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If your avoidant ex discarded you: go no contact immediately. — writing this as someone who only figured out I'm avoidant/what avoidance truly is post-breakup: the kindest thing you can do for yourself as the ex of an avoidant is respect yourself enough to have t…
How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2 — We stand with the disabled users of reddit and in our community. Starting July 1, Reddit's API policy blind/visually impaired communities will be more dependent on sighted people for moderation. When …
Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …
Welcome to r/ecommerce! Please Read Before Posting — **Table of Contents:** I. Account Requirements II. Content Rules III. Linking Policies IV. Dropshipping Guidelines V. Reporting Violations VI. Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) VII. Encouraged C…
How to heal avoidant attachment? — Uhhhh hey gang. Formerly severe fearful avoidant here. The attachment quizzes put everyone somewhere on a quadrant, with the bottom being high avoidance and the right high anxiety. So I was farrrr in …
Share your startup - quarterly post — Share Your Startup - Q4 2023 [**r/startups**](https://www.reddit.com/r/startups/) **wants to hear what you're working on!** Tell us about your startup in a comment within this submission. Follow thi…
Sick of Spam? Use the Report Button! — Annoyed by AI-written posts full of stealth promotion? We are, too. Whenever you see it, hit that report button! The majority of spam that makes it through our ever-evolving filters is never reported …
How does one go about creating these sorts of animations? — Sorry in advanced if this is a stupid question. I am such a noob when it comes to this sort of stuff. I came across this website ([https://animejs.com/](https://animejs.com/)) which has a really cool…
Backend skills for a hobbyist? — Hi, I'm wondering if y'all have recommendations for backend skills that a lone hobbyist should learn? Right now I don't know everything I want to do with web design, but I know I'd like to create art…
Am I crazy? Growing from a single freelancer to an agency with a team — Hi everyone - quick background: I'm a freelance web designer/developer who's been doing this thing now for almost 15 years. I've done it under a studio name, but it's always just been me, with some oc…
Resources for learning basics of design — hey hey! I'm a product manager who used to be a data scientist so I've got some experience inthe 'business' and 'science' corners of the product triangle but I'm keen to learn more about the design s…
How do I get my google sites webpage to appear in google searches? — I have created a personal webpage under google sites. It is: [https://sites.google.com/view/fhcomponent/domov](https://sites.google.com/view/fhcomponent/domov) For some reason it does not show up in…
Meta won’t let you control impressions, so I trained an RL model to do it — One thing that always annoys me with Meta campaigns: you can’t just say “give me X impressions.” It’s all budget-based, and if you’re trying to hit specific visibility goals (like consistent daily del…
How do I put together a multi-product design system as a sole designer? — Hi all, my UX design journey has been chaotic but I suspect that’s normal. I was in visual/web design for about 8 years then 2 years ago I got my first UX role (after trying to pursue and study UX f…
Ressources for designing complexe software — Hi, a lot of resources and guides online are about web design. For example, if you scroll through dribble, mobbin or just look up ressources, most revolve around how to build, design and create a good…
What questions can you ask a client who doesn’t know how to define their brand? — Sent over a questionnaire to my sales team to use for onboarding and they all came back and said most of the clients don’t know how to answer the questions related to their design guidelines (contract…
Looking for Educational Resources — I have been getting into SEO recently and I consider myself a beginner. I have a basic understanding of keywords, and some front end SEO. Still working on backlinks. Where are your most recommended le…
What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …
Should we use Grafana open source in a medium company — I work at a medium-sized company using New Relic for observability. We ingest over 4TB of data monthly, run 20+ services across production and staging, and use MongoDB. While New Relic covers logs, me…
