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Believe your intuition! I realized in my own life that I was living a pre-scripted life, nothing I "choose" was really of my choice. My awakening was years before even discovering the existence of ta…
Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …
Webflow or Framer? — Which one do you personally prefer? And which one objectively has more potential in the long run/in which one can you do more than in the other right now? And how much steeper is the learning curve fo…
Why are WhatsApp IOS app icons so inconsistent? — I was trying to change my profile picture on WhatsApp when I noticed the icons were inconsistent. 1. The avatar icon looks smaller than others. 2. Camera icon has thin stroke. 3. Choose Photo icon …
Will shopify work with my algorithms? — Hello I have an online website that mainly sells subscriptions for dog food. I use WordPress right now but have been suggested that I switch to Shopify. My concern is that Shopify isn't as customizabl…
If You Were to Choose Accounting Software in 2025, What Would You Do Differently? [I will not promote] — Hey👋 I will not promote. As someone starting a new business. What would you prioritize, avoid, or do differently compared to past decisions? Any regrets from past software choices that you’d *n…
Hello everyone, I am new to this domain, I am PhD student searching for a side income, I’ve been searching about e-commerce lately, my question is how do you search for products, I mean where do you search to have options to choose from? Thanks for your time and sorry if it is long — .
Different Businesses Need Different Content Formats – Here's Why (i will not promote) — Hey everyone! One thing I see often overlooked is the fact that **not all businesses need the same type of content formats**. Depending on your target audience and the type of business you run, the …
[Hiring/Seeking/Offering] Jobs / Co-Founders Weekly Thread — # [Hiring/Seeking/Offering] Jobs / Co-Founders Weekly Thread This is an experiment. We see there is a demand from the community to: * Find Co-Founders * Hiring / Seeking Jobs * Offering Your Skillse…
How to add customisation order to customer notes? — We have a product you can choose to get engraved. All the apps I have found for personalisation put the customer request in the line item of the order. Does anyone know of a way to have it appear in…
as a tech leader, would you use react or angular for a new project? — The title says it all; if you were starting a new company and expecting to hire devs to build and maintain a web project over the next 5 years, would you choose react or angular as your primary framew…
What's your opinion on custom radio select inputs? — Hey folks, I'm currently working on an interface that lets users choose between two options. Technically, this is a radio input. But I've used Tailwind's peer classes to create a custom interface for …
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
Wordpress.com form — So basically I have my forms set up for my clients website and tested them. The contact form worked once for each language and haven’t worked since. It doesn’t even let me submit the form anymore. An…
Which Hosting to choose for a website with ~100 pictures uploaded per day by users — The website is mostly of the pictures posted by users. Please advice any good cloud storage that is easily scalable. My dev told me to go with digital ocean. They have so many pricings and I am lil co…
A great copywriter is worth their weight in gold — I've been building brands for 15 years. If you just got your first $20k-$100k budget to build your brand/web/app, let me humbly offer you a tip: # In 2025, the #1 thing that will affect how 'pro' you…
Help with my web site — I'm trying to make a website about an auto dealership, but some images I use are of the theme I choose and are showing like this , someone can help me pls
Can I use popular music in Reels for my Instagram Business account? — Hi everyone, I have a Business account on Instagram where I’m promoting my product. I want to start publishing several Reels introducing what I offer. During the creation process, Instagram allows me…
Help with agency name — I brainstormed names for a digital marketing and communications agency. Which of the following would you choose? Help me decide. Thanks. ** Bliss Marketing ** Maxim Digital Creative ** BlueMaxim ** B…
Help with agency name — I brainstormed names for a digital marketing and communications agency. Which of the following would you choose? Help me decide. Thanks. ** Bliss Marketing ** Maxim Digital Creative ** BlueMaxim ** …
Microsoft's interpretation of Journey Map vs Storyboard — Hey all I'm doing some Microsoft UX certification coursework and am puzzled on something that they don't seem to be clarifying very well. I know large companies may define parts / components of user c…
Would you use AI to automate emails and newsletter drafting for your products? — Hey there marketeers! 👋 I’ve been working on an AI-powered newsletter tool that automates content curation, summarizes insights, and generates newsletters based on sources you choose. The idea is to…
Need help with some direction — So to keep it short, I need some extra income. I work full time as a software developer, but I now own a house and my bills keep going up, and my salary isn’t. I’ve always had the idea of freelancing…
