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[Partner] Wife’s suppressed severe trauma surfaced. She’s in extreme ‘flight’ mode, refusing therapy, and I am burning out. Need honest outlooks. — \*\*Added some new context at the end Hi everyone. I’m hoping to find some perspective, hard truths, or shared experiences from those who have navigated severe PTSD/CPTSD dynamics. I am completely e…
How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2 — We stand with the disabled users of reddit and in our community. Starting July 1, Reddit's API policy blind/visually impaired communities will be more dependent on sighted people for moderation. When …
Question about POSM — In chapter 9 Murphy suggests simply repeating the word “wealth” over and over 3/4 times a day to attract wealth- he claims this method works because it does not contradict your conscious mind’s assump…
To the former LOAPorn folks here — Hi everyone! It's been about 3 months since me and my SP have been NC. It's quite a long story to retell it there, but we two got really close, and we were very happy with each other. However, due to…
Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading — # 6th Kill: $20,000 Money Mission **Mission**: To make $20,000 from futures trading **What I achieved:** I made $20,000 from futures trading **How long did it take:** 5 and a half months **Backgro…
Need Guidance on Turning My Design Into a Functional Social Media Website — Hello everyone, I’ve been learning IT for the past few months, with the long-term goal of becoming a white-hat hacker. I also have a couple of years of experience in graphic design. However, when it …
Can vague desires manifest? — So I am not happy with my current job but I am not 100% sure of the job that I would like to do. So I always affirm that I am doing a job that I love and enjoy and I am earning a mind blowing salary. …
Website Rebrand and Redesign Advice — First Let me say: I have absolutely no eye for design. If it is more complex than a stick figure, I cant imagine it in my mind. However, I do know of already existing designs that I love and want to r…
Am I crazy? Growing from a single freelancer to an agency with a team — Hi everyone - quick background: I'm a freelance web designer/developer who's been doing this thing now for almost 15 years. I've done it under a studio name, but it's always just been me, with some oc…
Wanted to share a website I recently made for small business in Croatia — I'm really happy how this one turned out. I both designed and coded it myself. Client told me I went above all of his expectations - but I'm wondering what do pros think? Link to the site if anyone …
Meta won’t let you control impressions, so I trained an RL model to do it — One thing that always annoys me with Meta campaigns: you can’t just say “give me X impressions.” It’s all budget-based, and if you’re trying to hit specific visibility goals (like consistent daily del…
The algorithm doesn’t hate you — Started working with a TikTok shop client who thought they were ***shadowbanned*** and we reversed that in 60 days. Views were at less than 200 per video. Sales? Even worse. It dropped from 30k to be…
Identifying website visitors (companies) tool recommendations for a trade publication — Hi guys! I have some potential freelance business for a trade publication in the design space (architecture, interiors, landscape, urban planning topics) and I was originally trying to pitch SEO, re…
What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …
Ranking a client in the map feature — Hi ya’ll One happy accident of my work is that now one of my clients is ranking in the map feature, but not for the typical anchor texts I’m using when I link out to them. But for different but relat…
We open-sourced internet’s largest incident response glossary with over 500+ terms — We just published a public glossary with **500+ terms** related to incident response, on-call, alerting, SLOs, postmortems, and more. I think this is perhaps the internet's largest glossary for incide…
How to Wreck Your Career: a cautionary tale from someone who has 5 years of experience.. — Context:- I am a 31 year old UX designer with a masters degree in industrial design from one of the top design schools here in India. I have almost 6 years of experience on the paper of which I hav…
[I will not promote] i built a tool to help with affiliate outreach because i kept forgetting to follow up — hey folks just wanted to share something i’ve been building on the side i’ve been trying to grow an affiliate program for a while but finding the right people is tough outreach feels like yellin…
Thoughts on an image sharing tool with link permissions? (i will not promote) — **Looking for feedback: Tool for sharing images securely with permissioned domains (like DocSend, but mainly for images)** Hey r/startups, I’m working on validating an idea and would love your thoug…
Thoughts on a platform that can give AI suggestions layered on top of product documentation (i will not promote) — **AI suggestions layered on top of product documentation** Hey r/startups, I’m exploring a product idea and would love to hear your thoughts. **The problem:** Many users land in product documenta…
Rating my website + getting help with ad setup — Hello! Ive started a small workshop where i produce and sell lamps. A lot of my designs are based on already existing popular ones but most of them ive come up with myself. I never expected to becom…
