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the narcissist catchphrase bingo list

the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost3/24/2026
I have become obsessed with finding someone.

I have become obsessed with finding someone. — After my breakup in winter of last year, I went through a long period of mourning and not knowing what to do or how to move forward. Now, over the past 2-3 months, I have become obsessed with finding …

r/AnxiousAttachmentpost9/16/2025
SATURN RETURN & TRANSITING SATURN/NEPTUNE IN ARIES POSTS PROBLEMS

SATURN RETURN & TRANSITING SATURN/NEPTUNE IN ARIES POSTS PROBLEMS — # PROBLEMS WITH SATURN RETURN POSTS We are getting a lot of Saturn Return questions as transiting Saturn enters Aries. First, many of you think your Saturn Return just began today, Feb. 14, 2026 (usi…

r/AskAstrologerspost2/14/2026
Did Saturn in Aries correlate with the “heroin chic” era of the late 90s? Wondering about parallels with today.

Did Saturn in Aries correlate with the “heroin chic” era of the late 90s? Wondering about parallels with today. — I had a random thought earlier today while watching some video on YouTube, and I’m curious if more experienced astrologers see anything in it. There’s a lot of discussion right now about the return o…

r/astrologypost3/6/2026
THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think)

THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…

r/realityshiftingpost3/17/2026
My nervous system is ruining my life.

My nervous system is ruining my life. — I'm 28. I live in a constant state of fight or flight (and sometimes fawn/freeze). I also carry a large amount of shame, which manifests in different ways. My nervous system is incredibly sensitive a…

r/Psychonautpost3/29/2026
I’m intensely triggered by my partner’s younger sister and I hate what it brings out in me

I’m intensely triggered by my partner’s younger sister and I hate what it brings out in me — I need to say something ugly and I’m hoping someone here will understand rather than just tell me to “work on my self-esteem.” My boyfriend has younger sisters, and one of them especially triggers so…

r/CPTSDpost4/1/2026
Did I push reconciliation with my ex too quickly? (26M, 26F)

Did I push reconciliation with my ex too quickly? (26M, 26F) — Hi all! Firstly, I want to thank you for all the comfort and support you give to everyone on this sub; it does not go unnoticed! I'm a 26M who ended things with his 27F partner of a year and a half i…

r/BreakUpspost4/2/2026
Curious if this has happened to anyone else post affair?

Curious if this has happened to anyone else post affair? — Hi all, I posted awhile back about my husband contemplating leaving me for a girl he met in an online porn site. She was based in Colombia.. if you go to my profile you can read the whole thing. Lots …

r/survivinginfidelitypost4/2/2026
Pushed into open marriage? Sorry, just some unsorted thoughts

Pushed into open marriage? Sorry, just some unsorted thoughts — My wife and I first talked about an open marriage during our vacation in the Maldives in 2025. At first, I didn't think the idea was that bad. However, I have no desire for another woman. I told her i…

r/Divorcepost4/2/2026
Divorcing at 28, need inspiration

Divorcing at 28, need inspiration — Hey guys, I m28 am getting divorced from my wife f28. She’s the initiator. We’ve been together for 10 years, married 4. I’ve only ever been with her and vise Versa.. so far, my entire “adult” life ha…

r/Divorcepost4/4/2026
I (28f) found out my bf (41m) has been requesting cash back on my debit card?

I (28f) found out my bf (41m) has been requesting cash back on my debit card? — I don't know where to start... I just found out that my BF has been getting cash back on my debit card without my knowledge. A little background... We live together. He doesn't have an income. He …

r/relationship_advicepost4/6/2026
28.6F - when will I get married? my family is so stressed.

