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Healing The Shame That Binds You

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If your avoidant ex discarded you: go no contact immediately.

I'm still learning more about avoidance, myself. I've seen that some people can become more anxious if they're with an avoidant, and some people can become more avoidant if they're with someone who is…

r/BreakUpscomment3/18/2026
Has Anyone Else Struggled With Understanding What Child Sexual Abuse Is?

Has Anyone Else Struggled With Understanding What Child Sexual Abuse Is? — I've seen a couple of posts on here with people questioning whether they had actually been sexually abused or not. This really stands out to me because I also struggled with this growing up. In my opi…

r/CPTSDpost4/12/2026
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago.

My man, I feel that deeply, as a FA myself, who seems to exclusively date other FA or avoidants. You need to start here, TheLoveChat Youtube: https://youtu.be/H8yRnR3iYA8?feature=shared - this man h…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/20/2025
Book Recommendations

Facing Codependence by Pia mellody. Healing the shame that binds you by John Bradshaw.

r/Codependencycomment3/11/2026
Therapist told me I was a narcissist during a session, completely shutdown.

Man I feel like we could be the same person (in some ways)! I've been in therapy for ten years with many different kinds of therapists and many were helpful. The most helpful ones had backgrounds in u…

r/CPTSDcomment3/12/2026
Is it a trauma response to have a deep desire to acheive greatness or be someone very important while struggling with simple daily tasks?

Yes. Truma can cause it. CPTSD can cause Toxic Shame. John Bradshaw, says in his book "Healing the Shame that Binds You", that people with toxic shame may try to hide shame by trying to be super ach…

r/CPTSDcomment4/3/2026
Therapy moment

It's Not You by Dr. Ramani Durvasula: Focuses on healing from narcissistic abuse and reclaiming your life. Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker: A comprehensive guide to managing e…

r/CPTSDcomment4/5/2026
Can’t find a therapist anywhere. I’m scared I’ll have no choice but to die

I can suggest some books that helped me: It's Not You by Dr. Ramani Durvasula: Focuses on healing from narcissistic abuse and reclaiming your life. Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete W…

r/CPTSDcomment4/5/2026
I'm wondering if others feel like therapy is a scam?

Sure! Here's a few. Pete Walker is my favorite, definitely would recommend From Surviving to Thriving the most. Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving — Pete Walker  Trauma and Recovery - Judith H…

r/CPTSDcomment4/6/2026
cPTSD after Narcissistic Abuse

My first step to recovery was acknowledging my inner shame core. That was the basis for the constant negative thoughts. John Bradshaw talks about his in his book healing the shame that binds you. 

r/CPTSDcomment4/11/2026