[Product Survey] Help us understand your auth/DB platform choices (Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, Clerk, and more) — Hi everyone! 👋 I’m a Product Manager working with a developer friend on a new backend-as-a-service solution, and we’d love your feedback. Whether you’ve used Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, Clerk, Authn …
How do startups choose between Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, and Clerk for auth & DB? What are your must-haves? (I will not promote) — I'm doing some research into how early-stage startups choose backend platforms, particularly when it comes to **authentication and databases**. I’ve seen a lot of teams go with **Supabase**, others sw…
Why does UX design cause me to overthink so much — A bit of background…I’m coming from a field that is pretty concise and doesn’t really cause me to overthink a lot (data analytics) whereas with UX, everything that I do, I overthink. Whether it’s synt…
Seeking honest feedback on an early mockup for a sustainable toothbrush brand — Hey everyone! I’m working on creating a sustainable toothbrush brand and I’m still in the early stages. The name, logo, and product design aren’t final yet. Before I move forward, I’d love to hear yo…
Self-soothe tips during ruptures? — I am the anxious partner, and my husband is the avoidant partner. He is also an addict, which has been traumatic in our relationship and in my trust in him. He is currently sober and working recovery.…
The most painful relationship and breakup I've ever had, but it cracked me open so that I could heal. I created a text message llm analysis tool that revealed insecure attachment. — EDIT - TLDR; 8-month, high-intensity relationship. I was DA-leaning; she showed a lot of push–pull/negative lensing. We loved each other and still couldn’t repair, so we went NC. Post-breakup I focuse…
I think I'm in the process of healing, but it hurts so much. Feeling very forgotten and abandoned tonight — I truly recognize and see how much I've grown and how far I've come. I have so much self awareness, gotten good at soothing myself, talking to myself, even managing anxiety attacks. It's not always pe…
I don't want to cry all day and feel lonely anymore. I don't want to fear abandonment anymore. I want to improve myself. — In 12th grade I became very close to a classmate of mine. Both of us bonded over shared trauma and basically became inseparable. We texted each other 24/7 and became very VERY affectionate which then …
"I want you to make yourself welcome in my life and in my heart" — These were the words that had me crying like a baby. I realized I had never heard or felt it in my life from anyone before, not even my own family and especially not my own mom despite the love I know…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
I’m still a magnet to guys who need help. (I stopped rescuing). — I used to be more anxious-ambivalent/codependent and enmeshed from family + an ex-friend. I’ve learned in CBT to separate someone else’s problems/emotions and my own to not become codependent again. (…
For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now? — I am quite curious to hear if there are others who are at a place in their life still in their own "wound care" (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of a previous unhealthy…
For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…
Happy and healing but still need to be "chosen." Advice welcome — I have been on a healing journey for my anxious attachment for a few years now. I am in a secure relationship where I have found a deeply vulnerable and safe connection and also know that if it ends I…
Projecting insecurities — Hi everyone, I’ve just realised something that I’ve been doing which I think is both an outcome of my low self esteem and also a way for me to find excuses to end relationships when otherwise I have n…
A letter to my FA Ex — I don’t even know why I’m writing anymore. I don’t know why I still pour my feelings onto paper when the person they’re meant for has emotionally switched off. Maybe this isn’t for you. Maybe it’s jus…
i feel safe with being almost loved | disorganized attachment style anthem | i want love but i'm scared | (cathartic release) — Lyrics: Love, for me, is just a hallway, Soft light, shadows drifting slow. I see a silhouette approaching Then I turn before my heart can get too close. Sometimes I feel a brush of something ten…
A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…
A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…
I want love but can't push past knowing that I would be a burden in all of my relationships — Hi, I am a 26F and want to seek some advice from this subreddit because I truly do not know who else I can talk about this with, and writing has always been easier than talking out loud. Sidenote: I …
SATURN RETURN & TRANSITING SATURN/NEPTUNE IN ARIES POSTS PROBLEMS — # PROBLEMS WITH SATURN RETURN POSTS We are getting a lot of Saturn Return questions as transiting Saturn enters Aries. First, many of you think your Saturn Return just began today, Feb. 14, 2026 (usi…
Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…
Can You Change How Your Moon Sign Expresses Through Conscious Behavior? — I have a theoretical question about how flexible natal placements are in astrology. For example, if someone has a Moon in Aquarius but consciously chooses to develop emotional habits and attitudes th…
