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The most important part of EVERYONE IS YOU PUSHED OUT (EIYPO) — I think that what I will say in the following lines has to be reminded as much as possible in the manifesting exes and partners communities. Manifesting a person is not only easy, it is effortle…
Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading — # 6th Kill: $20,000 Money Mission **Mission**: To make $20,000 from futures trading **What I achieved:** I made $20,000 from futures trading **How long did it take:** 5 and a half months **Backgro…
(Desktop design) managing overall width vs images vs text container width — I am trying to figure out how to combine best practices for the following things and would love some advice on a few questions. This is for desktop devices. **What I am struggling with is:** * Ensur…
Bundle pricing and host suggestions — Sup y'all, I'll start by mentioning that I did read through the FAQs regarding pricing as a web developer. This post is regarding bundling and host selection. I recently worked with my brothe…
How are unemployed designers managing financially right now? — I was laid off two months ago and have been in the job search grind since - applying, interviewing, and trying to stay hopeful. But I’ve also been feeling pretty stressed and anxious, especially as ti…
What is k8s in bare metal? — Newbie understanding: If I'm not mistaken, k8s in bare metal means deploying/managing a k8s cluster in a single-node server. Otherwords, control plane and node components are in a single server. Howe…
(22 M) Newbie Project Manager seeking to handle a project. | I will not promote — (Kinda promotion but eager to learn.) Whether it be a startup or an established firm. I have transitioned from marketing to project management and fortunately got a role of a project manager in a comp…
To all e-commerce store owners: What tool do you wish existed to make managing your store easier? — Hello to all e-commerce entrepreneurs! 👋 In the fast-paced world of digital commerce, we know there are many daily challenges — whether it's managing orders, handling customers, shipping, analyti…
Time-based permissions — What tools are you using for managing time-based temporary permissions, such as AWS/GCP accounts, database, SSH access, etc. ? Looking for a solution for managing permissions for people accessing res…
Restricted access for employees (I will not promote) — What tools are you using for managing time-based temporary permissions, such as AWS/GCP accounts, database, SSH access, etc. ? Looking for a solution for managing permissions for people accessing res…
What else do I need before I apply? — I've been a systems admin for over a decade. The last two years I've been doing gitops with ansible and terraform, and also managing some kubernetes clusters on-prem. I know enough Azure to get around…
Success comes to those that can manage 4 innovation risks (I will not promote) — As a startup, your role is to strategically manage innovation risks to unlock your business’s financial potential. To achieve this, focus on addressing the following key risks: • Desirability Risk: …
Seeking Technical Co-Founder for Fantasy Football Punishment Platform (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I’m in the process of building an exciting startup focused on **fantasy football** and I’m looking for a **technical co-founder** to join me and help bring this idea to life. The core i…
How do you handle tracking updates + international shipping transparency in Shopify? — One challenge we’ve been facing is managing customer expectations when it comes to international shipping, especially when multiple carriers are involved (like packages moving from 4PX → USPS, or YunE…
Devops not using Docker (or Podman), what does your stack look like? — Edit: I have nothing against containers, I'm looking for another containerization solution / ecosystem. I hate docker with all my soul. While writing it, I'm 100% aware that "hate" is a feeling and n…
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
High Margin Whitelabeled Stevia Product - looking for someone to take over — Hi all. Long story short I came in contact with a manufacturer in South America for a very, very good Stevia product that I use by myself and decided I wanted to try to sell in the states which I’ve w…
Should I move from Supabase to a self-hosted backend? — I’ve been using **Supabase** for my current app—mainly for Postgres, authentication, and storage. It’s been super convenient for getting started, but I’m starting to think about switching to a **self-…
Considering a move from big tech to a small company. Worth the risk? — I know this sub leans junior, but hoping to get some advice from senior folks. Especially people in Bay Area, NYC, or Seattle-type tech scenes. Tagging this as Job Search and not Senior Only because I…
How do you make sure nothing falls through the cracks of your business operations? — I work with companies that use a ton of different tools (CRMs, inventory, payments, shipping, etc.). The problem I keep seeing is that things slip through the cracks, and no one realizes until it’s to…
Anyone feel like managing money as a solopreneur is just… a constant headache? — Between juggling invoices, taxes, and never-ending paperwork, it’s easy to get overwhelmed. What’s the one financial task you wish you could make disappear? Or is there a trick you’ve found that actu…
Any experience running and managing many locations on POS? Switching from Square and I’ve got questions — Shopify POS as a refreshing breath of fresh air over Square on many points. However, they seem to fall short on some really obvious things. That make me think maybe I’m the crazy one and just don’…
