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the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…
THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…
Anyone beat me in No Contact? — Me 46 years. We met and broke up in 1980. He was the dumpee. It was weird that I had a dream of him few weeks ago. The only time I dreamed of him in 46 years. In my dream he asked to take me out …
What Happened? — Just looking to gather perspective from someone else. I (M34) matched with someone (F36) on Hinge back in December. Got along really well and had two dates in January, which went really well. We kiss…
"When trust is lost, traumatized people feel that they belong more to the dead than to the living." — "The sense of safety in the world, or basic trust, is acquired in earliest life in the relationship with the first caretaker. Originating with life itself, this sense of trust sustains a person throug…
Case 4: Did Michael Jackson die? — **Case 4: Did Michael Jackson die?** Age \[redacted for privacy concerns\]. I am with one of my parents on a business trip. For the past couple of days we have been visiting various landmarks such …
My boyfriend just abruptly did a 180 in less than a day and has become cold, cruel and heartless. I’m feeling lost and devastated. — TL;DR our relationship wasn’t perfect but things started getting way better. Literally out of no where he just switched up and has become a jerk and he goes from saying it has nothing to do with me to…
Someone Please Help Me. — So my engagement with my ex-fiance ended after 9 months. I’m an anxious attached person. I will admit I created a push-pull dynamic for my partner towards the middle of our relationship when arguments…
After 4 years of being w/ my highschool sweetheart who went to the military, he cheated. — I can’t get the thought out of my mind. everything was going perfect and then he left I never had major issues in my relationship and everyone was shocked; he was never this type of guy, it’s like he …
Guilt of a partner not moving on — After we separated, my partner had a revelation, realised they were wrong and vowed to work on it. It was quite a big confession honestly. complete 180. And now it feels like it's on ME to now decide…
It hurts — I was a bad boyfriend, I I didn’t show affection well, nor did I make her feel loved. Currently working on why, cause I did/do love her. I highlighted her negatives while not acknowledging her positiv…
Convivendo com a constante tentação de matar minha melhor amiga — Passei a madrugada em claro, sem dormir. Ontem à noite aconteceu de novo. Minha melhor amiga (o nome fictício dela vai ser Laura) me convidou pra ir a uma festa com mais 4 amigos. Eu pensei: "que mal …
Leaving the family business: I’m a high-level professional, but working for my parent makes me feel 14 again. — I spent nearly a decade in high-pressure, corporate environments in a major city. I’m used to intense expectations and difficult personalities; hard work has never been the issue. About a year ago, I …
Can’t believe i am replying to this after a 4 week fling and my SA did a 180. Connection felt real but was way too fast (Red flag). Trying to come up with ways to continue were just ploys to avoid f…
That makes a lot of sense. If it causes too much inner struggle or turmoil then it might be best to let go and try a different approach. Such as for people in a difficult work environment they might h…
You weight the components. If a factor is 50% of everything to you then they can never have the 80.
ENFP/Type 5/SA here. 45 years old with about 20-30 friends, most of them over 30 years. I wont speak for SA in general, I would just share my little world/POV. \--------- Extremely honest to the po…
I agree. I have days I am okay and accept that my father does not care or love me…then there are days I find myself really upset. Sometimes I cry and sometimes I just feel pain in my body. It’s ind…
This is awful! I’m so sorry you’re going through this! I’m also normally 140 pounds but my recent pregnancy left me at about 180. I already struggle really badly with self esteem and felt really guilt…
Oh yes, she's definitely jealous of my brothers' partners. Time and money that could be better spent on her, ofc. She doesn't even hide it now that she's 80. Me & my brothers have our own WhatsApp gro…
My partner and I have had many difficult issues, but the one thing I can say is that he would never ask me to rehome an animal. We had kids and discussed how we would need to find a 2 flat if the kids…
My story isn’t the same as yours. 6 months ago I uncovered cheating 18 years ago. To me, it’s a fresh wound. As a result, I went into hyper detective mode and found a whole lot more, the latest of whi…
It seems quite obvious her therapist gave her the idea of shelving the affair. Not all therapists are good at their job and who knows what your wife may have told the therapist. Likely some version o…
A conversation 4 years ago pre-pregnancy is hard to put too much stock in. Is she feeling less confident after pregnancy? Is she spending a lot of time on social media where these procedures are highl…
There's only one way to shut him up and you go get a paternity test now. Tell him to cough up the money and you both get a blood test and it'll show him he's the daddy. Then he's going to be groveling…
I sacrificed a lot of my happiness, money, time, and career plans to tend to my ex husband and his problems and he just tore me down, didn’t reciprocate, and verbally and emotionally abused me. When…
There was the case in china where [10 year old boy accidently killed his grandma] (https://www.yahoo.com/news/10-old-boy-arrested-china-223548180.html) who was beating him. Videos: [1](https://www.in…
As a woman I kind of get where he’s coming from. I always find it shocking how different men are when they are together with no women in the room. I work with some men that are total jerks but when …
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You’re totally right on the different strokes for different folks aspect however I do disagree with a lot of your perspective, which is fine - different lives, different viewpoints. The reality is I…
No reconciling without true remorse. True remorse tells the truth, holding nothing back. She is not remorseful. Along with remorse there has to NO CONTACT WITH AFFAIR PARTNER OF ANY SORT. There is no…
what you are planing to fix? Even if you forgive her she probably continues cheating. You end up being one of those husbands that has been in DB for 20 years... Spending best years for sexless marriag…
I honestly hope you divorce her. About 30 years ago through some observation in the change in my parents’ behavior I found out my dad had cheated on my mom. Details are unknown as mom refuses to talk …
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My ex-spouse is horrible with money. Last I checked, her account was $-380. DoorDash, Uber, and Starbucks.