Mom is being kicked out — Parentified eldest daughter here. haven’t spoken to my recovering alcoholic mother in years. Doing so always sends me into a spiral. She puts herself in awful, high-risk situations, never chooses her …
My boyfriend and I had an argument over his marriage demands, and now he claims he means none of it... — Tl:dr: My boyfriend of two years has a list of requirements from me after we get married, and after our argument over it, which lead us to break up-- he said he didn't mean any of it and wants to go …
True kindness is displayed under circumstances where being unkind would have been justified. — I am currently reading Marcus Aurilleus' *Meditations* as my first Stoic book. > When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself: The people I deal with today will be meddling, ungrateful, arrogant, …
Experiences With Cosmic Entities. — Hello everyone! This post will be a little bit different, as i wish to dive into odd encounters that i had with different beings, that surprisingly helped me out a *lot* - more than i could have possi…
The Guardian today [ps. I'm a totally lucid dreamer though can't choose what I dream, however every night is movie night and as graphic, in colour and sometimes I can change the dream by waking or sle…
We existed before incarnating here and we will still exist after death We are energetic beings and these physical bodies are seperate, we just use them to complete a purpose that we choose for incarn…
This is so interesting to read.. I was looking up astral projection and this reminded me of a recurring dream I had as a kid. I was a princess running along a path. It splits, and if I went Into the w…
One thing i have seen, but not learned fully yet. Is that relationships are extremely dynamic. A woman who hates you to death, who literally wants you see you dead. Or a woman who completely disrespec…
I can see you deeply care about her and I found it weird that you seem like a overall great dude but she still decided to end it. Have she mentioned the reasons why other than "dad wanted so"? I'm in…
I broke up but she didn't want to get back. It's my fault but she wasn't a Saint either. Immaturity on both ends. I have paid for my mistakes in heartache and tears. I hope you get the person who ch…
What does that look like??? Find a new hobby. Anything. Try learning to knit. Learn to build robots. Take a class in 17th century blacksmithing. Join a woodworkers guild. Join an improve troupe. Volu…
100% he uses it, the Law works for anyone who puts it to use, and "the rain falls on the wicked and the righteous" but here's the caveat: The universe functions on selfless giving, and all things ar…
Yes it's few. Can take months, but a change or at the very least some thoughts of thinking from the desire will be noticed within 2 - 3 weeks, IF you are doing the technique correctly. And they may ev…
It sounds like a hard job to decide what can stay and what should be removed. Say there was a post with a comment that could be taken negatively by the OP. Is that grounds for removing the comment? Wh…
I agree that in most cases you have to take some conventional action, as you just will by the state, but also as I've seen myself.. You can choose not to. I can just sit at home doing absolute nothing…
1. That is why it’s called maladaptive daydreaming. The person does so to escape their current reality. They are not making actual changes, thinking different thoughts, reconditioning the subconscious…
If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, LO…
It’s been a year (yesterday) since my ex cruelly and coldly discarded me by text (after 18 months of dating… and lots of life experiences).. “I can’t see you anymore, I wish you well”.. It was massive…
Yes, that's precisely my message! And that's why I started treating myself for my issues so aggressively since my late teens (now mid/late 20s). I didn't want to keep passing on the cycle, and this go…
And I think the point we are trying to show you is that your role is continuing to subject yourself to said pain. It’s not like you wake up one day in the thick of an unfulfilling, painful relationshi…
I was very much like you, and I had lots of commitment issues. I didn’t want to be anyone’s “girlfriend”, because I felt I would lose freedom, so I would willingly choose unavailable people because I …
You might want to look into relationship attachment styles, love bombing, and whether you're mistaking the slow burn as boring because it's stable and consistent. The excitement ppl often feel is actu…
I think your question is valid. You showed vulnerability by posting it here. I’m sorry so many adults in this sub choose to use their inside voice when responding. I think it would be different if we …
Your feelings are valid, AND they are not facts. The above commenter is trying to offer you some wisdom; you can choose not to be reactive and take it personally and look again and ask “what can I lea…
I understand. Glad you are working through those feelings. I hope I did not come off judgemental. I definitely don't think that your feelings are irrational (I might agree with the inappropriate part …
My mistake. I must have misunderstood that. I’m sorry. I still stand by my comment- you can’t always spot an avoidant. The walls they build to ice us out are not “up” until something triggers them. M…
