families

breakthrough trip & the bigger picture — Hello, it's me again. I know that there are people here who enjoy reading my experiences so thus my posting. Obviously a disclaimer is this experience is under the influence of a psychadelic, but it t…

I’ve been acquired!!! — Call it selling it out or whatever but when another company came calling with that deal and that check, all my hard work, all my team’s hard work, all the long nights finally paid off. Knowing that …

What do I do with an empty property? — A little background on me first. I’m a dentist, I already own my own practice which I’m not looking to relocate. Next to my practice my there is a 2800 square foot property with a small garden at th…

Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search — **What It Does** This is an internal tool I’ve been building to help with UK property prospecting, market research, and deal due diligence. If you've ever tried to buy or invest in property in the U…

Small business idea for neighborhood store — Hi everyone, I'm based in europe, greece and I’m looking for feedback on starting a small, neighborhood-oriented business that I can run mostly on my own. Here’s what I have: A 110 sq.m. ground-flo…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

First Time Serious Connection With an Avoidant — I was in a relationship with an avoidant for around 3 months and everything was going well and we weren't moving too fast in my opinion. We had gone on dates and met each other's families. They had be…

Is it just me or is "date secure people" a bad idea? — To be specific, people who were born into families that fostered secure attachment. Not earned secures. I think the latter is exactly what I need but there's no stat on how much of the population is e…

Bf of 14 months hasn’t said I love you — My bf (35M) and I (33F) met December 2024 on a dating app and became exclusive immediately after our first date. On our first few dates he asked what I was looking for and I said I was looking for som…

My boyfriend and I had an argument over his marriage demands, and now he claims he means none of it... — Tl:dr: My boyfriend of two years has a list of requirements from me after we get married, and after our argument over it, which lead us to break up-- he said he didn't mean any of it and wants to go …

“You must respect your mom, she’s your mom.” — How many times have I heard this lecture? People who have normal families have absolutely zero clue what they are talking about. When people see a situation or even read a situation they can’t tolera…

AM silent treatment is HELL — For context- two days ago AM asked me (19F) and my sister (17F) why our cousin and our close friends are scared or intimidated by her. We started making fun of her for the things she used to do or say…

I feel like I am probably wasting my potential because of family and not making a decision that I should?! — Today I was just enjoying the day. The weather felt quite warmer than few days ago. Love the spring season! Then I started wondering... Started thinking like how I feel that I am at a stage where i sh…

My (26/M) Girlfriend (26/F) Of 6.5 Years Emotionally Cheated and I Don’t Know What To Do — My (26/M) girlfriend (26/F) and I met our first year of college and started dating shortly after. We went through Covid together, graduated together, and started living together about 2 years ago. We…

Rant about Asian American access to education in NYC — This is specifically about NYC schooling so YMMV and may not be applicable anywhere. But for context, NYC has these "elite" specialized high schools were Asian Americans disproportionately make up the…

My mom called my son’s birthday party “f***ing embarrassing” because she cares more about what people think than celebrating him — **UPDATE:** Thank you to everyone who commented and shared advice. A lot of people suggested going no contact with my mom to protect myself and my son. I understand why people said that, but I want …

My (18F) girlfriend told me she is taking 5 days to think over if we should break up. What should I (19M) do? — TL;DR my girlfriend has reached a breaking point and told me she’ll consider being together but as of now we aren’t. Me and my girlfriend have been together for nearly 2 years and met our senior year…

Have we reached a tipping point with generational trauma? — So many people are just… so traumatized man. I’ve met way too many people over the years that are obviously stuck in a 4F response. I can’t imagine it was this bad when my parents grew up. Maybe it wa…

Does anyone else feel like they were robbed of real socialization? — Don’t know where else to ask this, but I’m assuming some people in here can relate. I feel like everyone around me grew up with these big, supportive families and close family friends and always had…

Energy Exchange: How We Give, Take, and Protect Our Vital Force — Energy exchange is, essentially, communication. The energy a person generates is given outward. But, in accordance with the laws of conservation of energy, a person must receive energy from outside. …

Marriage fixed and halted. 10 years of relationship. What is my (30F) future? — My 30F marriage was fixed for end if April with my boyfriend of 10 years. Everything was going smooth but a clash between parents regarding ritual turned ugly and now both families are not Agreeing f…

New to CE5s Should I be concerned? — Hi everyone. I’m new to the CE5 community, though I’ve seen orbs throughout my life. For years, I’ve followed Dr. Steven Greer’s work, believing that advanced intelligence must be peaceful or they wou…