I am 2nd gen in my 40s and this is a really sore spot for me too. And why is it always church that brings out the worst in people?? My parents explained that there was such an intensity and pride to …
I wouldnt say 180. It think general opinion was always against WMAF but liberal establishment wanted to shame / blame AM for ALL criticism. Now AM dont talk about it, but BM interesting have ran …
I agree with your last comment, things are even crazier on Tiktok and now recently, Instagram. When it's WMAF couple posting a Tiktok, the comment section is pretty brutal. It's mostly oxford study o…
I get it, but I love dressings up and getting dolled up every day. I dress up to go to work, to go to dinner with friends, and to go on dates. I do it cause I enjoy it, I love being on heels and ful…
Chu might be a bit of a hack but I thought he did good with CRA. That was a huge hit with the mainstream and really kicked off the recent uptick in Asian rep. The problem was as Phil said, there's no …
Can 1 adult successfully watch 8 kids? 😂 of course they can. My grandma had 9, and that wasn’t weird at the time 🤷🏼♀️ They were all born within 2 years of each other or closer, except the last whi…
She moved 7 hours away so visitation is zero. The social worker told me even if he spends all summer and all school breaks with me it will only bring my support amount down about $80. It’s not really …
I live in Texas so most people are hooked up and have been for a long time. I recently answered another post about a guy talking about standards. If you have been on the dating market for 20 yea…
People are exactly as capable of being told the truth at 20 as they are 80. The current highest heart rate of a person above the age of 80 was from a gentleman who only got into exercising at 72. She’…
It’s weird cuz I always thought he was anxious attachment. When we dated he was super clingy but after he realized he wanted to break up it was a complete 180. Super avoidant and cold that I couldn’t …
“Faith” is how your GF has 0 savings in 3 years with no real financial responsibility. Now she’s got faith you’ll keep supporting her and buy the house and she’s “determined” to make it happen because…
yeah just divide it by 80. that's the dollar figure
Really curious how this change came about. That’s a huge 180.
Sorry that things are really difficult right now. In high school I considered suicide, note, and everything. I even knew when I was going to, I just stopped before doing it. I did again at 22 when I …
I’m so stuck on trying to understand what OM means. A friend of mine met and moved in with her boyfriend recently. She’s very happy and is at peace in this relationship. They’re both in their 60s. So…
It was so traumatic. And now I have whiplash from the 180. I don’t even know how I feel right now. I’m scared.
Yes, it'll be their view of "men's work" from their family, friends, wider society. Mummy's boys definitely do this alot, but it's not just down to the mum. Usually single mothers actually raise boy…
What is up with these emotionally immature men, with anxiety and are avoiding any real relationships?? Once it starts getting real they bail and say we deserve something better.. I wanna grab them by …
Right that is so true. I think it’s hard for me to grasp because he did a complete 180. He used to be caring and kind and wanted to be with me everyday. I truly have no idea how he could switch up lik…
I want to acknowledge first before I write this and I would like to hear your response to my answers but I’m very glad you brought all of this up. Personally in truth, I we must face the fact that in…
I read your post again and I'm sorry I think I didn't understand fully the first time. So again this is just what I read or learned, so take it with a grain of salt. Some train 1 year or so of concen…
I've manifested several neighbours moving out from the apartment complex where I live. Difficult, noisy people. All gone. I just did SATS few times where I talked with my friendly neighbour about how…
I was born and raised on the peninsula since 1980. Got my degree from SF State. That’s new to me. I never met another Asian that size me up like that.
there’s a lot you can’t control here, but there’s some you can 1. unless you have seizures or are blind, you need to get a license to be able to get yourself around. 2. if you’re not already, you…