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the narcissist catchphrase bingo list

the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost3/24/2026
General manager compensation

General manager compensation — Hi All, I've owned a small seasonal diner for 5 years now and am planning on drastically stepping back next year. An employee who has been with me for 4 years, and who I trust / get a long with/ have…

r/smallbusinesspost5/7/2025
THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think)

THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…

r/realityshiftingpost3/17/2026
The best things I did to stop me ruminating and wishing my ex would come back (After wishing she would for more than a year)

The best things I did to stop me ruminating and wishing my ex would come back (After wishing she would for more than a year) — Hello Everyone At the beginning of 2025 I went through the type of breakup I would not wish on my worst enemy, I wont bore you with the details but I struggled with this for over a year. Here are …

r/BreakUpspost3/27/2026
I (24F) am pregnant by my (27M) boyfriend after a toxic relationship full of love bombing, lies, and sexual assault. I feel like i have no way out. What should I do?

I (24F) am pregnant by my (27M) boyfriend after a toxic relationship full of love bombing, lies, and sexual assault. I feel like i have no way out. What should I do? — Hi Reddit, I don’t even know where to start, but I’m at my breaking point and I really hope you can help me. I’m 24, my boyfriend is 27. We’ve been together for two years and have been living togethe…

r/selfhelppost3/28/2026
Wife of less then a year wants a divorce.

Wife of less then a year wants a divorce. — Hi everyone, I’m 26 and my wife is 27. At the end of December, we welcomed our baby boy. Since then, our relationship has been really strained. We got married last July. We already knew we wanted ki…

r/relationshipspost4/6/2026
Does anyone else have a partner who just doesn’t care about the things you genuinely enjoy?

Does anyone else have a partner who just doesn’t care about the things you genuinely enjoy? — I really love travelling. I’m not excessive about it, once a year or every two years would make me happy. My boyfriend, though, has zero interest. He says he “hates flying out the country,” not becaus…

r/relationshipspost4/6/2026
Have (35F) dreams about ex (40M) multiple times a week

Have (35F) dreams about ex (40M) multiple times a week — I (35F) have been married for 3 years (32M) and we’ve been together for 7 years. I previously dated/hooked up with a guy (40M) from 18-27. My ex and I grew up in the same small town, worked together …

r/relationship_advicepost4/6/2026
I hate when they act normal for a bit and then pull the rug out

I hate when they act normal for a bit and then pull the rug out — I can never be secure ever. My mom can be perfectly normal for awhile. We can have a perfectly fine conversation. She may even go a few days without any significant issues. And then mid word she will …

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/6/2026
I wrote a goodbye letter today. I am not there yet, but I fear I am getting closer everyday.

I wrote a goodbye letter today. I am not there yet, but I fear I am getting closer everyday. — I would like to start this off by saying that I am sorry for my actions. They were somewhat selfish in the sense that I am not the one that has to live with the pain and suffering that my actions have…

r/therapypost4/7/2026
Do your nparents ever have phases where they act normal?

Do your nparents ever have phases where they act normal? — I can never be secure ever. My mom can be perfectly normal for awhile. We can have a perfectly fine conversation. She may even go a few days without any significant issues. And then mid word she will …

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/7/2026
Choosing between wife and my daughter...

Choosing between wife and my daughter... — To keep it short and simple for now, I received the following text from my wife a few days ago. **You can have your lifelong plan with \[daughter\_name\].  I have my own plan to take care of mysel…

r/Divorcepost4/7/2026
Will my current relationship last?

Will my current relationship last? — Female 27. Can you analyze my chart and tell me if my current relationship has long-term potential, what challenges there might be, and what my future relationships or marriage look like? What will my…

r/vedicastrologypost4/8/2026
Yes, i am asking this question again, i am still confused 🫠😔 also maybe it turned into a vent

Yes, i am asking this question again, i am still confused 🫠😔 also maybe it turned into a vent — I (17f) keep flopping between whether i am a rotten abusive daughter who is ungrateful and my parents (50f) (54m) are the problem i absolutely hate them and wish the worst. soo yeah...... i guess i so…

r/EmotionalNeglectpost4/9/2026
My family has made me not want to eat or look in the mirror anymore, and I got kicked out of the house for saying no to Ozempic and beauty surgeries. I am allowed back in again but... I can't look at my family the same way anymore. What do I do?

