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the narcissist catchphrase bingo list

the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost3/24/2026
How to deal with being alone

How to deal with being alone — So I struggle pretty heavily with stress when me and my bf are apart. That distance is scary and fires up my fear of being replaced. This fear really affects my ability to do daily tasks away from …

r/AnxiousAttachmentpost1/7/2026
I’m asking for justice because I deserve it

I’m asking for justice because I deserve it — Manifested a job right here on this channel. Believe it or not everything came true. Word to word. No kidding. I’m so grateful. 7 months later: I am crying. I love my job my peers my bosses. But, I …

r/lawofattractionpost3/30/2026
Spiraling about the future when home

Spiraling about the future when home — Hi all, looking for some advice and support - I often spiral whenever I go back home (currently a college student) due to the following thoughts about the future: uncertainty about the mortgage of the…

r/AsianParentStoriespost4/5/2026
Everytime I need to contact my mother, I get triggered badly

Everytime I need to contact my mother, I get triggered badly — I try to go very low contact with my mother and other family members. Since she never cared to pay any interest to find out who I am, what am I doing in life, I don't really tell her much stuff but w…

r/CPTSDpost4/6/2026
How do I stop hurting others?

How do I stop hurting others? — TW: self harm and narcissistic behavior I am increasingly aware of the amount of hurt I inflict on others, the closer someone is to me the more they get hurt. I’m a covert psychopath narcissist who …

r/DecidingToBeBetterpost4/9/2026
Is my friend a fake?

Is my friend a fake? — I've been doing ecom for 6 months, learning the space and building a brand. After 6 months of no results or ROI, I've finally started to make money, and I'm potentially on the verge of making a lot mo…

r/selfhelppost4/12/2026
If you are new here..

a) law of assumption, not law of belief. And where did you get the other descriptions from? I've been on Neville sub for a while, literally noone describes the law in those words or speak in a spiritu…

r/JosephMurphycomment2/18/2022
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

Those who don’t add value to your life the way you add value to theirs will always be leeches feeding off your energy and your love. Mourn them cause they’re figuratively dead to you and remember that…

r/ExNoContactcomment5/24/2023
How to deal with being alone

Text of original post by u/Moonk1ssed: So I struggle pretty heavily with stress when me and my bf are apart. That distance is scary and fires up my fear of being replaced. This fear really affects …

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment1/7/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

I wanna say, I might've oversold the negatives. It's not like she's just leeching off her parents...she does have a part-time job at a bakery, it's just kinda of soul-sucking and she's looking to get …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/19/2026
What are the most infuriating sentences your ex has said to you during or after the breakup?

You're the most passive man I've ever seen; I hate your appearance and your behavior. You're like a leech, and much more.

r/BreakUpscomment3/10/2026
Those who don't work- how do you answer "what do you do?"

That sounds really tough to deal with. Definitely lots of projection and enabling, you deserve a lot better and it's unfortunate thay they likely will never be capable of delivering even a fraction of…

r/CPTSDcomment3/12/2026
Her family keeps kicking her out and I couldn't be happier about it.

I loveva story with a happy ending. The best is when they try to claw their way back and get sent away..they end up to be just leeches on everybody.

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/14/2026
"No one is coming to save you" Yeah, I know, because I saved myself.

I appreciate the detailed thoughts. I disagree that they’re still completely luck, but I understand where you’re coming from and agree that navigating our society as a disabled or ill individual is be…

r/CPTSDcomment3/15/2026
How dating a narcissist has changed you to this day?

I didn’t date a narc but was friends with one. I don’t trust people as easily anymore, I don’t go out of my way to do things if I don’t want to anymore, appearance has become more important to me (mea…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/16/2026
My boyfriend blew our savings. (F32) (M34)

And is your mother willing to pay for his gambling habit? Why? You’re not a fool for wanting a partner who shares the burdens of life with you instead of a leech who creates more burdens.

r/relationship_advicecomment3/16/2026
My boyfriend blew our savings. (F32) (M34)

Your mom wants you to stay with an unemployed leech who bankrupted you??

r/relationship_advicecomment3/16/2026
How private is therapy when my therapist’s phone listens in to our conversations?

I don't underestimate it. The data is most certainly being collected. My training gives me pretty good information as to how that collection happens and what data is stored and even for how long. Th…

r/therapycomment3/18/2026
How do I (M22) explain to my girlfriend (F20) that I have a substantial amount of money?

