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the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…
My (19f) boyfriend (19m) keeps telling me I’m at high risk of diabetes. How do I address this? — I am a 19 year old woman. I am 5 foot 9 inches tall (177cm), my body weight is 67kg, my BMI is 21.4, body fat percentage is 15.8%, and body fat mass 10.6kg. I go to the gym 5 days a week and perform c…
Some Pointers after 12 Years of Meditation — Meditation is an invisible skill, which makes it especially prone to confusion and obfuscation. I wanted to jot down some pointers and opinions about meditation that have served me at one point or an…
THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…
My (26M) brother (35M) has impregnated my ex wife(F27) and is engaged to marry her. How do I move on going forward? — I started dating my ex wife(key) when I was 14 and she was 15. Her parents were shitty so we lived together with my family throughout our relationship(my mom, older brother(jay) and older sister) so h…
The best things I did to stop me ruminating and wishing my ex would come back (After wishing she would for more than a year) — Hello Everyone At the beginning of 2025 I went through the type of breakup I would not wish on my worst enemy, I wont bore you with the details but I struggled with this for over a year. Here are …
One Sentence Encheiridion (1-15) — I was rereading the Enchieridion and decided to try and summarize each passage in a single sentence. This was a fun activity, let me know if I should share more. 1. The only thing fully up to you are…
Success Story: Brought my savings account over $20K — This will be more of a public journal entry, as I'm still on my journey learning and mastering manifestation. There's a lot of backstory here so if you're not interested, you can skip below to the TLD…
post breakup book rec / advice — I am a 23 year old - about to be 24 year old - senior in college ( took me a bit but i got there) about to graduate in a month. i just broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years, been friends since we were…
Facebook Cheating Compulsion — Last month, I \[M36\] caught my wife\[F38\] planning an affair on Facebook messenger. She has lost a bunch of weight recently and was being more active. Hanging out with friends, planning trips, and g…
Lessons from a relationship with a narcissist — I posted this a year ago but deleted after my narc ex found this post. Posting again because this helped me find a better partner for myself, and can help others as well. 1. When a man says they don…
Manipulative ex might get everything he wants — Been married 10 years, was together for 15. About 5 years ago I finally realized how controlling and manipulative he was. He was emotionally abusive to me and his kids, talking down to us, constantly …
How can I do better — My Story — A Journal Entry Where It All Began I grew up in a joint family — grandparents, cousins, relatives all around. On the surface, there was warmth and togetherness. But my immediate family wa…
my girlfriends parents are telling her to break up with me as i don't talk much and it makes them uncomfortable. — My (F19) girlfriend's mum has been talking her into breaking up with me (F18) because I make her and her husband feel uncomfortable when i am in their house. I'm generally just a quiet person and if i…
Partner (21F) cheated multiple times in 1 month in/after grief, and then lied to me (21M) about the details for months, is this even fixable? — First post here, I’m trying to be as objective as possible because I feel like I’m going in circles. I’m 21M and have been with my fiancée 21F since we were about 15. This wasn’t casual for me. I was…
; — I consulted 7 therapists in the last 3 years, and 6 of them diagnosed me with chronic severe depression, only one said it might be grief, but I did not talk to her honestly about my suicidal thoughts.…
I feel wrecked divorcing at 47 — I’m three months into separation, with divorce in process, and I’ve never cried so much in my life. I’m 47, and starting over feels insane. She asked for a divorce about 90 days ago, and I’ve been a …
How many experiencers are there in the world? — Hello all, I want to know how many experiencers are there in the world right now? I also want to connect with fellow experiencers in my country or locality but don't know how. I am a fellow expe…