“No Referring Sitemaps Detected.” — **Why your web pages might not show up on Google — even if they’re indexed** I ran into this issue while checking Google Search Console and thought it might help others here. Many of our indexed pag…
Head of Digital - Feeling burnt out. — Hey everyone, I’m in a “Head of Digital” role at a mid-sized company — but in practice, I’m the only technical person in a team full of editors and project managers from a traditional print publishin…
Looking for advice when it comes to hosting client websites — Currently have around 50 client websites. All PHP/MySql based, using various versions of PHP. At the moment all sites are hosted on a managed dedicated server running WHM/cPanel. As the number of web…
Problem with wpbooking back end — I work at a public library and i'm managing the meeting room bookings while a couple of other staffers are out for the week. Should be no problem but when I go to the backend page to check the pending…
Second fake client this month – classic invoice scam disguised as a website project — Just wanted to share this as a heads-up to other freelancers and small agencies. I recently had a potential client who reached out for a WordPress website. We even had a short phone call, everything s…
Any advice ?? — Hello everyone, I’m a 23-year-old senior in college majoring in Business Administration, and I’m currently exploring opportunities in real estate. I’ve been drawn to the field because of its strong p…
Generational wealth advice? — Hello everyone, I’m a 23-year-old senior in college majoring in Business Administration, and I’m currently exploring opportunities in real estate. I’ve been drawn to the field because of its strong p…
Generational wealth — Hello everyone, I’m a 23-year-old senior in college majoring in Business Administration, and I’m currently exploring opportunities in real estate. I’ve been drawn to the field because of its strong p…
Need advice!! — Hello everyone, I’m a 23-year-old senior in college majoring in Business Administration, and I’m currently exploring taking over my dad’s welding business. I’ve been drawn to the field because of its…
How are you managing/identifying multiple AWS accounts? — Which tool or extension are you guys using to manage and identify multiple AWS accounts in your browser? Personally i have to deal with 30+ AWS accounts. An old devops team over engineered our AWS la…
I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …
I think I'm in the process of healing, but it hurts so much. Feeling very forgotten and abandoned tonight — I truly recognize and see how much I've grown and how far I've come. I have so much self awareness, gotten good at soothing myself, talking to myself, even managing anxiety attacks. It's not always pe…
For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…
Can I get some assurance from reformed people pleasers 🥲? — And some advice? Not necessarily on "what to do" because I know how to set boundaries in theory. It's managing the guilt and fear of fallout that I struggle with and I do because all my life any time …
Cooling off or anxious attachment? — Dating a guy for a year now. I’m still struggling with managing the scars from my marriage/brutal divorce in what feels like a good, healthy relationship. I’m learning I probably have an anxious attac…
Coming to terms with possible childhood emotional neglect - curious how others turned out — As I’ve gotten older and started reflecting on my life, I’ve slowly worked backwards and realised that I might have experienced childhood emotional neglect (CEN). What’s funny is that it actually sta…
My dad (56M) cut me off (21) for sleeping over at my boyfriend’s house. Now he’s blowing up at me and ruining our relationship beyond repair. — \-Sorry had to repost due to not having line breaks. I’ve always had a complicated relationship with my dad. He’s very controlling and has always been a “helicopter” parent when I was growing up. I a…
I’m very good at staying composed. I’m less good at noticing what that composure costs me. — I’ve realized something recently. I’m very good at staying composed in certain conversations. I stay steady. I smooth things over. I choose my words carefully. I keep things readable. From the outsid…
My [30F] husband [34M] may be a functioning alcoholic — Buckle in because this is a long post. Tl;dr my husband drinks and I am sick of it. (TW: mention of miscarriage) Throwaway account because I need advice and I am at my wits end. I have been with my h…
As an East Asian, I feel discriminated by colleagues — I feel I have experienced a lot of discrimination in the workplace due to my race, but I feel like it's also getting worse as the years go by. Actually, so many things, like the propensity for cancel…
I (28F) care deeply about my fiancé (28M) but feel like the romantic connection has faded after years of imbalance. How do you know when it’s truly over? — From a burner account. I’m looking for some perspective because I feel like I’m at the end of a long internal process and I don’t know if I’m being unfair or if this is just the reality of where my re…
Six months after the worst breakup of my life, I finally understand why I couldn't heal for the first three. — I'm writing this because I wish someone had said it to me when I was in month one. For the first three months I did everything people tell you to do. I went to the gym. I saw friends. I kept busy. I …