33 year old therapist for people like us: It gets better when you're financially independent. Just hold on<3 — This sub has been such a validating place for me unlike my own South Asian friends and family members for SOME reason. Idk why they're so in denial of how our parents actually treat us. Long story s…

People are always shocked when abuse happens in "good families"...... but that's kind of the point. — I saw the latest news about the Duggars & how the mom was recently arrested and charged with child endangerment. What really stood out to me wasn’t even the charges, it was how many people were shocke…

I'm so sick of laying in bed — don't know what to do. I work a regular 40 hour office job that's not even that difficult or stressful. But as soon as I'm home, I end up in bed. Even showering feels like a chore. Getting out of bed…

I truely believe that their unwillingness to adapt to western life is the cause. — As the title says. I've been lurking here for a while (27M) and honestly from what I seen most of what happens could literally be from their stubborness to not adapt to western life. My uncles and the…

So I Live in a Sundown Town — We moved here to be close to family—none of them live in THIS town, and nobody warned us about the history. We moved from a diverse city and it breaks my heart; makes me concerned about my kids… But …

My fiancee (29F) and I (28M) moved abroad, now she is saying she wants to potentially stay forever. How do I tell her no? — My fiancee (29F) and I (28M) moved abroad, now she is saying she wants to potentially stay forever. Hello all. A few months ago, my fiancee (29F) and I (28M) moved abroad from our home country, we've…

Are my "corrective emotional experiences" all fake? I've developed a deep attachment to my therapist, but I feel so lost. — I'd love to hear your thoughts or see if anyone has had similar experiences. As my therapy goes deeper, I find myself becoming more and more attached to my therapist. I feel like the baby monkey cling…

As an ardent follower of Astrology - I now find it very dehumanising. — People are people - they are actual people with families, friends and personalities they've developed over time. They have redeeming traits and they will have areas of improvement to work on. To box a…

1.5 Years Update 💀 My predictions became true — No, I do NOT want my ex back—like ever 😭 but I do have a story + some lessons from how everything played out. So basically, about 1.5 years ago, my ex randomly broke up with me out of nowhere. Like……

Only child (30F, Indian, US). Parents financially exploited me and my husband for years. Set boundaries. Now they’re trying to destroy my marriage. — **The financial fraud:** My father retired with 1 crore and started building a house. Behind my back, he took a loan using my husband’s documents — claimed 45 lakhs, was actually 80 lakhs (POA fraud)…

I'm exhausted of doing everything myself — This is more of a vent but I do actually have a question, so stay with me. I thought I'd have someone by now. I wasn't raised great at all (post for another time/sub) so I know that figured into my …

How instilling pride in their cultural heritage helps Asian American men flourish — **Asian American men have long been marginalized by dominant white masculine ideals that portray them as outsiders, effeminate and inferior.** These negative stereotypes, perpetuated through the me…

How instilling pride in their cultural heritage helps Asian American men flourish — **Asian American men have long been marginalized by dominant white masculine ideals that portray them as outsiders, effeminate and inferior.** These negative stereotypes, perpetuated through the medi…

My viet parents ruined our house by insisting on hiring a family friend to renovate it over a professional — We have an ant colony in our walls, our drawers are falling apart, and our deck has rusty nails sticking out of it. Our house is literally only 20 years old, we were there when it was built, and we ar…

I just feel done with the world — It’s been a year and a half since discard. I was broken. I ruminated all day every day for the better part of the first year. The hot and passionate anger that was part of what I originally felt has …

Pediatric Hospice RN using Meditation to communicate with my terminally ill newborn patient for insight how to serve him and his family during his few days of life — I took a workshop with Bob Monroe in the 1970s. He and my mother argued about the best methods for OBE as we were active members of Eckankar and Surat Shabd Yoga prior focusing on the audible sound c…

Me (F19) and my (ex?)boyfriend (M20) are on a break/broken up and I’m unsure how to regulate my emotions — We have been together for around a year. We have always been very intense, honest, and serious about eachother. We are also both very intertwined with each other’s families, and overall everybody on b…

Breakup due to her grief + life circumstances…how do I make sense of this? — My ex (25F) of almost 3 years broke up with me (28M) about a month ago. The last few months were long distance, and this was a serious relationship — we had met each other’s families and were quite i…

Bias between Son and daughter by mother — In some families, parents insist they treat all children equally and that discrimination isn’t allowed—but in subtle ways, sons are prioritized, decisions are made around them, and daughters’ needs ar…

Don't know where to go from this, is my marriage dead? 38F and 38M, 15y relationship — Hello. Context: Im 38F in a couple with 38M since 2011. We have 2 kids (8yo and 6yo). Our relationship has never been very smooth, we both have huge characters, fights can be very heated (but without…