How to determine if your spouse is likely to be younger than you.(An important astrological analysis.) — In astrology the birth chart often highlights patterns that deviate from what is socially considered “normal.” For men marrying a younger spouse is quite common so the chart usually does not emphasize…
How to determine if your spouse is likely to be younger than you.(An important astrological analysis.) — In astrology the birth chart often highlights patterns that deviate from what is socially considered “normal.” For men marrying a younger spouse is quite common so the chart usually does not emphasize…
My therapist decided to end working with me after coaxing me to talk about my sexual relationship with my wife in more detail. — I started attending therapy because I was struggling with being a 'Girl Dad' after having a history of treating girls poorly and also because my wife acts more like a dependent then a partner. I fl…
I can’t say no — When I was younger I was taught “You can’t say no”. If I didn’t like a food or I didn’t like something done to me I want taught that I couldn’t reject it. If I was I was told by my grandfather (late 5…
Stuck in this household — Hasn't been a good week. My Nmother has decided not to go to my neices christening due to her side of the family being there. (Hasn't had proper contact with them since 2015.) Im the youngest in my f…
I reached out to my abuser after ten years. — I reached out to my dad. I haven’t spoken to him in 10 years, and even before it was another 8. He abandoned us when I was 15. Anyways I sent him a long text after finally having the courage of not se…
I would be cutting contact with my parents THIS JULY!! — As said in the title, I 20F would be cutting contact with my parents soon (I'll be going away for my masters) but I can't help but post stuff that happened to me because I feel like there is something…
What NOT to do after a breakup — 1. Do not contact your ex for closure. 2. Do not look at your ex's photos, texts or love notes. 3. Do not keep painful reminders around you. 4. Do not idolize the relationship. 5. Do not have …
The guide that will help you to change your perception in heartbreak — I lurk here often, as once upon a time I did go through something like this. I never exited the community and it breaks my heart how so many of you are burning in the same pain I once was. What a join…
What I learned from breakup and guys(80% of them) I may be wrong .. but this is what I learned… — Well my advice is don’t sleep with man… do everything except sleeping with him… he will always come to ur place… always give special treatment. Well I was in a relationship for 4 yrs and I was his cru…
did i block memories of csa or not as a 7 years old? — hi,so before i start,i'm a 17 years old girl,and i'm going to discuss topics that include sexual behaviors at childhood that were harmful i think,and other things. so when i was 4,i remember waking …
I needed my emotionally immature mom for once and it went exactly how I thought it would — God forbid my (29f) mom ever does something for someone else. Everything needs to be about her as if she is a child. Last week, two things happened and I just need to vent. 1. My cat of 6,5 years was…
Boundaries in friendships — TW: CA Context: I was diagnosed with a panic disorder that is characterized by C-PTSD back in 2023. C-PTSD is from enduring physical and emotional abuse from ages 8 - 15. My trauma response is the f…
Partner wants a neat, easy separation so I can “shape up” — At some point my partner realized that I would never change. That I would likely always struggle to be “high functioning”. We’ve been together for 25 years. Married for 15. We took in my some of my pa…
32F with 35M for almost 2 years — My bf of almost 2 years doesnt seem to understand why im not happy in our relationship. how can I explain to him AGAIN in a way that he will understand. Below is part of a list of things he says or d…
Was this grooming? — Maybe I’m wrong I don’t know but the more that I’ve thought about it and really talked about it out loud, I’m realizing that like I might’ve been groomed before I even knew it. I don’t know if you …
I'm the woman who had a NDE in France, 2022 and I'm answering your questions AMA — I originally posted a thread on r/Experiencers [https://www.reddit.com/r/Experiencers/comments/1s8mq1o/comment/of57xah/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Experiencers/comments/1s8mq1o/comment/of57xah/) about …
F.A.Q and useful posts — [1. PSA regarding snapshots and shortcuts](https://www.reddit.com/r/vedicastrology/comments/fg8vo0/snapshot_predictions_the_bane_of_vedic_astrology/) [2.1 books or resources](https://www.reddit.com/r…
