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the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…
Pouncemonial: 9th Kill - 30 Successful Trades — **Mission**: To accomplish 30 successful trades **What I achieved**: Accomplished 30 successful trades and learned how to execute and manage trades well. **Background**: With the previous kill, …
Women keep telling me I need to date younger and now my daughter has too. — I (39m) look young for my age and have been dating for the last 4 years. I have mostly dated women in their 30s and about half of them have told me to date someone younger after things didn’t work bet…
Female banter — noticing a double standard trend. I match. bumble so woman reaches out first. “how is your day going” or “hi.” what I’m noticing is that if I match their vanilla, they go dark pretty quick. if I …
DO NOT GIVE UP — DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!! I have so much to say. But ima try to keep it short ish. I just wanted to make a quick post about my journey. I’ve been “manifesting” for five years. I actually have not. Those f…
Broke up with me because his father didnt want him to be distracted from his career. Why cant I forget him? — As the title mentions. I (DOB 30.12.1993, first chart) was best friends with this boy (DOB 13.10.1994, second chart) from 2013 and we started dating in 2014 beginning. The relationship was a very good…
THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…
“ he never harmed me” good to know my suffering meant so little to you — My ex husband left me for the mistress 6 years ago. It was hell. I am still to this day dealing with the trauma of having the person you trusted and loved so much just pull the rug from under your li…
Why do so many people have Raj Yogas in their charts but they are not rich and prosperous in real life? — So I have gone through many charts and many if the times I have seen many beautiful yogas forming in the chart but the person himself is not that rich, powerful, influential or prosperous as the raj y…
I’m 31, but I just realized I’ve been emotionally 4 years old my entire life. — Hey everyone, I’m having a massive breakthrough and I need to put this into words. I finally understand why my life has felt like a performance for 30 years, and why I’m suddenly "falling apart" now …
Why do I have so many tears to shed? — I cry easily and often, at least once a day. I’ve always been like this since I was young. Went through an abusive upbringing and a stretch of traumatic times in recent years that I’ve done a lot of w…
Am I doing the right thing? F42, — So I'm 42 female.. been engaged for the last 4 years..to a great guy.. but from day one there hasn't been the intimacy there from my side.. I fell for his caring and funny side but over the years the …
Talk about fresh beginnings. — You read it in the title, new beginnings. In simple text: I was able to start over and a kick start at my new life as I literally entered my 30s. Long story: female late 20s/Early 30. Definitely s…
I (18M) caught my Mom (44F) Cheating on my Dad (46M) and I don't know what to do — General Idea of our Family - My dad goes to work 5 days a week and comes back to visit us on wednesday evening and weekends. My mom is a teacher and goes to school in evening shift from 1 to 6 pm ever…
Nervous system issue? — Hi all. I’m 42F married no kids and have a plethora of “issues.” I have had POI since I was 17, then thyroid issues, then anxiety and depression. I’ve recently suffered a loss of someone close to me. …
I (34F) have to move from WA to CA for my dream job and my boyfriend (42M) would have to quit his job to move with me — I (34F) am a successful product designer living in Seattle WA. I own my home. I make Good Money. My bf (42M) has never had an issue with me outearning him and is celebratory of my success. I was laid …
How to handle tense home environment due to my (26F) sister (34F) sister feeling overwhelmed? — My home dynamic has drastically shifted since my mom (67F) had to suddenly leave for 6 months to help out my sister living in another continent deal with a devastating situation. We didn’t have time t…
I guess it's over for good now. — My ex and I broke up in February after months of fighting and 2 years together. Communication wasn't good, he has issues with emotional regulation and I shut down far too easily, especially when someo…
Do I (26F) need to decide now if I want children when my bf (31M) already has decided he wants them in the next Yr and 1/2 — for context we have been together for 4 years and have been living together for 2. he owns the house I just live here rent free lol we were discussing career plans and were talking about how my chan…
When my cousin(33f)get married. Tried AM setup — hi, so this is my cousin's birthchart and currently she has a govt job and is trying to look for a guy. She tried arrange marriage concept, her father found a guy from our caste only. they were in t…