404 Source Page on GA4 — Whats your take on getting the source pages of 404?
We open-sourced internet’s largest incident response glossary with over 500+ terms — We just published a public glossary with **500+ terms** related to incident response, on-call, alerting, SLOs, postmortems, and more. I think this is perhaps the internet's largest glossary for incide…
MacOs HomeBrew and Open Source tooling — Hey guys! Quick question for ya, I've been at a job for awhile now but we just got transitioned over to macOS. We were on windows machines before. Software was always distributed through self service…
People who outsourced to 3PL after fulfilling orders in house - what did you do with the office? — Did you keep your office/warehouse as a HQ even though you weren't storing products, downsizing to a smaller location or have no office at all (WFH etc)
Redis is open source again? — Redis seems to be Open Source again!!! With Redis 8, the Redis community is thinking of going back to open source. Source: https://thenewstack.io/redis-is-open-source-again/ Guys let's discuss this…
How can I get credible backlinks for my mental health startup website? — Hey everyone, I'm building a mental health awareness and support platform called *Trusme*, and I'm trying to improve its SEO through quality backlinks. I'm not looking for spammy directories or paid…
We just got our first ChatGPT referral? — We just had a sale where the conversion summary shows ChatGPT as the source. Does ChatGPT make product recommendations that link directly to websites? This could be a bad idea for small businesses in…
Cobbler/Chef Educational Resources — I’m a network engineer by day and part time lab assistant to earn a few extra bucks in the evening. They are wanting in the next 90 days to get me spun up on assisting with tickets as the physical lif…
[I will not promote] i built a tool to help with affiliate outreach because i kept forgetting to follow up — hey folks just wanted to share something i’ve been building on the side i’ve been trying to grow an affiliate program for a while but finding the right people is tough outreach feels like yellin…
Custom price Dev Paid — Hey everyone, I'm a WordPress developer and coming to Shopify has been really hard hahaha I'm looking to implement custom pricing. So i have products with variant, the price is per square meter. And…
New to SEO and Trying to save my local business — Hi Everyone! I run a local companion care service for seniors and I’m staring down what feels like an impossible mountain with SEO. I’ve watched countless YouTube tutorials, learned a bit about on-si…
ROAST my design before I end up in the streets — Hey everyone, I recently launched a small SaaS project and while I’m getting some traffic, the conversion rate is sooo low. I’m trying to figure out if the design is part of the problem — or the prob…
Need Guidance for Amazon Systems/DevOps Engineer Interview (Cloud Support Background) — Hope you're all doing well. I'm currently working as a Cloud Support Engineer and have managed to land an interview with Amazon for a Systems/DevOps Engineer role. While I’m excited, I’m also feelin…
[I will not promote] curious does affiliate marketing still work for early stage startups? — hey folks just wanted to share something i’ve been building on the side i’ve been trying to grow an affiliate program for a while but finding the right people is tough outreach feels like yelling in…
Time-based permissions — What tools are you using for managing time-based temporary permissions, such as AWS/GCP accounts, database, SSH access, etc. ? Looking for a solution for managing permissions for people accessing res…
Restricted access for employees (I will not promote) — What tools are you using for managing time-based temporary permissions, such as AWS/GCP accounts, database, SSH access, etc. ? Looking for a solution for managing permissions for people accessing res…
What is your social media content creation workflow? — Im running an ecom business with 700k plus revenue. Ive never did much on social media or video content creation. There is a lot of value in creating explainer videos for potential and existing custom…
What would you be willing to pay for at your company? — Over the years, we’ve seen several licensing dramas and ongoing debates even on this sub — the latest being Redis becoming open source again. Someone once said: “I'm fine with companies making money …
Canary like deployments for Custom Resources? — Why is there no Canary-like deployment orchestrator for Custom Resources with quality gateway analysis? AFAIK, Flagger, Keptn ( have some maintenance problems ), Argo Rollouts, these are tightly boun…
Plan to build the healthiest farm-to-table meal delivery service. Seeking advice. I will not promote. — I WILL NOT PROMOTE. Plan on building what I believe can be the cleanest and most transparent farm-to-table meal delivery service brand, and I’d love feedback from anyone who’s worked in DTC, food or j…
Any suggestions on the most worth-it UX AI certifications or programs? — After years of holding off on this, I’m finally in a decent place to look into the AI side of UX and am looking for deeply insightful, and valuable AI certifications or other tools that is more practi…
Unsecured Capital Raise "i will not promote" — Hello, first-time poster looking for creative fundraising recommendations. I’m working to open a recreation + F&B "eatertainment" facility inside a large leased space. I anticipate traditional invest…
