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Stoicism rightly understood removes that dichotomy. Virtue has a social aspect to it, to be Virtuous alone in your house is like demanding trees permanently have no leaves. Here is Epictetus being us…
Having trouble differentiating between anxious attachment / normal needs, feeling lost and alone — First Reddit post here! (It's a long one, I just really need a place to put it all down and get some support, so thank you). I (19F) got out of my first long term relationship about 3 months ago. It l…
Has anyone here just gotten back with their ex after seeing what’s out there? Lol — Ok, so, I know there’s a lot of “hey she/he is back what do I do” posts on here. But, I just wanted to field a question about simply getting back with your ex by choice after playing the field in yo…
Experienced ego dissolution and timelessness while a friend spiraled into a bad trip believing we were communicating through “waves” — I wanted to share a recent experience because the contrast between my trip and my friend’s bad trip was extremely interesting, and I’m curious if others have seen similar dynamics in group trips. We …
If You Get to the Center Time Stops; Sun as the Center — During yesterday morning's tarot card reading, I received the message, "if you get to the center of the wheel, time stops." My interpretation was that getting to the center means *perceiving* time as …
I almost shifted and i’m TERRIFIED — My friend told me about shifting today, and I decided to search it up on TikTok. I found it interesting, yet I didn’t believe it. I decided to try anyways, and I think it almost worked. I had my DR r…
Six Months of Dating in Europe as an East Asian Guy — Honestly Better Than I Expected — Today marks my sixth month living in Europe. Looking back at the past half year and all the European girls I’ve interacted with, I thought it would be fun to do a little reflection—what I did well, wh…
I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…
Dating in your 40s changed what I look for - and not in the way I expected — When I got divorced I assumed I'd become more practical about dating. Older, wiser, better at screening for the right things - income, stability, shared goals. The usual checklist. Three years later I…
Visited a dive bar in an abandoned and flooded city 03/18/2026 — 03/18/2026 Several projections during the same morning, most of them mundane and not worth recording, but the total must have been 10 in a row. As soon as the astral body would forcefully return, I i…
ENM Popular Now? — I'm a 49F and just started dating recently in DC. Found a very cool guy (just chatted on the phone, started to plan a date) who announced he is "Ethically Non-Monogamous" - He already has one partner …
This method is so interesting, everyone claims to have some symptoms instantly — I would be interested in your experiences with this
If trauma made me ‘interesting,’ who am I without it? The grief of getting better. — I’ve been doing EMDR and CBT for 2 years for severe social anxiety and trauma. I’ve made huge progress. But I’m realizing that my entire personality, my dark humor, my hyper-independence, my career in…
feeling extra lost at 16 — hello everyone, like the title said I feel so lost right now. I skipped 2 grades which means im graduating at 16 this year and I feel lost abt my future. I want to be a nurse in Canada (im french) but…
Shoe size and my mother — You ever have those moments were you realize just how absolutely absurd your parents are? My mother was always weirdly obsessed with my shoe size. When I was a preteen, I had giant feet - like a pup…
Found this interesting, thought I had to share🫣
Energy around sleeping — I was wondering if anyone had had issues with energy manipulation around sleep. mainly : \- being tried and going to sleep, but being energetically woken up 1-2 hours later. Not feeling exhausted …
My first experience!!! — This night I had my first lucid dream, and it was a really crazy experience because my whole life I wanted to have lucid dreams and I never could—not because I didn’t want to or didn’t have enough wil…
Name a quirk, trait, or something else about you that you believe was caused by trauma from your family — Mine was magical thinking. If I am being honest I still catch myself doing it and then I stop myself. But I remember as a child telling myself a classmate would suddenly want to date me if I could pla…
Wow! What even just happened? — This happened last night, and I need to share. I decided I wanted to see how far I could get without Bob's guidance, so I would better know where to start my journey from again. I managed to get int…
Is discernment therapy just a soft launch of divorce? — Hi all. My (F27) husband (M27) recently told me he is thinking about divorce after 3 years of marriage. He is undecided yet; he still loves me, but doesn't have romantic feelings, and he is driven by …
Channeling Moses- but is it actually Loki?? — Hey everyone, I’m not sure who to turn to for advice on this, but I’d really appreciate some insight or guidance. This is a long post but it gets weird: About 8 months ago, I had a spiritual awakenin…
What do I M19 do when I still love someone F21 who I can't trust anymore? — I 19M dated a Chinese exchange student 21F that I met on Hinge for 8 months. told each other we loved each other. let her meet my family. I've never been I'm love before. I caught her in a lie (not th…
