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Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means)

Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means) — I last posted a variation of this a little over 5 years ago. We're a little overdue for a repost. --- You know how every Uber rating is right on the verge of 5 stars unless something's particularly …

r/relationship_advicepost6/10/2024
My horrible mushroom trip by Jimmy Burnt

My horrible mushroom trip by Jimmy Burnt — It all started during an environmental school excusion/protest. I had packed my lunch that day, drank my water, dressed well and expected nothing to happen. To preface I live in Sydney and lived aro…

r/Psychonautpost3/30/2026
How to stop being jealous/bitter over rich people?

How to stop being jealous/bitter over rich people? — So I'm trying to manifest wealth but I have sort of a "block". I'm really bitter whenever I see someone my age on social media or irl going to trips, concerts, etc. just stuff I wasn't able to do due …

r/Manifestationpost4/6/2026
I have severe trauma around lice and I’m trying to understand what happened to me

I have severe trauma around lice and I’m trying to understand what happened to me — Title: I have severe trauma around lice and I’m trying to understand what happened to me When I was 15 I had a lice infestation that was so severe it completely took over my life. I’m 21 now and I st…

r/CPTSDpost4/7/2026
How do you get rid of narcissistic fleas?

How do you get rid of narcissistic fleas? — It feels like my mind and body has been hijacked by narcissistic fleas. I am only just aware of it now. It feels like a subconscious mimicry as a survival mechanism. How do I get rid of them for good?

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/7/2026
How to stop letting toxic and negative people affect and control my whole life?

How to stop letting toxic and negative people affect and control my whole life? — ​I want to be a better person—a better woman.in every aspect of life. I really, truly do.👀 ​After months of self-isolation and struggling with depression, I’ve been trying to socialize again, both o…

r/DecidingToBeBetterpost4/9/2026
Parents

Parents — this is going to be really long and jumbled up because I'm writing this as it's happening. I don't even think anyone is going to read this but I genuinely feel like I won't be able to hang on if I don…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost4/10/2026
Weird dreams. ETs messing with me?

Weird dreams. ETs messing with me? — For the past week or so I've been having dreams of family, deceased and alive. This is unusual for me. I'm a ET Experiencer so don't know if it's them messing with me or a human organization. **Dream…

r/experiencerspost4/12/2026
How do you guys get rid of resistance?

How do you guys get rid of resistance? — In the last couple of days I realized again how easy manifestation can be. I’ve manifested a few things (some intentionally, some unintentionally) and it reminded me that you really can have anything.…

r/Manifestationpost4/12/2026
My (F23) partner (M29) views porn but every now and then keeps it on his phone

My (F23) partner (M29) views porn but every now and then keeps it on his phone — Hi. Title, my (f23) partner (m29) watches or looks up porn sometimes. I actually don’t really have an issue with it because I do it occasionally as well, so it’s hypocritical if I place unreasonable e…

r/relationshipspost4/13/2026
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

Hey. There's a lot there. It sounds like you just want more connection with your partner and also to know that they aren't going away. If the digital self harm is making you feel worse, perhaps try no…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment9/4/2025
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

Hi! I'd like to know how someone with anxious-avoidant attachment transitioned to secure attachment, especially regarding expectations. I know expectations are the root of the problems I've had with m…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment12/30/2025
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

You should keep those dealbreakers, it doesn't make sense to get rid of them

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/7/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

I was going to get rid of them this past week and just couldn’t do it. Into a box into storage maybe..

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/15/2026
No contact but want my stuff back

Wait, am I the only one that read the last part of the post? The whole time she was asking for the stuff back she was hoping for further discussion about the breakup. He wasn't interested in entertain…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/26/2026
Did your Narcissist gift you a " Trash " gift?

My mom always gave me awful, cheap clothes from Family Dollar/Dollar General. I would get rid of them ASAP. Before our relationship became extremely low contact, my *favorite* gift she gave me was pin…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/8/2026
Update: How can I(20F) tell my boyfriend (20M) about my sexual preferences when he has already expressed disgust over it?

You are both young,it's obvious. One day your going to wake up and realize social media isn't anything, definitely not important enough to have in a committed relationship at all. They always cause pr…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/10/2026
Has anybody found awareness to be functionally unhelpful?

Yeah, once again that is very relatable. I run into that issue all the time. In my experience what that means for me is that there's something I haven't learned to let go yet. I'm still clinging to t…

r/Meditationcomment3/11/2026
Why do people not read dating profiles?

Am a dude. Read profiles. Have had a few instances where women didn’t read mine. And in spite of making it obvious I’m monogamous and non-MAGA aligned, ENM and MAGA women like my profile. Can’t solv…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/11/2026
Did your narcissist go through pets like they were handbags?

My mother would do this, adopt them and once I got attached they became too much and she'd give them away while I was at school. My ex best friend, I contacted her ex boyfriend after I went no contact…

r/NarcissisticAbusecomment3/12/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

He’s trash. He helped you pick the birds and he’s irresponsible. Get rid of him and keep the birds. This behavior shows lack of character. How’s he going to react if he becomes a parent ? I don’t…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

I think you gave him a really reasonable compromise where you keep the birds in a separate space where you work. If you worked in an office, you would be leaving to go to an office every day. The fa…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

You wanted a cat but he put his foot down about not liking cat hair so you didn't get a cat. You get budgies and now he's putting his foot down and saying you have to choose him or the budgies. Can y…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

Keep the birds, dump the boyfriend. He thought the birds would be a good idea. He made this decision not on research and understanding of what bird are, but of short videos. What? So you get the bir…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

A man that says he doesn't get anything emotionally out of living beings, that your are emotionally attached to, so you have to get rid of them? The emotional thing he should be getting out of it is …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

