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The 'technique' that helped me manifest in 1 week what I have been trying for months — I decided to make this a more general post since it's extremely helpful for any manifestation. Like everyone, I was trying to manifest something for a few months with common techniques like visualizi…
Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means) — I last posted a variation of this a little over 5 years ago. We're a little overdue for a repost. --- You know how every Uber rating is right on the verge of 5 stars unless something's particularly …
A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse. We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon. W…
How Can I Manifest Someone I Don’t Even Know? — Hey everyone, I need some advice. I recently saw a really handsome guy at my university fest, but he was an outsider. We didn’t talk, didn’t exchange contacts, and I have no idea where he came from o…
I got ghosted and I feel blindsided — I (26F) met a guy (26M) 3 months ago who was in every sense of the word my dream guy. We spent 1 week together before he left back to his country. Ever since we have Facetimed every single day, and we…
SEO Results in 2-3 Months — I run a small business and am looking for someone to help transform my website through SEO, which up until now has had very little traffic. In the past I have mostly relied on word of mouth and target…
Shopify Payment Plan — Hi, I'm looking into selling a bit more expensive products and I would like to offer a payment plan to our customers. I saw someone else do this (see print screen below), and I was wondering how thi…
Should I purchase multiple domain TLDs for my brand? What’s your opinion? — Hey everyone I own the main .com for my brand, but I’m wondering if it’s smart (or necessary) to purchase other TLDs too like .net, .co, .io, and so on. Some people say it helps with branding, trus…
Are Powerful Social Commerce Solutions Actually Helping Small Businesses Or Just Making Big Platforms Richer? — We keep hearing about powerful social commerce solutions—tools that connect shopping directly to social platforms like Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook. Sounds exciting, right? But here's the real quest…
High Margin Whitelabeled Stevia Product - looking for someone to take over — Hi all. Long story short I came in contact with a manufacturer in South America for a very, very good Stevia product that I use by myself and decided I wanted to try to sell in the states which I’ve w…
I made $32 after 16 months of coding. Was it all a waste of time? — Over the last 16 months, I’ve done something that sounds cooler than it really is: I built a SaaS. In my free time, at night, on weekends, while everyone else was at the beach or watching Netflix, I …
A great copywriter is worth their weight in gold — I've been building brands for 15 years. If you just got your first $20k-$100k budget to build your brand/web/app, let me humbly offer you a tip: # In 2025, the #1 thing that will affect how 'pro' you…
Ever feel like you’re doing all the right things in business, but still wrestling with doubt, decision fatigue, or just low-level burnout? — You’ve got the strategy. You’ve read the books. You’re pushing forward... but something’s off. What I’ve noticed in myself (and in others I work with) is this: It’s not always about more knowle…
How can I let devs update their lower environment terraform while protecting production environments? — I know the title is a rather open ended question, but let me lay out where I am now, in the hopes of getting ideas on how to do this better. For a given service, we'll have one directory for environm…
Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…
Is this Deactivation? Seeking insights from FAs. Please help me understand this — We're together for 6 months, a lot of push/pull in the beginning, but by the 4th month everything was finally going fine between us. He even called me his girlfriend nd promised to heal and everything…
I had a breakthrough tonight! — Hello! Brief backstory here. I recently got divorced, and dating has been an interesting experience since. I went into one relationship very quickly with another anxiously attached person. It didn't w…
We should keep in mind that its a spectrum.. — I realized something in my relationship and it is not much shared in this way so maybe it helps someone else I am anxious and my fiancee is avoidant. He is very introverted and trying to deal with hi…
I think I'm in the process of healing, but it hurts so much. Feeling very forgotten and abandoned tonight — I truly recognize and see how much I've grown and how far I've come. I have so much self awareness, gotten good at soothing myself, talking to myself, even managing anxiety attacks. It's not always pe…
How to shift focus when anxiously attached — I'm anxiously attached and have very little to no sense of self. I know therapy's necessary but I'm not starting before another month. I'll take any insight or advice on how to manage it, shift my foc…
READ THIS if you want to POST here — This is a new thread with the SAME GUIDELINES as the previous post which is now archived. THIS THREAD IS ONLY FOR APPROVAL TO POST. You don’t have to be an approved user to comment or lurk. ONLY som…
how to deal with an avoidant's freeze response in hard times? — my partner is FA, I've known him for a long time. He has made a lot of effort and has changed for the better. He's the more secure one between the two of us honestly, and he's pretty good at fighting …
Does this have to do with my attachment style or is it normal? — I used to score as anxiously attached when I was in my last relationship. I feel like I still have some anxious tendencies in my relationship now but I also sometimes feel avoidant and for the most pa…