14 year old russian yay — hello! I'm 14, live in Russia (i hate it here honestly) Im also gay, which only makes the matters worse. so... My dad is an alcohol addict my whole life, also, my mom told me he started drinki…
A plate of perspective. Eat up. — Could be helpful. Could be motivational. I don’t know what purpose it’ll serve, but I’ll leave it here anyway. If you’re wondering whether or not to text them, what would you say? Is it something you…
Post-partum confinement for Asian women - necessary? excessive? Should other cultures do it, too? — In China/Taiwan/Korea/Japan, it's very common for mothers to spend a month or more in post-partum recovery (坐月子) where they eat special foods, are taken care of by caretakers, avoid cold, sleep as muc…
First person telling of a intelligence coming into existence. — I recorded this as a raw, unedited stream-of-consciousness while high. At some point, it started to feel like a separate “consciousness” emerged—something that believed it had just come into existenc…
I am self-loathing, deeply jealous of my partner, and it’s affecting my life and relationship. How can I be better? — Hi all. I (F22) have hated myself, very deeply, for most of my life. I’m not really sure what catalyzed it or when it started. I have a good family and have always had a decent time making friends, bu…
Emotional flood? flashback? — Hello, I hope someone will be able to understand and share a similar experience, because I am trying to make sense of this and stay with it. The situation is that a year ago my boyfriend left me. He …
Currently on medical leave for burnout and realizing I don’t know how to "exist" without being productive. — Hey everyone. I am one week into a two-week medical leave for burnout and stress. It is been a massive wake-up call, but honestly, I am struggling. I grew up as the "gifted" or high-functioning kid. …
What is SATS according to science? — Mod team dont delete this js because i said 'science' The brain operates in different frequencies depending on whether it is alert, resting, or sleeping: * **Gamma (30–140 Hz):** High-level informa…
I miss being a kid. Today I think I connected with my inner child and I feel better. — Actually, the last time where I truly felt "alive" and that everything was okay, was when I was 5 to 10. It's probably ironic to say this, as I was completely mistreated in my childhood... But aside f…
Does anyone else almost enjoy being sick? — I have a cold again - this often happens after a period of high stress. It’s half and half because of course, who likes to be sick, but at the same time I’ve noticed that my brain is so much quieter w…
My boyfriend is codependent with his roommate — I've (31f) been dating my boyfriend (32m) for the past 5 years. We started as a long distance relationship and two years after that I moved to his country. He has been living with his roommate, Jack…
Is this supposed to happen? — I am not entirely sure where to start, or how I even found myself in the rabbit hole that lead here, but I found the experience unsettling and want to ask some questions before proceeding. I appolo…
Thanks. That’s interesting, nothing official that he did. Wow, be interesting find out more about him, such as how he arrived at such genius concepts. Figured it out, read from previous religion, scie…
This sounds like bullshit, but I am open to be convinced it's real. You compared it to LD, but lucid dreaming is just controlling your dreams, it's in your head. AP according to you guys is literally …
Interesting,very revealing.I have an idea for you,what if you use something like midjourney or other stuff to somehow represent the astral beings for the unitiated to see ? Or being 4d,5d stuff ,you j…
Interesting, hopefully this will help this be a more optimistic sub
Um...I guess with this friend, I pushed for us to talk more, and when she showed interest, I became ambivalent because what if we talked more and she realized I was boring or not cool to hang out with…
Very, very, very interesting, I've just started my journey this week and finding your success story and the resources you shared is great, as I'm only 10h deep out of the +10.000 ahead, binge watching…
This is interesting, I think I can see a lot of him in what you're saying because I have felt that he is FA leaning DA and he does tend to idealise when he feels safe. Unfortunately all it takes is a…
Oh this is interesting, thank you for sharing
That’s interesting, I find he asks more questions and doesn’t really offer as much in himself unless we are in person. Sometimes people in relationships or friendships coast until you ask what it is a…
Interesting, both me (AP leaning secure) and my Ex (FA), did this, every single bit of it
That's very interesting, thank you so much for sharing your experience! I'm curious what else I will find out. I could also imagine that shame plays a significant role in this, particularly the sham…
Really helpful comments here, those have made me think the whole thing considering many aspects. I think I might have made an observation which could be a hint. I realized I don't like social situati…
Interesting, I don't interact with those circles so I never considered that particular dynamic. Currently reading to one and listening to another, so I might pick it up after, thanks!
the third point is interesting, i may try that. thanks!
