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Just had an epiphany reading the post and the first comment You know how you focus on a singular thing and all the other things kinda disappear leaving the only thing that you see is that one singula…

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Does attachment style start to shift after cutting out toxic family members? — Recently, I removed a toxic family member from my life after years of emotional turbulence and manipulation. This person liked to gaslight me, hold past mistakes over my head, and blame me for everyth…

Cannot stay attracted to dating app matches — I've never been in a relationship but I've been working on myself a lot and trying to put myself out there to find love. And I've just noticed a pattern of mine. But I just keep losing interest or ge…

Struggling to grow a small brand organically—what actually worked for you? — Hey everyone, I’ve been working on growing a small e-commerce brand for the past 8 months—nothing huge, just a niche lifestyle product I really believe in. I’ve been mostly focusing on Instagram and T…

I learned SEO on Reddit, now learning LLIMO anyone else? — I gathered a lot of my SEO knowledge right here on Reddit,and now I’m starting to get into LLIMO (Large Language Model Optimization).It seems like a really exciting shift,anyone else diving into this?…

What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …

Is there a UX role in existence that doesn't involve so much documentation? — So I come from a background in design. I was a bit of a generalist before—branding, logos, layouts, art direction—and while that was fun, it started to feel fragile. Like I was always one trend away f…

Behavioral psychology ruined most UX tips for me (in a good way). — I used to follow every UX “rule” simplify, reduce clicks, make it obvious. Then I started reading more psychology, and things flipped. Stuff like loss aversion, commitment bias, and the labor illus…

Canary like deployments for Custom Resources? — Why is there no Canary-like deployment orchestrator for Custom Resources with quality gateway analysis? AFAIK, Flagger, Keptn ( have some maintenance problems ), Argo Rollouts, these are tightly boun…

Success comes to those that can manage 4 innovation risks (I will not promote) — As a startup, your role is to strategically manage innovation risks to unlock your business’s financial potential. To achieve this, focus on addressing the following key risks: • Desirability Risk: …

I’ve decided to go all in on my mental health tech startup — how do I fully shift from side project mindset to founder mindset? - i will not promote — Hi, I run a platform with digital tools to help people build mental strength and emotional resilience. Until now, I’ve treated it like a serious side project, but starting today, I’m committing to it…

The way we use ‘UX design’ today doesn’t feel right anymore. — It’s starting to feel vague, like saying we’re “designing happiness. But happiness isn’t designed directly. It’s the outcome of doing a lot of things right: clarity, trust, usefulness. UX used to p…

Is anyone else feeling the pressure from new import tariffs? How is it impacting your business or ways you source stuff? — With all the recent shifts in trade policy, I’m curious how others are handling the growing pressure from import tariffs. Especially those sourcing from China, which I suspect is most of us here. For…

Any experience monitoring Redshift — Does anyone have experience monitoring Redshift? We've been having a series of data incidents and we're lacking visibility for what's happening with various jobs. The team usually resorts to tracking …

I made $32 after 16 months of coding. Was it all a waste of time? — Over the last 16 months, I’ve done something that sounds cooler than it really is: I built a SaaS. In my free time, at night, on weekends, while everyone else was at the beach or watching Netflix, I …

Why do MNCs seem to avoid the MERN stack? — I've been working with the MERN stack for a few years and noticed it's quite popular among startups and smaller tech firms. However, when I look at job openings in MNCs, I rarely see MERN listed—most …

If you had to rebuild your business ops from scratch, what systems would you start with? — We've been working with small teams to rebuild internal operations from the ground up. Most of them come to us after things start slipping. The solution isn't always a new tool. It's often a few well…

How do you transition from low-fidelity wireframes to high-fidelity designs? — I’m in the process of designing a web app and started with these [low fidelity wireframes](https://wireframes.org/) to map out the structure and flow. It’s been really helpful for getting ideas down q…

Designing for AI feels like UX without control. — With AI interfaces, especially ones powered by LLMs, the experience changes every time. There’s no fixed flow, no guaranteed output, just probabilities. It made me realize most UX principles assume…

How to handle shift from input error inline with button? — [https://imgur.com/a/91hc4Tu](https://imgur.com/a/91hc4Tu) I want the input to be inline with the button, but that fails (items-end) as soon as a form-validation error shows. I tried making the input…

SF Community to AEM — Keeping it short we are exploring shifting our front end from Community to AEM and I’ve never lead this type of project. Any advice? Things to look out for during process?

