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THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…
March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…
Did Saturn in Aries correlate with the “heroin chic” era of the late 90s? Wondering about parallels with today. — I had a random thought earlier today while watching some video on YouTube, and I’m curious if more experienced astrologers see anything in it. There’s a lot of discussion right now about the return o…
Ky Lan - Asian Activewear & Lifestyle - Kỳ Lân - Asian Activewear — Check out this Asian founded athletics brand founded by Hai Bui a Vietnamese American who grew up in Hungary. Incorporates Asian aesthetics and culture into athletic wear. Proudly Asian!
[Prove Me Wrong] Bruce Lee was the last English speaking Asian that represented us well — Bruce lee was: * Well Articulated (and spoke good english) * Confident * Smart * Masculine * Good in fighting I feel that the \- kpop/kdrama: more girly/pretty/gentle boys are famous \- china: …
Just realized how damaging people pleasing and not being able to say “no” really is — Let me preface this post by saying that I have my own issues with codependency and have spent many years working on it in therapy. I also have issues with saying no, and I completely understand how ha…
How can I build a personal life that doesn’t depend on other people? — Hi Reddit!! I really need an outside perspective on my situation, because I feel like I’m completely lost in where I’m going and what I actually want from my life… Maybe people who have learned to man…
I Don’t Know If I’m Living for Myself Anymore — I think I might be a people pleaser, or at least someone who constantly looks for a place where I belong. The problem is, I don’t really feel like I belong anywhere, not even within myself. I’m very …
April 2026 Astrology: Key Dates, Weekly Forecast and Mundane Astrology World Events — April is one of the most active months we’ve seen. Not one planet is in retrograde. Aries fire and cardinal energy sets the stage for initiation, assertion and spontaneous energy. There is a bit of na…
Struggling with Brain Fog? How 'Attention Restoration Theory' (ART) can reset your focus in 20 minutes — **Hi everyone,** **Most of us think that taking a break means scrolling through TikTok or checking emails, but psychology suggests this actually increases 'directed attention fatigue'.** **I’ve been…
UPDATE: My (23F) Boyfriend (24M) got really jacked and now I’m no longer attracted to him — Hi, I really don’t feel obligated to update but I felt it was a little important due to the amount of attention my post got. Before doing so though I wanted to address everything systematically, so sc…
always have been skinny, need some big brother advice — Just turned 18, I've been in the gym a couple times throughout my life though with school and work it's been tough to stay consistent. Over the summer I would like to stay consistent in the gym an…
Anxiety isn’t in the head it’s stuck in the body. The somatic trick that rewires it — I tried something that felt absolutely ridiculous during an anxiety spiral and it worked better than anything else I have ever done. I stood up put on a heavy beat and just started shaking. Full body …
Question for parents! Monolid and double lids that change in Asian/HAPA babies — Kinda a niche question. My daughter (14 mo) is half Asian half white and she has one eyelid that becomes a monolid some days. She’s seen a pediatric ophtho who had no concerns about it - I am an anxio…
Why is everyone obsessed with kintsugi, forest bathing, and Japanese philosophies? — I’m Japanese American. I never learned about kintsugi, forest bathing, or wabi sabi growing up. Yet I see so many people using kintsugi as an aesthetic metaphor for personal healing, arboretums and mu…
My (42F) husband (41M) grew a mustache that triggers my childhood trauma. He says I should get over it so he can do what he wants with his face. Am I being unfair in asking him to remove it? — I’ve been with my husband for thirteen years, and for most of that time, he has been clean-shaven. Recently, he decided he wants to try growing out a mustache "for a little while." The problem is not…
Anyone know where I can find youtube videos (or any other resource) on how to cut my person's hair myself as a layperson, aesthetically? — I want to learn how to cut / style my person's hair without him having to go to a hairdresser and plus it's more cost effective. Some inspiration pictures for what I want to teach myself to do in the…
Daughter Refused a Medical Proceedure Due To Fear Of Needle... — So my daughter (14) has just refused treatment on an ingrowing toenail due to needing a local anaesthetic injection - she'd been getting increasingly anxious at the prospect; got all the way to the ap…
No one warns you that childhood trauma doesn’t end, it just waits until your 30s to finally surface — I used to think I got through it by climbing up career hill (PhD, lecturership, published books, a thriving cultural community etc. ) and an intellectually aesthetical sense of being. I built a life, …