Cried after 5 questions tape? — i did the 5 questions tapes the day before, i had to abort in between multiple times throughout the day due to other causes. finally i was able to do it at night. but i was really tired and half aslee…
I (30F) found out my boyfriend (30M) saves recent social media pictures of his ex (27F) in a hidden photos album on his iPhone — For context, my boyfriend and his ex only dated for 4 months back in 2023. They've been broken up for a little over 3 years now. These pictures aren't sexualized pictures, which I almost don't know i…
Dug myself into another period of isolation and can't get out; a new kind of numbness (venting) — Content warning: mentions of suicidal ideation I've had life long depression and I'm about to turn 30. As I've aged out of my 20s, it's gotten worse. I'm medicated, so the chronic SI stopped happenin…
Breaking up with my Gf might ruin her life — Gf 30F and I 25M have lived together since beginning of 2025 and I think i want to separate. She's an amazing woman and treats me very well, does her fair share of work staying at home. its not that…
How do I (29m) Gently Convince my Girlfriend (29f) to stop Self Deprecating all the time? — So here goes. My girlfriend is great. We've been together 5 years now and shes my absolute best friend in the whole wide world. But I have an ick, and here goes. Every time we shower together, c…
Marriage timing? How delayed? M26 — I want to understand if my analysis is correct: After 2029, I enter Rahu - Venus Dasha (Venus is the lord of my Marriage house) Saturn enters Aries b/w 2027 - 2030. Jupiter enters Libra b/w 2028 - …
40, divorced 3 years, but feel like I'll never find a partner again. What would you do if you were me? — Location: Hong Kong Age: 40 Status: divorced 3 years, no kids Money: net worth \~US$6M (no debt), few furniture stores and a rental property. High income but stress level is insane. I could retire…
Finally sniffed this one out — I met this guy at work about 2 years ago (different departments) and we have been friends ever since. Dude helped me schedule my first doctor’s appointment in almost 6 years and even offered to take …
Remedy for Mars in 8th house (Sagittarius) — Hello all, I have Mars in the 8th house in Sagittarius. An astrologer suggested doing a banana tree vivah to reduce its malefic effects. Is this actually a valid remedy, or are there better alterna…
AITAH for choosing my peace and dignity over this toxic ahh group? — this is a VERY LONG thread so only read if you have time please, although the full post has more context. SUMMARY IS PROVIDED AT THE END Last year, me (17f), and my 2 best friends lets call them, li…
I got my life together, now I’m bored — Hi all, over the past four months I’ve made some major changes in my life, but I still find myself bored at the end of the day. I’ve been sober for about three years, and lately I’ve been really focu…
Starting chores starting starting starting — Yes I have adhd/depression/anxiety/autism/ptsd/ocd. Yes I have ADHD. Work 12pm-8pm most days. Most days go like this. Wake up around 8-9. Try to get out of bed. Too tired so lie in bed dicking aro…
I M30 found that my GF F30 put an air tag in my car and I don't know how to proceed. — My GF hid an air tag in my car and I don't know how to proceed For context we have been together for 3 years and live together (marriage is on the cards). 0 trust issues on my side. she can go anywhe…
I needed my emotionally immature mom for once and it went exactly how I thought it would — God forbid my (29f) mom ever does something for someone else. Everything needs to be about her as if she is a child. Last week, two things happened and I just need to vent. 1. My cat of 6,5 years was…
Ringing in the 30s with.. trauma! — Hello everyone. This past week I turned 30. My partner and I drove to our home city so I could celebrate with my family. What it actually ended up being was a catalyst for the largest set of spirals I…
Rushing you for no reason then acting shocked when you cancel — I'm living at home while finishing up college and getting into my full-time job. My relationship with my parents is thankfully (usually) pretty good, but my dad has an infuriatingly short switch and i…
Seeking a reality check and validation on a “Trauma bond” and how I was treated — This is my first Reddit post so bare with me. Also pre-warning, some notes of DV And Emotional Abuse. I’m posting this because I need an unbiased reality check. I asked an AI to help me organize myse…
Journey from doomer to bloomer. ( week 4 ) - A crash that made me make a plan. — ​ Hey as I told you I was a doomer for many years but lately I decided to do as much to stop being a doomer and bloom even later than the other people. This is the week's progress. 1 - Someth…
My wife of 8 years has been cheating on me for 4 months — We have been married 8 years together 12 total. ive always tried to support her the best i could. when she wanted to go full freelance illustrator a few years back i tried to make it work by switching…