28.6F - when will I get married? my family is so stressed. — as above. my family's stress is making me so sad. I am so tired of their talk and feeling like there's a problem with me. when will I get married or at least get engaged? I am single right now. htt…

r/vedicastrologypost4/6/2026
Struggling to let go of a fantasy that never really existed — need perspectives

Struggling to let go of a fantasy that never really existed — need perspectives — I was in a 5 year long distance relationship that ended 3 months ago. I'm 28. The breakup was sudden and painful. She blocked me without a real conversation after I discovered something that suggeste…

r/survivinginfidelitypost4/7/2026
36F Twice Divorced Now?

36F Twice Divorced Now? — Really trying not to get down in the dumps. I married my high school sweetheart when I was 20. Divorced at 26. Married my 2nd husband at 28. Now divorcing at 36. With therapy, I've acknowledged I hav…

r/Divorcepost4/7/2026
I lost all of my support system, friends/family, at 28. I’m going through my Saturn return.

I lost all of my support system, friends/family, at 28. I’m going through my Saturn return. — Can anyone shed some light on my chart? I could have never saw this life coming.

r/AstrologyChartSharepost4/8/2026
I think my friend (18F) is being abused by her boyfriend (28F)

I think my friend (18F) is being abused by her boyfriend (28F) — Hi guys, i’m looking for some in advice here. I think my good friend who’s 18F is in an unhealthy relationship with her boyfriend. When we first met, she told me he’s 22, and then 24. I just found out…

r/relationshipspost4/8/2026
My friend is being abused and I don’t know what to do

My friend is being abused and I don’t know what to do — Hi guys, i’m looking for some in advice here. I think my good friend who’s 18F is in an unhealthy relationship with her boyfriend. When we first met, she told me he’s 22, and then 24. I just found out…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/8/2026
Struggling of letting go of someone while realizing what I truly want M28, F28, F27

Struggling of letting go of someone while realizing what I truly want M28, F28, F27 — TL;DR - I’m caught between two women who seemingly love me and want to commit to me, but it’s messy and complicated. I’ve been in a really messy emotional spot lately. I’m realizing that my past rel…

r/relationshipspost4/9/2026
12 or more years ago

12 or more years ago — My ex and I hadn't talked for about 6 years or so . and I got some messages from him. just some videos but then we started talking and the conversation broke me. and it brought back a lot of different…

r/BreakUpspost4/9/2026
I'm genuinely loosing hope.

I'm genuinely loosing hope. — One year of being cooped at home for various reason, has made me gain weight tremendously. Even then I'd never ever imagined it would get this bad. My bmi was always a healthy range, at the border ma…

r/Manifestationpost4/11/2026
Can't end toxic "friendship" due to CPTSD and fawning

Can't end toxic "friendship" due to CPTSD and fawning — I (30) have known this person for 5 years. He is my upstairs neighbour, 15 years my senior, and he is a bit of a jerk. He was flirty with me when we met, despite him being in a monogamous marriage, a…

r/CPTSDpost4/11/2026
How much would you trust a female cousin?

How much would you trust a female cousin? — I 20f left my phone with a female 8 years older than me she is 28. I have some notifications which can be seen as weird, and scandalous. she is very religious whilst im more laid back. i gave her my p…

r/relationshipspost4/12/2026
One Sentence Encheiridion (16-30)

One Sentence Encheiridion (16-30) — Hello! I'm doing a personal challenge to paraphrase the Encheiridion chapters using a single sentence. I did 1-15 in a different post, and I'll link below. Constructive feedback is absolutely welc…

r/Stoicismpost4/12/2026
Mercury mahadasha, rahu antardasha, how to deal with it.

Mercury mahadasha, rahu antardasha, how to deal with it. — I’m going through my mercury MD rahu AD. so far i’ve pretty much isolated myself, friends have started to behave differently, even if i try to talk and communicate im not able to say what i mean. ive …

r/vedicastrologypost4/13/2026
I need to talk about something I’m confused about… parents put AirTag in my car… and Life360 on my phone I am 28.

I need to talk about something I’m confused about… parents put AirTag in my car… and Life360 on my phone I am 28. — Long story short… I am 28 I moved out at 22 but I’ve had to come back home and start over again and then I’m going to move out again but anyways my parents are narcissists and they are control freaks…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/13/2026
I have become obsessed with finding someone.

