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I need help, please read. — This is messily written because im really not ok. My first relationship. A year and a half from my first day of college. She wanted me from the second she saw me from a distance. She loved bombed me …
Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …
Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means) — I last posted a variation of this a little over 5 years ago. We're a little overdue for a repost. --- You know how every Uber rating is right on the verge of 5 stars unless something's particularly …
A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse. We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon. W…
The "and" theory... — I saw this a few days ago and started to implement it, I can't tell you how much it has allowed me to have more compassion for myself, create a clearer head and process my emotions. The and theory is…
The song “I love you, I’m sorry” by Gracie Abrams makes me think of the POV of a DA — I'm DA, and I just listened to this song. It feels like a DA talking about how they sabotaged a good relationship, and they regret it. This line particularly hits: "I like to slam doors closed, trust…
What is your go-to method for catching post-design issues? — After wrapping up a web design project, What is your usual approach to spotting missed details or issues? Do you have a personal system, or rely on tools, testing, or just a fresh perspective after a…
Helping my partner — I (40f) looove my partner (36m). We've been together almost 9 months. When he isn't triggered, he presents as very secure. Loving, consistent, communicative, vulnerable, empathetic, self-reflective. …
Why you should always schedule your job interviews in the early morning. — I got reminded today of a very important tip when you're setting up interviews. \>> Do not set up job interviews at the end of the work day. In short, there have been studies done on judges that sho…
Blog built with “Projects” in Divi instead of “Posts” – Will this hurt SEO? — Hi everyone, I’ launched mta website using WordPress + Divi (still in early stages), and my site developer set up the blog section using **“Projects”** instead of the standard **“Posts”**. Now I’m c…
What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …
Minimal or No Design Emails Will Almost Always Outperform Designed Emails — For most ecom owners, either spending the time yourself or paying a professional to intricately design each of your emails has to be one of the worst ROI decisions possible. I'm not exactly sure wher…
What will it take? — Seriously… What does it take to land a UX role these days? My wife is graduating with her masters in UX from a good program but it seems that the industry is evolving and everyone is making it seem …
Building My First B2C SaaS Product – Learning, Struggling, and Still Going — I’ve been working on my B2C SaaS app **Gamify** for a little over a week now. It’s a habit-tracking, gamified to-do list app — a mix of fun and structure I’ve always felt was missing in other tools. …
10 startup lessons I’d tattoo on every founder’s arm (in comic sans) - i will not promote — 10 startup lessons I’d tattoo on every founder’s arm (in comic sans) 1. no one cares about your idea. not even your mom. show traction. 1. 2. build fast. talk to users faster. and by “talk,” I mean…
From Rejection to Redemption: How I Broke Into DevOps — Guys, I'm here sitting on my back yard on a beautiful Saturday and I am about to sign an offer letter with a Fortune 500 company — with a 25% salary increase. But just a few months ago, I was getting…
Breaking Into UX and Early Career Questions — 05/04/25 — Please use this thread to ask questions about breaking into the field, choosing educational programs, changing career tracks, and other entry-level topics. If you are not currently working in UX, use…
What did you pay for your Shopify store (agency/designer)? Was it worth it? — Hey everyone, I’m currently looking for an agency or designer to build my Shopify store, and the quotes I’ve received range from €5,000 to €15,000 – for what seems to be similar scopes of work. That’s…
What did you pay for your Shopify store (agency/designer)? Was it worth it? — Hey everyone, I’m currently looking for an agency or designer to build my Shopify store, and the quotes I’ve received range from €5,000 to €15,000 – for what seems to be similar scopes of work. That’s…
Can’t Access My Shopify Store Created with Google Login – Stuck in Login Loop, No Password Option — Hey everyone, I’m having a frustrating issue and hoping someone here can help. I created my Shopify store using the “Continue with Google” option with my Gmail so I didn’t set a password because Goog…
Is WooCommerce the Right Fit for Your Wholesale Business? — If you're a wholesaler considering WooCommerce for your B2B operations, it's essential to weigh its capabilities against your business needs. Here's a concise breakdown based on insights from Qoblex :…
Ecommerce shop losing money inconsistent results with ads — Hi hope everyone is doing fine. I am running a woocommerce store for the past 5/6 years. The first few years had been great I had been generating a lot of revenue and profit. I run a woman fashion st…
Ecommerce shop losing money inconsistent results with ads — Hi hope everyone is doing fine. I am running a woocommerce store for the past 5/6 years. The first few years had been great I had been generating a lot of revenue and profit. I run a woman fashion st…