First step to being treated seriously as an AM is moving out of your parent's house. — This is more of an observational rant that I wanted share here in case it helps anyone improve their situation, because I have seen both sides of it. If you have Asian male life or dating problems, st…

WTF happened — Hello Reddit, I think I just need to get this off my chest. Because I don't get it. Today I shook my head while walking home, because I realised that I never actually took a chance in my life and I …

Please join me in listing things that you discovered aren't normal outside your own toxic upbringing — Eta- I decided I didnt like my paragraph so I am redoing it. Eta- paragraph contains examples of child abuse, TW So as the title states, I am seeking things that were completely normal in your upbri…

I need help, my SO is very not stoic and it kills me. — Long story short, My [M33] SO [F30] is very... not stoic and after married with her, it amplifies and gets worse as time goes by. She always gets irritated by what others are saying and when someone …

When you realize your family was never going to be able to hold you — I've been sitting with this for a while and wanted to hear from others who might relate. I grew up in an Asian family my parents, my brother (six years younger than me), and me. My parents didn't hav…

My (26F) ex(25M) ended our 5‑year relationship out of nowhere and I’m devastated — Hi, I’m going through a very painful breakup and I’m really depressed. I don’t know what to do. My post might be long, but I’ll try to keep it as short as possible while including the details that fee…

Do they ever miss us? — He left and transitioned soo quickly to the new girl. I end up thinking that wasn't I your bestfriend? didn't we have our own lingo, our sweet moments, our memes we shared, the topics we talked about?…

Why do they still think of you as the person you were when you lived with them growing up? — Do normal families do this? I haven’t lived at home for decades. Yet, my n-parents/siblings still think of me as the person I was back then. They never are willing to get to know for who I became a…

Internal Family Systems (IFS) is an approach to [psychotherapy](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/therapy) that identifies and addresses multiple sub-personalities or families within each pers…

Internal Family Systems (IFS) is an approach to [psychotherapy](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/therapy) that identifies and addresses multiple sub-personalities or families within each pers…

Depending on the family, some families none of the members can be your support if they’re too toxic/codependent. We’re all working on stuff!

We have a cultural problem. Why else would a huge amount of people be self serving in western countries?  Edit: if youre going to down vote at least show me youre evidence to back it up. My point is…

I think a lot of people have a hard time being self aware with how much modern culture and friendships have skewed one gender over the other. Theres even films and whole industries which prey on this …

I strongly agree with the labels part, I personally too consider thigs that you described a relationship, moreover than that we introduced each other to our families so yeah. No, I weren't asking abou…

Wow, you have done a significant amount of research. I am just now learning about these Avoidant Attachment Styles. I'm not real sure what my SO has, and I'm also not sure which attachment style I hav…

So I (37F) apparently still have anxious attachment. I thought I had managed to get past it 😅 so I started talking to a younger colleague (29M) at work. A couple weeks ago we admitted we liked each o…

Thanks for responding! I’m totally fine with a few texts a day and the lunch call and end of day call. What I’m saying is not most days I don’t even get texts through out the day… 😔 just 1 lunch time…

Exactly this!! When my FA ex discarded me I was upset, but only for a few reasons. Yes, she *can* be amazing. She said and did all the right things, we talked about marriage, blending our families an…

Sure, here is a portion that resonated with me a lot and made sense on what attracts me to the avoidants or unavailable or troubled people. Shall share more if you are interested: The need to be need…

No, I am not inverting the two. The avoidant attachment system is dismissive towards the internal self. There is a common misconception within mainstream pop-psychology attachment theory that dismiss…

Right, completely valid. It’s hard too when it’s reinforced because it’s real all around us and even statistics back it up. Like even if both partners believe men+women should be equals there’s still …

> because even the act of seeking out a boyfriend feel so pathetic, desperate, and needy. have you accidentally done the thing I've done where you've internalised being in a happy relationship as …

Oh God I hate dating "normal" people from "healthy" families. I always feel like a freak, and the way they act when they find out or tell them/joke about a trauma is so... ostracizing? othering? like …

Honestly for me it would depend on whether the person is truly accepting of me, including my journey of trauma healing. If I found someone born secure who was very empathetic and non-judgemental, it c…

I've had quite a lot of therapy already. My inner demons are "I often feel lonely when I'm not with people or talking to people". That feels like a fundamental trait in me and I've given up trying to …

I would like to note that I do understand what you are saying and get how Society plays a role. I think if anything, what I take issue with is its a little too black and white. That Instagram post is …

This is a doozy - met a very impressive guy, great job, amazing experience, family man, funny, fun to be around -but very low tolerance for ‘female hysterics’ - my words not his - he is pressing me in…