Text of original post by u/nintendonaut: After my breakup in winter of last year, I went through a long period of mourning and not knowing what to do or how to move forward. Now, over the past 2-3 mon…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment9/16/2025
For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now?

Thank you for your post, u/BornEducation4428. Here are a few important reminders. Please be sure to follow the [Rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/AnxiousAttachment/about/rules) and feel free to utilize …

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment11/26/2025
For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now?

Thank you for your post, u/BornEducation4428. Here are a few important reminders. Please be sure to follow the [Rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/AnxiousAttachment/about/rules) and feel free to utilize …

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment12/23/2025
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

In love with GF. Balancing that with wanting more independence than I did in my younger days. She seems happy with it and wants similar independence and the opportunity to live in the house she just…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/9/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

Try down to 29, at least, if not 28. I'm your age and have found 27 year old men to be too young, I think it's a generational thing, but 28 becomes viable and 29 feels the same as 30 to me. I currentl…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/13/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

I mean, sometimes it takes a while for relationships to happen. I'm 33, my last Long-Term Relationship ended right before I turned 28. He and I were together for 4 years. Before that I was with someon…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/21/2026
What's your experience been with an activity on a first date ?

Posting this list from a previous Logan Ury newsletter for ‘third object’ date ideas - ones where there’s another focus other than just the two of you: Get moving together 1. Go roller skating or ic…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/23/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 25, 2026

Hi everyone! I'd like to know if anyone has any fresh perspectives or advice on my situation. I'm a 36-year-old man, diagnosed with autism. Never had a girlfried, neither my first kiss or hug  I…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/26/2026
Is this all basically the US’s Pluto return?

The US Pluto return is in orb until about 2027, or 2028. But, honestly, Pluto’s energy could last for the next 40 years, that’s how powerful Pluto is. The pandemic/Covid-19 was also a part of the US’s…

r/astrologycomment3/4/2026
Seneca Letters Translation

Seneca's Epistle 1: A "Historical Restoration" for Modern Practitioners (Lodge/Gummere Synthesis) **The Content:** I hear you on the translations, u/Fragrant-Point-4328. I've been working on a rest…

r/Stoicismcomment3/8/2026
Did your Narcissist gift you a " Trash " gift?

Mine once "gifted" me a pack of printer paper. I was 7. She'd make "jokes" about it every Christmas and birthday after. I cut her off at 28.

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/8/2026
Where am I supposed to meet my husband? 31F

Social circle. Marriage be before 2028. Other caste partner.

r/vedicastrologycomment3/8/2026
Found out 10 year situation-ship has been married the entire time

You are only 28. You will get over this loser and have enough time to find a wonderful man to marry. Good luck to you.

r/BreakUpscomment3/8/2026
People whose parents only seemed to notice you when you achieved something and didn’t really accept you as you were — did you end up loving yourself once you reached real undeniable success?

I am conventionally successful but not wildly so. There are definitely more interesting and acclaimed people. I cut off the critical parent and was able to redefine what success looks like for myself …

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment3/9/2026
Where am I supposed to meet my husband? 31F

By 2027, you may get the chance to meet your life partner, and you will get married by 2028.

r/vedicastrologycomment3/9/2026
30F, when & how will I find my partner?

The reason for emotional unavailability is that your seventh and eighth lord Saturn is in the malefic eighth house in his Mooltrikona Rashi. He's a functional malefic on top of being a first-grade nat…

r/vedicastrologycomment3/10/2026
Seinfeld-esque reasons you broke up with someone

I broke up with a dude because he couldn’t build a fire in my wood stove to save his life. The relationship was already on its way out, but it was such a buzz kill to go back to my place after Valenti…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/10/2026
What are the most infuriating sentences your ex has said to you during or after the breakup?

