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the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…
Updated Rules — Hello, r/therapy! We hope this post finds you well. We are writing to announce a minor overhaul of our rules. As our community continues to grow and evolve, our rules must do the same which is why we…
Proving Conciousness Creates Reality Syllogistically — 1. We exist. But our existence is dependent. We as physical beings, did not cause ourselves. 2. Everything we observe in the universe is also dependent. Stars, planets, people, and everything else we …
When did you finally realise, your life would never be ‘normal’? — I am 47M I grew up in an EXTREMELY dysfunctional household, with every type of abuse you can imagine, and death of a parent at 12. I’ve had to fend for myself since that age, whilst being used and a…
The phrase "you're so strong" is pissing me off. — ETA: TW tags and NSFW added. I apologise. Had a dysfunctional childhood, abusive stuff of all sorts, was struggling with major depression and being extremely suicidal in my teens, have been through a…
Broke up with me because his father didnt want him to be distracted from his career. Why cant I forget him? — As the title mentions. I (DOB 30.12.1993, first chart) was best friends with this boy (DOB 13.10.1994, second chart) from 2013 and we started dating in 2014 beginning. The relationship was a very good…
Some Pointers after 12 Years of Meditation — Meditation is an invisible skill, which makes it especially prone to confusion and obfuscation. I wanted to jot down some pointers and opinions about meditation that have served me at one point or an…
Finally Got a Lucid Dream... So I Tested your Queries in it — Hey guys, this is gonna be a bit of a long one lol. \[CONTEXT\] For a while, I've been trying to lucid dream, but was too lazy to consistently do training, write in journals, or set multiple alarms …
THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…
Anybody else had a father that was physically there but wasn’t emotionally present like AT all? — Growing up my dad was just physically there and just provided. He never hugged me, told me he loved me, he just been stone cold. We are in the same house, with 0 connection. He never sat and gave me a…
I don't get to focus 12 — I feel like nothing is happening with focus 12. My consciousness doesn't expand at all.. it's just still me lying in my bed with the same amount of consciousness as before. I don't know if I'm suppose…
The best things I did to stop me ruminating and wishing my ex would come back (After wishing she would for more than a year) — Hello Everyone At the beginning of 2025 I went through the type of breakup I would not wish on my worst enemy, I wont bore you with the details but I struggled with this for over a year. Here are …
I feel like I just peeked behind the veil on weed — For context, I was stone cold sober (no drugs or alcohol), other than some nicotine/caffeine for 12.5 years after being an alcoholic/using drugs to cope. I recently started smoking 1 cbd cigarette abo…
I feel like garbage after seeing my best friend......... — Im a 46 year old man. I'm married with 2 kids. Im fat, bald and 5 foot 5. Im a piece of shit and cant take it anymore. My best friend is actually a girl who i have always been in love with. Shes marri…
Got what I wanted !! Again !! — Hi everyone, **Context** So I made a post called “7 Seeds - 1 Harvest” and mentioned there would be upcoming posts since writing about each desire that came true would’ve made the post way too long.…
One Sentence Encheiridion (1-15) — I was rereading the Enchieridion and decided to try and summarize each passage in a single sentence. This was a fun activity, let me know if I should share more. 1. The only thing fully up to you are…
The moment when everything clicked after the discard. Does this pattern strongly point to NPD? — Hey everyone. After a recent brutal and totally blindsiding discard by someone who I thought loved me, Im trying to understand what I experienced (almost 1 year relationship and attempt at reconnectio…
All Day Awareness.. — Today, I figured, I am going to use ADA. (for helping with Lucid Dreaming) What I take from actually using it, is kinda like looking at it as meditating throughout the day. If i notice my mind wander…
Phyllodium pulchellum a plant with high amounts of 5-MeO -DMT and seeds full of Bufotenin — Seeds: Contain a high concentration of Bufotenine (approx. 12.4%), along with smaller amounts of DMT and 5-MeO-DMT. Leaves & Stems: These parts primarily contain 5-MeO-DMT and DMT. Roots: All three …
The fact that someone as terrible and disgusting as me has been allowed to live this long is the world's worst joke. — **(This is a repost of a post I made a while ago, which I am reposting because I'm back in a slump again. There aren't any major changes other than the ending bit.)** 20M. This might be the longest p…
Lessons from a relationship with a narcissist — I posted this a year ago but deleted after my narc ex found this post. Posting again because this helped me find a better partner for myself, and can help others as well. 1. When a man says they don…
I put my heart chakra in my EC box — And I woke up with so much compassion. I’ve been practicing that Rumi quote, “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built agains…
RetroPK — # RetroPK Now, depending on your mileage this may or not may constitute as an experience. In 2025 in order to test for whether I had retroPK or not I endeavored to use a true rng to see how many time…
I’ve put down my thoughts as to the reasons why I (m53) want to ask my wife (f52) for a divorce. — We’ve been married for 23 years. We’ve got 3 kids: 22, 19 and 12. We own our home, halfway through a 30 yr mortgage, with a low apr. Wife was majority earner, but recently lost her job. I’m inte…