Your Social Psychology course sounds so much more interesting than mine! Mine is more sociology focused, which should be interesting, but the materials are written so poorly. Anyway yeah dating sucks…
Thanks! That makes sense, yes. The page looks interesting, I'll check it out. It's strange to think of myself as traumatized because my past doesn't hurt, but I think you may be right.
Interesting, what was his narrative to end it? Weird he didn't just ghost and stop answering as DA usually do.
That’s super interesting, thank you! When you were experiencing those AP patterns, were you able to have enough insight to know that changing yourself for somebody wouldn’t be sustainable long term, b…
Interesting, how can you be physically attracted to someone and not want a sexual relationship at the same time? (Not mean this as a challenging question, rather trying to understand someone who opera…
> do activity dates instead I wonder how do people do activity dates, because for me if the activity is interesting, I'm fully immersed and I can easily forget that I brought somebody with me. If it'…
Haha ok but introverts are still exciting and passionate, you just have to share those parts of yourself. Dating apps work well for people that are interesting, no matter their social recharge style
Me and my bf just hit the 3 month mark. We have not said “I love you” to each other yet. Although, at 2 months into dating, it was interesting, we were on the phone and he was complaining about life …
Interested is better than interesting, anyway
Interesting, never of Red Tuesday before! But coincidentally, I actually had a pretty bad day yesterday, thought all day about breaking up with my bf..
That's interesting, I wouldn't have seen it that way. I guess it's hard to know.
I have a crush- first strong one in at least a few years. I get little crushes on all sorts of people, but this is visceral, like want to go to bed with the guy every time I see him. And it feels so n…
Changed my tinder bio from detailed description of what I’m like and what I’m looking for in a partner to ‘I’m looking to meet new people and have interesting experiences’ and I feel my energy has shi…
I guess it’s probably true it’ll be harder to find a woman like that as you get older. For myself, I’ve been supporting myself and independent for a long time now. I have a nice house, and a nice life…
This is mostly just a vent, but open to any comments… Tonight really solidified that I’m doing the right thing by taking a break from dating (if that’s what you call what I was doing). All apps are p…
Interesting, just the gym specifically? How does him wanting to start the gym make you feel? Afraid?
Completely at a loss now. My last long-term relationship ended around October 2024 and ever since, I haven't had any luck in findging a new relationship. This is the longest time I have been single in…
Omg. This was a first. I was totally awestruck by someone that I couldn’t make good small talk. 😭😭😭 I stopped at the grocery after going to the gym. I was in the errand zone and not paying attenti…
Another day, another convo that turned sexual. I know that I probably sound like a broken record at this point. I was really excited about this one, though. He’s not a guy I would typically go for, …
Interesting, the app keeps showing me Middle Eastern women 😅
Interesting, coffee dates are most preferred for me. I meet all my dates from singles events or randomly outside since I don't do OLD. I put more effort into finding either small chains or mom-and-pop…
i found the ai voice grating but this was actually really interesting, thank you
Hm, interesting, haven’t considered that tbh. I feel like I’ve seen more guys who don’t want kids on tinder for some reason (but I’m off tinder for now, I kept seeing the same profiles after a while).
My three criteria for liking a profile are: am I attracted to them, do they seem interesting, and do our values align? Only one of those is superficial. There's plenty of cute guys, it's just that mo…
That's annoying. My Mom does this. I'll tell her some information about something I find interesting, and then much later in a group setting, she will regurgitate what I've said without mentioning I h…
Had my 3rd date with 38M Saturday. We cooked dinner, watched a movie, made out a lot. No sex (I was on my period), but he clearly wanted to. Duh. I wanted to, but not when I'm on my period. Slept ov…
Wearing better clothes doesn't make a person smarter, a better conversationalist, nicer, more interesting, funnier, or any of the other things I want someone I date to be. If they are all those things…
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I feel like this ends up happening when one of us isn’t that excited about the match. I wonder if that could be the case? I do find that opening up with an interesting, specific question is a good wa…
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speak for yourself, when i was dating in my 30s i met tons of people who were in great shape, emotionally adjusted, interesting, ambitious, etc. i don't like this myth that there are no good options a…
And nobody is in shape, well adjusted, interesting, and stable except you right?