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want to know where is the meaning of life ? — Practical Explanation ( For Example ) :- \`1st of all can you tell me every single seconds detail from that time when you born ?? ( i need every seconds detail ?? that what- what you have thought and …

New to SEO and Trying to save my local business — Hi Everyone! I run a local companion care service for seniors and I’m staring down what feels like an impossible mountain with SEO. I’ve watched countless YouTube tutorials, learned a bit about on-si…

What would one call this attachment style? — I feel as tho I'm a pretty particular mix, cause I'm not exactly healthy, but the other labels don't exactly resonate either. I suppose it roots from two main things. One, I was bullied and ostracized…

Running away from security — Hey everyone. How do you folks settle into dating a secure person? I notice that when I’ve dated an avoidant, I’m all over it, very obsessive and can’t stop thinking of them (that’s the attachment stu…

How do I (39F) forgive my husband (39M) for making a fake vet appt for our senior dog? — My husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for 4, and have 2 kids with another on the way. We have also been best friends since we were in middle school up until we started dating. A …

IF YOU ARE 30+ USING NC — If you’re 30+ using the “no contact” method as a means to “Get your ex back”, DON’T. This is long. I just met up with my ex for the first time in 3 months. I was nervous, worried & genuinely conce…

MDMA after effects after one month, is this normal? — Hey everyone, I’d really appreciate some advice or similar experiences. About 31 days ago I took a pretty high dose of MDMA (around 400 mg, which I know was very high) and also used 2CB. The last tim…

Decidedly Single? — Have any of you found that it’s just better to be single and to not get romantically involved with anyone? I (34f) recently ended things with the last guy I was talking to for over a year and with wh…

April 2026 Astrology: Key Dates, Weekly Forecast and Mundane Astrology World Events — April is one of the most active months we’ve seen. Not one planet is in retrograde. Aries fire and cardinal energy sets the stage for initiation, assertion and spontaneous energy. There is a bit of na…

Mourning who you were in the relationship — I am not sure if the title fits but it’s all I can come up with at the moment. It’s been a month. We stopped being a couple a long time ago. There was a glaring gap in overall commitment and a lack …

Hello!! Quick question regarding my father walking in on me while I shower. — I'm 15(afab) and my dad has always had a problem with this. He's never really been a big boundaries man, and has laid his head on my chest multiple times, along with various other odd things. I'm not …

Money manifestation experience (4 years) — Im going to keep it short because I like to talk a lot but it gets really confusing hahaha For the last 4 years, I’ve been dealing with a debt that just increased every month like a snow ball, i coul…

34M and the future seems bleak — I'm 34 now and feel like an absolute failure at everything especially given the potential I had. I was always considered "gifted" growing up and I am a member of Mensa. I also graduated from an Ivy Le…

I had a very big realization about my nmom — i usually don't post and am using my alt to post since my main is very obviously me. usually i just support everyone from the comments so don't mind me ! when i was much younger my mom forcefully rea…

im feeling weird about my boyfriend having sleepovers with his girl best friend? — Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 5 months. We are super healthy and are good at handling conflict, except i don’t know how to approach this one thing. He lives about 6 hours away but g…

Reality shifting? — So what ive been learning from reality shifting and Law of assumption (neville goddard) is that reality shifting is the main thing/is the main principle. New identities, be it, become it, feeling is t…

Dating over 40 in NYC, am I a unicorn or jackass? (Still deciding.) — I’ve reached the point in dating where I genuinely can’t tell if I’m doing something wrong, or if everyone is just collectively… exhausted. But here's the truth, I'm told that I am unicorn amongst the…

Hopefully my last post — it has been four months since we broke up, so hopefully this will be my last post. or at least it should be lol. for the most part, I think I am getting better and improving. I am starting to see thi…

My girlfriend doesn’t talk to me when she’s mad and i don’t know what to do — Hi im (16M) i’ve been dating my girlfriend (16F) for about 6 months now and literally anytime she’s mad at me or upset with me no matter how big or how small she’ll just stop talking to me, lets say w…

My best friend is furious that I got married what do I do? — I F60)decided to give my recovering partner(58m) another chance. We have more resources now and a new start in many ways. My best friend of 40 years ( 60f) is furious. Her concerns are valid, she’s w…

seeking unhealthy things to relive my trauma — TRIGGER WARNING: SA, SH, SUICIDE ATTEMPTS, ABUSE ONLINE AND IRL, EATING DISORDER, CULT, i think thats it some basic info: 1. when i was 14 i was blackmailed, it was sextortion. i was assaulted, it w…

Unique Potential Divorce Situation — I actually can't believe I am typing this post out. Something I never thought I'd ever do. My wife and I are in what I would think is a very unique situation that I don't think a large percentage of t…

feeling discouraged and spiraling — i am really not in a good place right now. my boyfriend broke up with me before, learned manifestation, got him back in three months. three months of second relationship go by, first couple weeks …