I’m still a magnet to guys who need help. (I stopped rescuing). — I used to be more anxious-ambivalent/codependent and enmeshed from family + an ex-friend. I’ve learned in CBT to separate someone else’s problems/emotions and my own to not become codependent again. (…
For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now? — I am quite curious to hear if there are others who are at a place in their life still in their own "wound care" (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of a previous unhealthy…
Avoidance seeking help: what if he’s not avoidant like me, but he actually just has a girlfriend he didn’t tell me about? — Been in contact with a guy for about 6 months now who has been pursuing me the entire time, subtly. When we first met, I had just broken up with my ex a couple of months prior to that (6-month long…
How does the process look transitioning from dismissive avoidant to secure? — I'm 44 and have slowly worked out there's something up with me, to finding out about this term and seeing a lot of myself in fellow sufferer's description of it. My life is full of unrealistic expe…
How to deal with being alone — So I struggle pretty heavily with stress when me and my bf are apart. That distance is scary and fires up my fear of being replaced. This fear really affects my ability to do daily tasks away from …
[Video] How to Tell if They're Emotionally Secure — https://youtu.be/_2agbN-I2Uw?si=0b2b0KSKGf_20cxc Please share any reflections that come up for you. What are your thoughts on the accuracy of this information? How have you experienced the qualities …
Projecting insecurities — Hi everyone, I’ve just realised something that I’ve been doing which I think is both an outcome of my low self esteem and also a way for me to find excuses to end relationships when otherwise I have n…
A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…
a song about longing for something that never was - disorganized attachment style edition (cathartic release) — Lyrics: I’m standing at a wishing well, One coin trembling in my hand, A promise pressed against my palm, A truth I barely understand. They told me I was unworthy, Long before I learned my name,…
how to be "chill" in early stages of dating? — hi everyone! something i struggle with in the early stages of dating is obsessing over/thinking about the other person constantly. i know this is not a healthy habit, but i have trouble getting myself…
A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…
Letter to my ex — **7th February 2026** “You will find me, right?” That sentence is the last sentence. The one that always stays with me. Every single day I think about it, and I think that’s why I know what I have t…
I'm so tired of people. — For reference, a couple of years ago, I was in an abusive relationship that kinda changed who I am. I won't go into too much detail, but let's just say that I used to be outgoing and fun, but also I h…
Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…
Are pre-birthday discards the norm? — I’m trying to understand this through attachment theory because I genuinely don’t know what just happened. We’re both women. I was 23 with a grad degree, she was 38 and just got her culinary degree w…
March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…
Everything we know about shifting is probably false — So much of our communities take the knowledge we spread to be fact, when in reality shifting isn’t a science. At all. This has been said before but I NEED you guys to actually read and internalize thi…
Experienced ego dissolution and timelessness while a friend spiraled into a bad trip believing we were communicating through “waves” — I wanted to share a recent experience because the contrast between my trip and my friend’s bad trip was extremely interesting, and I’m curious if others have seen similar dynamics in group trips. We …
Media fear-mongering or truth? — Back when my dad was around 17 he did shrooms 5 or 6 times. Just picked them and ate them with his mates. Had no knowledge of psychedelics and didn’t weigh any particular dose. Said it was great every…
I’m 20 and my mom still asks for my phone and laptop every night or there's consequences — I'm 20 (F) and turning 21 in a few months. My mom recently started asking me to surrender my laptop and phone again. "Again" because she did this to me as well when I was 13-18 years old. Before, she…
Found out 10 year situation-ship has been married the entire time — I’m absolutely gutted. Sick to my stomach. We’ve (now 28F 35M) been on and off in a passionate, toxic, can’t-keep-our-hands-off-each-other “relationship”, and we couldn’t seem to ever stay away from…
Wife cheated on me with multiple men over the course of 3 months. — Me (31m) found out this past December that my wife (27f) had been talking to as many as 20+ people on Snapchat (non nude but inappropriate photos, sexting, ect.). I confronted before new years by tell…
I desperately need to be held. — I don’t know what to do. How can I cope with this emptiness? Will I truly never find someone to love me and hold me? I’m always afraid for myself when I feel like this because I don’t want to attract …
Married 5 months after 10 years together (M32 / F29) — she started talking to another guy right after the wedding. We’re now on a 30-day separation and I don’t know what to do. — I’m looking for honest advice from people who have either been through something like this or have perspective I might not be seeing right now. My wife (F29) and I (M32) have been together for about …
Ran into my ex today with her new boyfriend and it hit me harder than expected — Earlier today I bumped into my ex in the city, walking hand in hand with a guy. The moment she saw me, she immediately let go of his hand, looked down at her phone, and sort of moved behind him while …