My family has made me not want to eat or look in the mirror anymore, and I got kicked out of the house for saying no to Ozempic and beauty surgeries. I am allowed back in again but... I can't look at my family the same way anymore. What do I do? — I have been kicked out before when I was much younger and my mother started freaking out and yelling, but this situation... I couldn't do it. I can't seem to move on from this one at all. So, we were…

r/therapypost4/10/2026
I have been in a bad place in life for almost 2 years now. I am 27. I am working on becoming better. Would like to have some suggestions on books that genuinely helped you find purpose in life?

I have been in a bad place in life for almost 2 years now. I am 27. I am working on becoming better. Would like to have some suggestions on books that genuinely helped you find purpose in life? — I’m looking for meaningful book recommendations that explore purpose,direction or figuring out what to do with life. Not overly preachy/self-help fluff/hustle culture stuff—something thoughtful maybe…

r/selfhelppost4/10/2026
23m, dating while divorcing

23m, dating while divorcing — hi, im a 23m current legally separated and going though a divorce. (NC laws dictate you must be legally separated for a year before filing any paperwork) Separated since October but only moved out in …

r/Divorcepost4/10/2026
I’ve always been a year younger than my actual age

I’ve always been a year younger than my actual age — Hello, I’m not really sure where to write this, or if it’s weird or awkward, but I need to get it off my chest somewhere! Basically, I’ve always been a very sensitive person—someone who overthinks t…

r/CPTSDpost4/10/2026
Growing up with a mother who hates the idea of relationships.

Growing up with a mother who hates the idea of relationships. — I love my mother to death. I would do absolutely everything and anything for her if it meant she was happy. Ever since my siblings and I were young, we were always told not to get married early and to…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/10/2026
Having Far-Right neglect trauma as genz sucks ass. People acknowledge the problems and others bad behavior, but dismiss your experience and symptoms. They can acknowledge online spaces are toxic, but it's your fault that online spaces were the only spaces you had. "Just stop caring and go outside."

Having Far-Right neglect trauma as genz sucks ass. People acknowledge the problems and others bad behavior, but dismiss your experience and symptoms. They can acknowledge online spaces are toxic, but it's your fault that online spaces were the only spaces you had. "Just stop caring and go outside." — Walking to the park, watching the ducks, listening to music only gets you so far. No one in my real life can understand me. Even my therapists have struggled. I’ve lived such a fucky niche life in the…

r/CPTSDpost4/11/2026
M28 F27 Grey area after 6+ dates

M28 F27 Grey area after 6+ dates — I’m M28 she’s F27. Been about 4 weeks. Caption is not a 6/7 joke 😭 met this girl on hinge and things were going well. Fourth hangout I went to her place and we watched a movie and didn’t go all the w…

r/relationshipspost4/12/2026
Boyfriend was sexist? Lacking empathy? Am I justified in leaving him or wrapped up in my own feelings of past trauma?

Boyfriend was sexist? Lacking empathy? Am I justified in leaving him or wrapped up in my own feelings of past trauma? — 25 Female having issues with 27 Male boyfriend. I am referring to a close friend we share in common who is 26 femme that had been in an awful situation. Trigger warning, SA is mentioned. Hello, not s…

r/BreakUpspost4/12/2026
F 27. Will I ever be in a happy marriage?

F 27. Will I ever be in a happy marriage? — I’m also interested in any career aspects of my chart. I have no job currently because I’m a SAHM but I want to work and I don’t know what will be best for me

r/vedicastrologypost4/12/2026
Advice from older people with narcissist parents

Advice from older people with narcissist parents — I’m 23 and looking for advice and how life gets better. This is my story TW: emotional abuse, alcohol, suicide My parents had me at a young age. I’m one of 4, and they had their first at 19 and th…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/12/2026
One Sentence Encheiridion (16-30)

One Sentence Encheiridion (16-30) — Hello! I'm doing a personal challenge to paraphrase the Encheiridion chapters using a single sentence. I did 1-15 in a different post, and I'll link below. Constructive feedback is absolutely welc…

r/Stoicismpost4/12/2026
Can someone help me understand this breakup? Just got dumped out of nowhere on phone

Can someone help me understand this breakup? Just got dumped out of nowhere on phone — Me and this guy were dating for just over 2 months. We were exclusive, did road trips together, I stayed over all the time etc. and I even met a few of his friends. We had serious talks about us and t…

r/BreakUpspost4/13/2026
What's your experience been with an activity on a first date ?