I’ve failed at startups, lived on the road, and I still believe I’m successful — I was 19 when I started my first startup. I led a team of 15 people, wanted to change the world. And I failed. At 21, back in 2016, I left home without any money, hoping that traveling would help me …

Ever feel like you’re doing all the right things in business, but still wrestling with doubt, decision fatigue, or just low-level burnout? — You’ve got the strategy. You’ve read the books. You’re pushing forward... but something’s off. What I’ve noticed in myself (and in others I work with) is this: It’s not always about more knowle…

ELI5: What is TDD and BDD? Also, TDD vs BDD? — I wrote this short article about TDD vs BDD because I couldn't find a concise one. It contains code examples in every common dev language. Maybe it helps one of you :-) Here is the repo: https://githu…

I did it, I quit my job! Scary or a Reborn? — I did it 🎉. I quit my 9-to-5 work and jumped into the wild, now I’m a full-time indie hacker. Scaling my agency, focus on service and SaaS, and building something truly mine. First month: I landed m…

Spent 1 year solving a problem users “loved” but wouldn’t pay for: my learnings [I will not promote] — We are 2 years into building our SaaS, but spent 1 year building something people “loved”, “were excited about”... yet did not pay for. Since then, we have slightly pivoted and gained traction, but I …

Pouncemonial: 9th Kill - 30 Successful Trades — **Mission**: To accomplish 30 successful trades **What I achieved**: Accomplished 30 successful trades and learned how to execute and manage trades well. **Background**: With the previous kill, …

antidepressants and avoidant attachment — i (22f, FA) came off venlafaxine (SNRI) about two months ago after being on it for 5+ years for depression and anxiety. predictably a lot of stuff is coming up, OCD and BDD symptoms, anxiety is a bit …

Learning to take space, self regulate and set boundaries as an AP earning secure — I have always leaned AP but working on security and now in a relationship with an FA leaning heavily avoidant I've realised a big goal for me is learning to self regulate and set better boundaries. Fo…

Depression and self harm needs to be discussed with professionals. — I cannot stress this enough. Please do not use suicide coded language or express intent or desire to self harm in this subreddit. These are issues that need to be addressed by trained professionals. M…

This situation is too messed up — Hi everyone, I (20F) really need some guidance about my SP (19M). We’ve been on and off for the past 2.5 years, and our relationship has always been very messy constant fights, unnecessary arguments, …

I don't want to cry all day and feel lonely anymore. I don't want to fear abandonment anymore. I want to improve myself. — In 12th grade I became very close to a classmate of mine. Both of us bonded over shared trauma and basically became inseparable. We texted each other 24/7 and became very VERY affectionate which then …

Any support groups out there for preoccupation with dating? — I think the obsessive thoughts and rumination around dating (status, ongoing situations) is a common thing in anxious attachment so seeking support here. Has anyone found any support groups or what l…

How to shift focus when anxiously attached — I'm anxiously attached and have very little to no sense of self. I know therapy's necessary but I'm not starting before another month. I'll take any insight or advice on how to manage it, shift my foc…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

Does this have to do with my attachment style or is it normal? — I used to score as anxiously attached when I was in my last relationship. I feel like I still have some anxious tendencies in my relationship now but I also sometimes feel avoidant and for the most pa…

I earned secure attachment in 4 months... — I can't believe I'm writing this. I did this without dating a secure person and without spending money on courses/apps. I promise I'm not selling anything. Big disclaimers: * I am only mostly secure…

How Does a Break Affect a Mission? — I have been working on an SP mission for 11 weeks. However, upon reaching week 11, something changed within me and I no longer wanted to continue, so I spent a week without doing any SH sessions. This…

Global Policy Journal: “Don’t look up?“ – Why it is past time for serious holistic research into Unidentified Anomalous Phenomena — Karin Austin, Michael Bohlander and Kimberly S. Engels have contributed an excellent article to the Global Policy Journal. Two of these people I've met personally and they are experiencers who are doi…

FA breakup & prolonged limbo - does avoidance calcify over time or can it still reverse? — I’m hoping to hear from people who’ve been through something similar, FAs, or anyone who has opinions on this. I was in a 2 year relationship with someone I later realized is fearful avoidant (I didn…

Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…

March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…

Feeling “off” after trust rupture — attachment system or intuition? — I have been dating my current partner for about a year now. Long post incoming. I’m posting because I’m noticing a significant avoidant shift in myself and I need perspective specifically on my own at…

The Shift at Age 30: Did you feel a stronger connection to your Ascendant or your Sun sign as you got older? — There is a common belief in astrology that we grow into our Ascendant sign as we get older, especially after our Saturn Return. Over the years of studying and observing birth charts, I've seen so many…