Being kind isn't just nice...it's smart...b/c we live in an environment made of each other. — Think of it like a fish swimming in an ocean made of other fish. Everything we do as we move through this world...for our little bit of time here...relies on other people helping us, often in ways we…
I Genially Think My (35F) Husband (36M) is a Psychopath — Hi everyone, please I need help. I’m 35F and my husband is 36M. We’ve been married for 10 years and have two boys (7 and 5). I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. About three months ago my hus…
How to look for signs ⬇️ — Signs manifest just like any other event or circumstance in your reality. You shouldn’t ask the universe for a sign and then wait for it. When you do that, you may end up manifesting the sign yoursel…
Oh dude last year I split up with a man and I was DEVASTATED. Like, thought I’d never meet anyone like him again, tried everything I could to get him back, and then finally went no contact with the in…
You are right. Saying they left because of our flaws isn’t completely right, they left too because of their flaws. The most important thing is to recognize our own flaws for the purpose of self-accept…
Why on earth would you want to get your ex back. Your ex CHOSE not to be with you. That's the person you want back? They chose to be with someone else. Or to try and find someone else because in thei…
Me and my ex was together 2 years, really amazing time but she changed My ex left me for someone else and moved 3000 miles to be with him. She said to her friends she’s so lonely because he’s at work…
You can't really be sure though. You're just guessing. You can never really know what's in another person's mind. Nor can you promise that someone is thinking about someone else. They MIGHT miss you. …
I don't have any options. I've worked and improved Myself a lot these past 7months. She found someone else at the 3rd month mark. I'm drinking with a few friends right now and I can't help but think…
Relationships are 'us', not 'me'. Relationships which have 'me' first, don't last. Why do we get into relationships? Probably because we 'love' each other? And wouldn't like them to see them happy wit…
>She found someone else at the 3rd month mark. And women say they don't have easy. lmao How are you doing now?
I honestly am indifferent, but I would never want him back. He's someone else's problem now. I can breathe!!
None of this announcement caters to how the 'bad actor' is receiving anything. The onus is entirely on the person giving feedback. Even the sentence 'if someone reports something' ends with 'and it se…
Thank you someone else also pointed in that direction, that's all I was asking for 🤗
Yeah, and if any of you from this sub are on Year 3 with nothing to show for it but some stranger on Reddit screaming at you about how you're doing it wrong (when they themselves haven't manifested an…
You’re the only one I ever see mentioning coffee 😂I get you’re trying to be cute but I haven’t heard it once. I’m asking about *you*. Not anything thing in any sub. There are dozens of success storie…
It's more common than you think. I'm pretty sure it's likely someone else in your family has it too. However it is possible that it is just your SM revealing patterns you subconsciously were seeing …
FA leaning more towards DA here, when I’m dating and we spend a lot of time together or talk/text a bunch I typically take time to myself after. It can be pretty overwhelming “dealing” w my partners i…
It is extremely difficult to *start* the healing process while in a relationship as you would be required to balance other factors (is the other party willing to work too? What is their level of healt…
I've been in therapy for over a year for various reasons, and for me the first thing I needed to work on was my self image. Understanding and accepting myself, building confidence and a stronger sense…
I do understand and I can agree it’s not a behavior that can cultivate a long standing relationship with someone who is secure or anxious. But the same can be said about other attachments aswell (no…
I never said they tried, but who wants to find out that someone else emotional regulation depends on your constant presence. Again I’m talking about anxious attachment because secure people are secu…
What have you done to resolve your fear of commitment, your emotional unavailability and the inferiority complex? Why are you searching for excitement from a partner? What does that mean to you? Is i…
Example 1 is something I'm experiencing from someone else so thanks for describing it so well. I agree example 2 is more common from my experience in dating. It's why I can't tell if I'm reacting to …
Completely agree with you that it's a common topic, just haven't seen it discussed much on these forums, so thought I'd try to impart what'd helped me in the hope it helps someone else! Relationships…
>Not saying you’re entirely wrong but that wasn’t the point of the ladder experiment. The point of the ladder experiment was to teach about awareness. > Ah. Conscious awareness. Complete rubbish and…
No I didn't dance with him..we just saw each other during dancing and he smiled at me and I smiled at him ,and people around me are like forget him ,he was an outsider and he won't even come back to t…
All the nice words he said are just that: words. And excuses. When two people are away and didn't really have much time to really create a strong bond, anything can happen. First, once you saw he's le…
I’m DA and I feel hurt when I’m rejected in favour of someone else. For example if someone breaks up with me, and then they date someone else. Or someone I have a crush on is not interested in me but …
This is interesting. A DA I was with didn't want to commit or name the relationship but seemed shocked that I started dating someone else. He was too busy chasing an ex that he refused to believe was …
every DA i dated asked me "is there someone else" when I initiated the break up.
