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New to CE5s Should I be concerned?

Yep. Specifically in the 60s as I'm convinced "the experience" has changed drastically for many compared to what people experience now. My own was something I would initially describe as "harrowing", …

r/experiencerscomment3/20/2026
Immersive Architects website concept

Immersive Architects website concept — Check out this Architects concept site that brings their latest album to life in a different way. The design plays with the album artwork through cool hover interactions and showcases upcoming tour …

r/web_designpost4/22/2025
Seeking Technical Co-Founder for Fantasy Football Punishment Platform (I will not promote)

Seeking Technical Co-Founder for Fantasy Football Punishment Platform (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I’m in the process of building an exciting startup focused on **fantasy football** and I’m looking for a **technical co-founder** to join me and help bring this idea to life. The core i…

r/startupspost5/5/2025
I need you advise am i a UX Jnr Midwieght or more?

I need you advise am i a UX Jnr Midwieght or more? — **Hi everyone, I need some advice.** I’m currently a Junior UX Designer (30years old) in the UK at one of the top for new broadcasting companies such a Sky BBC ITV etc. **A bit about my background:*…

r/UXDesignpost5/5/2025
APPLYING FOR MERCHANT ID

APPLYING FOR MERCHANT ID — Hey guys, just thought i’d drop in here to quickly as a question for the experienced folks here. I am looking to apply for MIDs but i am kind of stuck on what banks/ Mid providers will look at on my…

r/ecommercepost5/5/2025
Why ex-tech creators are bad fit for conferences?

Why ex-tech creators are bad fit for conferences? — I haven’t been to many design-related conferences throughout my career, but I decided to give a CoCreate Conference a shot. I won’t go into the event organization here – just the speakers. From what I…

r/UXDesignpost5/5/2025
Designing for AI feels like UX without control.

Designing for AI feels like UX without control. — With AI interfaces, especially ones powered by LLMs, the experience changes every time. There’s no fixed flow, no guaranteed output, just probabilities. It made me realize most UX principles assume…

r/UXDesignpost5/6/2025
DAE feel like they want to be in a relationship but don’t really know how to? Intimacy problems?

DAE feel like they want to be in a relationship but don’t really know how to? Intimacy problems? — I mean in terms of intimacy. When I think about being in a relationship, the concept of having someone in my corner that I can cuddle with, do things with, nurture and support and generally love—that …

r/attachment_theorypost8/11/2025
A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic.

A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic. — We are seeing an increase of activity from people outside of experiencer circles in threads as time has moved on and more and more people are starting to understand there really is a "there there" and…

r/experiencerspost9/4/2025
Global Policy Journal: “Don’t look up?“ – Why it is past time for serious holistic research into Unidentified Anomalous Phenomena

Global Policy Journal: “Don’t look up?“ – Why it is past time for serious holistic research into Unidentified Anomalous Phenomena — Karin Austin, Michael Bohlander and Kimberly S. Engels have contributed an excellent article to the Global Policy Journal. Two of these people I've met personally and they are experiencers who are doi…

r/experiencerspost11/22/2025
Studying attachment theory

Studying attachment theory — I’ve been studying attachment theory for a couple of months now, and I’ve only recently started to REALLY look into it. I started reading a book called Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylepost11/24/2025
anxious attachment and shame

anxious attachment and shame — I have noticed in the times I am very aware of my anxious attachment in relationship to others, I feel a lot of shame around and make judgements about myself, how I am In relationships, or the experie…

r/AnxiousAttachmentpost1/19/2026
Anxious Attachment and Hypervigilance

Anxious Attachment and Hypervigilance — I’m wondering to what extent AA is correlated to high levels of hypervigilance, and how is the experience for different people? I struggle with hypervigilance (confirmed by my therapist) a lot, in re…

r/AnxiousAttachmentpost1/22/2026
Have your thoughts on shrooms been somewhat like this?