How to be a kinder person? — One of the main things I've been working towards is trying to be a kinder person. However, I'm still a long way away from that. My main problem is more internal. I don't really have kind thoughts. And…

Dad kicked me out at 18 and now denies it — I want to share my story because this situation has been affecting me for a long time. Writing it out helps me process everything, and I would really appreciate some outside perspective. I am 26F, an…

I am working as an Officer in Govt of India with a "perfect" secure life, but my soul wants to drop it all for the Himalayan rivers, mountains, Yoga. Am I alone? — I am writing this from a busy city. I have a very secure, well-paying government job. By society's rules, I should be perfectly happy and satisfied. But whenever I find a quiet moment, my mind travels…

i think i went through something when i was younger but have no memory — I tagged this as NSFW just in case, not sure if it applies but you know. I feel like I may have gone through some sort of sexual abuse when I was very very little, but I have no memory or proof to ba…

It might be helpful for some people — If we truly want to do meditation ,then i want to do meditation concept should not be in mind , if it is , Then actually who is trying to do meditation, it is part of information which is stored in …

Paradoxical Nature of The Law & Instant Change — Good afternoon. I want to share some experiences and see if we can narrow down two aspects of The Law. If you want to skip straight to the discussion points, go to paragraphs 4-to-5 and read on from t…

I (19F) am having issues with my bfs (18M) mom. Am i thinking about it too much? — My boyfriend’s mother has grown a hatred of me before she met me. At the beginning of us knowing each other and talking, she was misinformed by another girl things that weren’t true at all, and she be…

I (29f) have been feeling jealousy for the first time with my fiancé (32m) over his new friend (29f). How can I move past this? — TL;DR: My fiancé got close to a female coworker he was helping out, and while he insists it’s just friendship, his extra effort (texting, cooking, helping her, compliments) is making me feel jealous a…

It's an interesting question with an interesting answer from someone more in the know than me. The main thing to point out is that during the rollback they are still delivering services on a signific…

GitOps presents an idea of reconciliation from the single source of truth: Git to paint the definition in Git repositoryto the external entity. Tool for implenting GitOps pattern for Kubernetes is Arg…

A big part of healing is facing the fact you don't trust anyone and leaning into it by trusting someone, such as a therapist. There are books you can read. The main thing is  learning emotion regulati…

Some thoughts - this is rushed, so not nicely written: \- Anxious-preoccupied: preoccupied with attachment figures and attachment relationships, anxious about possible unavailability of attachment fi…

okay maybe i’m going against the grain here and take it with a grain of salt but when i was in a similar situation with my ex (now bf as we rekindled) , i sat wit him after a text like this and outlin…

I know the feeling and you can heal it. In my opinion, texting or the lack of it can be so triggering for anxious attachment because you can’t check their reactions, moods, or faces when they are not…

I had this two years ago with someone who I’d lived with for 6 years after we moved out. It was so paintful and uncomfortable. There’s one main thing I would recommend… Letting time pass and filling …

That's actually the main thing I'm good at working with! My attachment issues were almost certainly caused by early childhood and the main way that manifested with me was poor self esteem and feeling …

Essentially the same thing. So my tolerance for it sounds a bit higher. I can spend full days together, I just ignore my needs but it absolutely catches up with me. Yesterday she was talking to me and…

I realised the main thing about being secure was how they made me feel. Did I feel calm, comfortable and safe? Or was I ruminating and questioning myself? Anyone that made me feel on edge and anxi…

The main thing that ever worked for me was a modified version of cbt aimed at attachment problems.  I've worked with a couple people on the subreddit to go through that program and am always happy t…

That’s really rough. I guess it’s stressful because you are aware you want things to be different but you’re not yet at the stage where they actually are different. And any sort of misalignment or in-…

Im curious how much improvement you’ll see on the apps! Im around a 4-4.5 with make up but think I could potentially reach 6 or so with surgery because my main things are nose and jaw which can be cor…

I had a somewhat similar situation re: my partner’s divorce not being finalized when we first met. It took him nearly a year to wrap it up. But through it all, he was so affirming of his feelings for …

She's started turning up at social events I've been going to for years. And bringing new bf and being super handsy and whatnot with him. We also still have a legal entanglement she's refusing to …

She's started turning up to social events I've been going to for years. The climate here is bugging me too. It's been a rough winter. Also there's a better market for my job in Seattle (typic…

This is the main thing I hate about the apps. I like small talk, but I want to set up a date ASAP. I don't wanna send jokes back and forth, neg someone, play some sort of game just because that's expe…

I say go for it. I’ve never understood people’s dislike of selfies on dating profiles. Obviously you don’t want your whole profile filled with them. But as long as the picture is a good one and your…

So that is my main thing, to filter people out but sometimes I'm worried that bcs Palestine content generally across online spaces and social media is pushed out on purpose, maybe dating apps algorhyt…

This is one of the main things I’m worried about after having just recently [joined a match making service](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/s/FelSz6Dbt2). Granted, I’ve gotten to somewhat kn…