Posting this list from a previous Logan Ury newsletter for ‘third object’ date ideas - ones where there’s another focus other than just the two of you: Get moving together 1. Go roller skating or ic…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/23/2026
Is there anything in current astrology that indicates something like a global lockdown coming up?

Not sure about a lockdown specifically, but in late April 2026 Uranus will leave its retrograde Taurus back to Gemini. This is significant for the U.S. (but considering it's not-so-soft global power..…

r/astrologycomment3/2/2026
The Shift at Age 30: Did you feel a stronger connection to your Ascendant or your Sun sign as you got older?

i am turning 30 this year, i’m a taurus sun and a scorpio rising. i’ve always felt deeply connected to my ascendant sign and i think it has a lot to with being raised by a single mother who is a scorp…

r/astrologycomment3/3/2026
scary how astrologers predicted war in end of february

The Saturn-Neptune conjunction is definitely a part of it, as Iran has had significant changes in its government during this conjunction through the twentieth and now twenty-first centuries. With this…

r/astrologycomment3/4/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 04, 2026

> Speaking of calling people out, sounds like you’re just as chronically on Reddit as I am considering you’ve apparently been following my story for so many years I'm not denying this. I have no qual…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/4/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 04, 2026

How soon is too soon to help with a big purchase? She needs a new car and is looking in the $4k price range. If I could contribute even like $2k, we could get her something significantly nicer/le…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/5/2026
Day 47 of no contact. Here's what nobody tells you about what happens to your brain.

It's been about 3 months, we were constantly in contact, but it was only because I pressured her, and each time she gave mixed positive and negative responses, but in the end she still indicated she d…

r/ExNoContactcomment3/10/2026
30F, when & how will I find my partner?

Since age 15, you may have started thinking seriously about life responsibilities. A few marriage proposals or connections could have appeared earlier, but either you or your parents declined them. Th…

r/vedicastrologycomment3/10/2026
Dating over forty and living separately

This is me as well. F42 and I stopped wanting to live with men at the age of 27. I've been with one steady guy for almost 13 years. I see him a few times a week with a few overnights either at my plac…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/10/2026
How do you ensure that you're doing things with intentions and not expectations ?

Acting with virtue is its own reward. Are you talking about this? "Take the case of one whose task it is to shoot a spear or arrow straight at some target. One’s ultimate aim is to do all in one’s…

r/Stoicismcomment3/10/2026
When did you finally realise, your life would never be ‘normal’?

I always knew. I felt like an alien. Never could make friends. Never had normal experiences. Got bullied. I still feel like I don't fit in. I'm 100% alone at 27.

r/CPTSDcomment3/10/2026
I am amazed that anyone would ever get married again after divorce - help me understand!

Divorced. Married for 26 years, together 27. I will never get remarried or live with a man again. The peace. Invaluable.

r/Divorcecomment3/12/2026
For those who stayed no contact with a parent until they died did you regret it?

Im only 28, my dad died 2 weeks before my 27th birthday. I cut contact with my dad when I was 18, reopened at 20 and then was full no contact from 23-27. He committed suicide, and no I don’t regret i…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/12/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

Make decision based on his actions NOW not on some "future we might have". Also what future do you expect to have with this selfish ahole? Also you are 27. You have been together for 3 years. What do…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
40M My uncle has divorced and remarried, still constantly fighting with his wife. And so much financial troubles.

This chart isn’t the best for relationships. Expect some relief after mid 2027. Please hold on and resist separation until then.

r/vedicastrologycomment3/14/2026
What can 'normal' people do to bring open contact a step closer?

Noting. We've had aliens among us for decades. Open contact (formally) is set for 2027. Be patient. Watch how 2026 unfolds.

r/experiencerscomment3/14/2026
I just lost my brother. Is listening to the tapes a bad idea?