Have your thoughts on shrooms been somewhat like this? — Yesterday I first tried shrooms. I did 15g fresh, which you can expect to be about 1.5g dry ± I've tried acid 2 times before, which were very amazing, intense and long experiences. They theached me a…

r/Psychonautpost3/7/2026
Experienced ego dissolution and timelessness while a friend spiraled into a bad trip believing we were communicating through “waves”

Experienced ego dissolution and timelessness while a friend spiraled into a bad trip believing we were communicating through “waves” — I wanted to share a recent experience because the contrast between my trip and my friend’s bad trip was extremely interesting, and I’m curious if others have seen similar dynamics in group trips. We …

r/Psychonautpost3/7/2026
Any clue what could have happened?

Any clue what could have happened? — I took a heroic dose of dmt last year. I had every intention to communicate with whatever I may have seen during the experience. I hit my rig until I couldn't anymore, I had been sitting on my brother…

r/experiencerspost3/8/2026
Why Being Ok With Not Having Your Desire Manifests It Faster

Why Being Ok With Not Having Your Desire Manifests It Faster — It’s a very contradictory thing in manifesting where you desire something, but you’re told to let it go and not care about whether or not you have it (because in 4D you already have it). But let’s fo…

r/nevillegoddardpost3/8/2026
Has anyone ever encountered the Tall Grays?

Has anyone ever encountered the Tall Grays? — I would be interested to hear the experiences of different people here. I have heard many things and stories about aliens, but most of them were about short grays... So, has anyone encountered the ta…

r/experiencerspost3/9/2026
Times where you introduced a friend to psychedelics for the first time?

Times where you introduced a friend to psychedelics for the first time? — Hi I’m just curious if anyone has any stories of introducing psychedelics to a curious friend and what they thought after their first trip. I have plenty of friends and family who have never done them…

r/Psychonautpost3/9/2026
No contact year 6 update:

No contact year 6 update: — Hello everyone! I’ve made some update posts in the past and figured I would make one for year 6 as that anniversary is coming up soon, and with context it will make sense why I still specifically reme…

r/ExNoContactpost3/10/2026
Ingo Swann, did anyone experience something similar to what he did?

Ingo Swann, did anyone experience something similar to what he did? — I want to be careful here because I’m not trying to promote pseudoscience. At the same time, I’ve had some dreams in my life that have turned into reality exactly as I saw in the dream, so I’m open-mi…

r/AstralProjectionpost3/10/2026
First Acid Trip (2 tabs)

First Acid Trip (2 tabs) — This happened like a month ago and sorry if it comes off corny: At first, I was just lying in my bed, nervous. My roommate wasn’t back yet, and the walls slowly started to breathe and layer with col…

r/Psychonautpost3/10/2026
Spiritual Awakening & Instant Manifestation (wtf???)

Spiritual Awakening & Instant Manifestation (wtf???) — So as the title says, wtf? I've been using multiple different ways of manifesting, manifesting with feeling, robotic affirming, and I've realized one thing. Manifesting is an act of creation that …

r/Manifestationpost3/10/2026
We Interviewed Our Friends Annika & Tristan, And They Gave A Great Oak Impression For His Gracious Welcome To The Experiencer Community!

We Interviewed Our Friends Annika & Tristan, And They Gave A Great Oak Impression For His Gracious Welcome To The Experiencer Community! — **\[UPDATE: March 21\]** Thank you all for the support for Annika & Tristan in your responses! Several asked for more from them—**Part 2 is now live!**: [https://youtu.be/OMVygk\_FrtI](https://youtu…

r/experiencerspost3/11/2026
Hairy Crabgrass (Digitaria Sanguinalis) -- Is it a potential 5-MeO-DMT source? [In a wider Ayahuasca narrative]

Hairy Crabgrass (Digitaria Sanguinalis) -- Is it a potential 5-MeO-DMT source? [In a wider Ayahuasca narrative] — I can't say for sure if it was the grass because I also have a lot of existential stuff going on. I read a report on an old message board that someone's cats like eating crabgrass. They tried ferment…

r/Psychonautpost3/11/2026
My new home

My new home — Hello everyone, Since May 2025, I’ve been practicing the Law of Assumption regarding owning a home. I started out affirming for a 2-bedroom, 2-bathroom house and even began viewing properties and att…

r/nevillegoddardpost3/12/2026
After almost 3 months practicing Gatewaytapes, this is the first time i feel my consciousness started lifting off, it's not OBE yet but it's definitely something lifted off there, i have to share this with you

