Extinction Burst

I finally stopped begging my toxic Mom. Her "Extinction Burst" over my sister's wedding is insane. Has anyone else experienced this? — Hi everyone. I (M) and my two sisters have spent our entire lives tiptoeing around our emotionally immature, highly controlling mother. She uses guilt, silent treatments, and the "I'm a terrible mothe…

Brain absolutely desperate for stimulation but no longer getting enjoyment from anything. How can I use this for good? — Basically what the title says. I'm a dopamine addict, but I'm also extremely depressed. These are not a great combination, because my brain is always in a state of CRAVING more stimulation that can't …

The extinction burst means you are on the right track. Stay the course. The ONLY way they may change is when they realize they have to change their behavior to get a healthy response/relationship with…

Amazing. My dad’s extinction burst was during me moving out. He tried to pay me to stay and tried to keep half my stuff like it was some sort of divorce. I think he’s still on it because we didn’t…

If you were to cave now, the only thing they will learn is that they have to up their behavior to this level of crazy to get you to comply. So this will become the new baseline and a next “extinction …

Damn. Guess an extinction burst is what my ex did. The lightbulb is now on for me. Yeah same feeling about unplugging from the matrix here.

She's still ranting to the internet that her child abandoned her, or that she has no child as far as I know. Her extinction burst was in early 2030 when we told her her ex (my FIL) had passed away su…

It was after our father died.  She had actually been over medicating him for attention. She would spend *hours* on the phone to people telling them how out of it he was and how hard this was for her.…

I haven't heard of this Extinction Burst before and it's so helpful to put things in perspective. Thank you!!

It (extinction burst) lasted about 2-3 years for me and only ended because I chose estrangement. Best of luck, you're all rewiring your nervous system and brains to go against your conditioning since …

My Mom kicked me out when she went through her Extinction Burst (and destroyed all of my photos).

I know what an Extinction Burst means but I still can't shake that it sounds like some fantasy character's ultimate attack.

My extinction burst was caused by me not answering the phone which led to a spate of emails from her with various character assassinations of me. She said she shouldn't talk for a while. It's been 1…

Oh yes, the extinction burst (also known as a toddler tantrum). So fun right? I would say this to your sister… Invite who YOU want there. Not because grandma wants them and she gave you a house and no…

I can't comment about an Extinction burst but I will say that your sister will be a lot happier if your NM is not there. When I got married, my father who most of his life had been an enabler, finally…

Another Grandma here; listen to JollyRaspberry. All I can add is, read about Extinction Bursts because there will definitely be one.

What you're describing, craving stimulation you can't enjoy, is actually a recognized part of depression and dopamine dysregulation. It's not a character flaw, it's just your brain in a depleted state…

OP, expect an extinction burst. If you don't know what that is, look it up. Expect one, and expect it to be bad and prolonged and escalating. Expect health crises, or whatever she needs to hoover you…

The extinction burst piece is so important and so rarely talked about. When you've spent your whole life managing someone's emotions to keep the peace, the moment you stop, their behavior escalating i…

My husband also has the very very strong urge to speak. The difference is that he fights it. When I say he interrupted, I wasn’t done speaking, he’s been talking for a while, can I say something, etc……

I went through this and everyone pulled the but she's your mother. I kept my distance. Well, she didnt have me as a punching bag anymore (which is what your grandfather wants because its the status qu…