How Would You Approach Digital Marketing for a Premium Food Product Expanding Internationally? — Hi everyone, I run digital efforts for my family’s pistachio butter business based in Gaziantep, Turkey — a region famous for producing world-class pistachios. We’ve been in business since 2007 and …
Why do people in LOA communities ALWAYS go to Reddit for their problems when JM advised against that? — Hello everyone. I've been into JM's (and NG's) teaching for quite some time. I enjoy it thoroughly and dipped my toes into the subreddits, so hence why I'm here instead of the NG subreddit since I wo…
One the biggest founder skill is knowing when to walk away - I will not promote — Yes it's hard to kill a project. Yes you might think "I need to keep going" to make it. And that's true in a way, you need to not quit. But iterating/pivoting is not quiting. It's showing agility an…
LLMs ('AI') are coming for our jobs whether or not they work - Chris's Wiki — From [here](https://utcc.utoronto.ca/~cks/space/blog/tech/LLMsVersusOurJobs): > In most non-tech organizations, both internal development and system administration is something similar to janitorial …
What are good examples of “How will you acquire users?” i will not promote — From what I hear, YC advice kinda scoffs at paid ads — the logic of “you need to own your acquisition” makes sense to me, but I wonder what’s the answer they’d love to see? Offline events? Founder pe…
Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups (I will not promote) — **Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups** These are a few things I have come to learn while doing "startups," maybe it will help some entrepreneurs in their startup travels.…
What are your favorite tools to share changelogs, roadmap & features feedback with users? — We’re a B2B SaaS platform starting with beta testers in our production environment. We’re looking to integrate a tool to facilitate communication with the users, including: * having visibility on the…
I got my first devops position — I'm really happy about this but I don't have a lot of experience. I'm Actually straight out of college. I studied what kubernetes and docker was and even went to linenode to create a kubernetes cluste…
Voice-to-text recs for sales professionals — Happy Monday killers! Hope everyone's crushing their quota this quarter. So, I've been in sales for about 5 years now, mostly SDR roles, and I'm starting to feel it. My wrists are *screaming*. All th…
Like a mentorship, but more low key — Coffee Drips, Strategy Sips is a product that delivers daily steps of action to keep you and your digital business growing! ON SALE for $17 until tonight, back to $27 tomorrow. Private Telegram chat w…
Snyk/Bitbucket? — Anyone here have practical experience using the Snyk integration on Bitbucket? We're pursuing SOC 2 compliance and one of the checks requires CVE scanning of code during CI/CD. Other major CI/CD pla…
Furniture ecommerce idea - good or bad? — Looking to start a furniture ecommerce brand. I own a digital and branding agency so I can nail it on brand and design/UX but I'm torn on if the idea will work. For me, it'll be fairly economical to s…
Is it good to ghost people? — Hey everyone, I've been looking for client work as a freelance graphic designer and a few times now a potential client shows interest and sounds like a strong lead They ask for my portfolio I send i…
Help troubleshoot with removing unwanted bundles feature — Hello, I'm setting up my first shopify store. I'm not sure how, but there's a bundle offer on every product in my store. I'm happy having a bundles option. However, the lowest is 2, and I want people …
If you had to rebuild your business ops from scratch, what systems would you start with? — We've been working with small teams to rebuild internal operations from the ground up. Most of them come to us after things start slipping. The solution isn't always a new tool. It's often a few well…
Shopify Bill Pay - international vendor payments cannot be funded by Shopify Balance anymore — Im not in love with Bill Pay as its so sloppy and support is lazy. Plus they lock down accounts left and right and don't tell anyone. Once the new balance account numbers went out I saw that they were…
Are you running Exit surveys? — When your wife asks, “Does my bum look big in this?” Do you give the honest answer? Or do you say “no” to keep the peace? The truth might sting. But the people who tell you what you need to hear are …
Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search — **What It Does** This is an internal tool I’ve been building to help with UK property prospecting, market research, and deal due diligence. If you've ever tried to buy or invest in property in the U…
Looking for a technical co-founder I will not promote — Hey all, I'm working on a B2B SaaS platform targeting a specific form of fraud that's draining revenue from e-commerce and logistics companies. It's a blind spot for many, but the financial impact is…
advise on how to promote a social feed app to specific communities (i will not promote) — hi Folks, Over the years, I have been toying with code and platforms etc. and recently I had sometime and with the help of copilot + and external help I have been able to create a very low cost, scale…