Might i say.. possibly even up to 5. OP, i would suggest you even offer to pay a small portion of the rent if you end up being there 3/4ths of any month. That way they also won’t find a way to say …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/20/2026
I (34m) have been with my partner (34f) for 8 years. I have supported us financially for 8 years but want her to contribute and I'm made to feel like the bad guy

You really are going to have to put your foot down. If you can’t have a conversation with her without her wriggling out of it with therapy language, then you have a fundamental problem. You need to te…

r/relationshipscomment3/20/2026
Ex came back with lustful intentions and its so humiliating

I’m so sorry! No, you are more than good enough, you are just healing from someone emotionally immature and getting a wound reopened. You are a living breathing creature that deserves to be cared for …

r/ExNoContactcomment3/22/2026
After 10 years of doing the most, I (30F) told my husband (34F) that we needed counseling or separation. Help me process?

Girl. He's an abusive leech. Hitting doors and stuff in anger is him either refusing to regulate his own emotions like an adult, him trying to intimidate you for control purposes, or both. This is n…

r/relationshipscomment3/23/2026
r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/24/2026
Coming to terms with the fact that I am a stalker, and I'm not sure where to go from here

Bro this is a totally understandable response to being lovebombed and then ghosted. These are two horrible relationship phenomena that are so prevalent today. They are crazy making behavior, our nervo…

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment3/24/2026
Did your Nex try to hide your existence from their social media?

Funnily enough, all 3 exes that he still has posted on his feed including me, removed pictures of him/with him from their social media. Exactly, it is like trophies, so once you look at his social me…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/25/2026
my 22M bf says he will leave me 22F if i get breast surgery

I would suggest you look up Breast Implant Illness before getting them in. Implants have a ton of toxic chemicals that leech into your body right on top of your major organs. I had them for six yea…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/26/2026
My ex destroyed his life after we broke up

Read further down in the comments. She gives details she didn't include in the original post that you just may not have seen. I'll throw you a bone and urge you to read them.  He broke up with her fo…

r/BreakUpscomment3/26/2026
My GF (22F) told her parents about my (24M) secret financial situation

This is one case where it hits a deal breaker to me. If you marry her, she's liable to flaunt how wealthy she is to everyone she can get away with it. And you'll have leeches coming out of the woodwor…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/27/2026
18F. Forgot to pack a small biscuit and ended with him wishing I don't pass my dream University

Sending hugs and kisses 😘 And good luck with exams! OP, while I don’t Asian step parents, but my cousins does, and she’s been through it. I remembered seeing how badly my cousin was treated by …

r/AsianParentStoriescomment3/29/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 30, 2026

All of those are good points. I guess I feel more hesitant because I was feeling it at first, but after some disagreements, and I guess that feeling has gone down for me. So I’ve been deciding if th…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/30/2026
I hate that most people are oblivious to trauma

It was a nice change, especially when my family treats me worse than any stranger has ever treated me about it, and the strangers aren't far off. My family makes fun of this wretched disability and sa…

r/CPTSDcomment3/30/2026
Cheating Husbands: Did You Ever Stop Cheating Completely? If so, what made you want to stop cheating on your wives?

I’m legit shocked she stayed with him. I messaged her in October 2024 that we had a newborn and toddler….and she decided to jump head first?? She’s a nurse so not even like she was broke and needed to…

r/Divorcecomment3/30/2026
How do I (35F) handle my soon-to-be-ex-husband (38M) asking me to change my name back?

But it’s also how it works if the spouse was a SAHM who gave up a career to raise children. The courts don’t really care if the contribution was raising a whole family or being a useless leech. Half i…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/31/2026
I really need Help.

i love the list someone made here somewhere in a reply, they mentioned the rock method. i didnt realize it then, but i was able to cope with many of my stressors/hives through the gray rock/wet rock…

r/AsianParentStoriescomment3/31/2026
How do I (35F) handle my soon-to-be-ex-husband (38M) asking me to change my name back?

I absolutely agree when it's a stay at home parent who is working their butt off at home. He did that for about 6 years and I loved it. If we had divorced when he was doing that, he would have absolut…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/31/2026
Did they ever really care?

no, they are not human. it's like asking a leech why it's sucking your blood. it's their nature to do so.

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/31/2026
The moment when everything clicked after the discard. Does this pattern strongly point to NPD?

I kind of view it like those videos where people create an extremely basic ai model with some simple rules and a defined goal, and with each iteration the model improves upon itself so that eventually…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/31/2026
I (42F) want to leave my disabled husband (45M). But; don’t know how.

You’re not leaving him because he’s disabled. You’re leaving him because hes a lazy leech video game addict. I’m significantly disabled. I cant work. Some days i cant get out of bed. I still do every…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/31/2026
I (42F) want to leave my disabled husband (45M). But; don’t know how.