Anyone know where I can find youtube videos (or any other resource) on how to cut / style my person's hair myself as a layperson, aesthetically? — I want to learn how to cut / style my person's hair without him having to go to a hairdresser and plus it's more cost effective. Some inspiration pictures for what I want to teach myself to do in the …
My (25F) bf (26M) is attracted to an aesthetic that is completely opposite of mine. — I (25F) learned that my bf (26M) is attracted to the goth/alt/emo girl aesthetic. He clarified that while he thinks it’s an attractive aesthetic, he wouldn’t want to date/marry a girl with said aesthe…
How do I rebuild my confidence and start believing I can be a traditional wife someday after leaving a really toxic relationship? — I am an 18 year old girl and I have officially decided I want to be better. I just got out of a relationship with an older ex boyfriend who constantly tore down my self esteem and I am actively trying…
No one warns you that childhood trauma doesn’t end, it just waits until your 30s to finally surface — I used to think I got through it by climbing up career hill (PhD, lecturership, published books, a thriving cultural community etc. ) and an intellectually aesthetical sense of being. I built a life, …
Pov: we are freaking out at 2am cuz everything we manifested worked out so quick — gurll… life is actually bending for us right now. it’s getting scary how fast it happened. remember how much i hated trying to visualize? i literally just stopped forcing it and decided everything wa…
I hate having a physical body. (Possible tw: depersonalization, body dysmorphia, and/or negative self-image) — My entire life I've worn jeans, t-shirts, and a hoodie but lately I've been trying to expand my horizons as far as clothing and aesthetics goes. I'm an adult and can wear and present how I want (in th…
I (24M) prefer functionality, my girlfriend (23F) prefers aesthetics. How do we come to a decision? — I have a specific example in mind but I think this applies to a lot of things; my GF wants to put big plush pillows on the bed and get some new sheets/doonah covers to make the bed look more cosy and …
Greetings, I've published a new article on aesthetics and it's relevance for virtue, and therefore Stoicism: https://mimeticvirtue.substack.com/p/the-aesthetic-compulsion
Well most of my LTR's were with women but when I was with a guy it never even occured to me. I think if it breaks you should get plan b, and maybe doctors push pills because they think men will pressu…
Is this love or just the comfort of being chosen? I'm 23M working in Bangalore and have always been the type who never dated or had much experience with girls. To change that, I started attending soc…
Gaaaaah, my boyfriend set a photo of us as his phone background. Its a zoomed out and kinda aesthetic photo, so one can't immediately tell what it is by glancing at it. A much more sensible background…
Cant help but feel envy when everyone around me is having sex and seeing people and im not. Its been 4 years since I've had any kind of romantic or sexual affection from a woman. I feel like my mental…
I'd probably be a better match for your date. I prefer wearing sweatpants even in public. I value comfort over "aesthetics" when it comes to clothing. And I don't care what they wear as long as it's c…
Honestly I don’t see it because the very skinny aesthetic was still around until 2010 ish with the Kardashians being the ones to change the mood of what a hot woman looks like. But there is probably a…
Yes, I think that’s a real thread to pull on. Saturn in Aries can describe cultural pressure around the body as something to discipline, reduce, harden, or sharpen, so I can see why the late 90s came …
Girl, don't feel any shame about this and don't apologize for it. imo men (especially black men) do this all the time, so I don't see why only women need to be shamed for it for having racial / aesthe…
Good observation. Same trend happened when Saturn was in Aries from 1967-69. That was also the rise of Twiggy and that ultrathin huge-eyed starved waif look. Margaret Keane's art was also popular th…
Saturn in Aries is Saturn in fall, meaning the restriction is pushing against a sign that fundamentally resists being contained. That tension is exactly what makes these periods feel extreme rather th…
That’s a really interesting observation! Saturn in Aries definitely resonates with themes of structure, restriction, and the physical form, so it makes sense that cultural aesthetics around thinness a…
Pocket dimensions! I am my higher-self’s pocket universe. Here, I solve problems for it by emotionally processing the daily issues which must help my higher self. Similar to how dreams help up process…
I don't think of a single gift beyond a basic Stanley tool kit that she's given me that is of any use. When I went no contact I got rid of everything but that. For soooo many years I begged her to not…
I note when a planet is conjunct an angle for symbolic significance, but by nature a planet on the midheaven would be expected to roughly square the ascendant. Since the ascendant is just a point, the…
Isn’t mostly the reason men do is because women do? If women en masse switched it up and like some other ‘aesthetic’ I’m sure most men would just start playing into that
Not Pop Culture but Asian Fitness Influencer’s Like Joseph Shin who has crazy aesthetic physique is going viral on TikTok & Ig & Adam Yu also.