Yeah and it's not that avoidants are lying, they actually like the love bombing stage. They actively choose to instigate that. U never see AA lovebombing avoidants in the beginning. Avoidants are l…
Your partner sounds Fearful avoidant, is he aware of his attachment style? I think all you can do is let him know in as blame-free way as possible that you notice a pattern in his behaviour that con…
I’m also an FA working towards secure, and I think I’m largely there, but part of how I know that I’m getting better is that I don’t tolerate this kind of shit in my relationships anymore. You’re not …
That’s pretty invalidating. Sure, a person can always choose what they want to do (unless they’re being literally abused), but it’s pretty hard act autonomously when you know another person will have …
Your db isolation level is set for each session, it's not a global db setting (which is why you can't change it). You can change the code you use to initialize a db session to choose a different level…
No straight simple answer to this. It depends on your data volume, schema, usage patterns (IE: read Vs write ratios, types of select queries), whether it's ok to serve stale data in some cases etc etc…
Cloudflare is fast, cheap and easy. Fastly from what I know offers more as it's based on Varnish but very few people need that level of complication. I only worked on one project that needed Varnish.…
Jsonnet for generating Kubernetes manifests. Despite having used it for a year now I don’t understand why anyone would choose this vs pretty much any other templating option. I just use it because it …
Thank you. I find we become a healing force when we choose to create healthy boundaries around harmful relationship dynamics instead of throwing our hurt around. It teaches safety in one's self, which…
I think we cannot really move on faster but definitely will bring less baggage into a new relationship. I think it just makes us more likely to heal than to gain scars we have to live with. Their acti…
Yea, it was a daily check. She said she felt it to be harmless and that she had ample time to do it. It didn't feel confrontational to her. It was just a simple prompt and all you had to do was choose…
>But if you were me and you had just discovered attachment theory, wouldn't you at least try use that new information to work on a solution? I think EVERY anxiously attached person in an anxious/avoi…
I'm the opposite. I choose anxious partners who smother me, freak out on me and make me responsible for their feelings and behaviors. So I try to fix their anxiety and essentially become their parent …
This seems like you’re taking normal boundaries and attributing malice to them… If i feel someone is hurting me more than helping or asking for more than they are willing to give, i have every right t…
You are also not going to have children with strangers, acquaintances, or even friends, and let those people potentially hurt you deeply + take half of your things when those relationship ends. You a…
Yes— multiple reasons I’ve noticed for this: 1. Easy an obvious, needing time away from them is seen as rejection because they don’t want time away from you 2. One of the things with us is that we …
Exactly, people need to communicate what they’re experiencing so their partner can work with them, but most of the people choose to stonewall which is harmful.
I think I get your point but I feel like we’re kinda talking about different things haha. All I’m saying is that to expect consistent communication from a partner that is working on their insecure att…
If you've ever had trauma, especially with a somatic response, you can consider attachment to be a form of trauma and it doesn't affect free will. Some parts of us aren't directly controllable, but t…
I'm definitely not a philosopher by any means, but here are my thoughts. The article references previous research by Monroe & Malle (2009), where it's said that people's concept of free will consists …
I'm secure. I can't relate to those feelings in general but everyone hates a fake person! Not everyone is fake though. Not getting a response can make me feel anxious, let down, or rejected -- not g…
Why can't they stop experiencing love like they say they do and start experiencing it like I think they should??? >Avoidants should swear off dating forever and leave us who are actually capable of l…
While I understand your motivation, the dating scene has changed, and situationships are now part of it. You must find a way to incorporate it into your mating strategy. You should come up with a ti…
You choose them too 👹 once you find out they’re avoidant you need to RUNNNNN
I'm not suggesting that sub is 100% bad (nothing is all bad or all good). But it's absolutely an echo-chamber that frequently becomes toxic and dehumanizing, conflates every negative behavioral trait …
I will say this tho this is why I choose not to date advodants if meeting your partner's needs gives you anxiety I dont think i’d be happy in that relationship. I take pleasure in meeting my partner's…
I think this is an interesting question that I have often thought of. I didn't read the study, but in general I don't think anyone should think of "attachment style" as an immutable characteristic - …
Thank you ❤️ I am not sure what wording you prefer, but you can post anything like this: - Rayu deserves to be paid for the meditations you’ve sold. You talk about manifestation and abundance, pay t…