Time to give one last ultimatum. He can’t became a lazy hobo, not doing anything to earn, not contributing to house chores and plays video games all day claiming disability. There are so many work tha…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/31/2026
I (42F) want to leave my disabled husband (45M). But; don’t know how.

Who does school pick ups? Who goes to parent teacher conferences? Who takes them to the doctor? There are ways to prove who is the primary caretaker to children. The courts don't just assume the perso…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/1/2026
My 23M bf gets a panic attack every time i ask him to pick up after himself 22F am i the problem?

I’m very tired today so I will just say please dump him and move on. How do you think he survived before he found you? He either leeched off someone else or took care of his own life.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/2/2026
Boyfriend(m38) doesn’t want to split bills equally with me (f30), should i compromise or call it quits?

So why are you even entertaining the idea of letting this leech move in? He earns almost 50% *more* than you but expects you to fund his life by paying 70% of rent and 100% of the bills including ch…

r/relationshipscomment4/2/2026
My ‘35F’ boyfriend ‘54M’ of 9 years broke up with me today over personal toys.

Aw man listen he did you a favor. That's a disgusting way to view women (and toys) and those views have a way of leeching out into other areas anyways. I'm sorry, I know it sucks right now. But don't…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/2/2026
My husband threw my childhood trauma in my face during an argument. Something feels broken and I don’t know what to do.

I totally agree. It sounds like he doesn't love her or even like her at all. He's a leech.

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/3/2026
My husband threw my childhood trauma in my face during an argument. Something feels broken and I don’t know what to do.

OP, you husband is not your person, he’s another abuser/user in your life. He’s taking advantage of your kindness and he’s financially abusing you. It’s time to be free and get divorced. It is not…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/3/2026
I (25M) broke thing off with my fiancé (24F) last night and she refused to accept it.

Frankly you made the correct decision. Even if you want to stay together (to try) at least tell her that the engagement is currently off and there is no plans to resume that. You need to see CONCRETE…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/3/2026
What were seemingly "normal" things you experienced growing up, that you now realize is narc abuse?

I realised that I have a classic trauma response to deny everything. Hubby asks where something is and I know, I can see it and I will go ‘I don’t know‘ if I am in any way stressed. on good days he …

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/3/2026
Chest "phantom" hole

I wanted to send one last note because I’ve realized why Krysia has been aware of and reactive to our conversations. She tried to intimidate and scare me a couple of days ago, but realised that it's n…

r/energy_workcomment4/3/2026
I (25M) broke thing off with my fiancé (24F) last night and she refused to accept it.

Firmly breakup and legally evict this user and leech out of your home and life. You need therapy, to provide you with the tools to enforce boundaries, improve your self esteem and remove your people…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/3/2026
I hate my artistic talent and passion. And it’s all my mom’s fault.

I wanted to be a cartoonist at one point - the only "guidance" I had was my parentified brother essentially discouraging me going "not saying you're not good, but so are others out there" basically te…

r/AsianParentStoriescomment4/4/2026
Need help asap.

Ask God for help in the name of Yeshua,The Christ , The Word , This situation ain't a game nor a joke because these spirits will not stop harassing people who are open to spiritual attacks, they lee…

r/AstralProjectioncomment4/4/2026
Have you ever gotten an “Error Message” from the Universe on a heavy dose of mushrooms?

That happened to me once while incredibly stoned while reading Austin Osman spare while listening to tool’s golden gift video that had insane visuals(that I since can’t find). The golden gift album …

r/Psychonautcomment4/4/2026
Don’t know what to do… Boyfriend living a double life

Uhm, why would you stay in a relationship to leech off someone. Is your mental health really worth the financial resources?

r/relationshipscomment4/5/2026
After 1.6 years of NC, my father sent me this Easter text. Looking for advice on how to handle the hoovering

You cannot trust narcs in general but someone who invokes God to manipulate people, is especially rotten. It feels fake because it IS fake. When his latest approach fails to work on you, he’ll try gu…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/5/2026
Girlfriend just dumped me because I don’t have enough

Yeah, you can do much better. She needs to learn how to provide for herself, not be a leech. You dodged a massive bullet with this one because she is too shallow in comparison to your depth, man!

r/BreakUpscomment4/6/2026
I (28f) found out my bf (41m) has been requesting cash back on my debit card?

He's a worthless leech who treats you like shit and steals from you. Grow a spine, stand up for yourself, and dump his ass.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/6/2026