After almost 3 months practicing Gatewaytapes, this is the first time i feel my consciousness started lifting off, it's not OBE yet but it's definitely something lifted off there, i have to share this with you — I started the very first tape Orientation since Jan 26 until now i reached wave 3 tape 1 , everyday i practice one or two time but at least one a day, going through each tape i practiced at least tw…

r/gatewaytapespost3/12/2026
After almost 3 months practicing Gatewaytapes, this is the first time i feel my consciousness started lifting off, it's not OBE yet but it's definitely something lifted off there, i have to share this with you

After almost 3 months practicing Gatewaytapes, this is the first time i feel my consciousness started lifting off, it's not OBE yet but it's definitely something lifted off there, i have to share this with you — I started the very first tape Orientation since Jan 26 until now i reached wave 3 tape 1 , everyday i practice one or two time but at least one a day, going through each tape i practiced at least two …

r/AstralProjectionpost3/12/2026
Caught myself falling asleep and slipped into another OBE/AP (details + what helped)

Caught myself falling asleep and slipped into another OBE/AP (details + what helped) — So last night (11/3/2026) I had another experience. I can't say for sure whether it was AP or an OBE — I'm not sure if they are classed as the same thing or not. I’ll be looking into that later. Befo…

r/AstralProjectionpost3/12/2026
I can’t stop thinking about her

I can’t stop thinking about her — I feel like I’m going insane. I cannot stop thinking about my ex girlfriend. It has been 3 1/2 years since our relationship first ended. And after the first breakup(6 months in), I ended up getting ba…

r/ExNoContactpost3/13/2026
NHI that Stop Time and Timelessness of the Oversoul; More Research that Supports how Aliens Obscure Human Memories.

NHI that Stop Time and Timelessness of the Oversoul; More Research that Supports how Aliens Obscure Human Memories. — Hi everyone. This is [me](https://www.reddit.com/r/Experiencers/comments/1ai4nzi/i_had_26_physical_contact_events_with_grey_aliens/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_c…

r/experiencerspost3/13/2026
EMDR therapy fail

EMDR therapy fail — Today I was so excited to start EMDR. Before booking treatment, I told the therapist that I need help with sexual dysfunction resulting from child abuse and multiple SA’s as a young adult. She said 95…

r/CPTSDpost3/13/2026
Endogenous DMT activation in sleep? Spontaneous breakthrough-like state with fractals, death sensation, head pops, high-pitched noise

Endogenous DMT activation in sleep? Spontaneous breakthrough-like state with fractals, death sensation, head pops, high-pitched noise — [](/r/DMT/?f=flair_name%3A%22Experience%22)So this is going to sound stupidly insane but… I need to put it somewhere for someone who might understand. Background: had a 6g mushroom trip a while back.…

r/Psychonautpost3/14/2026
It Was Always About You

It Was Always About You — I thought I would share an experience I had a while ago that really changed my understanding of Neville’s teachings and manifestation in general. **How it started** In 2022 I was very into occultism…

r/nevillegoddardpost3/14/2026
(trip report) Telepathic communication through high doses of psilocybin

(trip report) Telepathic communication through high doses of psilocybin — Dose: 8g (Myself), 5g (Brayden, first time), others 3–4g Setting: Friend’s house, nearby park, neighborhood walk Time: 3:00 PM – 9:00 PM Participants: 5 friends So a couple years ago me and my …

r/Psychonautpost3/14/2026
How dating a narcissist has changed you to this day?

How dating a narcissist has changed you to this day? — I personally now clasify people very quickly: you either have empathy or you don't. I'm a bit black or whote thinking in this aspect. I don't want people around me that are non-compassionate. I f…

r/NarcissisticAbusepost3/16/2026
A couple great tips for easier Revision.