Built a fast multi-host terminal log viewer with timeline histogram – looking for feedback — Hey all – I’ve been working on Nerdlog: an open-source fast terminal-based log viewer loosely inspired by Graylog/Kibana, having a similar timeline histogram on top, but designed to be snappy, lightwe…
Jobsites to lookout for as a Product Designer. Need help. — I'm currently in the lookout for a job change and I would like to know if there are any specific sites/channels/spaces/groups to get a job alerts. I'm aware of fee and actively on top of it, but I cou…
Intercom “design challenge” (stay away) — Please don’t give them free work…. or charge them a consulting freee. https://www.linkedin.com/posts/thomas-rimmer-73903030_%F0%9D%97%AA%F0%9D%97%B2-%F0%9D%97%B7%F0%9D%98%82%F0%9D%98%80%F0%9D%98%8…
Self-hosted alternative to AWS Elastic Beanstalk with GitHub deploy and automatic horizontal scaling (no Kubernetes)? — I’m looking for a self-hosted platform similar to AWS Elastic Beanstalk that lets me push my code to GitHub and handles deployment plus automatic horizontal scaling on VPS servers. **Requirements:** …
Kimp or similar design subscription services, what’s your experience been like? — I’ve been looking into design-on-demand subscription services lately like Design Pickle, Flocksy, Penji, and others, and recently came across Kimp. The pricing is much more accessible than what I saw …
Introducing VPS Pilot – My open-source project to manage and monitor VPS servers! — Built with: Agents (Golang) installed on each VPS Central server (Golang) receiving metrics via TCP Dashboard (React.js) for real-time charts TimescaleDB for storing historical da…
Equity with new cofounder and fundraising. I will not promote — I'm starting a tech startup company. Currently outsourcing the tech team to build the app - every tech person I met wanted to be paid cash and wanted to take up to a year to get the platform up and ru…
Is WooCommerce the Right Fit for Your Wholesale Business? — If you're a wholesaler considering WooCommerce for your B2B operations, it's essential to weigh its capabilities against your business needs. Here's a concise breakdown based on insights from Qoblex :…
Ibm Event notification question — Hello everyone, I am having difficulties to configure my alerts with different templates. Maybe can someone help me? In Event-notifications i have created a Source. In this sources i have 2 …
Need Advice: 3x Salary Offer for Fullstack Role, But It’s a One-Man Show. Go for it? — Hi. Everyone. Please bear with me, I hope this is the right place to ask. I’m currently a jr web developer and have been working in my first proper dev job for almost a year. The pay is on the l…
Thanks for making that great post! I wish i found something like this subreddit earlier. And i am sure it's a wonderful resource for beginners.
Just a few questions Mr Moonbeam. If you are so against the “act/live as if” what do you have to say about Dr. Joe Dispenza, Gregg Braden and Dr. Bruce Liptons, Napoleon Hill, Jim Rohn, Eckhart Toll…
I am so excited to be here! I plan to make my way through the index exactly as instructed. I stumbled here by accident, and it turned out to be exactly what I needed in the moment (and exactly what I …
Check out [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralProjection/comments/msprrk/this_multidimensional_model_by_jurgen_ziewe_shows/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb), [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralP…
The point is to still go to sleep, if you're going for the direct method, exiting the body happens during the precise moment between wakefulness and sleep, [see this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralPr…
A lot of sources say you have to absolutely stop moving when trying to project, but this seems impossible to me because of my adhd. The same thing with meditation, I can't just focus on my breath or s…
This is the most comprehensive, condensed and well-thought-out resource I've seen on CEN, bravo. It's nice to see Walker and Webb getting credit, we could really do with another generation of writers…
This is bullshit and has nothing to do with beginners The only efficient and quick way getting into devOps : a lot of practice and googling from day 1 None of these endless videos From 1 s…
**!!!!! READ ME !!!!!** The purpose of this community is to explore human energy in all of its facets while stripping away the esoteric language, rituals and distractions that have accumulated over …
Most worth and resourceful link I see
Any video or audio resources I could look in to? I know nothing about energy work.
For years, I would look for a resource like this. I finally gave up about six months ago. Figures you would show up now. lol
I realized recently I have no internal source of validation, but have always needed validation from some external source. I suppose my marriage gave me that, in a way, and it was clearly not healthy/s…
Omg I relate SO much to what you are saying. When my ex's affair was discovered he was remarkably cruel to me. He wasn't sure he wanted to continue in our marriage and refused to cut things off with h…
What does that look like??? Find a new hobby. Anything. Try learning to knit. Learn to build robots. Take a class in 17th century blacksmithing. Join a woodworkers guild. Join an improve troupe. Volu…
Wonderful information in the introduction. I would love to get some personal insight from people who are familiar with Astal Projection. I'll keep it as short as possible. I have recently discovered t…
Thank you for the welcome and resources. I really need this.