EDIT: Oops, sorry. Don’t know why I assumed you were using a dating app.. But maybe what I said could still be interesting to some. 🤷🏼‍♀️ A lot of guys (no offense guys..) seem to just not know wha…

If things seem to be going similarly on the next date, you could ask a direct question like "Are you hesitant to kiss new people in general or are you still figuring out how you feel about me?" I ag…

I think the main thing is to separate the approach and desired outcomes in your mind. You are not trying share your life with this woman, you are just trying to have a conversation. So, you had …

I think the main thing here were the starting terms… you live really far away from one another and it doesn’t sound like there was ever a convo about explicit intention. I think it’s reasonable to not…

Just had to get this embarrassing but wholesome story off my chest. I (31M) had my date (28F) over (6th date) to make dinner together and watch a movie together. We have so much in common and could t…

Hey all, Male, 34, just need to vent about dating and life in general. Overall, things in my life are pretty good. I have a great family and friends, and my social life is pretty active. I started to…

As another poster has said, I don't think the two things are necessarily mutually exclusive. I have been, and am still, in a similar situation where I couldn't work out whether my desire to pull away …

I’ve exhausted religion and esoteric knowledge. The main thing they all agree upon is that the world is all suffering, but I just don’t agree with that. Yeah, I was tortured for 6 years, and was sad m…

>The main thing they all agree upon is that the world is all suffering Not a single one says that. That's your interpretation, and the first indicator to you that your interpretation is biased is som…

I thought I was the only one too, I miss sex with ex, just like everything he did in bed. It was the main thing that kept us together for so long. The new guy I’m with doesn’t eat 🐱 it sucks ass. But…

I keep getting stuck on your word "irritated." Not to sound like Dr. Phil here, but you sound like you are really stifling your emotions with such a minor word. What you are describing is not "irritat…

The other answers nailed the main thing, follow the ruler. But one thing that helped me early on was realizing empty doesnt mean quiet. Transiting planets pass through empty houses all the time and wh…

You’ll do great in New York if you’re 6’1” in freedom units and have good English. Main thing I’m guessing you’re born and raised in China and probably coming here on F-1+OPT or H-1B. Accent or Engl…

I find whenever people make a sure distinction between reason and emotion, the chances of suppression are high. In Stoicism, reasons are emotions and emotions are reasons, even having an extreme anger…

The thing that jumped out for me from your post is not any of the things you’ve listed but the sense that you are pretty inflexible about things - the main thing being your finances. Is there a reason…

"Is there a reason you have to have your mortgage paid off by the time you’re 50?" Overpaying the mortgage is what I have available for emergencies from redraw. Financially I have to be completely se…

Nice to meet you, too! It's a horrible disease, isn't it? My dad is a retired GP and his first ever patient death was a young guy with Crohn's who haemorrhaged. So he's always been concerned about me,…

What's interesting is Atone is possibly from a timeline where he is extinct...all the big Grey's are ...but is able to return to our time line to work on the problems that caused that to happen in the…

I just think the main thing is to enjoy spending time together. Of course they start to learn about me. But the facts of my life are less important than just seeing how our personalities mesh, and tha…

It's a little creepy, but the main thing is reconnecting after that much time has passed. If I got unmatched and someone reached back out after almost half a year I would feel like I was a backup, lik…

Tough times ahead of you. It’s going to be a hell of a lot worse for her very soon. Once the honeymoon phase of their sex life is over and she realizes that guy is not you and the fun and games are no…

I get that. When it’s that fresh it’s normal to feel like you don’t want to do anything. You don’t have to force yourself into a big night out or anything. Even something small like a walk, grabbing c…

Text of original post by u/Alarmed-Most-2410: Hey everyone. How do you folks settle into dating a secure person? I notice that when I’ve dated an avoidant, I’m all over it, very obsessive and can’t st…

I think the elementary differences dont matter much. The real differences show up in high school. Some people blame tiger parenting, but now as parent I know it is 100% not true. Since my family i…

To try to help out my girlfriend lost feelings for me in past but regained them so personal experience from other side. Also, from what I am reading of your responses you deep down don't want to giv…

You’re not weird for feeling that way. A lot of people underestimate how important simple touch is, it’s a real human need, not just a romantic one. Some people cope with things like hugs from close f…

Of course you are welcome!! If it helps rekindle other peoples relationship then glad to be here for you. Back to this: Hmmm interesting so you both have talked about it multiple times but he does…

I think that it could be - and so the main thing is to trust your intuition on that and actually choose how you will be in contact - only on your own terms. The guilt definitely is conditioning from …

My exgf was like this. She had been SA’d and also had verbal/physical abuse as well. I knew this going in and the one thing I always kept telling her was I’ll never force her to do something she doesn…

That's great, stick with it. Honestly the most attractive thing a man can offer is consistency and it sounds like that's something you struggled with previously if she doesn't feel like she can trust …