A couple great tips for easier Revision. — Revision is an extremely important yet underrated technique. After going through an event that "future" manifesting just wouldn't solve, I knew the only thing that would fix this situation is to chang…

r/nevillegoddardpost3/17/2026
I honestly don't know what's going on with me: feeling oddly good after so many days without using any substances

I honestly don't know what's going on with me: feeling oddly good after so many days without using any substances — Hello there and friendly greetings! As per title. I had my last trip on 7 Feb of this year with LSD and ever since then, I feel as though I’ve been living off my "psychedelic savings". I am not rea…

r/Psychonautpost3/17/2026
“EASIEST AP TECHNIQUE IN HISTORY!” (Update)

“EASIEST AP TECHNIQUE IN HISTORY!” (Update) — “History’s simplest projection technique” (Tweaked and updated for better results!)  I posted the 30 second head lift technique a few months back and I wanted to update it hopefully to add to y…

r/AstralProjectionpost3/18/2026
Visited a dive bar in an abandoned and flooded city 03/18/2026

Visited a dive bar in an abandoned and flooded city 03/18/2026 — 03/18/2026 Several projections during the same morning, most of them mundane and not worth recording, but the total must have been 10 in a row. As soon as the astral body would forcefully return, I i…

r/AstralProjectionpost3/18/2026
Is this lucid dreaming or is it SP?

Is this lucid dreaming or is it SP? — Put this in a few subs cause I’m starting to get curious about what’s going on with me. About six years ago, I experienced something unusual while lying in bed fully conscious but with my eyes closed…

r/LucidDreamingpost3/18/2026
Self improvement ideas that aren't wake up at 5am and take cold showers

Self improvement ideas that aren't wake up at 5am and take cold showers — If you need someone to tell you to drink water and journal at this point you haven't been on the internet. Here's stuff I never see in those threads that actually moved the needle. Tell someone speci…

r/selfhelppost3/18/2026
OBE first time

OBE first time — I’ve been reading about astral projection and OBEs on Reddit for the last six months. I wasn’t sure if it was legit,but now I’m 100% sure it’s real. I had an OBE this morning at 8:00 AM. I was sleepi…

r/AstralProjectionpost3/19/2026
Has anyone ever encountered a celestial feline presence either through experiences, meditation or dreams? This one spoke to me and told me I need to relax and stop stressing over my reality because it isn't real, it's just a learning experience.

Has anyone ever encountered a celestial feline presence either through experiences, meditation or dreams? This one spoke to me and told me I need to relax and stop stressing over my reality because it isn't real, it's just a learning experience. — This AI image I got from ChatGPT is so close to the experience that it creeps me out. It first appeared as my old cat, and as I was giving him love and affection he placed his paw on my forehead and I…

r/experiencerspost3/19/2026
The Double Body Technique : A Great astral projection method.

The Double Body Technique : A Great astral projection method. — # The Double Body Technique: What is The Double Body? **The double body** is a visualized form resembling yourself, created through imagination. This construct can be inhabited and used for astral pr…

r/AstralProjectionpost3/20/2026
Creaking and Cracking

Creaking and Cracking — # Do you get unusual noises in your vicinity during experiences? **Such as: Creaking, cracking, popping, thudding, snapping, etc.** **These noises occur in synchronistic-timing** with my thoughts an…

r/experiencerspost3/20/2026
Heroic Dose Trip Report

Heroic Dose Trip Report — Took 6 g of PE yesterday and had one of the most profound experiences of my life. I used Orange Tek method. Now, onto the trip! Zero nausea on the come up and the come up itself was very fast. It wa…

r/Psychonautpost3/21/2026
Processing my NDE and the paranormal experiences that followed

Processing my NDE and the paranormal experiences that followed — I can’t sleep and i’m feeling the need to document a sequence of experiences I had from February 2019 through 2020 that forever changed my life. I’ll try my best to keep each section somewhat brief, b…

r/experiencerspost3/22/2026
Finally detached! Flying, static vision, and a sudden "lust-induced" snapback. Advice needed!