- criticism, being called out - playing on their individual insecurities, but that’s literally anyone in the world. A lot of the times is them getting discarded the same way they would do to someone …
Wow, that’s… I mean, that’s seriously sociopathic behaviour. I can’t even imagine how you felt. It’s such a mindfuck. I hope you kicked him out and never looked back. What a toxic piece of bovine excr…
True, but it really depends on why they're reacting that way. There's a term, 'reactive abuse', which can happen when you continually push someone else and react in what you're calling 'emotionally ma…
Are you in therapy? Someone else pointed it out already and I agree (and I assume you already know this); classic avoidant attachment behavior. How come you're this distant? Have you ever explored th…
Brush up on the company, what they do, their market, etc. Why do you want to be there specifically. Have that answer solid. It’s really important to convince them you’ll like it and therefore try hard…
It's a nice chunk of change. I would say SBA loan would make that money stretch further, but they're likely not going to lend to you since you don't have real-world experience at 18. For a business, …
The advice to not discuss negative aspects of your personal relationships with others is good advice. It is also good advice to not jump on the bandwagon against someone else's SO because when they re…
Oh man, I feel this post in my bones! As someone with ADHD who built a whole business helping other ADHD entrepreneurs (Scattermind), I can tell you you're definitely not alone. The "100 ideas but ca…
Yes, not easy, especially when dealing with employees. It takes a lot of work too but there’s a different drive there than working for someone else. Also no cap on your salary and a sellable business …
I mean this as a compliment: Everything you wrote sounds super normal in my book. And you're right. Why are you even bothering to define "success" on someone else's terms, though? It's your life.…
An entrepreneur is not just someone that’s wants to do their own thing eventually. Neither is the entrepreneurial spirit good intentions, a desire to break the chains, or a desire to own your own thin…
There is a lot of middle ground before you hire an employee. You could contract out for a personal assistant. They work for themselves and usually have several clients. You could contract with an over…
I've been in these scenarios a good few times in a good few ways. And I have some hostile opinions on it as well as some good ones. So scenarios. Indian CTO or VP is hired, and almost immediately, …
I am a solo founder. Yes it is great for all those reasons. I, however, do understand the other side especially VCs. The goal of VCs is to invest in a company that just doesn't depend on 1 person. Usu…
I'm curious if other people think that's actually part of dev ops. To me that feels like someone else's job.
Always, always try to show business impact. Estimate it if you can't derive it precisely, but whenever you can craft something consistent and useful for showing the value of your work, you gain tremen…
Oh man, I feel this post in my bones! As someone with ADHD who built a whole business helping other ADHD entrepreneurs (Scattermind), I can tell you you're definitely not alone. The "100 ideas but ca…
I think it all depends on whether or not you are able to communicate your need for space. If you just disappear without saying anything to the person you’re traveling with, dating, or communicating wi…
I’m really glad it helped you! I think DAs involuntarily push people away because of the unconscious fear of engulfment. They are predisposed by their childhoods to feel encroached upon, so any kind o…
Why are you looking at what reels someone else likes on instagram? Not healthy my guy…
Haha, I'm not looking for an applause, just sharing what worked for me. Maybe it might help someone else, maybe it might not. Anyhow, for me, bending over backwards would be to give into their needs …
Must be nice, someone else does all the emotional labor while I breadcrumb them and let them "fix" me and coddle me. ahh how nice it is