Ever feel like you’re doing all the right things in business, but still wrestling with doubt, decision fatigue, or just low-level burnout? — You’ve got the strategy. You’ve read the books. You’re pushing forward... but something’s off. What I’ve noticed in myself (and in others I work with) is this: It’s not always about more knowle…
Looking for early adopters - Customer Review Reminder — I'm a solo builder and recently launched a simple tool called **ReviewReminder (https://www.reviewremind.com/)** to help small businesses automatically remind their happy customers to leave a review. …
Single Member LLC — I am opening a new LCC business. My mother suggested that she wants to help and contribute 50% of the capital to start the business. She also agreed that the LLC will be solely in my name, but we wil…
I did it, I quit my job! Scary or a Reborn? — I did it 🎉. I quit my 9-to-5 work and jumped into the wild, now I’m a full-time indie hacker. Scaling my agency, focus on service and SaaS, and building something truly mine. First month: I landed m…
Just Launched My Dev Tools Website - Looking for Your Feedback! 🚀 — Hey Reddit! I’m excited to share my new website with everyone here! It’s designed to be a one-stop destination for all your dev tool needs. I know there are similar sites out there, but I’ve often fo…
Yesterday I launched a landing page and I got 3 presales in 24h. (I will not promote) — I'm building a minimalist, AI based bookkeeping app. Went live with a simple landing page yesterday and shared it in a few relevant places. I was prepared for a long period of drought and self-doubt,…
What I learned building a quoting system for a construction company doing $10M+ a year — I recently finished a project for a construction company doing roughly $10M per year. They were quoting jobs using Excel and email threads, and while it technically worked, it was slow, error-prone, a…
I DID IT! Put in my notice today, focusing on my agency full time. — I've been working 70+ hour weeks for the last 16 months, working a full-time job as VP of Marketing for a Fortune 500 company while also getting my side hustle marketing agency off the ground. My agen…
I built a lightweight tool to automate Google review requests for small businesses – looking for feedback — Hey folks, I recently launched a micro-SaaS called **ReviewReminder**, designed to help small businesses (dentists, salons, auto shops, etc.) get more Google reviews *without manually following up wi…
I found a digital marketing course that teaches 10+ income streams—even if you’re starting from ZERO. — Hey y’all, I just wanted to drop this here in case anyone’s been looking for a way out of the 9–5 grind (or just wants to make real money online without all the sketchy stuff). A few weeks ago, I sta…
> Everyone coming here from the other subs is blessed to have finally sought a break from the emotional self-harm that seems to be at the core of the methodology in these other groups... which I took …
I actually like Neville for his psychological interpretations of the bible. Joseph Murphy is amazing too because his books are easy to understand and very practical. I do find most of Nevilles teachin…
Just a few questions here - I'm new to lucid dreaming. I garden quite a bit, so I can grow Artemisia douglasiana and a few other helpful herbs and make a poultice or something. I usually don't rem…
I attribute my LD to the episode ‘What was in Blue’s Dream’ from Blue’s Clues. Home sick one day from school, watched this episode, dreamed that episode that night then not only did I know I was dream…
Preach! I used to always skip these posts about not getting my ex back, but now I’m happy to be moving on, it’s much healthier and I don’t feel like shit everyday. The more you accept that you don’t w…
"Your silence will eat them up." I hope that's true. I know her crazy family talked her into leaving. She came over, we went to dinner, said she wanted to break up. Go to my place and hook up twice …
I'm really happy it lifted your spirit a bit. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here ! Have a BANGING DAY ! Smile. Breathe. Give yourself time to sob but in the same time, limit those tears. They…
Yea I can’t believe that 8 months ago I would have killed to get my ex back. Yeah no thanks . Very happy with myself and my life and the stars aligned perfectly for that child to leave my life. Univer…
What if I ruined the chance of possibly not getting back together due to me being an emotional abuser??For example, she broke up with me because of unhappiness, goal of finishing her college degree, a…
I’ve read few posts that are as “loser”-ish as this one. I’ve yet to study either in depth, but for anyone to not only BELIEVE that they are better than a very large group of people (all of whom are v…
Respectfully, this is what happens when you only focus on material aspects and totally disregard the "spiritual woo woo." I'm not saying everyone ever needs to be enlightened, but there's a reason why…
Absolutely. Be happy. Let them see you being happy if you happen to run into them. Do not follow them around. Do not follow their social media.
Relationships are 'us', not 'me'. Relationships which have 'me' first, don't last. Why do we get into relationships? Probably because we 'love' each other? And wouldn't like them to see them happy wit…
Happy endings like this makes me feel good, haha. So glad it worked out for you. :)
Was away this week, happy to put it in the rules when I get a chance!