NHI that Stop Time and Timelessness of the Oversoul; More Research that Supports how Aliens Obscure Human Memories. — Hi everyone. This is [me](https://www.reddit.com/r/Experiencers/comments/1ai4nzi/i_had_26_physical_contact_events_with_grey_aliens/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_c…
Should I help repay my sister’s debt to protect my parents? — I’m 31F. My sister is 29F and lives in Canada. We come from a lower middle-class Indian family that has mostly lived paycheck to paycheck. My sister always dreamed of studying abroad. She completed …
Some Pointers after 12 Years of Meditation — Meditation is an invisible skill, which makes it especially prone to confusion and obfuscation. I wanted to jot down some pointers and opinions about meditation that have served me at one point or an…
Managing Guilt and Shame — Hi everybody! I'm tackling the superiority complex part of my codependency today and I realized some of the root of the problem. I've got some pretty bad negative self talk and it really comes out whe…
Why does it take years to realize you’re traumatized? And why does "standard" therapy often miss the point? — I’ve been thinking a lot about the "lost decades." For 30 years, I thought I was just "the nice guy." I thought I was just "lazy," "unmotivated," or "heavy." I went through life thinking these were m…
She admits the lies and secrecy, but still denies anything physical — I’m posting because I feel like I’m losing my grip on what is real, and I need perspective from people who understand trickle truth, repeated minimizing, and what it feels like when someone admits jus…
DevOps evolves around 3 key principles: 1. Automation 2. Monitoring 3. Integration The rules are simple: # Automation Don't ever do anything by hand. The only allowable manual action is configurin…
THIS IS SO IMPORTANT. Nuanced, critical, free thinking. Microlabelling and micromanaging to me are always signs of absence of precisely this skill. They are tools of oppression of inner conflict, wh…
Sure! Some happen in conversation Let's take the example of a simple question to which you can answer with a yes or a no Example 1: Question : - " Do you want to go to the movies tonight? " ( You…
It can help you by managing your triggers, but it does not mean healing. Years of exposure to emotional turbulence sounds like a disruption to your nervous system, your attachment style. In fearful …
Plenty of other excellent advice here. In terms of cloud hosting: A lot of this is going to depend on your team, think about all of the people that will be managing this. What platform does your team…
> Question: Does Symfony block concurrent requests by design No. PHP applications run concurrently on each child process of the php-fpm interpreter, starting with a request and ending with it - unles…
Used it at my workplace a few years back to manage Ruby and Python versions on our servers and on workstations. It was really good at not messing with library paths unlike some other tools at the time…
We run OSS LGTM. Ingest 25TB of logs per day, 30 million in memory series. Took us a while to dial it in, but it works. We have one guy managing it, but will hopefully have another at some point.
Can you be more specific? Are you sure you don’t like docker or do you just not like how your company is deploying and managing docker? A bad pipeline/setup can really ruin your experience and opinio…
Terraform/OpenTofu is still the industry standard, OT means it's still "safe", and relative to Bicep has the advantage of stable providers managing more than just Azure. I use it for managing infrastr…
I second OpenTofu over terraform, but do you actually need it? The idea of "if I use terraform I can swap cloud" is probably a YAGNI, and even if you use terraform / OpenTofu, you'll need to re-write…
Hey, [OpsLevel](https://www.opslevel.com) CTO here. We have a ton of respect for what the Backstage community has accomplished. It's impressive how they've expanded the IDP space and created a vibra…
Reaching $300k in profit usually doesn’t happen overnight, but here's how I got there: I started with a side hustle while working full-time. Having a steady paycheck allowed me to take risks without …
For a small cafe, start with a point-of-sale (POS) system like Square or Toast for managing sales and inventory. You can also use accounting tools like QuickBooks for finances and scheduling software …
Seems like a person who got spooked and having escaped unscathed has calmed down, reflected, and realized that perhaps their anxiety was irrational. And that is a good indicator that when times get to…
The last FA I dated shit tested me early on, dumping some not so flattering info about herself just to see how I would react. I'm not an FA but I've dated quite a few of them. Fear of abandonment is …
>One FA said something to me about herself early on, in some conversation or another, that seemed innocent at the time because I was infatuated: "That doesn't make you want to run?" My preferred resp…
"The last FA I dated shit tested me early on, dumping some not so flattering info about herself just to see how I would react." • Mine has done it throughout all 4 years! I faltered a few times, yes…
Im the same way but im a bad guy to give advice on managing it lol
Welcome and good luck with managing this sub 🙌🏾
Text of original post by u/bleepbloooopity: I truly recognize and see how much I've grown and how far I've come. I have so much self awareness, gotten good at soothing myself, talking to myself, even …
Hi OP, thank you for your post as it reminds me that im not alone in how I feel and behave sometimes. I relate 100% to your experiences and managing takes a lot of active awareness and effort, and I s…