Finally detached! Flying, static vision, and a sudden "lust-induced" snapback. Advice needed! — Hey everyone! I’ve been actively practicing for a while now—listening to 6 Hz theta waves and binaural beats, focusing on breathwork, and consciously lowering my heart rate. This morning around 9:00 A…

r/AstralProjectionpost3/22/2026
My abduction story.

My abduction story. — I was abducted from my balcony when I was 16 years old. It was October 2018, around 8:00 PM, when my mother called me downstairs for dinner. I left my phone on my study table and stepped out to get my…

r/experiencerspost3/23/2026
Important research statistics on contact experiences

Important research statistics on contact experiences — Many people aren’t aware of the research that has been done on contact experiences. People often seem at least somewhat familiar with a few of the big names from early on (Budd Hopkins, John E. Mack, …

r/experiencerspost3/23/2026
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

There aren't many but as far as I can tell there are a couple which could qualify. 1. Escapism. Just like anything fun, let alone of the "reality substitute" type, there is the potential to use it e…

r/LucidDreamingcomment11/20/2017
If you are new here..

So you do SH until you obtain the thing you want? What if it’s just a feeling, for example what if I just want the experience of feeling like everything works out for me. When my reality starts to re…

r/JosephMurphycomment4/17/2020
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

Yes, so you will find many experienced Astral Projectors will agree that we all leave the body every night. In one sense, you could called both dreams and the Astral, the experience of Internal Worlds…

r/AstralProjectioncomment5/3/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

>you said that lucid dreaming is an internal experience while AP is a real and tangible one I said this, however that is not the total truth - the opposite can also be true, check out the video under…

r/AstralProjectioncomment5/6/2021
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

The experience of feeling vibrations is constant if we are projecting from the lower chakra point however if you project through your third eye directly to the astral plane there is no vibrations. The…

r/AstralProjectioncomment2/13/2022
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

sharing recent experience and soliciting feedback from the experienced people here... I live in Phoenix, AZ but have close friends in Richmond, VA. On this particular journey, I had a vivid experien…

r/AstralProjectioncomment6/20/2022
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

Try focusing less and be centered in the experience, even if it is awesome.

r/LucidDreamingcomment10/17/2022
FAQ on emotional neglect - For anyone new to the subreddit or looking to better understand the fundamentals

I think a better phrasing would be assigning responsibility, not blame. Our parents neglected their responsibilities to us when they neglected us. It's less about pointing a finger at a person and mor…

r/EmotionalNeglectcomment11/27/2022
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

If you know the experience when using this method..Kaloom Quantum leaping is the most intense astro body experience and anyone can do it. [www.lovelifewellnesscoaching.com](https://www.lovelifewellnes…

r/AstralProjectioncomment12/10/2022
The NO BS Guide on Winning Your Ex Back!

I broke up but she didn't want to get back. It's my fault but she wasn't a Saint either. Immaturity on both ends. I have paid for my mistakes in heartache and tears. I hope you get the person who ch…

r/ExNoContactcomment7/19/2023
Manifesting New Skills and Knowledge with the Law of Belief– Is It Possible?

Trying to download a skill or belief is wasting the experience of learning it. If you think you know what you need… then you’d already have had it… a lot of amazing insights and development of charact…

r/JosephMurphycomment10/27/2024
My arguments against manifestation

1. Mental thoughts don’t become physical reality. Beliefs do. Repetitive mental thoughts turn into beliefs. 2. People in your world reflect your beliefs. Perhaps upon meeting someone you had an origi…

r/JosephMurphycomment1/23/2025
Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide

I had my first experience 2 nights ago. During the experience I first saw the color red and then felt a pulsating sensation all over my body. Similar to a heartbeat. I initially felt fear then immedia…

r/AstralProjectioncomment3/25/2025
Reading interest in text

I shared a little different perspective based on the experience. This is just me and how I would feel. She engaged, asked a question. I responded and asked a question and she read it immediately. I kn…

r/attachment_theorycomment4/3/2025
Long road to dream job and instant healing.

