Discipline

So Called "Punishment" or "Discipline" My Parents Did To Me — Hello fellow Asian folks, I have been lurking here for very long time, and I want to share with you all about some of my early life. (Trigger Warning) I (17M) did have some of happy moments in my…

Music / Art creation — Does anyone here use the LOB for music creation? Not as much for improving your technique on certain instruments, but rather the actual process of making music. Anything from songs, pieces, riffs, bea…

Pouncemonial: 7th Kill - Disciplined Trader — # Here's how I achieved my 7th mission! **Mission**: To become a disciplined trader **What I achieved**: Mastered stop loss and trading discipline **Background**: After my 6th kill, I was eager t…

What Platform Engineering Really Means (and How It Differs from DevOps and SRE) — Hey all, I just wrote a piece breaking down what **Platform Engineering** is — not just as a buzzword, but as a real discipline that’s emerging in many engineering organizations. 🔧 **Key takeaways…

Finding Like Minded Business People — **TL/DR :**  Looking for people who are stuck with unsure with what business they want to pursue and end up learning a little bit about all of them; that want to partner up to stay focused with each …

ELI5: What is TDD and BDD? Also, TDD vs BDD? — I wrote this short article about TDD vs BDD because I couldn't find a concise one. It contains code examples in every common dev language. Maybe it helps one of you :-) Here is the repo: https://githu…

Pouncemonial: 9th Kill - 30 Successful Trades — **Mission**: To accomplish 30 successful trades **What I achieved**: Accomplished 30 successful trades and learned how to execute and manage trades well. **Background**: With the previous kill, …

Master’s degree, big scholarship, and leaving a toxic situation — Background: I was keen to leave my toxic family situation for years but let’s just say it wasn’t happening. I got a good job in my hometown, I found someone I loved who was desperate to marry me, I …

Which reason is correct for why conscious techniques work less efficiently? — Ive been reading and trying to think of the answer. Came to 2 conclusions. 1. You need 51% subconsious faith only. So any effort with conscious faith will have no effect unless it eventually effects …

My friend felt stuck for years - in session we found a core belief that life is only suffering — I did a quantum healing session for my friend Ramona and honestly what came up was intense. She has felt stuck for a long time. Putting things off, hard to get moving, hard to create, hard to do even…

My friend felt stuck for years - in session we found a core belief that life is only suffering — I did a quantum healing session for my friend Ramona and honestly what came up was intense. She has felt stuck for a long time. Putting things off, hard to get moving, hard to create, hard to do even…

I failed to build habits 47 times. Here's what finally worked. — For years I tried to change my life with big plans — gym 5 days a week, strict diet, no screens after 9pm. Every single time I quit within a week. The problem wasn't my discipline. It was that I was …

When is emotional control actually suppression? — In reading Epictetus and Seneca, I’ve been reflecting on how Stoicism distinguishes between emotional mastery and mere suppression. the texts emphasize that destructive emotions, anger, fear, resentm…

How to Meditate (or at least one way to get started) — Intro: There are endless amount of intentions or, in other words, ways to focus your meditation practice. At the end of the day, your meditation practice is \*yours\*, so make it your own. This post …

Wanting to fix my life — I want to start my self help journey tomorrow. I am tired of being lazy and having no discipline. My life has been terrible so far I'm doing bad in school, I'm poor, I'm ugly, and I'm bad at socializi…

I found 2 tricks to help focusing on my breath. Beginner + Adhd here. — H56, overstimulated by screen (shows, movies, youtube podcast, chess online), stimulants (amphets like), and since my childhood, overthinking (the worst addiction ever). Sorry my English is not perf…

When the therapist is speechless… — I had my therapy session this week and she asked what I did differently with my kids than my own mother (who had Dxd Borderline). I told her my children were allowed childhoods, kids were not parenti…

You will be rewarded openly! I promise! — How to manifest your desire? Well, We all know the "How"(Techniques to get into the state) but We don't know "How" (bridge of incident) whole thing will arranged itself to produce the result of the i…

I hate everything — I got threatened with marriage because I seemed like I gained weight through video call. And because I had the audacity to wake up late. And my brother is a piece of shit that sees nothing wrong ever …

Something surprising happened when I stopped trying to be productive all the time — For years I thought the key to improving my focus was becoming more disciplined. Better routines. More productivity systems. Trying harder. But recently I noticed something strange. The moments…

please, take your time to hear my story, because no one else ever did — My mom gave birth to me when she was 41 years old, I have a sister and a brother, my sister is 27 years old, but she has mental problems and behaves terribly immature, so she is always making screamin…