[https://youtu.be/j0REex781ZU?si=xyY07PlK4drZFrUe](https://youtu.be/j0REex781ZU?si=xyY07PlK4drZFrUe) Skip to 12:15. I think this can help you. It's not an answer to your 1-6, there are some really gr…
Interesting. My ex I'm pretty sure was actually FA but she referred to herself as DA and that was a clinical diagnosis she had in 2015. She brought up the "do you want marriage/kids?" topic on our fi…
Could I get thoughts on some sexual issues I have? I've accepted the way that I am and I don't feel insecure about it, but I am wondering about the effects it's had on my dating life. Please no comm…
>Number one probably being stop talking on the phone every single day. That is A LOT. I don't even think I talked to my BF that much on the phone consistently and we were long distance a while. That …
Posting this list from a previous Logan Ury newsletter for ‘third object’ date ideas - ones where there’s another focus other than just the two of you: Get moving together 1. Go roller skating or ic…
Props to me for going out with him a second time. But props also for calling it off before a third time and paying him the $15. Currently perfume-shopping. Yay 🎉
I guess the old dudes just dgaf lol. So weird to hit on someone by making yourself sound creepier than you already were. It'd be like me (30) trying to flirt by telling a 20-year-old they look 15. S…
when my parents die, my brother (gc) gets it all. they have supported him for years…i’ve supported myself since i was 15. i’ve learned to expect nothing from them. and honestly? i get such peace of mi…
I played it and won a sports bet. Used that money to settle a small debt. Also got a remote job they negotiated a higher salary package for me out of the blue. The tiktoker to give credit is goddessin…
I'm into bald men. What I'm not into is when they constantly complain about being bald. I once had a crush on a bald man but he was so insecure about it. He wore a hat all the time even while eating a…
I think I stopped when I was 15. I’m in my 50s now.
oh hey i DEVELOPED THOSE WAY TOO EARLY!!! i have next to no self regulation, and it was even worse before i was 15.
I have only ever lurked here. Its been awhile though. This one finally got me.. > Golden Firstborn here. First of 4 boys. Parents got progressively more picky when they didn't get the daughter they wa…
body fat % of 15.8 is actually LOW for females.
…if you’re a woman at 15.8% body fat, I’m assuming you’re shredded considering 18% is low for women: to the point of having issues in the opposite direction (fertility, brain function, mental health, …
Number 15. When I was young a lot more people actually cared about meditation, and now with the social media generation, even fewer people will care enough to learn it. People used to be able to play …
At a point I decided I would.win the lottery and started purchasing tickets. I won almost every time. This time in particular, I won 300 on one ticket and 15 on the other. When I went to the store in …
You definitely don't need a 'explosive' expansion to move into Focus 15. In fact, thinking of Focus 12 as a binary 'feeling' can actually stall your progress because you’re waiting for a specific sens…
I’m a dual Canadian and American citizen. You’re not going to be able to fly into Canada without a passport, or NEXUS card, and you will not be able to re-enter the United States without a passport, e…
Maybe the style of meditation you‘re doing isn't the best one for you? When I meditate I sit upright at the edge of my recliner and I just focus on following my breath while dis engaging from any tho…
Hi All, Scorpio Rising, Libra Sun, Taurus Moon. I know this post has been up for a while but still wanted to share. \- Saturn in Sagittarius in the 2nd house along with Uranus \- Saturn rules my 3rd…
Its possible you entered into a focus level identified by the Monroe Institute as "No time" or Focus 15. Some people report being able to open windows to other time places from there or near there. Th…
My thoughts exactly. I had a female friend that did this to me all the time while insisting she sit on me in a somewhat intimate (but non-sexual) manner...when we were between 13 and 15. This is both …
This is exactly where I’m at. She loves me far more than I can love her. Married for eight years now and have been together for 15. It’s been gradual, but I can’t deny it anymore.
I learned at 15. Never again. Not once. Even an inkling of abusive tendencies and I was gone.