Are you importing from China? Have questions about the new tariffs? — Hello u/ecommerce We’re interviewing experts in Chinese manufacturing and cross-border logistics this week to break down how the new US tariffs are affecting e-commerce sellers. If you're unsure…
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads — I recently led a Reddit content repurposing campaign that got over **4 million impressions** and **hundreds of new user signups** for my client. Here's exactly how I did it. # Why Reddit, and why use…
Shopify staff: Please let me handle shipping by item instead of weight. I shouldn’t need an app for that… — Just let me do it like every other service on earth… it’s so simple on google merchant center etc. Doing something simple like offering free shipping for 2 or more items is such an exercise in frustr…
What are the Benefits of AI in eCommerce that actually influence why we buy? — I was reading up on how ai taps into emotions like FOMo urgencye or even guilt to push you closer to a purchase. and it’s not always obvious it’s subtle stuff like “only a few left prompts or remindin…
Can I use popular music in Reels for my Instagram Business account? — Hi everyone, I have a Business account on Instagram where I’m promoting my product. I want to start publishing several Reels introducing what I offer. During the creation process, Instagram allows me…
What Platform Engineering Really Means (and How It Differs from DevOps and SRE) — Hey all, I just wrote a piece breaking down what **Platform Engineering** is — not just as a buzzword, but as a real discipline that’s emerging in many engineering organizations. 🔧 **Key takeaways…
The song Wicked Game by Chris Isaak sounds like an AP singing about falling in love with a DA — A few weeks back I wrote about "I love You, I'm sorry" by Gracie Abrams sounding like the pov of a DA. Well, I was listening to Wicked Game by Chris Isaak today and it occurred to me that the lyrics …
What made you hate component libraries? — Component libraries make life a lot easier, cause I don't need to spend 6 hours trying to figure out why my dropdown menu won't align to the middle by 3 and half pixels. However, as time goes on you …
How do you effectively refine wireframes into a responsive design? — I’m currently working on a website redesign and started by sketching out some wireframes to get the structure right. I found some great wireframes on [wireframes.org](http://wireframes.org) to use as …
Underestimated fulfillment in my eCommerce startup, nearly paid the price — When I launched my first eCommerce brand, I thought fulfillment was "easy" find a product, set up a store, ship orders. Simple, right? I couldn’t have been more wrong. As soon as we got traction, thi…
Want to start your ecommerce website but short on funds? — 💡 Want to Start a Business But Think It’s Too Expensive? Think Again — Shopify Store Setup Starting at Just $50. We help entrepreneurs like you launch fast without breaking the bank. ✅ Beautiful Cu…
How Liquibase Simplifies Schema Management — If you've ever deployed schema changes manually, you know the pain: tracking SQL scripts, guessing what's applied where, and praying nothing breaks in prod. I recently wrote a post on how **Liquibase…
Head of Digital - Feeling burnt out. — Hey everyone, I’m in a “Head of Digital” role at a mid-sized company — but in practice, I’m the only technical person in a team full of editors and project managers from a traditional print publishin…
Being an Entrepreneur is bloody hard — That's a quote from Dan Pena and it's absolutely right. The bum boys on Instagram, YouTube and all the rest that pretend like it's easy are 1000% full of it. The true life of a business person and e…
Solo founder here—bootstrapped a travel startup, no bookings yet. Influencer model failed, paid ads feel too risky. What would you do? — Hi everyone, I’m a solo founder of hopmytrip.com trying to build a travel group tour platform—basically fixed-date trips to places like Bali, Thailand, and Vietnam, where people from any country can …
💾 Why You Should Consider MinIO Over AWS S3 + How to Build Your Own S3-Compatible Storage with Java — Hello ! I just published a 2-part series exploring object storage and S3 alternatives. ✅ In Part 1, I break down AWS S3 vs MinIO, their pros/cons, and the key use cases where MinIO truly shines—esp…
Small Business Case Study: How We Grew Our Instagram & TikTok with an AI Social Media Assistant (No Ad Spend!) — **Post Body:** Hi everyone! I co-own a small business (a boutique cafe + online store) and wanted to share our experience using an **AI “social media assistant”** to grow our Instagram and TikTok. W…
Do push/pull dynamics happen even when you’re not participating in them? — I (F, 32, originally AP, now definitely more secure) have just gone through a very confusing dating experience. 3 months ago I started seeing this man (34 met on Hinge). He started off very interested…
how do people get their product in stores? and how do they manufacture it from scratch? — I just saw a cnbc money video about a random guy that started selling plain old peanut butter and made million. crazy thing is I recognized the peanut butter brand and it just started showing up all…
ELI5: What is TDD and BDD? Also, TDD vs BDD? — I wrote this short article about TDD vs BDD because I couldn't find a concise one. It contains code examples in every common dev language. Maybe it helps one of you :-) Here is the repo: https://githu…