32 years of marriage, but I'm still unsettled by an affair from 2006. Is it too late to ask for the truth? — I’ve been married for 32 years now, but there is a something from 2006 that I’ve never been able to move past. Back then, my daughters were 11 and 10. We were leaving my parents' house after a weekend…

I’m new to the practice and I feel overwhelmed and need guidance — I picked up the “discipline is destiny” book recently and fell in love with the practice. However I feel extremely overwhelmed with the amount of information there is on the internet and in bookstores…

Finally admitting I have an attitude of entitlement. — Need to get this off my chest: I’m realizing that at 35, I’ve spent a lot of my life operating with a mix of entitlement and a victim mentality. The short version is that growing up, I had a lot of t…

Overarching Energy of the New Moon in Pisces on March 18th, 2026 — Even if you are not an artist, philosopher or feel things deeply, the New Moon in Pisces could give you an open, dreamy quality, where you want to dig into more abstract subjects. You may be thinkin…

I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…

Read this if you have doubts about manifestation — Why do you even doubt it? Just why? Do you think manifestation is something illogical, supernatural, and difficult? It absolutely isn’t. It’s something you’ve been doing your whole life unconsciousl…

Anyone find overly strict Asian Parenting methods don't build discipline — I grew up like many Asian Americans with very strict parents. They monitored my grades, homework, extra curriculars, and leisure activities. However, even though I was able to succeed under their wat…

Nowadays, would you say it's easier to have kids / start a family in Asia or the West? — I know flings and casual sex and "game" and all that keep getting brought up in these communities, and I understand why. But let's suppose you eventually (or currently) want to settle down, take it ea…

Has anyone ever changed their entire selves/view on life? — I (40f) have been struggling with selfishness my whole life. My husband left me and asked for a divorce but more recently agreed to a trial separation. One thing he brought up today was that I never s…

I didn't have a discipline problem. I was repeating decisions i had already made. — I kept trying to fix my life by fixing my habits. Wake up earlier. Be more consistent. Stop procrastinating. It worked… for a few days. Then I slipped back. Not because I lacked discipline. B…

Bad things will lead to greater life. — It's one of the obvious, but sometimes even the obvious things are good to remind yourself. Everything bad that happens in your life will eventually lead to life with more freedom of mind. It filters…

"Men Can't Be Men Anymore" — A week ago, I [posted about the Louis Theroux documentary on the “Manosphere,”](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/1rtveyg/the_manosphere/) noting my surprise at the scale of the phenomenon, u…

Why does it take years to realize you’re traumatized? And why does "standard" therapy often miss the point? — I’ve been thinking a lot about the "lost decades." For 30 years, I thought I was just "the nice guy." I thought I was just "lazy," "unmotivated," or "heavy." I went through life thinking these were m…

The moment I realised no contact was working wasn't when I stopped missing them - it was when I stopped checking if they missed me — For weeks my brain was obsessed with two things simultaneously: getting over them AND monitoring whether they were getting over me. Every view, every story, every mutual friend update. Then one day I …

What helps presidents stay alert? — Modern presidents have extremely demanding schedules. How do they maintain energy and focus throughout the day? Beyond routine and discipline, are there known medical supports or treatments (e.g., pre…

the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…

should hitting your kids be justified as discipline? and where do you draw the line? — im asking this because im a 15 year old female who moved to canada from china with my family when i was 6, and now my circles are predominantly white people so whenever my dad justifies him hitting me…

I’m 31, but I just realized I’ve been emotionally 4 years old my entire life. — Hey everyone, I’m having a massive breakthrough and I need to put this into words. I finally understand why my life has felt like a performance for 30 years, and why I’m suddenly "falling apart" now …

Burned out — Sitting here crying on my couch because I am just so tired. I need to log on to work but am just absolutely dreading it. Everything feels unmanageable. Work. Being a single mom. Finances. Housework. …

Why don’t I relate to being a Capricorn when I have so many placements? — From what I read about capricorns they’re perceived as being traditionalists, hard-working, money-minded, serious, masters of self-control, professionals and leaders, valuing the material world etc. …

What showing up every day actually taught me about myself — The biggest thing I learned is this: nobody is “better” than you. They just stayed with the things most people quit. That’s it. Discipline isn’t about talent or motivation — it’s about doing the work …

My boyfriend is way more attractive and out of my league — I stepped out of the shower and saw my boyfriend had sent me a shirtless pic- he has that David Laid physique- all lean, muscles and abs. Then I looked at myself in the mirror. The comparison hit me a…