Great resource post
Yeah. I deal with those intrusive thoughts every day. Then I think back to last year how I manifested sooooo many things. No ode why things seem to be taking more time this go around, but I have to re…
Yeah Idk why they don't just post to nofap since there's so many more resources there
Can you source the scientific proof you speak of? Edit: Of course you can’t, not surprising :)
I’ll take a crack at it Point 1: The answer is sm vs cm thought. Daydreaming is not focused with intent, the mind often wonders and you still feel it’s not true in the end or with emotions that are …
>Can you source the scientific proof you speak of? What about the double slit experiment then ?
If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, LO…
I feel you. I’ll give you my experience as a FA then suggestions. - I also transitioned from anxious to avoidant our the years. I was never full on AA but more anxious leaning FA as a child. Now I l…
Therapist will navigate with you your core wounds which will help you to identify your fears and patterns, learn healthy boundaries, learn about attachment in deeper and learn more about yourself, wor…
If you want to talk, I invite DMs but I'm only here sporadically. I'm a healed avoidant. I say that, but it's not black and white. I measure now for mostly secure. I still experience the initial resp…
Yes I agree it’s an important topic. My issue with how you’re addressing it is that you’re creating some sort of behavior hierarchy that simply doesn’t exist. I’m not AP, for the record. I am in the…
Website “free to attach” and the book “Attached” are my two favorite resources
To me, the book doesn’t so much denigrate avoidants as it highlight their challenges in relationships, to help anxious types recognize patterns and seek stability—often with secure partners as an idea…
Hey, really appreciate you sharing all this. That FA-FA dynamic can be such a rollercoaster—sounds like you’ve been through a lot and done some serious inner work already. Respect. Since you’re looki…
People who are unavailable are exciting because of the inherent conflict involved. Find healthier sources of conflict.
Your word choice is really interesting. As someone who has an anxious attachment style, constantly wanting to contact your therapist sounds to me less like anxious attachment on a personal relationshi…
It’s good that you’re reflecting on past relationships - that’s what transforms them from painful failures into learning experiences. 1) In confronting your deep sense of unworthiness (which I totall…
I feel this! The stakes are higher when I truly love/like someone (idk about you OP but for me this even extends to platonic friendships/ coworker relationships) and so my fear of messing up and pushi…
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is an approach to [psychotherapy](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/therapy) that identifies and addresses multiple sub-personalities or families within each pers…
Your partner sounds Fearful avoidant, is he aware of his attachment style? I think all you can do is let him know in as blame-free way as possible that you notice a pattern in his behaviour that con…
Stop stepping into a mummy role. You can’t help your partner, he’s a grown ass 40 year old man who needs to step up and help himself. There are tons of free resources available as well as therapy and …
" But I just keep losing interest or get unbearable anxiety around guys I meet on dating apps. As a man who has been on over twenty dates from dating apps I can say you are not the only one and you m…
By ‘phantom ex,’ I mean that the most recent crush is serving as an idealized image of someone they can never have, which makes it easier to compare others to this unrealistic standard. It’s common in…
Have you costed up the Grafana Cloud? We're a small organisation right now, but we're using Grafana Cloud and it's very cost effective for us. Our plan will be to eventually selfhost once we're at the…
The answer here seems pretty clear. Fix the app. There’s no point scaling until you’ve fixed it. DigitalOcean is more than enough for your needs right now. And be wary of using Kubernetes. It’s an inc…
Work on an observability team. I stood up grafana with influx, ran that for a few years, then we moved to a vendor. Grafana itself is pretty simple to run, it’s the backend data sources that are not…
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There's all sorts of reasons why it might take that long, though I'd echo that 24 hours doesn't seem that long to me considering their scale of operations. Ignoring all of the technical side of thin…
Check this roadmap (and no, it's not that one with thousands of tools that no one ever finished ... it's structured a bit differently): https://devopsroadmap.io There is no 1 source that covers the …
With NixOs you can deploy all your services as systemd services. Systemd offers the same isolation options as docker (even more I think). The only annoyance that I experienced with NixOs is that it’s …
Congratulations for your job! I am also learning about devops, started with Linux and Bash scripting and AWS will start learning about docker and k8s ansible and Terraform Can you share the resources …
Considering Hashicorp/IBM changed Terraform licensing from Open Source to Source Available, there is now community maintained form - Opentofu. Currently it's backwards compatible with Terraform but th…