Me: I hope you understand, I had a hard time growing up that’s why I do have issues and sometimes they get the best of me and they come out and my anxiety gets very bad Them: that happened a long tim…

r/BreakUpscomment3/11/2026
Break up + no contact update (post 4 months)

Shit, my ex broke up with me 6 weeks ago after 5.5 years. I thought it was commitment issues but really it was structural issues that I was trying to work through with her. Family tension, religious d…

r/BreakUpscomment3/12/2026
How do I get the most out of my life?

The Sun and Mercury represent your friendships, and Jupiter represents their blockages. Saturn represents your love matters and Mercury represents their timing and occurrence. Mercury also represents…

r/AstrologyChartSharecomment3/12/2026
Jesus loves a homewrecker...

They aren’t follows of Jesus. Read Matthew 5:28. They are unrepentant sinners. Updateme 

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/12/2026
When/how to disclose weight loss

I totally agree u/Danger_Muffin28. I also have experience with folks with Generalized Anxiety Disorder and agree that's not a reason to fear someone. I don't want to villainize anyone for size, health…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

I restarted after a 6.5 year relationship came to an end at 28. I didn't have the option of another place so had to go back to parents. It is better to restart now as you can build the life you want a…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
40M My uncle has divorced and remarried, still constantly fighting with his wife. And so much financial troubles.

Setting Sade Sati is a strong factor. His family house has his Badhakesh/barrier planet. Lagna has Saturn in his Marana Karaka Sthana, possessing minimum Digabala, and posited in his natural house of …

r/vedicastrologycomment3/14/2026
My boyfriend (31M) is upset I prioritize money and don’t want kids, even though I (24F) told him this from the start

So, he's 31, working full-time, still living with his parents, presumably not paying rent... he must have a hella savings account or IRA, and if he doesnt, if he has a big fancy truck and lots of toys…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/14/2026
why are they able to put in more effort with the affair partner than in their own relationship?

Wow!! I am so sorry you had to go through that. Why are they like this? It doesn't make any sense to me at all. My ex was the same way!! He said lip filler was gross, said piercings were "trashy", n…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/14/2026
29F. Having immense trouble in married life. Is there chance of separation?

Currently, both of you are going through a troubled time wrt marriage. I’m not saying that separation is impossible; however, if you hold on, some relief can be expected after feb, 2028.

r/vedicastrologycomment3/15/2026
32 years of marriage, but I'm still unsettled by an affair from 2006. Is it too late to ask for the truth?

I’ve just found out after 34yrs of marriage and nearly 40yrs together from the age of 14 my husband had an over a year affair with my sister who was 16yrs old and he was 28.. we had 3 kids… and now gr…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/15/2026
First post here, don't normally do this but I need help. 27M

Me - Childhood trauma (extreme bullying), difficult family (drug addictions, worse), adhd, ex two-times drug addict, left at home at 17, turned my trauma into being the absolute worst version of mysel…

r/selfhelpcomment3/15/2026
Read a Review for 'Brian' a Coming-of-Age Comedy Starring Ben Wang

He's going to play another teenager? Dude is 28.

r/AsianAmericancomment3/15/2026
29F. Pls tell me about marriage. When will I meet spouse, marriage timing, spouse character and life after marriage.

Good decent married life with lot of intimacy. You have good combinations possible here with 7th lord mars though hidden in 12th house sitting in mool Trikona house aspected by Jupiter while Lagna lor…

r/vedicastrologycomment3/17/2026
Need some hinge/dating app advice

Anyone that has lost any amount of weight knows he has wayyyyy more than 10 lbs he can lose and 10lbs won’t make that big of a difference . He will look much better at -20lbs but even better at -30lbs…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/17/2026
Lost my mom, not sure where to go from here and looking for guidance

Condolences. I lost my dad at age 28. Life goes on. It happens as we get older, you will start seeing coworkers, friends, relatives dying.