You lost them, not losing them — I had a strange thought today, it hit me like a ton of bricks. An ad came up for a movie we planned to watch and instantly triggered a sad wave, That thought of "we was going to enjoy that" to "I'm g…

Life changing phase of life — Everyone of us had spoiled our childhood in some areas in our own way no matter how privileged or disciplined you're. There is phase in which we realise what we're doing wrong and where to improve, we…

I finally understood why I keep sabotaging my own progress — For the longest time, I thought my problem was laziness. I thought I wasn’t disciplined enough, motivated enough, or “built” like the people who seem to have their life together. But today somethi…

boundaries crossed, wanting to be better. — i’m 16 and i feel like i have a really strong conscience. i feel guilty even over things that might not seem like a big deal to other people. recently i almost crossed a boundary just acting on impul…

Schopenhauer's cessation of striving and Marcus Aurelius's cognitive clearing: is there a Stoic equivalent of deliberate emptying before decision-making? — Schopenhauer argues that the continuous striving of the individual will produces only horizontal progress, and that the complete cessation of that striving opens a qualitatively different kind of perc…

40M feeling stuck between self-improvement and loneliness — how do you actually find a partner at this stage? — Hey guys, I’m 40, fairly active, and I’d say I’ve been working hard on myself over the last few years — physically, mentally, and professionally. I go to the gym regularly, try to stay disciplined, …

19M | CET | Morning Wake-Up Accountability & Online Business — `Hey, I'm 19 from Czech Republic running multiple online businesses (YouTube automation across 7 languages). Looking for a long-term accountability partner, ideally someone who's also building somethi…

Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using slee…

>Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using sle…

Thank you so much for this, it’s cathartic to see the traits childhood emotional neglect can cause. I always just thought well this is how I am like I was just made this way, and seeing them as result…

Hi Ralumarian35 On Moonbeam's instructions, the mod team has decided to ban you for 4 months. From your post history, it is clear that you've read, thought about and understood the posts in the index…

No way around it except practice, smart application of what you're supposed to have read in the index, and discipline. At the end of the day, that's where the real work lies to impress the SM and get …

If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, LO…

This is a bad 'technique' if you want to call it that. It turns the LOB's practice into a value system. That will distort and ultimately destroy you. The LOB is a law of physics and does not depend …

I get why this sub advocates for SM methods over CM methods, and I absolutely agree that it’s better for beginners, but the problem with exclusively doing this is that you can do all of the work laid …

Congrats brother or sister. 30 kills at an 80 percent win rate is incredible ! I know its a bit late to ask How do you know your results came from Law of belief and not from pure conventional di…

I’m a year late but let’s be real, this is facts. The people bashing manifestation or New Thought teachings are just mad it didn’t work for them. They got half-baked info off TikTok or Abraham Hicks, …

If I didn’t think it was worth it I wouldn’t be pursuing. He shows up in every way supportive, very loving, affectionate, shows pda, disciplined, hard working. if the flaw of me having to learn how to…

I'm not qualified to give you any pro opinion but I can tell you what I've done, for myself. First step is admitting you can't continue this way, for your own sake and the sake of your close ones. S…

Well avoidants aren't immune from the oxytocin their brain releases when you meet a suitable primate. I say this as an avoidant primate. If the avoidant in question has been single for a few years tha…

An incredible poem — thank you for sharing. Here's a contribution. Vibe is a little more optimistic, perhaps speaking of the moment before beginning healing. Everything is Waiting for You David Why…

>To give you some proof that the law of belief (lob) is real, my very first manifestation which was a “hard” one was a SP. I viewed it as an experiment to see if this all was real. I also put pressure…

“it feels like the person who caused the pain can be the only one who can heal it.” is a lie you’re telling yourself. Source: I told myself the same lie (about my abusive ex) for years. I thought sinc…

Ok so basic thing to understand, no astro experience necessary, is that eclipse seasons happen twice a year. Our first eclipse season is basically the entire month of February. The next one is Augus…

Thank you! I was under the impression that it was a sneak peak so I got a little excited. May 2025 - September 2025 a lot of good things were happening (travel, discipline, and was very much in love).…

You are doing the right things. Something has to give eventually. Everyone I know who applied your discipline in their 30s found someone. None of us are that unique. 