I think it will be helpful. Remember to leave your fears in your box. Be open minded and open hearted. He's always there with you when you need him. Depending on how far along you are in the tapes, …

r/gatewaytapescomment3/16/2026
25f, going through divorce, concerned about future. Help me

Since you have an intense combo for 6 & 8 houses ( Vipreet yog) I see a lot of struggle before things get better. But it is likely that you may get a job during Mercury antardasha within the curren…

r/vedicastrologycomment3/17/2026
25f, going through divorce, concerned about future. Help me

The Rahu period you are in right now is afflicted by Saturn and mars at the same time. Whenever you have such a period that’s associated with both malefics always means there is an impending issue. He…

r/vedicastrologycomment3/17/2026
How does a Uranus Square Ascendant transit present ?

So interesting. Just figured out I’ve been going though this transit since July 2025 and until April 2027. I’ve had some crazy shit happen to me (in retrospect for the better). The most change I would…

r/astrologycomment3/19/2026
Being Single Again

Similar. Married twice the second one pursuing me right out of first one so I have not been single since around age 27. Now I am 46. The loneliness is so quiet some times then so loud at others. …

r/Divorcecomment3/19/2026
Surprise Surprise another tale of a cheater

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r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/21/2026
Me 19m and my gf 20f ass stinks during sex can someone give me some advice?

I understand your pain. I once dated a woman who was 45, while I was 27. It was just for fun, but during our second encounter, she was undressing, and her panties were on the floor with the biggest sk…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/22/2026
I (23F) was too nervous to finish a threesome and now my boyfriend (27M) seems to hate me

Chiming in as a male perspective here. Get rid of this guy ASAP. He has zero respect for you. He blatantly lied to your face when he said this would help him choose to marry you. That's a flat out lie…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/22/2026
I (23F) was too nervous to finish a threesome and now my boyfriend (27M) seems to hate me

Hooooo boy. Where to start? 1. Your bf already had interest in this *teenager* before he brought up boredom. Then he gaslit you into being OK with him cheating. Would he have been OK with you wanting…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/23/2026
Spent money on clothes, grooming, and a Miami photoshoot for dating apps. Still getting weak matches. What am I missing?

I'll be honest: Most women would think you are still a teenager and that's a turnoff to many girls in America. Especially considering you are 27.

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/23/2026
32F-Marriage/Spouse prospects

Your own placements indicate a very conflict-oriented aggressive personality. Very determined which is good but also headstrong and no compromise. Rahu-ketu in 1-7th axis give general disinterest in m…

r/vedicastrologycomment3/23/2026
27F, when will I have a child?

I've analysed your chart buddy.. and started from the promise of a child in your chart personally.. because a female chart is required for that.. as she needs to carry that child within herself! And p…

r/vedicastrologycomment3/23/2026
Going to false legal cases. When will it get over and when will I get divorced? M37

Legal resolution likely after late 2027. Saturn in Mula brings karmic closure. Jupiter in Rohini offers hope. Relief appears when Jupiter activates divorce significators. Stay patient.

r/vedicastrologycomment3/24/2026
Going to false legal cases. When will it get over and when will I get divorced? M37

Since Rahu is in your 3rd House, your victory lies in documentation and communication. If you have any digital trails, recordings, or third-party evidence that contradicts her claims, August 2026 is t…

r/vedicastrologycomment3/24/2026
My Experience in Intro Focus 21 Odyssey Wave IV, Movement to Locale 2

Man, this is very similar to what I have seen in Focus 27. It is the learning area or health recovery area. I need to find my notes when I experienced it to be sure. It was very similar for me but I …

r/gatewaytapescomment3/25/2026
What's your post divorce update? (Positive stories only please)

Married 26 years together 27. Divorce was final in 2025 but we separated spring of 2023. I have never been happier. Money is tight. Kids (all grown but still) have had a time of it but they’re healing…

r/Divorcecomment3/25/2026
27F, when will I have a child?

Joining others who said by 2027 I agree. Between June 2026-27 you will have a child. Most likely March 2027. Please update this post when you do :)

r/vedicastrologycomment3/25/2026
Violence against Asian communities in the US spiked after Covid. What happened to the movement to stop it?