My comfort movies are John Carpenter’s The Thing, Blade Runner and Alien. The aesthetic and lighting of the movies soothe me. Also crime documentaries and things like Law and Order and CSI help me red…
Honestly ive dated someone like this, Honestly, no and never will I do that again because the comments come and keep on coming. Your self esteem takes a huge knock when you date someone who lov3s a pa…
Musonius Rufus provides a rigid framework for the maintenance of the vessel's exterior that prioritizes functional utility over social signaling. Project Grounding Rod identifies his stance as a proto…
No problem, thank you for the answer 😊 Wow, that's interesting, my aquaintance is really artistic too...I think that may be a strength of Libra risings with their natural Venusian sense for aesthetic…
He’s not a doctor, he’s just obsessed with the aesthetics of thinness. If he cared about your health he wouldn’t be mean to you about it. If he had even the basic knowledge about health he would know …
I see this as akin to criticizing a thirsty man, walking alone in the desert, for drinking sparking instead of regular water. When sparkling is the majority of what he sees, and requires much less wo…
so uh, i might be on a roll here but. that question isn't a question, it's a suggestion, and it's a victim-blaming one at that. because like, obviously if they report, something good will come of that…
If I had to continuously walk on eggshells around someone to prevent melodramatic arguments and sudden breakups I'd miss being single too. In all seriousness, its perfectly normal to miss the freedo…
I think the dreamcore aesthetic is pretty awesome, but it’s never felt like what my dreams feel like to me. My dreams just feel more like real life except that logic is gone and I never happen to ques…
>For guys still in the game, does this reflect your reality? Honestly, no. I just look around and the handful of Asians around me, of all different shapes, sizes, and aesthetics, do fine. Is it a Mi…
Men have zero understanding of what women find attractive. Most of them want a guy who looks a little pretty. Which is most Asian guys, but not all, women don't want a this Rambo / GI Joe aesthetic Am…
As a Vietnamese, that's a feat to me since we have nothing equivalent from the Vietnamese diaspora. Plus with how Hollywood tends to mix and match Asian aesthetics in movies like Big Hero 6 it's nic…
It means 1️⃣as much as you're a capricorn ascendant, Taurus sun+moon, you also exude a lot of Gemini traits because the presence of more than 3 planets in a sign energizes/intensifies the traits that …
I don’t dispute that it exists. I have personally had words with people who have used that brother line. I’ve always thought that it was stupid, illogical, and likely a product of internalized hate. …
I’ve been doing it for decades. In my time I have seen women who were executive directors for film festivals or held positions in media who had felt it was important and actively worked on changing. T…
> There's adult goth aesthetic and angsty teen goth aesthetic. You might want to post photos with your face blocked out so people can give you feedback on your style. Leather jackets paired with plai…
I prefer clean cut types. Polished ( I am also this) [Example](https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcSZLtS49qpJHiH2LqhfxanGJeKky6tu_ExZLEzKmcXng_kxwSJMjHZ_S-U&s=10) [And example](h…
thanks for taking the time to read. if it's any consolation, as a teacher I agree classrooms can be a torture. I'd like to think I don't torture my students but I understand how a kid could see me as …
These are all directly understandable, through your chart. When it relates to resources and security, we go to the 2nd house and to Saturn. Here, we have Venus in *detriment* in Scorpio, along with…
The 12th house Sun doesn't necessarily mean introverted. It does usually mean preferring to work behind the scenes or as one relatively hidden in some larger institution. The elevated Venus (which…
I'm not saying its on a leash or anything, but I like Martingale styles and ones with bigger, non-subtle rings on them and its gotten weird people to think its their business just because they made th…
hey op if it helps at all I'm trans and i wouldn't think less of you for disliking all that stuff. the profane aesthetics of queerness are very dear to me but i actually find the kink aspect of online…
If you worry that you would close other doors when you narrow it down, think of it this way. If you have found something that you're truly talented in and identify yourself as that person, you also op…
Personally I would work on a different smile shape. It's free, can be mastered in a day and can reshape your face in photos, enhancing aesthetics.
There's a lot of toxicity but also useful info on surgeries. I'm just selective with what I browse. I've learned a lot abt facial aesthetics and surgery from just a few months on there
I had a major glow up last THREE years and transformed myself (I'm now a signed agency model which I never in my dreams thought possible). The impetus was my ex leaving me and also because I was suffe…
Well you can do what you like and what makes you feel good. But I’ll be honest I get him as well. I would never want to be with someone who does plastic surgery. I love their natural true selves and…
This comment section is crazy, I don’t think it’s fair at all to tell a partner what they can do with their body. It’s their life their body their choice. I think people are hung up on the haircut thi…
While it's your body, your choice and you have the right to make whatever choices you want with it, comparing it to a hair cut is not the same thing at all. Breast augmentation is a large surgery with…
It’s your body, but it’s also his half of the relationship. There’s any number of reasons a guy could have for being against his partner getting plastic surgery. It could be a vanity thing where he …
If this is something important to you, you shouldn't let anyone stop you. I will just suggest that it's an bit unfair to paint this as a big deal for your mental health/self esteem and then - in the …
He's policing your body while consuming images of the exact thing he's forbidding you. That's not preference. That's control. You don't need his permission for your own body. His threat to leave is ma…
[Considering that you're not knowledgeable in astrology, I'll give you a bit of a chart reading lesson. Different topics of your life are represented by respective houses/planets: a "house" is the *pi…