The shock of secondary dissociative disorder — I got a cPTSD diagnosis on wednesday. I’m soon to be 40, woman, chronic pain patient at the severest level with trigeminal neuralgia since 2012. I got new treatment that made the pain managable a year…
; — I consulted 7 therapists in the last 3 years, and 6 of them diagnosed me with chronic severe depression, only one said it might be grief, but I did not talk to her honestly about my suicidal thoughts.…
I think I was sexually assulted as a child but I have no memory. — I don't know if this is the right place for this (I saw some other posts like this on this subreddit so this was my best guess: if any of you know a better place for me to post this please tell me) bu…
My mom defends my brother no matter what—even after he hurt me while I was pregnant — (24F) have started to feel like my mom (50F) doesn’t love me, and that realization has been growing stronger over the past year or two. I guess I’ll start in February 2025, when I found out my boyfri…
how come (certain) people react aggressively to suicide, and suicidal thoughts? — I started thinking about suicide when I was 12. I'm 21 now. One of the first things I heard was that I was being "selfish" and "stupid". My grandmother was dying back in 2016, her brother found out ab…
Pure RAGE 4 months post DDay — I found out 3 months postpartum my husband had been having an affair with a married woman my entire pregnancy. They’re still together nearly 4 months after I found out. We’re unfortunately still livin…
I 35f and my husband 36m confessed that he is smoking for a month now. — I 35f and my husband 36m have been together for 15 years, married for 12. We absolutely value trust in our relationship and when we say the word "Promise" it means we are telling the truth and will no…
I think my mum is a narcissist? — I was fostered by my foster mum at age of 9. She was incredibly controlling and strict all my life and I always accepted it as she's trying to protect/look after me. Now at 24 I've come to realise th…
How to determine if your spouse is likely to be younger than you.(An important astrological analysis.) — In astrology the birth chart often highlights patterns that deviate from what is socially considered “normal.” For men marrying a younger spouse is quite common so the chart usually does not emphasize…
How to determine if your spouse is likely to be younger than you.(An important astrological analysis.) — In astrology the birth chart often highlights patterns that deviate from what is socially considered “normal.” For men marrying a younger spouse is quite common so the chart usually does not emphasize…
Piecing Reality Together After Going NC/VLC — \[TW, mention of CSA and general abuse\] I probably don't really need to give as much background info as I plan to, but I'm going to in hopes of finding...solidarity? I guess? Essentially looking fo…
my dad blamed me for being groomed by a predator when I was 12. — I (21M) decided to switch jobs, this deeply upset my parents as they prefer to control my every move. They both lost their shit, told me to move all my stuff into one room and not see them for an enti…
i was encountered shadow beings.. For me, astral projection was just a bs. until I unintentional left my body during a state of loop paralysis — I never believed in astral travel.. I always avoided the subject because I thought it was just a myth. Over the past year, however, I’ve been experiencing loops of sleep paralysis in one "sleep" in t…
I would be cutting contact with my parents THIS JULY!! — As said in the title, I 20F would be cutting contact with my parents soon (I'll be going away for my masters) but I can't help but post stuff that happened to me because I feel like there is something…
I dont get how counting works — Relatively new, hanging around f10-f12. So when bob narrates the counts, like he first does it to f3, then f10, Sometimes I feel the effects of those states, I dont get how abritrary numbers and count…
What NOT to do after a breakup — 1. Do not contact your ex for closure. 2. Do not look at your ex's photos, texts or love notes. 3. Do not keep painful reminders around you. 4. Do not idolize the relationship. 5. Do not have …
“All we ever did was care about you” — My parents love to claim that all they ever did was care about my sisters and I. That they sacrificed so much for us, which I know they did in some ways but that doesn’t take away all the times they d…
Is it worth trying to get therapy? - tw — Im a F 22. I underwent a very traumatic experience. tldr: i witnessed my mother getting m\*rdered and little brother st\*bbed multiple times by her bf. they were together for i think 10 years in dec w…
The guide that will help you to change your perception in heartbreak — I lurk here often, as once upon a time I did go through something like this. I never exited the community and it breaks my heart how so many of you are burning in the same pain I once was. What a join…
I’m(M18) in a 4 year relationship(F18) but I want someone else(F18) — I thought I should post this because this has been bothering me for months and the only “person” I’ve talked to about it is ChatGPT. I’ve been with my girlfriend since year 8 (we’re in year 12 now).…
Tingling/goosebumps + Aphantasia questions — Hey there! I've been working my way through the tapes for awhile. I really enjoy them. I have been repeating Focus 12 for awhile just to get the hang of it. I haven't had a ton happen to me overall. …
Struggles from focus 10 to focus 12 — Hello, I have been listening to the tapes for around a month and I have experienced the marvel of the focus 10 without a problem, i have even managed to induce focus 10 without the necessity of the t…