Hey OP! Judging from your OG post and many of your comments… I absolutely think this is a love language thing. You (like myself) are a words of affirmation (WOA) girly. And there’s nothing wrong with …

1. State your rising sign (this is important). Capricorn rising 2. State the sign and degree of your natal Saturn (we much prefer you use the Whole Sign house system, but if you use Placidus, the …

We've left this dumb thread up here for a reason. Look through all the responses to the OP. No lightbulbs. Nothing complicated. In short, practice more, learn to focus better, switch scenes if you get…

Venus is in detriment in Aries, not in fall (she's in fall in Virgo - planets are in fall in the sign opposite the one where they're exalted, and in detriment in the sign(s) opposite the one(s) they r…

For me… Aquarius Jupiter is my chart ruler and is in my 2nd house (3rd in whole signs). I’ve somehow chosen things to study that require massive machines and lots of space lol. Like printmaking, piano…

the pattern across these stories is remarkably consistent: early financial instability or scarcity consciousness, followed by a slow (often painful) process of building genuine material security throu…

From an astrological perspective, the most challenging **Sun-Moon transits** usually involve Saturn, Pluto, or, sometimes, Mars. These planets tend to create pressure, emotional intensity, or confront…

Having good Saturn aspects. Saturn rules over authority, structures, punishment, and law. With good Saturn aspects you’ll be favored by elders and spared in encounters with authority figures (police, …

Yes, I think that’s a real thread to pull on. Saturn in Aries can describe cultural pressure around the body as something to discipline, reduce, harden, or sharpen, so I can see why the late 90s came …

This advice work only if you treating yourself negatively. Sometimes books are worth reading even if you are not enjoying that build discipline and you become mature without knowing but If someone is…

Do nothing means to find stillness. Not only in the body, but in the mind too. It’s definitely a practice to have the self discipline to have this level of stillness. Especially when most people don’t…

Something that was helpful for me was understanding that it's not about giving your inner child what they want it's about taking care of them. Internal family systems is a helpful reference point for …

A few of thoughts First, the original Stoics were writing and debating their theories over 2,000 years ago. Due to the vagueries of translation and the vastness of time between them and us, there are…

Short answer yes, and it goes both ways. Saturn transiting through Aries is going to activate every natal Aries placement by conjunction, but it also aspects your cardinal placements by square and opp…

Your chart describes conditions, not a script. So yes, you can change how a placement shows up. But I would frame it more as evolving the expression rather than replacing it. An Aquarius Moon will alw…

Saturn in Aries is Saturn in fall, meaning the restriction is pushing against a sign that fundamentally resists being contained. That tension is exactly what makes these periods feel extreme rather th…

The divergence in perspectives on Stoicism is a result of a massive data gap between the original ancient hardware and the modern cultural software. The term has been hijacked by a contemporary "movie…

Definitely not. I do not fully think we can be. I think different versions of ourselves exist with eachother. If you search, "Parallel Reality Stories TikTok" on YouTube, you will see Playlists of …

Anyone can FI/RE, just have to have the discipline and a plan

If the D good a lot of us women will look past more than a few of those easily. Good D? I'll gladly pick you up in my car. Good D hell yeah let's stay in a watch a movie. Good D? Doesn't get rejecte…

That takes incredible discipline. I felt a difference in 30 mins or hour meditations.

If you are needing to "control" a judgement then the judgement itself is probably not in accordance with virtue, and should be corrected. Emotional discipline, unlike some modern views of stoicism, …

All I will say is never say you want to repair something and see the affair partner over and over again. The amount of trauma it causes goes beyond the relationship. If you don’t have the self discipl…

There's a famous quote from the Tantric master Tilopa to his disciple Naropa: "Your thoughts are not the problem. Your attachment to them is the problem." People often think they need to eliminate de…

I sort of stumbled across a primitive version of the dichotomy of volition on my own and went looking for related philosophies. Found a quote of Marcus Aurelius' summary of the Three Disciplines and r…

This is the most practical and concrete advice on this thread! Though I will say, OPs responses are a bit strange lol. He isn’t really acknowledging the advice he’s getting, instead just repeating the…

If a man has to ask whether being an Asian man at 185 cm puts him at a disadvantage in America, that question already reveals a deeper problem. It signals a kind of insecurity. A kind of small-minded …

That’s part of it, very helpful, and good forms of excercise but the specific practices related to sexual energy are nei Dan meditation, litterally means internal alchemy, tai chi and chi gong are par…

Ah no! That stuff isn’t a problem now, it’s more like being willing to see something through like a project or having the discipline to do hard things. Or like learning adult shit like credit. I am 22…

not teaching kids self discipline and how to be doing things for themselves/life skills is neglect 

Sun conjunct Mercury, a very active mind, maybe can become overstimulated, possible ADHD. Mercury likes to talk and communicate, reading and writing. Mars square Uranus: someone in your environment g…