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/19/2026
My (31M) GF (28F) Informed Me That She Kissed a Stranger At an Outing While Playing Truth or Dare 2 Months Ago. How do I navigate this?

I mean, even if we give her the benefit of the doubt and assume they were playing truth or dare, it doesn’t really change things She’s 28. She can say no to something. Clearly, she is a woman-child …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/23/2026
Mom wants to review financials with me 2x a year to receive my inheritance

No matter how much you comply, your parents can still do a rugpull and deny you any inheritance, specially if your big brother is their golden child. You're 28.. right now this inheritance is a mirage…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/23/2026
Mom wants to review financials with me 2x a year to receive my inheritance

You’re 28. They don’t need to see your personal spending to give you an inheritance. That’s just controlling. If they want to put conditions on it, they can leave it in the will. I have never asked ab…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/23/2026
After 10 years of doing the most, I (30F) told my husband (34F) that we needed counseling or separation. Help me process?

I began therapy a year and a half ago. That’s how I became diagnosed with ADHD at 28. Genuinely, I don’t know why either. I think I’m only confident and able to come to this realization now BECAUSE of…

r/relationshipscomment3/23/2026
Why does it take years to realize you’re traumatized? And why does "standard" therapy often miss the point?

I knew something was wrong with me at age 16 when my extreme perfectionism caused me to go into a freeze response unexpectedly. I saw a therapist for four weeks and nothing happened so I gave that up,…

r/CPTSDcomment3/24/2026
Going to false legal cases. When will it get over and when will I get divorced? M37

You will get divorced by 2028. Your wife will not profit greatly from alimony. But some expenses are indicated for you. So it may end up as a one time settlement or maybe just legal expenses. No remed…

r/vedicastrologycomment3/25/2026
No one talks about the empty space after a breakup

I was married to her for 4 years, together 10. I’m 28. She’s been my only partner ever and vise versa.. she told me she wants the divorce a week ago. I know I’m still young but the thought of starting…

r/Divorcecomment3/25/2026
Saw them together

Feb 28. I was at the beach watching the sunset with my husband and my husband grabbed the drink for us and suddenly showed up with the mistress in front of me (setting me up) and said, " I love her mo…

r/Divorcecomment3/28/2026
Such bad venus MD despite good placement, why?

You had just come out of a 7 year Ketu period which was least favorable planet mars in disguise. Mars and associated periods affect you and family in health finance work career mental health stress an…

r/vedicastrologycomment3/28/2026
Looking for an alternate translation or source for this quote:

Just for completeness, here is a correspondence table of Lebell's section headers to parts of the Enchridion: 1. Know what you can control and what you can't (Ench 1) 2. Stick with your own business …

r/Stoicismcomment3/28/2026
My white assistant principal at school just called me a “chink” for standing up to racism today

[https://www.aclu-ia.org/know-your-rights/photo/](https://www.aclu-ia.org/know-your-rights/photo/) "In Iowa, you can record oral communications with the consent of just one party, meaning if you’re i…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/28/2026
My Boyfriend (28M) thinks the reason why he can't finish is because I'm (20F) too big from the inside.

He’s 28. This is a glaring red flag. Just end it and find someone else. You’re only 20. P.S. He can’t finish because of himself lol. It’s not you.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/29/2026
what are astrologers take on the war and petrol crisis?

Everyone keeps saying stay home July 4th, but they also said something major was going to happen to Trump on 3/27-3/28. It's frustrating to believers when there is no proof. Do I skip my ONE family va…

r/astrologycomment3/29/2026
Weekly Free-for-All Discussion Thread | March 29, 2026

Older AM here with a throwaway. Want to share some pearls that helped me and others around me in life. Saw lots of failures as a younger person. I learned and used the below lessons to see success. I …

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/29/2026
Who wants their ex back?

I would give anything to have my wife back. We were together ten years from ages 18-28. I’m sober now, doing deep work, and am not the man I once was. I miss her so much it hurts. We’ve been separated…

r/BreakUpscomment3/30/2026