CSA symptoms from being told about sex/rape? — Growing up, I was always hypersexual. I remember being 7 years old and fantasizing about being raped, I used to sexually roleplay with my sisters while we were 6-10ish, I would be sexually inappropria…
Need help understanding what I’m going through open to any opinion will not be offended — I’m gonna try to keep this short, however I have lots of detail. I believe some of this stems from childhood now I am 27 years old. My mental health has always been an issue however it has been declin…
as a fa, how can i learn how to ask for help? — Hi everyone. I'm not totally sure if this is an appropriate advice to ask in this sub, but I have some issues with social anxiety that are linked to my harsh inner critic, and one of them is asking fo…
I [20F] and my Bf [19M] are struggling to get over something that happened, what can we do? (Slight TW) — So, I (20F) and my boyfriend (19M) (Who im gonna call J) have been together 3½ years. We started dating when we were 16, and honestly, the relationship itself has been great. There have been ups and d…
https://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?showgif&lang=e&gif=astro_2gw_jared_mcknight.75112.31364.png&res=100 This is the best I can do. As you can tell I’m not very good at this. Would you mind looking at…
You have a couple options. U can navigate this yourself, but u need to know a few things and I am operating with assumptions here. For context - I am a manufacturer rep selling product to supermarke…
Hi all - this could be considered a graphic post. Just FYI. I wanted to introduce myself and say why im here. My first memory is of being used as a human shield by my dad when cops pulled a gun on him…
Posting this list from a previous Logan Ury newsletter for ‘third object’ date ideas - ones where there’s another focus other than just the two of you: Get moving together 1. Go roller skating or ic…
My (sigh…I still don’t even know what to call her now) wife / ex-wife and I were together for fifteen years. A lot of those years were rocky, but there was always a core love in there that I trusted w…
Negative, bud. I do live in a high-COL area but none of these dates are particularly bank-breaking. Most of them are coffee, drinks, or low-key activities. Maybe 1/3 of them were dinners and not at fa…
Monday I work til 2 then the gym, kid time, dinner, hopefully walking pad. Tuesday work til 3. Obligation from 4-6:30. Dinner with kid. Wednesday work til 4, gym time, kid time, dinner. Off Thursda…
Mine weren’t toddlers. My girl was 17 and my boy was soon to be 12. But it had a similar affect on both of them. In many ways my son took it harder. His mom was his rock and to him she left him behind…
I assume these are trivial reasons, for those of us not up on all Seinfeld lingo? Can't say that it's ever happened to me. Most likely though there were other reasons and some little quirk just put it…
Thank you all for sharing your experiences and life perspectives. I have to admit I feel a bit overwhelmed by the responses, but also very grateful. I am both relieved that I am not alone in this exp…
Omfg. The canesten. You just unlocked a memory of my mom doing the same thing. And she also used to make me "douche". I was barely 12. Fucking monsters.
I have only ever lurked here. Its been awhile though. This one finally got me.. > Golden Firstborn here. First of 4 boys. Parents got progressively more picky when they didn't get the daughter they wa…
The ruler of the Ascendant is the chart ruling planet which, in your case, is Neptune the ruling planet of Pisces. The first house and Ascendant indicates how we appear to others, how we project or …
Alcohol depletes B12. If you can, ask your doctor to test your vitamin levels or you can order them yourself on quest labs or ulta labs.
1. Long battle 2. Money gets involved it changes 3. Get the best lawyer you can afford 4. Try to mediate issues to lower costs 5. Interview a few lawyers 6. Exhaust all options to save marriage 7…
I heard two people saying I wasn’t ready when I was APing at 12. Pretty nuts it’s so common for people to hear.
Ascendente em Virgem, necessariamente age permeado pela necessidade de autocontrole da matéria, o que reverbera no controle do que é expressado às pessoas, o que é reforçado com o stellium em Escorpiã…
Is it just 11.11 or others like 5.55. 12.12 etc?
Yes! You are absolutely right! There are so many privileged assumptions out there it can be totally infuriating! And I say that even though I do get therapy. Now, even if one does get therapy, in my e…
In the last year, I have successfully weened myself off of the "validation" of my ex boyfriend (who used pick up artist techniques to mentally abuse me and keep me on my toes and pining for his attent…
I don't know that a 6th house Gemini stellium *has* to be bad. What if you had both benefics and the sun in there? It just means that 6th house/Gemini themes are going to be really prominent in your l…
My mom scared me allllllll the time. When I was a small child, she would say in a scary voice, "I am NOT your mother." But only when I couldn't see her, like if the shower door was steamy or she was …
Absolutely, yes. But I've learned to accept it. My methods won't be for everyone, but I'll share how I've (mostly) come to terms with it. * First off, I treat my background and experience as normal…
Awesome thanks for the explanation, I am happy to hear that others have experienced the same sensations. I was not scared of the presence, I was just startled because of all the reading I have don…
He's the type of father who will call his daughter a b*tch when she's 3. And tell his son to get laid at 12. RUN RUN RUN.