Did you not read it? She practically is, they took her in so she has lived there since they were 15. The whole dynamic is fckd from the start,, because the mom views her as a daughter, her kid marrie…
Yes I read it, I don't care she was there since she was 15. She was ONLY there because of OP. I would never pick my sons girlfriend over him. The betrayal of the ex-girlfriend, the brother and the m…
I think i have to disagree. My friend and I at 19 (im 23 now) definitely would have understood the gravity of the situation here and handled it better. Like, this has been common sense to me since I w…
I’m currently rewatching and see it made sense to me why I enjoyed the show at 15. I’m 29 now and it hits hard seeing it but validating to know you were not crazy. I feel like the Truman show resemb…
Yes, at my first job when I was 15. Ate a handful of mushrooms and right before I was peaking I remembered I had to go to work. Dishie in a mom & pop pizza place, next door to Kurts' apartment in Ol…
I'm 53 and my ex is 64. Our kid is 15. We got divorced when she was 8. He's been with his gf for almsot 5 years now. She has a grandchild the same.age as my kiddo. They don't live together but she spe…
You mentioned coming to terms with your gender identity, well my ex is also a trans woman, she came out in 2014, not even one full year into our marriage. But it was triggered by her dad's sudden deat…
You are not alone. My mum beat me until I was about 14 or 15. I felt the beating becaome less intense but I think that was because I got used to it. My dad seldom beat but I can't get alone with him…
You don't pick a single technique. You approach it as trial and error experimentation because other people can't choose an optimal meditation practice for you. You systematically go down the list of …
I left my ex in 2015. He held me back. Don't hold yourself back anymore. You know what you have to do.
Tysm for posting this. I always thought I was connecting dots that didn’t exist, but it all makes sense now. Ever since I was small, I’ve always got at least one gift that I wouldn’t touch with a ten …
I'm 37 and stuck at about 15. I was homeschooled most of my life and 15 was about the time I started to feel really bad about it and fell into a deep depression. I'm also on the autism spectrum so tha…
This is a great question. You're ahead of the curve even asking it at 15. Most people don't even consider this stuff until much later. The theory is one thing. Putting it into practice is the real wo…
I’m 39. My mom hasn’t physically abused me since I was 14 or 15. To this day when her hand comes near my face i duck. The body keeps the score.
What you’re describing does sound like Focus 15. The sense of the outside world fading, feeling your body in fragments, and that “spacey” awareness are all typical early indicators. It’s normal for th…
Okay thanks for the reassurance haha I wasnt sure what to expect from this "void state/ state of no time" and was trying not to placebo my way into this. I had a feeling it was doing it right but i di…
You are on the right track by avoiding expectations. Focus 15 is often called the "state of no time," and the sensation of your body "appearing and disappearing" in fragments is a perfect indicator th…
Well I just started 15. I like to do each tape multiple times so the first few times I do it, I just kinda float around and see what’s there. But with nothing to see it was odd and unnerving. I could …
Ive only done it twice and ive had similar sensations I havent tried shifting from it yet since id rather master it first. But from what ive read and was told here that is indeed F15. I wonder if som…
Would have preferred to post this, but can't, despite having enough karma comments. --- Got Stood Up and Ghosted M47 matched F43 on Hinge. She took two months to match. No fixed home, nomadic, pet …
Just for completeness, here is a correspondence table of Lebell's section headers to parts of the Enchridion: 1. Know what you can control and what you can't (Ench 1) 2. Stick with your own business …
How would he treat their daughter if she struggled with weight? Cuz having been such a daughter- it gave me an eating disorder at 15. I permanently damaged the upper sphincter of my stomach from pukin…
Older AM here with a throwaway. Want to share some pearls that helped me and others around me in life. Saw lots of failures as a younger person. I learned and used the below lessons to see success. I …
wow. I wish I had such thoughts when I was 15. but I was a total lazyass and a moron. but never too late to start. I'd suggest you start with the simplest, to decide which things in life that you can …
This is really great. Really well written. My situation is somewhat similar. Even dating back to 2014-15. (no doubt only an EA) Discovery was 2020 9/29 then specifics on 11/21 (something like that) …