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Looking for advice — Me (31f) and my boyfriend (32m) have now been together for 3 years. We moved in about a year ago and took on quite a big project with a house on some acreage. I have a remote job that I work (just a c…
what do i do? my anxious attachment is getting REALLY bad. — i haven't been like this since i last had a really close online friendship w someone 2 years ago, but i recently started talking to a new friend online and we've known each other for only a few days. …
How do I end up not losing my shit over the world that we live in? — So I have a feeling pretty angry recently over the fact that everything, It's gotten pretty overwhelming in the past couple weeks from people getting killed out in the streets. People getting kidnappe…
I lost everything to the war and I'm completely broken. 7 months of daily 6-hour work gave me nothing. How do I not give up? — Hey everyone. I'm writing this because I'm genuinely at a dead end and need some perspective from people who actually get this stuff. I'm from Ukraine, had to flee the war, and lost literally everythi…
Leaving, but it is complicated — This may or may not be in the right sub. I'm not sure if I fit into al-anon, nar-anon, or NAMI, but what I am struggling with right now does fall under the work I've been doing to break codependent tr…
Needing answers but knowing I'll probably never get them — This is not like me to post on here but this sub has been so helpful so I figured I would. I'm really struggling right now with the end of my relationship. My ex (M27) and I (F26) were together 2.5 ye…
He's doing well without me — Okay it has been 6 months since the breakup. I was doing better for a couple of months and have been seeing someone new, but I found out how he's been doing and it simply breaks my heart. I work …
I think I’m developing transference with my holistic acupuncture doctor — Hi. I’ve been seeing my acupuncture doctor weekly for about 3 months for endometriosis. The treatment has genuinely helped my pain and helped me feel more in tune with my body. He’s more of a holisti…
My (F34) husband (M35) hasn't tried to learn what makes me orgasm in our seven years together. I don't want to leave the relationship but am beginning to feel like a predator. Any advice? — I've been with my husband for almost 7 years, married for 2. He is legitimately my best friend, and I am very much still in love with him, so please don't immediately tell me to leave him. Throughou…
Wife asked for divorce in January, three months trying to reconcile then received a text yesterday morning. — Twelve years married, two toddlers, wife wanted out in Jan and I've spent the best part of three months trying to reconcile with her. Things had started to improve, but then yesterday I got an annon …
I (30F) feel trapped in marriage with my husband (34M). I'm wanting to cheat — We have been married 5 years, together for 10. Have two children ages 4 and 1. In the last year, he's turned into someone I don't even recognized. Stopped helping with the kids, works a lot of overt…
I (31M) feel at my wit's end due to my boyfriend's (36M) underemployment and that I have to financially cover everything — I (31 M) feel at my wit's end with my boyfriend (36 M) and I just don't know what to do. We've been together for just over 2.5 years and moved in together back in October. He lost his job last May and…
Am I in the wrong?? (16 y/o) — I just want to get the opinion of the public because I feel like I'm going insane. I try to be a really good kid (straight A's, no drugs/drinking, always willing to help out) and I still get treated l…
I (24F) Am Getting Burnt Out By My Partner's (25M) Constant Anger/Venting — My partner vents and gets angry almost every day and it's starting to make me resent him a little. Some of the stuff he gets mad about is actually big things that most people would get mad about so I …
Am I (22M) right to doubt my relationship with my gf (24F)? A female perspective would be appreciated. — I've recently been doubting my relationship with my girlfriend. The main reason being that she recently tried to off herself after an argument. This all started a year ago. We were showering when we h…
My (F22) boyfriend has ADHD (M22) is chronically unemployed and feels worthless, but it's hurting our relationship — My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years. We are both currently 22 years old. We moved into our own place together almost 3 years ago. My boyfriend has untreated and unmedicated ADHD. He ha…
getting my guy back — hey guys. a month ago, i ended things with the guy i was with for a little over 6 months because i was going through some mental health things + extremely busy with finding a job so i wouldn't end up …
Thought i(24F) had a low sex-drive, married a guy(30M) who matched it, found out i just had a hormonal imbalance for 9 years. Now our libidos don't match anymore, how can I resolve this? — So i am a trans woman who transitioned relatively early at 15-16(relevant), i always had low libido, i tried dating for my whole life, but everyone's libidos were just too much for me, it took me year…
Learning to study — I need advice on what subject to study to learn to study. A little backstory, I've never studied a day in my life, like actually studied, if I didn't learn something in class then I felt it wasn't my…
I think My Narc BiL is drugging me — My brother in law is a covert narcissist and he's married to my borderline sister. i live here too because they need a scapegoat and I'm not fiscally able to live on my own at the moment. the narc i…
M35 F30 How do I communicate to my boyfriend that his lack of help is making me feel like he doesn't want this life with me? — After having a baby with my boyfriend, I resent him. My pregnancy was hard; I was sick all the time, throwing up every day for nine months, and my blood pressure was always high. During that time, my …
How to get out of the "contract" — I (32f) just got out of the cycle (again, but maybe I'm still in ?). so he (26m) has discarded me about 12 times in the past 2.5 years (the good phase first lasted 2 months and kept getting shorter wi…
Serious discussion — guys I would love to ask for your help abt something...so I was using a dating app about 2 months ago and I matched with a cute girl there, our vibes matched, we exchanged socials and then after a day…
I [43M] have been disowned by one sister [41F] followed quickly thereafter by having to disown my father [65M] — **TL;DR up top:** While concerned that my marriage was falling apart, I asked my sister ("Alice", who I will no longer refer to as any variant of "sister") if I could spend time at her place, during w…
Is it a good idea to take a 5k loan to move out? (2 months to pay back) — My n-mother has turned impossible to stand three years ago. I realized she's never been treating my right but: 1. I've been her psychologist since I was 14. After starting telling her I had enough of…
I'm tired of my mom, am I wrong? — She's just sort of incompetent, like she goes around life making bad choices and not knowing what she's doing, then says "she's trying her best" given the circumstances, I know she's trying, I know s…
You are right. I know I should go ahead and cut this. I just don't even know what to reply to that message of his. His is his message. Hello, sorry for not answering directly but I needed some ti…
Thanks. I saw this 3 days ago I just don't know what to do with it. I want to say "Thank you so much, that's all I've ever strived for in this world and, truly, the validation means the world to me!…
I thought it was obvious, sorry. I just don't know what to do. Was I wrong? Should I have let him leave? He's my best friend, but I'm really hurt by this.
I have some short experience in BDSM, so take it from me. Especially because it's more rough , it's even more important to follow the rules and know when to stop. I am honestly shocked with your situa…
"I just don't know what to do and need to hear that this issue isn't normal but has been conquered and overcome by other couples." I mean, it is possible to teach a guy how to make you cum, but he has…
"... I just don't know what to do." Yes you do. Don't wait for her, don't play "on again off again" games. Talk to a lawyer on Monday, YOU file first.
Thank you. I'm very, very good at knowing it's there. I just don't know what to do about it. The classic CBT of, "this is trying to tell me something. Bf is important to me. I'm grateful for him. He's…
Hey master, do you have any tips on how to enjoy lucid dreams again? It's gotten to the point where it's almost just a negative thing that occurs to me and I don't wanna use drugs just to not dream an…
Since she got someone new, will she ever come back? I would still say happy birthday or congrats her for their achievements which is fine. But I just don't want to damage the relationship with her new…
They think I'm being stubborn and senseless and that every women has to compromise and the guys are the best choices according to them they are conservative and do not understand the constructs of lov…