Thanks for such valuable advice. It meant a lot. I'm in sp situation. And when other person is envolved things get tricky... I'm doing my best to visualize. Sometimes it felt like it can happen. Wh…

r/JosephMurphycomment4/20/2025
Cannot stay attracted to dating app matches

Yep, it's probably not a good time...and I may have impulsively downloaded it out of loneliness. I have friends and a sister I can talk to, I have hobbies and a new career. I put a lot of energy into …

r/attachment_theorycomment4/28/2025
I’ve failed at startups, lived on the road, and I still believe I’m successful

Amazing story. Unlike most people who have not journeyed through life, especially on the edge, like you have. You have interesting experiences to write and sharing. The experiences are worth more than…

r/Entrepreneurcomment5/7/2025
FA trying to be more secure, need some insigh on relationship to have "fresh eyes" on it and not just my insecure one

The first question is, why does the drugs trigger you? What are you imagining or feeling when they talk about it. Logically, it's just part of their past. If it was something that could happen again o…

r/attachment_theorycomment5/8/2025
What are the signs to spot a DA or FA in early talking stage?

In my case, the experiences with ( possible) avoidants were always less than 3 months. Really, the very early stages of dating. I do think, however, that if you are in a relationship with someone for …

r/attachment_theorycomment5/20/2025
A Metaphor for Avoidance?

That's where I'm at. This pain was unbearable. Anyone who hasn't been through an avoidant discard will never understand the severity of the experience. Our mutual friend apologized to me for hooking …

r/attachment_theorycomment6/8/2025
It’s frustrating how often I run into women with Avoidant tendencies.

No I don’t and while I think you have some fair and good points, for some reason you’re very emotionally attached and aggravated by this.This is just a personal rant on some perceived grievance you ha…

r/attachment_theorycomment6/16/2025
START HERE! - Beginner Guides, FAQs, and Resources

I have personally found the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali, an ancient Indian text on consciousness training, most helpful in setting up and controlling my lucid dreams which typically started randomly. I h…

r/LucidDreamingcomment6/26/2025
When I want to deactivate I swing too far to the other side to preemptively "sooth" my partner, just in case.

Simply have a conversation with your partner about what is happening for you, and reassure them it’s not a “them” problem. Leaning into the discomfort and engaging in opposite action is actually reall…

r/attachment_theorycomment7/15/2025
This is what happens when your FA ex comes back

Agreed, their path is theirs and ultimately the experience they wanna give themselves in life is up to them. Cheers to both of us for recognizing it and I hope you can move on to bigger and better thi…

r/attachment_theorycomment8/10/2025
A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic.

That’s kinda how I started, then I looked into different theories to try to explain what I had seen. I found the simulation theory, that led me to the matrix, which lead me to PP(he who shall not be n…

r/experiencerscomment9/5/2025
Law of Belief - Relationships

Yes that could be a good interpretation of it! It could also be that maybe this woman in the example had a good story about relationships in general but just not her current partner for whatever reaso…

r/JosephMurphycomment9/13/2025
Proving Conciousness Creates Reality Syllogistically

I'm going to take a crack at this using critical thinking alone. *" The very concepts of "beginning," "created," and "suddenly exist" are all products of our three-dimensional perception, where we ex…

r/JosephMurphycomment9/20/2025
What are some healthy ways of self-soothing in place of limerence?

I find romanticizing the things right in front of me helps to: job/dinner etc. if it’s embodied it takes you deeper into the experience

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment9/27/2025
A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic.

There are a lot of people who don't understand trauma and vulnerability.  Then there are people who have some understanding but do not understand how to interact in an appropriate way that is empathet…

r/experiencerscomment10/1/2025
How to deal with triggering situations

You’re really doing great - this is just so hard! I’m gonna say something that might sound counterintuitive and blasphemous, but I hope you’ll stick around to read my long winded explanation of why 😅…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment10/9/2025
I earned secure attachment in 4 months...