Would you use AI to automate emails and newsletter drafting for your products? — Hey there marketeers! 👋 I’ve been working on an AI-powered newsletter tool that automates content curation, summarizes insights, and generates newsletters based on sources you choose. The idea is to…
how do you manage cache browser control- after version update? — here's the problem- obviously we don't want to screw up our clients when they are working, so a new version should be in a manner that won't cause conflicts in the previous version, which has loaded …
Wordpress Staging vs. LocalWP for website redesign — Hey everyone, I’m working on a full redesign and cleanup of an existing WordPress website, and I want to make sure the development process doesn’t hurt the site’s current SEO at all — both during deve…
[Product Survey] Help us understand your auth/DB platform choices (Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, Clerk, and more) — Hi everyone! 👋 I’m a Product Manager working with a developer friend on a new backend-as-a-service solution, and we’d love your feedback. Whether you’ve used Supabase, Firebase, Auth0, Clerk, Authn …
Awaken Your Freedom — Forget long lectures - in just minutes, you'll get a fast breakdown, raw ideas, real-world examples, and powerful insights from the greatest books on personal growth and financial freedom https://ope…
Scaling a Faceless YouTube Channel into a small business. — Around a Month ago, I started mentoring a few people on how to start a YouTube automation channel/business with no real launch, just looking to help a handful who was serious about building something …
The book 'It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken' really helped put things in perspective.
There aren't many but as far as I can tell there are a couple which could qualify. 1. Escapism. Just like anything fun, let alone of the "reality substitute" type, there is the potential to use it e…
Everyone coming here from the other subs is blessed to have finally sought a break from the emotional self-harm that seems to be at the core of the methodology in these other groups... which I took pa…
> Everyone coming here from the other subs is blessed to have finally sought a break from the emotional self-harm that seems to be at the core of the methodology in these other groups... which I took …
Yeah I understand. So one thing you'll notice if you try formal meditation is when when you begin to relax the eyes you become aware of the tension and strain that is *already* there. With patience an…
"Your silence will eat them up." I hope that's true. I know her crazy family talked her into leaving. She came over, we went to dinner, said she wanted to break up. Go to my place and hook up twice …
Kinda cruel to do something that hurts them. Haven't you both hurt enough from breaking up? I mean most couples did have allot love or strong feelings for their person at some point. Getting closure i…
In my experience, No Contact is for you first and foremost as a human being to heal and be a better version of you. If (and I mean IF) your ex contacts you, consider it icing on the cake. And hearing …
Oh dude last year I split up with a man and I was DEVASTATED. Like, thought I’d never meet anyone like him again, tried everything I could to get him back, and then finally went no contact with the in…
Duck them especially the ones who used you during their break or a short time until their need dries out and with no trace or care they disappear
Best advice EVER. Thank you, yes, we are all flawed ...in relationships, esp Break ups, the parties both act like victims...sheesh, none of us are perfect.
I love my ex but we were so toxic together and our breakup did wonders in showing me how horrible our relationship was and just how much work I have to do on myself. My hope is maybe… in the future we…
Idk usually that means they're hurt by the break too and distracting themselves
My concern has been 3 years of astral staking by a person who abuses the astral. They have been taken over by a negative entity. And now energy harvest daily. This has taken energy workers many goes a…
I wasn’t even in a gf/bf relationship but we were really good friends. I made a move when I was feeling myself (wasn’t bad) and then that changed things. Ever since, communication hasn’t been the same…
I’m in that situation now. When asked if he wanted to continue seeing me, he said he wasn’t sure of me and he didn’t like feeling it this way and that we should probably stop seeing each other for now…
Yes!!!! You said it! I agree. I believe that too much Disney and dumb Hollywood films has gotten people thinking that relationships work after they have been broken… answer is no. Also people who play…
I contacted mine with a text and she didn’t respond back, it’s been 21 days. I know she probably saw it and I want anyone who reads this…DON’T! Because it’s been about 3 years about 2 with no contact …
Because thats not how relationships work. You can’t solely be thinking of whats best for you. If I date someone yet kept myself before them all the time, that relationship would probably not last very…
Look up Vicent Bos on YouTube, great insight of the dumper and dumpee. YouTube is a gold mine to get better insight about break ups, toxic relationships, the psychology of it, why you attack toxic ppl…
Anyone still posting on here? I drove my ex away with my insecure attachment style, looking back he kept putting in little effort and I felt as though I was trying very hard to change. I’m sure he wa…
