the answer was always the same

I am glad that I read down this far, because you really hit the nail on the head in terms of "the answer was always the same". The double ask of "what're you doing" that OP did is very familiar; in …

I’ve been in this situation. I’ve done the couch thing. The problem was that I couldn’t communicate with my girlfriend because no matter what I did the answer was always the same. It was my problem …