Is there a way to manifest myself to STOP being attracted to someone? — I’m curious if anyone here has used manifestation or LOA techniques to intentionally lose attraction or romantic interest in someone. There’s a guy in one of my classes that I find really attractive.…

Saw the same man I've been seeing as a kid — I'm sorry about the use of A.I but my drawing skills are bad and I don't know how to explain this but I've seen this man in my dreams ever since I was a child. I remember seeing shows like Tom and Jer…

One month of Neville’s teachings and I finally feel at peace about money — I’ve been in this community for about a month now mostly reading, learning, and celebrating everyone’s wins. I have to say, it’s been a real game changer for me. I’ve always been someone who worried …

My friend felt stuck for years - in session we found a core belief that life is only suffering — I did a quantum healing session for my friend Ramona and honestly what came up was intense. She has felt stuck for a long time. Putting things off, hard to get moving, hard to create, hard to do even…

My friend felt stuck for years - in session we found a core belief that life is only suffering — I did a quantum healing session for my friend Ramona and honestly what came up was intense. She has felt stuck for a long time. Putting things off, hard to get moving, hard to create, hard to do even…

3 years in. Bro, it gets wild. — Okay, so a large part of this community seems to use SATS as a high-preparation, ritual method and yes it’s very powerful in that way. But you’re literally God. Why keep yourself so limited? Nevill…

I always get stuck in that phase were I am relaxed, the body sleeps, mind stops thinking just some hallucinations of continuously shape-shifting colors, breath slow, feel as if i am almost floating wi…

It’s difficult when there is something you share with the person though, like children. You’re involved to some capacity and you can see how they are doing in all aspects of life - relationships, fina…

Congrats. I don't talk in the server much, but I can say that it's a pretty chill place with a lot of info there. Happy shifting.

1. That is why it’s called maladaptive daydreaming. The person does so to escape their current reality. They are not making actual changes, thinking different thoughts, reconditioning the subconscious…

1. Mental thoughts don’t become physical reality. Beliefs do. Repetitive mental thoughts turn into beliefs. 2. People in your world reflect your beliefs. Perhaps upon meeting someone you had an origi…

I'm FA and I identify with this. I value my alone time, and generally speaking, consider myself an introvert. A recharge period is definitely necessary, not just after a social interaction but at the …

I'm not sure but I have some FA tendencies in dating and have needed "cool down" periods in past dating situations, as sometimes they really ramped up my anxiety and I needed space to regulate again. …

I think building discernement and self-trust will reduce the risk of "inevitably being discarded". Meaning, at some point in your healing journey, you'll learn to identify people who are good relation…

Please look into the health issues that come along with being dismissive or fearful avoidant. You can't just shut off your emotions and experience no repercussions. That's not how our biology works, …

It absolutely can. Also can I just say all hats off to you, that is such a well reflected and intelligent post. Well done. I'm so proud of you how you kicked those people out. >Have any of you exp…

Not specifically with my T but I regularly shift between all 4 attachments depending on who I’m blending with.  Lately I’m DA with most, holding them as some flavour if contempt or patronizing, or ge…

Not in my experience. I needed those personal development school courses and videos and lots of books to shift

I really appreciate your creative blend of attachment theory and parts work. BeeDee as "Invisible-Avoidant" reminds me of a part of myself that likes to go full hermit. I believe outcomes matter more …

It’s not necessarily wanting them to hurt. But it is expected that when people hurt people they love/care about, it hurts them too. It’s kind of the norm. It shifts your worldview to think that some …

Hmm. My experience so far is that I will use different attachment styles depending on circumstance. Most people I think have a default, e.g. A person who comes from a secure background will be willi…

*”It shifts your worldview to think that some people can love and care about you, but still feel nothing about hurting you. It’s a type of coldness that feels evil and makes it hard to navigate the w…

“It shifts your worldview to think that some people can love and care about you, but still fee nothing about hurting you.” WOW wow wow. I’m going thru this with someone I believed to be chosen family…

AT only shifts after healing the core wounds that caused it, cutting out toxic family members can help, but it's rarely the final solution

By ‘phantom ex,’ I mean that the most recent crush is serving as an idealized image of someone they can never have, which makes it easier to compare others to this unrealistic standard. It’s common in…

My experience of the cloud was a series of steps where I would build something, then understand why the next thing exists, build that, and so on. You start with “lift and shift”, replicating physical…

Yep, Redshift observability is one of those things that should be easier, but ends up buried in system tables and tribal knowledge. Some practical tips that might help: 1. Build a lightweight monito…