How long have you been married? If you know he can be relaxed or at ease and his resting face is serious looking (which I imagine is the case for most people), why do you need additional reassurance? …
What I'm going to say is not going to sound intuitive at all and is going to be scary, but it's honestly one of the practices and shifts I made that has led me to being secure. It took a lot of therap…
I associated it with a freeze response because that's how he's described it before when it happened in the past. I injured my foot but had no crutches. He watched me crawl around the floor to get to …
...because I was busy managing the pain of feeling stabbed no matter what I did? If I lied down and put pressure on my back, it hurt like hell. Then it hurt trying to move to lie down on one side. …
Often feelings are going to be mismatched. So what? How you respond to their bid for connection is what matters. I would never turn down such a clear bid for connection from someone I care about. It c…
You need to stop worrying about managing their emotions and feelings - they are in charge of that, not you. You can still respond kindly without having to be performative or say you miss them back. Ju…
you don’t owe a matching emotional pitch, but you do owe *clarity* if you care about the friendship what APs hear in silence is abandonment what they can tolerate in words is gentle truth somethi…
Tbh this essay is a lot of emotional work and feels like it is for the purpose of managing their anxiety. Id be exhausted if I had to think to say such things more than once (most likely scenario, you…
Ah, I get where you’re coming. From an avoidant perspective, when someone reaches out with “I miss you” and you don’t feel it the same way, the gut reaction is often to pull back, ghost, or give a vag…
I’ve decided that I very likely have an undiagnosed anxiety disorder. I’m seeing a psychiatrist over the next couple weeks. I’ve had really bad anxiety my entire life but I’ve never done anything ab…
Honestly, what you just shared sounds completely normal (I’m saying this not in an invalidating way). When you move from an on-and-off relationship to a healthy and emotionally secure one, your body a…
I feel that this is a good sign! I see it that way too - behind the dismissive walls sits an anxious little kid who's been trapped for a long time and gone a bit feral. Once we let that kid out, we …
So you are aware that you're DA... have you done any work to move forward from this kind of attachment style? None of these points are fixed.... but someone who is an unmanaged/changed DA obviously s…
Such an important reminder! It's something I've also been trying to remember that with my current partner, I think the hardest part for me is managing the hypervigilance during the silence. Is there a…
A couple months back I used my boyfriend's phone to locate mine. When I opened the phone I discovered that he typed in Google that he was dealing with "managing his attraction to his ex". I confr…
I would like to react first to this statement: >He says things like “I’m overwhelmed”, “I need rest”, or “I have no capacity for social contact right now”. At the same time, he’s online for long peri…
Also, this is part of why therapists love saying safe relationships often feel boring! You’re off the roller coaster and on… the airport walkway? I imagine two people walking in tandem while managing …
Happy New Year! I’m going to do better to stop managing other people’s emotions. Continue to express my own needs more regularly. Keep trying to drive home to myself that someone else’s capacity…
Avoidants typically harshly assert distance when their subconscious feelings are coming the closest to being exposed though. They will also often keep people they have genuine feelings for in their or…
I'm really glad to hear it resonated with you! I'm happy that the unfortunately deep understanding I've gained towards avoidance through my own attachment and my life's close relationships can be aime…
Very happy to share :) A few years ago I worked with a life coach to work on self-esteem and managing/setting boundaries. I still touch base with her when I need 1:1 support. After the avoidant discar…
Sometimes I’m aware of my body physcially tensing up, like around my adobemen , spine and ribs. And my thoughts quickly dart away from the feeling and my brains like nope! When I’ve managed to overrid…
Ugh that's so gross of them, I'm sorry you experienced that. It really is a twisted way to approach relationships, and we're not saying avoidant attachment is harmless or above reproach but anxious at…
Honestly, the amount of reflection you're doing already shows care. Managing anxiety without disappearing yourself is hard wok.
I feel you. I can get really fixated on reading into people's actions and trying to figure out if I'm being disrespected. But it's better to just sit back and gather information and ask curious questi…
One thing you can do is exposure therapy. Your brain is doing that because it is associating the new person with safety and making you think you can't be safe without them. This likely means that your…
32 nb Update! 5th(?) no, 6th(?) date w 39m last night, we watched a movie together at mine and kept pausing the movie to talk. I like him more and more…and so the Switch has Flipped in my brain where…
😭 Thanks for sharing your own experience and I'm sorry you had to go through that. I'm glad you're feeling a better these days even if it's not normal. I'm realizing I might be dealing with this for…