So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…
Omg I relate SO much to what you are saying. When my ex's affair was discovered he was remarkably cruel to me. He wasn't sure he wanted to continue in our marriage and refused to cut things off with h…
What does that look like??? Find a new hobby. Anything. Try learning to knit. Learn to build robots. Take a class in 17th century blacksmithing. Join a woodworkers guild. Join an improve troupe. Volu…
I just want to say, I’m am so happy to have found this sub! Oh how I’ve created so much in my life, with LOB (unconsciously) and more so just belief and the movie the secret that started it all. Then …
This is silly. If someone is unhappy they’re morally allowed to break up with another person, no matter what.
Going through this rn and the day feels so slow, i just want to skip to the part where I'm moved on n happy :((
Congrats. I don't talk in the server much, but I can say that it's a pretty chill place with a lot of info there. Happy shifting.
Definitely true. My parents in law have been together for 40 years, married for 32. They started dating when she was 16 and he was 24! Something that's literally illegal in most places now and situati…
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Happy New Year and awesome achievements!
If you had bothered to follow the rules of the sub, you would've figured that out within 5 seconds. Banned 60 days. Happy new year
Thank you! Happy New Year!
Thank you! Happy New Year!
you can do it correctly all you want - it has to be permanent in you SM, and in response slowly changes your CM that you even start forgetting about desire. How many times you want want want smth, and…
You don’t even understand the point I’m making nor do you understand the essentials of it. But I’m happy, I want to gate keep this community lol but let me just tell you I’m getting my results. It ali…
I do agree, but I’m my experience my thoughts change naturally. It’s like I’m just happy, and I don’t even know the reason - happens due to reprogramming. I kind of forget about it. It’s not constantl…
Tbh you’re allowed to have your viewpoints but this is attention seeking behavior judging by your posts meant to get a reaction out of the people here. Also, why go on a Murphy sub for this? You alrea…
“If it’s isolating me, that would be my own doing” lol. You are brainwashed and in a cult. You sound exactly like the people in Jonestown did before they drank the kool aid. Cults have nothing to do w…
No babe. I’m happy as can be, I guess you don’t realize people can get into committed relationships without having to rock back and forth in their rooms doing affirmations and visualization all day, l…
This breakup was one I never wanted to experience to. Take my heart more sees were there then any other. From the outside looking in I loved the look. I bought her nice clothes and always she rocked t…
Well, you’re posting here and clearly don’t like the dynamic or you wouldn’t be asking us if we think it’s normal. I’m just saying that it’s not a dynamic that most people enjoy or find tolerable and …
I think taking personal time can come from different motivations. Securely attached people love their own time too, especially if they’re more introverted and have hobbies that require undivided atten…
Yes, I do this myself and see this happen with the guy I'm dating as well. I think it's triggered by positive feelings/increased connection or vulnerability. For me, when we get closer, or when he tel…
Avoidants might seem less irritating, but they have far less chance of ever being happy. They don’t want to change. They think their partner having basic needs is “needy.” They blame the anxious partn…
I’m happy for you.
No it doesn’t. That’s why we use different words for different things. I’m very happy this platform gives hurt people the chance to talk and figure out their feelings. Similarly- my comment you respon…
I was very much like you, and I had lots of commitment issues. I didn’t want to be anyone’s “girlfriend”, because I felt I would lose freedom, so I would willingly choose unavailable people because I …
Replacing BUT by AND and NO by YES when interacting with people and myself was an absolute game changer for me. I am always so happy when I hear others feeling the same joy. You explain brilliantly…
Sure! Some happen in conversation Let's take the example of a simple question to which you can answer with a yes or a no Example 1: Question : - " Do you want to go to the movies tonight? " ( You…
Just for giggles - do we think Travis is secure since she seems sincerely happy? Maybe she should have dated a football player sooner instead of these tortured artists.;)
Thank you for explaining. Im also super happy for you that you’ve grown from this,I know its hard. I’m in a relationship with an avoidant/emotionally unavailable man, so I’m bracing myself for impact.
I am in the same boat. Had my FA (maybe DA? I never knew about attachment theory until her. She was extremely committed and IN. LOVE. for 2 years and was much more anxious and attached. Then she was j…
Happy for you. Nobody asks to have an attachment style that’s dysfunctional. I’m working through mine and try so so hard to have compassion for others. But a big part of self love is learning how to h…
Haha didn’t work with mine, he would have been sooooo happy if I just didn’t text… he was such a little scamp. He had an excuse for everything… when it came to missing my call or not texting, the list…
Oof sounds like a DA. My MIL is exactly like that. I am happy that my FA did start to reflect and make changes to become more securely attached. It's been a long journey but now they will ask me for …