This is one of the clearest writeups I’ve seen on platform engineering. You really nailed the distinction — it’s not just DevOps with a new name, it’s a whole shift in how we think about building for …

Reaching $300k in profit usually doesn’t happen overnight, but here's how I got there: I started with a side hustle while working full-time. Having a steady paycheck allowed me to take risks without …

I recognize this disorder because I suffer from it myself! :-) It's commonly known as controlfreakism. Don't worry, though. You can use it to your advantage. The good news is there's a way out. Much…

For a small cafe, start with a point-of-sale (POS) system like Square or Toast for managing sales and inventory. You can also use accounting tools like QuickBooks for finances and scheduling software …

I am FA but lean dismissive so take my response with a grain of salt. I tend to disappear from time to time not out of anger or resentment but because my nervous system just demands space to reset. I…

What bothers me the most is how OP's relationship progress is being dismissed. It doesn't seem to be enough that they reached a functional state and OP is happy at the moment, getting his needs met. …

I like this idea. It seems to help both the anxious leaning and the avoidant just check in for the day rather than the avoidant expecting to have to check in continuously, or the anxious person waitin…

That makes sense. I always expect to stay in the "enemy zone" with that person. Sometimes the other person reaches out first and then we can shift to a sort of casual friendship. Once, I reached out f…

The blame-shifting is too much. You are doing exactly what the other commenter was talking about. Avoidants do this to everyone, not just to anxious people, and it’s in excess of the typical “putting…

I think I may have shifted from secure to anxious when the DA started flaw-finding and accusing me of control. I didn't realize it at the time, but both appear to be common DA tactics once the relatio…

I def shifted from secure to anxious after the DA discard (first DA ever and first discard experience, man that hurt), had no probs with narcissist getting out of my life, but it was much more traumat…

I think skepticism is always warranted. But I would make the case that psychological processes like cognitive dissonance and projection are likely magnified in insecure attachers.   Plus some peopl…

i've tried a lot of manifestation techniques, but the biggest shift happened when i made my practice super specific. not just "i want x" but actually visualizing my daily life with it – where i live, …

The thing is the more I have aged and worked on myself getting higher self esteem and confidence, the more I have self reflected and become more aware of myself, the more I have slowly recognised the …

It's easier if instead on focusing on what they're doing wrong and what you don't like you focus on what you're willing to invest and describing an alternative that would be acceptable for you both. T…

So true. I was a secure and became anxious after being with an avoidant for 24 years. I became secure again and after 14 years of being broke up, he love bombed me, we got back together. It was great …

I’ve read about limerence. Does that happen even if I’m a straight woman? I thought there had to be something like romantic feelings for limerence. I see her as my sister but I’m so used to her being …

I'm like you. I think for APs a few embarrassing collisions and losses are necessary to wake up to the fact that life can't be lived this way. My parents are both extremely anxious people and my mothe…

From my perspectives, doing the internal work is about being happy and comfortable with what you have and who you are. Happiness is no longer outsourced. Learn to value peace more than companionship. …

As a fellow CPTSD survivor who has worked in the field for 2 decades now (internationally), both clinically and therapeutically, I want to give you hope; it doesn't ever have to get to the point again…

You just described my BPD ex wife. FA, would ignore me instead of addressing concerns. Emotionally unstable. Wouldn’t talk about something until it was time for WW3. Blame shifted. Justified her actio…

This was such a thoughtful reply that helped me so much - thank you! I think an important piece of what you said is ruminating, I feel like I’m playing everything back in my mind of when and how the…

This is a big shift, most people go through life never being able to move the needle, so don't blame yourself if it happens slowly. It's good that it happens!

Hey mate, I really relate to what you’ve written. I’ve had similar struggles in relationships – my anxious attachment would flare up with partners even though I felt steady with friends or at work. Fo…

For what it's worth, every time I thought there was a shift there literally never was. It was always my anxious attachment speaking.

Overwhelmingly they go out of their way to shame people. Like just yesterday I saw someone commenting saying someone isn't gonna shift because they took a break, and they were *tottaly* gonna shift be…

Sweet lord that’s crazy 😭It’s 100% okay to take breaks and the fact that they’re just spitting that weirdness out is gross :/ From my own personal experiences I always feel really good about shifting…

Well, it is a book that essentially expands on attachment and shifts the focus to behavior patterns instead of 'styles.' It acknowledges that people use attachment behavior strategies towards attached…

There is no way to postpone the trip. It's for study abroad and I've already paid non-refundable tuition. I'm actually really excited to go and hoping that while still staying in contact with my suppo…