I (22M) am so confused. Didnt know where else to go with this anymore. I just want help understanding what happened? PLEASE READ - its long, kinda. — important context- i was born into a religious family and grew up a religious kid not in any unorthodox manner only a typical hindu family in india. when i was a child i was afraid of the dark then on…
One Sentence Encheiridion (16-30) — Hello! I'm doing a personal challenge to paraphrase the Encheiridion chapters using a single sentence. I did 1-15 in a different post, and I'll link below. Constructive feedback is absolutely welc…
Hello I just had the weirdest dream and I don't know how to look up my specific type of dream and was so shocked I decided to come here and write. I remember going to sleep around 12:30pm after wakin…
About a year ago, we got new seasonal hires at my job. One of them ended up being this woman. I usually chitchat with new hires if they have questions regarding the job and that’s about it. I would ch…
A friend of mine who is now married made sure she had other plans scheduled so she could not spend 3 hours on a date. Like if she got coffee at 11, she was getting lunch with her friends at 1.30. …
Hi u/Ausedul, this has been removed for violation of the following rule(s): * Dating Over Thirty (DOT) is about dating and the pre-cohabitation phase of romantic relationships for people over the ag…
Could I get thoughts on some sexual issues I have? I've accepted the way that I am and I don't feel insecure about it, but I am wondering about the effects it's had on my dating life. Please no comm…
I met a guy 2.5 weeks ago and we've been going on dates and talking all day everyday since. He had no red flags, tons in common, no serious differences in preferences or opinions, we vibed amazingly. …
What are you maintaining though? You know... Babies aren't a negotiable, this isn't a thing to "convince" someone of. There isn't... effort to put into something like that. I don't see how you aren't…
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❤️ I'm 34... I started getting a little nervous around 30. I feel like I'm out of the "omg calm down" range into the "yeah, you're right, this is cutting it a little close and definitely not the timel…
I’m 40, my gf is 39. We live together. We spend a ton of time together. I WFH on Mondays, Tuesdays, and Fridays. She’s a teacher and gets home every day around 3:30. So M-T she curls up next to me on …
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I am in a new relationship off of hinge. 3 months in. This is after being single for 6 years and on the apps for a solid 4+ years with little to no success. My last relationship I was 22 and 23/24 ye…
“Never” dating? “never” having a relationship? I’m sorry I didn’t know we had a fortune teller in the house. Ofcourse thoughts like that would make anyone sad and full of grief dude. You sound like me…
of course she doesn’t like you, lol. long story short and predating 30. I had a gf and a friend. similar story to you. can you guess which I married…. the friend, ironically still friends with t…
I was widowed at 30. My dating life has been so-so in the 3 years since she passed. I’ve dated a few people, but nothing that has stuck. I met a travel nurse in like December, who I went out with, the…
Posting this list from a previous Logan Ury newsletter for ‘third object’ date ideas - ones where there’s another focus other than just the two of you: Get moving together 1. Go roller skating or ic…
It’s 💯 your location. You would do very well on the East coast. A lot of these comments are wild, but eye opening. I don’t know anyone who married young at 30. Also, I live in a major, diverse city…
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I recently moved to a new country for work. I met someone through a dating app who is 8 years older than me. In terms of career, I had just graduated and was at the very beginning of my professional j…
Ya'll ever feel like you wasted your time and now you're behind? I decided to "focus on my career" in my 20s instead of actually living and now I'm 30. Looking back I have nothing to show for it, didn…
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Taurus Sun, Leo Rising: I became more Leo-ish (at least visibly) about 3 years before turning 30. I still strongly identify with my Taurus Sun. So I guess it's both, the Leo Rising has just become mor…
I feel like my ascendant Leo was more dominant before I turned 30. I was an absolute social butterfly and loved going to parties and clubs and brunches. I’m probably closer to my cancer sun now at 34.…
Actually around age 30 I started resonating waaaayy more with my progressed ascendant, and I still do. Out of habit I listen to my rising sign horoscopes but my Moon placement has resonated more over …
I’m the same. I don’t think I have much trauma response though. I think I’m becoming more and more like my cap moon sign after I turned 30.