I did see your disclaimers, and I do believe change can happen quickly. I managed to make huge changes myself as a DA in a very short period of time, completely changing how I act and feel around my w…

r/HealMyAttachmentStylecomment11/17/2025
The most painful relationship/breakup I've ever had, cracked me open for healing. Plot Twist: The text message llm tool said I was an FA, I ignored it for 5 months before I figured it out.

Thank you so much for your words, it resonates with the experience I've been having. I actually just got back from my weekly therapy session. It's all very... confusing, but I'm starting to accept tha…

r/attachment_theorycomment11/20/2025
Being DA but really wanting kids

I do think that minimizes the experience a bit. Childhood, trauma, and unique periods of life all affect our attachment styles, but it goes beyond simplifying relationship dynamics. It’s much deeper, …

r/attachment_theorycomment11/29/2025
Both best friends got engaged

Do you want to be in a romantic relationship for its own sake (wanting to experience romantic love with someone else, wanting a committed sexual relationship with someone else) or do you want it for t…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment12/23/2025
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

I'm sorry, but I think this is an experience you'll grow from. I have similar stories, which hurt like hell but I am happy for the experiences that made me a wee little better.

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment12/29/2025
How to deal with being alone

Invest time in getting to know yourself and spend time with yourself. We’re all alone here, we just choose to share that loneliness with other people. But no one out there will care for you the way …

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment1/7/2026
How do you respond to people who are very quick to think that you’re angry at them?

I’m pretty secure, occasionally slightly anxious. I haven’t had the experience of someone complaining about my response time, but I typically respond within an hour or 2. I think the only thing you ca…

r/attachment_theorycomment1/16/2026
anxious attachment and shame

Text of original post by u/san7io: I have noticed in the times I am very aware of my anxious attachment in relationship to others, I feel a lot of shame around and make judgements about myself or the …

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment1/19/2026
I'm starting to disconnect with my first real love

Hey man, gonna answer through the lens of my own experience. Hopefully it’s helpful. If you don’t resonate with it, please disregard. I’m also assuming that you have a healthy relationship with her an…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment1/21/2026
Anxious Attachment and Hypervigilance

Text of original post by u/Alarming-Office1923: I’m wondering to what extent AA is correlated to high levels of hypervigilance, and how is the experience for different people? I struggle with hypervi…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment1/22/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

A general compatibility issue I'm having lately is with "big texters".  I work on a hospital unit and I don't text while driving. This absolutely infuriates big texters, and I've had the experience …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/3/2026
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Yeah I felt a vibe with a few women but I guess it wasn’t the same on their end. Many were my type but only few I felt could have been something from the experience. Oh well, but the way my friends ma…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/4/2026
ruminating on past experiences

One of the key insights that I gained when I went through a bad breakup once is that for me, I value coherence. I value understanding what happens, what I did, what they did, and what it all meant. No…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment2/5/2026
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This is my opinion based on my experiences and the experiences of my friends so keep that in mind. Here are a few reasons: - The guys don’t want “anything serious”. - They make no effort to get to kn…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/6/2026
Do non-avoidants really experience attraction as something they have some level of control over?

Interesting observation! Attraction is not a choice but the way you deal with it is. I feel like attraction to me is like a feeling, just like my emotions, it comes and goes and can be small or inte…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment2/7/2026
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Well I'm "only" 40 but I'm that guy, sorry 😭 I just haven't had the experience to figure these things out yet

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/9/2026
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I have had the experience of past partners melting when I was good with their pet (I always date cat people and cats fuckin love me), but my own cat is the most ornery, antisocial introvert who would …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/11/2026
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Have been off/on seeing my ex of several years, whom I’d fallen deeply in love with. Part of our split stemmed from me wanting more of a shared vision geared toward marriage (she was reasonably trepid…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/11/2026
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Request for stories! Looking for the experiences of couples that have moved in with one another when both had their own homes/lives well established before the relationship started. Who did the mo…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/12/2026
I finally realized my fear of closeness is really a fear of being known

Thank you for continuing to share your journey. It's nice to hear the experiences of another person on this journey, and heartening to hear the positive changes it has already had in your life. That …

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment2/13/2026