, I dare to disagree. While it's indeed true people (and early on myself included, until I knew better) confuse or wrongly attribute abusive patterns and narcissism to avoidant…
Not all women will engage in situationship. I’d argue that confident and secure women who aren’t looking for something casual especially won’t entertain this type of situation. Unless they don’t take …
I totally get it, I’ve seen corrective experiences work wonders in the moment. My background is in building real-time frameworks for clients and practitioners who deal with collapse or shutdown, espec…
Im sort of thinking of sending a similar message to someone. How to make this more concrete without sounding desperate or clingy? We stopped talking several months ago, he ignored my casual massage fe…
Thanks qgain for such in-deep advices, I really appreciate that. No, I don't know for a fact that she's a DA, that's just my conclusion from reading different online resources (includong this sub). Th…
My boyfriend is an introverted DA. It seems like one outing per 2 week period is about what he can handle without feeling like it’s too much. Also, having people over creates stress so, same ratio. I …
I’m in therapy, meditate regularly, exercise, and on Zoloft. All of those tools have been super helpful for my anxiety. However, audiobooks specifically talking about attachment styles have been game …
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I'm like you. I think for APs a few embarrassing collisions and losses are necessary to wake up to the fact that life can't be lived this way. My parents are both extremely anxious people and my mothe…
Short answer is: you won’t ever be able to know, often they don’t even know, and you need to protect your sanity first. Long answer is: don’t monitor what you think your partner wants but instead mo…
You mentioned all of your other relationships were with avoidants and he is anxious attachment. Have you considered that being with someone anxious, who moves towards you when nervous, has encouraged …
It’s also okay to have a conversation now at the outset between two FAs about how this happens. “Hey, it’s inevitable that we won’t like everything about each other, but what’s important for me is tha…
I think it's the control. Limiting their freedom of movement is a big thing for me. Literally can't run away from me loving them. I also really like to take my time with this. Easily an hour+, and reg…
I’ve struggled with the same thing. Anxious attachment contributed to my last partner leaving me. I have a regular therapist but have also been doing DBT therapy since my breakup. Some of the emotiona…
I mean, it's hard to say. I'm sure that two secure people might appear to be boring to insecurely attached people. Depending on the attachment style, even insecurely attached people find faults …
I’ve been dating someone whose behavior seems to text book match a lot of what I have read about Dismissive Avoidant and Fearful Avoidant. They are somewhere in between the two, but I would say mostly…
What do you want out of this? That's the starting question. This person said they didn't want a relationship? Do you want a relationship? This person has free access to you whenever they like, how d…
I completely agree that we're not meant to be alone. I do still get a healthy amount of time spent with others. My friends do visit my town every now and then, and i still regularly spend time with th…
Thank you for your reply! I was doing some of the stuff you said. The strengthening my relationships with other friends, and amping up my hobbies, and reducing contact (although not zero contact. We u…
I think you should try to only put in the amount of energy you can give away freely without resentment. I got into this pattern for a long time; I'm a natural planner and like to have things in the d…
Was she avoidant? I dated this girl for almost a year. At first, I didn’t think she was avoidant. She was good at communicating her boundaries, was consistent with everything, and made me feel secur…
There are free guided meditations on attachmentrepair.com. A lot of them are “ideal parent” meditations in which you imagine an ideal parent (instead of the ones you had) taking care of you when you w…
The majority of a message (thought stream) sent to my significant other, after two days of receiving (what I believe to be) whimsical communication and apathetic tone, from someone I know loves me—am …