Ew. Please don't date anyone under 30.
Yes, we're all over 30. But I don't think there's anything immature about not sending a message to every single person you're not interested in after chatting. They're total strangers and I'd burn out…
Original copy of post by u/chi17cr: noticing a double standard trend. I match. bumble so woman reaches out first. “how is your day going” or “hi.” what I’m noticing is that if I match their vani…
I feel the same way as an AuDHD woman who is 30. I would only ever date again if I met a guy who was like me and could understand me instead of calling me sensitive and having no empathy. I was with s…
I've smoked weed for 5 years. Was addicted to coke for 4 and overdosed and died. I've done mushrooms a good 10 times and acid a good 30. Dmt around 5. Weed is all I do nowadays unless I can get my han…
I’m not having this problem. Men are still on me like white on rice. People who become “invisible” are people who gave up on themselves and bought into the lie that life start declining after 30. Th…
Im on day 30. There have been some contact since she left, but everytime she reached out and with hearts in the messages. We lived together, so she had to come pick up some stuff from the apartment. T…
Having sex with multiple people without a condom speaks volumes. He’s an idiot. Not to mention you’re almost 30.
Monday I work til 2 then the gym, kid time, dinner, hopefully walking pad. Tuesday work til 3. Obligation from 4-6:30. Dinner with kid. Wednesday work til 4, gym time, kid time, dinner. Off Thursda…
Monday- Friday is mostly work. Up by 6, at work by 7, finish by 6. Once a week I usually have to work till 9. On days when I get to go home at 6, I'll occasionally have to go on a shopping run which m…
Never recovered. Stayed a decade. He cheated again. Divorced 3 years. We were married 30. I'm a shell of who I was before, but I did find happiness with someone new. I'm just sad he never knew …
Right now you must be suffering from stomach issues. Marriage is there - areanged one will happen by 2030. Father is well to do in some authoritative/research field. husband will be mature.
By 2030, you will be married anytime before 2030. Won’t be late then that. There are open marriage windows till 2030.
All about timing in life. There are some risks for a marriage now. You have a peak Saturn transit for Leo Moons 2025 Apr to 2027 similar to 2006-09 or 1995-98 each time affecting you and family. Satur…
You have a couple of planets indicating a transformative relationship/romance experience (7H lord in 8H, Jupiter retrograde in Scorpio 5H). Think of your break up as that karma fulfilled. Your Sun-…
I was 35 at the time she was 30.. she didnt know who kevin costner was this was about 2018. I dont even like kevin costner but like something about it just made me think this persons an idiot.
I separated from my ex husband twice in my late twenties before finally getting divorced at 30. I would say it’s never the same and just gets worst. It’s true what they say: show them you’ll stick aro…
Once when I was in a really bad place a whole year passed and to me it felt like maybe 3 months because I was so dissociated. I feel like I should be in my early to mid 20s but I'm 30. I'm doing my be…
Hey, im 30. moved together w my ex at beginning of my 20ties. The mom of a friend got herself a dog wich she couldnt handle, me and bf talked this through a week, informed us about the dog race and ev…
Mine never grew past age 30. He regales everyone who will listen with tales of his adventures - from 50 years ago. I know this because I met him when he was in his thirties. When we were dating, he to…
Something I don't think is being said here is that schizophrenia doesn't mean that he can't live a happy life someday. And schizophrenia doesn't always equal violence. However, at age 21, this is an e…
Someone did this to me when I was 50 and he was 30. 😬
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>Tell us how you did it! It's all described in the post I linked. >Also I can think of things that I was detached or didn’t care about that never manifested and things I also wanted that didn’t mani…
Online dating while fat feels really brutal after 30. I “know” losing weight should help but idk. That takes a year or so and keeping my self esteem in tact while navigating diet changes and finding a…