ἄπιθι οὖν ἵλεως· καὶ γὰρ ὁ ἀπολύων ἵλεως. Go serenely, as the one who dismisses you is serene. (MA 12.36) Ave atque vale.
100% me. I’m the youngest and my mom’s only adopted child. My dad adopted all 3 of us. My sisters are identical twins and 12.5 years older than me. Even now at 32, after years of therapy, happily marr…
>We do not have to talk about the few cases of men being victimized According to [the paper](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10135558/) I linked earlier, "27% of men and over 32% of women ha…
My mother saw a psychologist twice a week for about 5 years starting when I was around age 12. To this day I wonder what the fuck she actually did in that time to still have zero self awareness. That…
Ask your Dr for some bloodwork and rule out anemia, low Vit D and B12. These issues cause my anxiety to be so much more severe if I don’t supplement and manage it. Constant anxiety is so tiring!!! I…
I was completely aphantasic until an NDE.... since I've been somewhere between a 3 and a 4. That being said, I've gotten some seriously detailed images of landscapes, in Focus 12.
My highschool boyfriend was 15 when I told him I was raped at the age of 12. And he handled it with way more tact than she did. Age is not an excuse imo. Once you are old enough to understand that rap…
The keys to Focus 12 (and any focus level above 10) are the following: - having a solid Focus 10 - understanding that the focus levels are kind of a stretchy spectrum, not a fixed milestone. You cou…
Ive felt like this since i was a kid lol (had a diary entry where i wrote something very similar to this when i was 11-12... sadly i almost never documented anything), it feels .. reassuring? that im …
Try taking vitamin B12. It's an easy and inexpensive thing to try. Look up the symptoms of deficiency as well, maybe you have some other symptoms you haven't recognized.
Noted. The first time I got married, it was to someone I’d dated for 2.5 years, engaged for 1 year. That marriage lasted only a few months before separation. The second/last time I got married, we…
M46, with kids 17-15-12. I'm definitely thinking LTR with my current date, F48 with kids 19-16-14. However. The reality of it is - I am legally bound (by parenting agreement) to live here until my yo…
I'm full force on track to my revenge body! I joined the local Hotworx and am in a calorie deficit. I'm down 12.5 lbs in 5 weeks. I am free to live in my house without feeling as if I'm doing everythi…
Omg this could be me. He crossed boundaries and that was unacceptable for me. I hoped he would apologize and see how much he hurted me. I was ready to move past it and forgive him. But he didn’t fight…
I was in therapy before I put my finger on my childhood trauma (child sexual abuse). I was having stress in day to day life but I couldn’t understand why, general anger, disassociation, hyper-vigilanc…
Since age 12. Got wolf whistles by a older guy.
Okay, so life as we know of is a cycle. A cycle in loop until certain karmic aspects are nullified. Now, humans run in loops of recurring patterns at certain intervals. Now, this is usually \~ 2.5 y…
I have experienced sexual assault, but I experienced a weird almost phycological sexualization most of my life. Parents and relatives loved sexualizing my intentions. Every adult around me assumed I w…
Yes. It’s been something I’ve had to sit with and break down as I get older, but talking to friends who experienced similar situations helped me to sort through my own memories. Unfortunately I’ve bee…
Your husband needs to do it. Period. He’s the one that jumped the gun and told her and he’s the one that needs to tell her now. I don’t mean to be insensitive, but him saying it’s “too hard for him”…
If you look into something called Project Looking Glass—a kind of quantum AI said to predict probable timelines based on varying inputs—you’ll find that, to the horror of the “dark ones,” all timeline…
People are really confused by my lack of norms. Then get offended when I answer their dumb questions with the truth. "Why do I never see you eat?" I have cptsd, it impacts my circadian rhythm due to m…
Okay thanks for the reassurance haha I wasnt sure what to expect from this "void state/ state of no time" and was trying not to placebo my way into this. I had a feeling it was doing it right but i di…
“You used to be so eloquent, what happened to you?” ETA: I used to take her thinking I was eloquent as a compliment and then below happened and now it just makes me angry. My mom said (and still s…
I have a very similar chart to yours! Same stellum with same house placement. (23.12.1990) I dont feel like a cap at all. Can i ask you, how have the last 6 months been to you? How are you doing?