I am a 40yo male with a partner who experienced emotional neglect. How can I be a better support person for her without sacrificing my own mental health? We have been together 5 years and we still br…
I agree. And a perspective from someone who’s sort of finally on the other side of heartbreak recently - it might not. I have no evidence that my ex even misses me. We just don’t talk anymore. Hones…
Easier said than done. I have no motivation to do anything. She was a big motivation for me in life. I’m going on 13 days NC now, and I have a very very strong urge to reach out. She reached out 3 tim…
Those who don’t add value to your life the way you add value to theirs will always be leeches feeding off your energy and your love. Mourn them cause they’re figuratively dead to you and remember that…
No contact is NOT about getting the ex back! It’s about truly moving on, breaking free mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It’s about freeing yourself and truly letting go. It’s not meant to be a …
This is so hard to do for me. It’s only been a week or so now but I would end my life if not for my 3 little kids. I can’t believe the woman I’m still in love with thinks so poorly of me she wanted to…
Aww im sure you would be able to find a partner that love you despite your autism. My ex is autistic too. He broke up with me and didnt even explain the reason behind the breakup. It hurts so much. …
Agree. This looks different for everyone and no one is perfect or does everything right every time during this process. Give people a break- unless they ask, you don’t have to open your mouth before…
So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…
>The baby immediately notices and first tries to laugh or shriek or point, or do anything that has illicited a reaction from its mom in the past. The mom does not react. The baby quickly escalates to …
Yeah, most people break up not having tried couples therapy, or truly starting to fix finances, or many other things. They just get fed up from repressing resentment that could've been mediated by a p…
Ew. I hate an ex who breaks up with me but wants to stay friends. You cannot have your came and eat it too and you cannot have me whatever way you want and demote and downgrade me after my investment …
I realized after I read my initial response how much I repeated myself. Sigh, this shit is hard. Brain not firing on all pistons. The reason I asked for compassion is because he is acting like it’s a …
What does that look like??? Find a new hobby. Anything. Try learning to knit. Learn to build robots. Take a class in 17th century blacksmithing. Join a woodworkers guild. Join an improve troupe. Volu…
I just want to say, I’m am so happy to have found this sub! Oh how I’ve created so much in my life, with LOB (unconsciously) and more so just belief and the movie the secret that started it all. Then …
This is silly. If someone is unhappy they’re morally allowed to break up with another person, no matter what.
Ive had female friends who can dettach and drop a guy as easy as theyre changing clothes and would always tell me to be like them so I dont get hurt, but the thing is I would rather be hurt than hurt …
Also there seems to be an overreliance on arbitrary "rules" like "age gap bad" (obviously some age gaps really are bad but five years in your 20s shouldn't be such a big deal IMO) or "high school swee…
Ya when she left I bagged her not to go her phone had shit the bed too but I had bought her a back up phone because she was a frequent breaker and losing phones so I had one for back up for her lol an…
I totally agree that there is a general trend to project personal issues and give drastic advice, especially since... well, it's not your life. I particularly notice it when it comes to fear of a par…
I wonder about silence. Does posting on SM give them that hit they're after ? I post once every week or so and they never post anything. It's ground to a halt since the breakup.
I've seen the opposite. I've seen people encourage illegal acts. It was a recent post about a PS5. The girlfriend bought their boyfriend a PS5 for his birthday and like a week later he said he wants …
The longer I hang out here, the more astounded I am how easy it is for people to throw around 'break up/divorce/dump him/her'. Almost as if they found some wicked satisfaction in pushing real people i…
Ykw this makes alot of sense. I'm ngl i do say break up especially with cheaters but most times i try to give another option. It might be a terrible idea to break up and there goes a relationship that…
I had a quick glance at this on my break and will chip in more later, just by point 1 alone I see you haven’t grasped it, feeling is the secret indeed. But the feeling isn’t emotions. 2 That knowing…
It literally is, look at that essay you wrote. You’re overcomplicating things and applying 3D thinking to something that really has little to do with the 3D. The 3D is merely the result of all of this…
I say just get used to it. This is a breakup subreddit and in the early stages of grief it’s pretty much impossible to not ask those questions. I do believe no contact is a boundary that cannot be era…
I don’t understand your take on this. No contact has time and time again been proven to be the best thing you can do for mutual healing if the breakup was bad or not mutual. Giving eachother time an…
I’ll take a crack at it Point 1: The answer is sm vs cm thought. Daydreaming is not focused with intent, the mind often wonders and you still feel it’s not true in the end or with emotions that are …