Not really driven by misinformation at all. In 2018, which was the last year this kind of statistic was tracked for Asians, the race/ethnicity responsible for the most violent incidents (total of 182,…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/26/2026
Violence against Asian communities in the US spiked after Covid. What happened to the movement to stop it?

The misinformation is in pretending that hate crimes are the only or even the most important metric. It's misinformation that tries to justify or excuse violent racism against Asian Americans amongst …

r/AsianAmericancomment3/26/2026
30F My 30M keeps commenting on what I eat with a magnifying glass. How do I go about telling him how this makes me feel?

My ex husband was like that. I was 5’ 9” and weighed 127. We were together for 13 years. FYI, it won’t stop, hence the ex. Also, thin does not equal healthy. He’s a hypocrite and an AH.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/26/2026
Violence against Asian communities in the US spiked after Covid. What happened to the movement to stop it?

> Although there has been an increase in reported anti-Asian hate crimes and incidents, these start from a relatively low baseline and have historically been underreported. I like how you skipped ove…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/27/2026
r/vedicastrologycomment3/27/2026
The hardest relationships aren't age gaps, they're intelligence gaps.

I met my stbxh when I was 20, he was 27. He’d been to university and had a very good job in engineering. I was very bright but did not go to university as it was not right for me at the time. I really…

r/Divorcecomment3/27/2026
(29F & 29M)Facing many conflicts regarding relationship. Everything seems to be off track for now.

Worrying aspect about you both is the Venus mismatch. When there is a mismatch usually both partners don’t receive equal amount of love. So if you notice boy has a Venus that’s virtually unafflicted p…

r/vedicastrologycomment3/28/2026
(29F & 29M)Facing many conflicts regarding relationship. Everything seems to be off track for now.

Thank for the detailed response. M here, work related faced difficulty during the mentioned period. Lost job abruptly. Now it is stable and I am at a much better place. She is facing issues in her car…

r/vedicastrologycomment3/28/2026
Looking for an alternate translation or source for this quote:

Just for completeness, here is a correspondence table of Lebell's section headers to parts of the Enchridion: 1. Know what you can control and what you can't (Ench 1) 2. Stick with your own business …

r/Stoicismcomment3/28/2026
34 M, marraige collapse, business collapse & false cases..Will this improve?

Sorry to hear about your situation. Here are a few key things in your D1 chart : Retrograde 6L in 8H. Neech yog with a bang ( aspected by Saturn) Rahu-Ketu in 1-7 H axis with virtually no support o…

r/vedicastrologycomment3/29/2026
Weekly Free-for-All Discussion Thread | March 29, 2026

Older AM here with a throwaway. Want to share some pearls that helped me and others around me in life. Saw lots of failures as a younger person. I learned and used the below lessons to see success. I …

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/29/2026
Admission probability by race at Columbia (controlled for SAT, APs, etc.)

Is the original poster misinformed or is he rage baiting the rest of us by bringing up discrimination that happened in the past but is no longer allowed. Here is a Google AI summary of "[compare rac…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/29/2026
[astro.com] I have been trying to conceive for a year, does anything in my chart signify becoming a mother?

Hi u/astrosoph888 astrologically spoken referring to conceive a child it is also about transits. Slow moving transit planets (from jupiter upto pluto) which first have to activate your 4th house rul…

r/AstrologyChartSharecomment3/29/2026
34 M, marraige collapse, business collapse & false cases..Will this improve?

Times are tough till the second half of 2027. The transit of Saturn has maximum Digabala with respect to your Natal Moon. Business stuff might get better after June, and even better after October, but…

r/vedicastrologycomment3/29/2026
How do I know what year to calculate for my solar return?

Solar Returns are for the year from one birthday to the next, no matter if your birthday is early or late in the year. So your May 9th, 2026 solar return is for May 9th 2026 until your next solar ret…

r/AskAstrologerscomment3/29/2026
i feel like i can’t love anyone else

Same. I had a 6 year relationship end when I was 27. I always thought I would find love again and I never did. I’m 45 now, and feel lonelier than ever.

r/ExNoContactcomment3/30/2026
How do I know what year to calculate for my solar return?

Your solar return chart is calculated for the moment the Sun returns to its exact natal degree, so the one you cast for May 9th, 2026 covers from that birthday forward until your next birthday in 2027…

r/AskAstrologerscomment3/30/2026