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"Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." (c) Leo Tolstoy. "Me and my BF are at 2 years and have no issues". "My BF and me got into an argument, but we stopped a…

Just curious, but what do you think he should be doing to make her feel loved? They're spending time together, he's planned out Valentine's, spend time with each other's families, go on vacations toge…

I think you’re carrying a lot of pressure that doesn’t actually belong to you. What you’re describing isn’t a man who’s withholding love, he’s a man who has a very different relationship with the word…

But she did concede that his families love language are acts of service. Planning dates, cooking for her…. It’s what he knows, and she cannot allow to completely fulfill her. Maybe he isn’t for he…

She did concede that his families love language are acts of service. Planning dates, cooking for her…. It’s what he knows, and she cannot allow to completely fulfill her. Maybe he isn’t for her, y…

Definitely tell her. She deserves better. And from what I’ve learned, people like that don’t stop and don’t “learn their lesson”. My sister got with a married man, who had two kids. He eventually left…

It’s always fascinating and heartbreaking that everybody around me got a chance to have a dating life. Yet I’ve never had a dating life and it certainly wasn’t due to not trying. These people have eit…

I feel the same way but as a woman, as much as I hate hinge I haven't met a single man in 'the wild' at the gym, run club, pottery class, etc. When I hangout at breweries I'm usually just enjoying my …

Middle-aged women will likely know younger single women, no? Through their families, coworkers and friends. Befriend them and ask them to set you up!

Hey everyone, I’m a 34M with anxious tendencies. I broke up with my 29F girlfriend (likely fearful-avoidant) 2 months ago during an argument over feeling ignored. We’ve been in strict no contact sinc…

Ya'll ever feel like you wasted your time and now you're behind? I decided to "focus on my career" in my 20s instead of actually living and now I'm 30. Looking back I have nothing to show for it, didn…

My daughter did say this. Is she in therapy? No. She has access to it if there is a need but when therapists, the school, extended family, myself, and most importantly herself all say it isn’t necessa…

date someone you have compatibility with and to hell with age gaps. I (34M) am currently dating a girl who is barely 25 (she was 24 when we got together), so an age gap of almost 10 years (9 years and…

Yeah I want to think like that too but friends have coupled up and some have started families. We don't go out like we used to and the apps are just not working for me. Taking this all together gives …

I've been practicing Radical Honesty (the branded modality you can learn from books & workshops) for a couple years now and it's been the #1 thing that's helped me. It's not "brutal honesty" or whatev…

Lord you said so much of whats been on my mind about meeting men in the wild. I go out to various events and its mostly couples, depending on the venue sometimes families, I dont approach because I'm …

Narcissist parents are unfortunately common in Asian families

I see what you mean, I'm sorry you've experienced that. That sucks. I've got a good relationship with my family but if someone doesn't, I don't automatically write them off. I'd ask more questions. …

This was my philosophy then men who were more inquisitive started calling me out.  Because in casual conversation most people mentioned their families. Stories on their favorite holiday traditions or…

I had a courthouse wedding with only our immediate families, but I got dressed up and my best friend did my makeup and hair (not super fancy, but I felt pretty because I don't dress up very often). My…

it is not insane. learn history. were all the men of old that hid families insane ? no. they are following a biological imperative to spread seed and create offspring. more lies = more families = more…

You feel guilt, because there's a line about how we should love our parents no matter what and expecting help or money makes us crappy people. Actually that's just bullshit made up by families to excu…

Have you seen that book called “Die Broke”? I was sent that in the mail to let me know they were planning to spend their money before they died. Good enough. Then my father made a point of telling me …

In my opinion? Research first, understand what the phenomena is. It is very broad, and extremely shocking if you ever get to interact with them! There is a mixed bag of a lot of different groups. Look…

I’m still legally married to my ex, who I am also besties with, though we live very far away. Hasn’t caused any issues with my dating life at all. We broke up nearly 5 years ago, have super good bound…

In that case, the families will know each other or the partner will be very familiar with your culture/roots.

My partner and I have been trying to actively avoid infections from COVID for years. Immunocompromised people in our household and extended families. Instead of saying sorry for exposing me to a who…

Decided to come to the movies alone because I had no one to go with. Lo and behold I wasn’t ready to be so triggered by all the friends, couples, and families.

As someone currently in academia. The brain drain to china is not as much as the brain drain to Europe. Most researchers that have already acclimated to being in the US would rather move to Europe, es…

I got back together with my boyfriend. Don’t get me wrong I’m still cautious but I’m also in love with him and we have a lot of history between us and our families. I gave him another chance. So far I…