The fact that the birds were his idea, but he's still pushing you to get rid of them should tell you, this isn't someone you want to marry. It's not just about the birds, it's about his behavior *arou…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

Darling... he wanted the birds, doesn't take care of them, and now wants to make you choose between him and the pets? It sounds like a child with extra entitlement. Sooo... what happens when he wants…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

He is absolutely going to end up breaking up with you. He just wants the control of forcing you to give up the birds first. This man isn’t a safe partner. He forced your hand into getting birds rather…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

So he wanted animals, they’re not what he thought they’d be, he’s bored now, and he wants to get rid of them. Do not have children with this man, ever. Also, keep the birds. This relationship is…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

Wtf he wanted birds and then when they did not turn out to be like in his fantasy, he just wants to get rid of them. Red flag. He does not even do anything to care for them too. These are living being…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

Is this capriciousness and lack of empathy new? It was his idea to get birds because he saw them on social media, you did all the work, he hasn't bonded with them because he's done none of the work, a…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

I would not base any part of this decision on how I feel about him because it seems like he's checking out of the relationship. The compromise that you offered is very fair but he's not a bit interes…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

He is not a keeper. Do you really think he is? 1) he wanted the birds. Now he doesnt. Now you have to get RID of them?!?!?! And thats an ultimatum?!?! 2) you do ALL the work. Imagine kids. Imagine.…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

Your bf is cruel, childish and stupid. He built his expectations for the birds on (sigh) social media, ffs. Then he looses interest like a child who got tired of a toy. And then, to top it off, wants …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

Sorry, but he's a trash POS person. HE chose to get birds, and when they didn't live up to what he expected of being trained despite him not lifting a finger to train them he wants to get rid of them?…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

I want you to consider your future. Do you want children? If you do have you discussed that with him at all? If he was all for these birds and then just said nope not what I thought it would be get ri…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

So let me get this straight.  HE wanted the birds 'because they would be really cool' You've paid all the vet bills, cared for them through some nasty health issues, presumably he did nothing to h…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

So he thought birds would be really cool and now he wants to get rid of them? You're dealing with a kid in a man's body who wants, wants, wants and then decides its too much work, or takes the attent…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

This guy sounds like a bit of an idiot. He based his decision to get pets based on some ig reels he saw, when he got them left all the work up to you, now he's not getting what he wants he wants to ju…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

Always choose the birds, especially when he has made it clear he "can't promise" the relationship will last even if you give up the pets HE agreed to! My husband is not really an animal person. He ha…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

When I had to put my kitty down so unexpectedly I waited because I need to grieve. Then my husband and I were going to go to my great aunts farm because they have kittens all over. He was thinking one…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

What kind of person convinces you to get birds then tells you to get rid of them because he’s “not getting anything out of them” or the relationship is over? Girl. These are living things. Please ditc…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

So he thought having birds would be cool, but since they don't meet his expectations, he threatens to break up if you don't get rid of them? If children are part of your future plans, what happens whe…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
My (F28) partner (M28) gave me an ultimatum: him or my birds. Idk what to do

All of this. But also you're incompatible. You wanted cats, he says no. You get birds - he asks you to get rid of them. Go, find yourself a man who asks how you can fit a budgie palace in your apa…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/13/2026
I love my bf, but i genuinely cannot stand his dog, its affecting everything

This. There are a lot of angry comments about that part but I’ve had my dogs longer than my boyfriend by ten years I wouldn’t get Rid of them.

r/relationshipscomment3/20/2026
The fastest way identify every limiting belief blocking your manifestations.

You stop trying to get rid of them. You gently notice them. You let them be present. They don’t have to be eradicated for you to live what you’re desiring to live. They’re just thoughts.

r/Manifestationcomment3/22/2026
How do you handle conflict?

Whether sensations are neutral or good or bad, they are already there, and they won’t stay there forever, cause nothing does. The part that makes them feel unbearable isn’t the sensation itself, it’s …

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment3/23/2026
How do you handle conflict?

>The part that makes them feel unbearable isn’t the sensation itself, it’s the feeling that you need to do something to get rid of them faster. But the reason why I feel the need to get rid of them f…

r/AvoidantAttachmentcomment3/23/2026
My (26M) brother (35M) has impregnated my ex wife(F27) and is engaged to marry her. How do I move on going forward?

Look you already moved across the country thats step one, You said you remained friends Leave it at that Its been 2 years the only way you can move on is its over period!! Don't look to the past only…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/25/2026
Tell me your manifestation techniques that always works !!

ill tell you what i did and what im currently doing so first you HAVE to regulate your nervous system, you nervous system will try to sabotage you bc it wants to stay in the comfort zone and it will f…

r/Manifestationcomment3/29/2026
How do i maintain a journal with privacy

How? Just get rid of them. It's not difficult to hide a journal.

r/selfhelpcomment3/29/2026
Accidental awakening

My awakening happened a little over a year ago and it's been awesome and hard at the same time. Like you, I get spontaneous moments where I am so happy, filled with love, and grateful that I get to be…

r/gatewaytapescomment3/29/2026
r/BreakUpscomment4/1/2026
Attack of astral parasites

Got something similar doing entheogens. I dont feel them under my skin but over it like a silk sheet almost. When it tries to possess me its not that powerful I can easily resist it. It can affect my …

r/AstralProjectioncomment4/1/2026
Have a bit of free time for next couple hours, tell me your manifestation roadblocks and I'll try to assist

Hey, I will jump in because I’m literally working on same issues with a therapist and I will share what techniques she gave me. 1. childhood trauma - you need to think about that one moment when this…

r/nevillegoddardcomment4/1/2026
Is it common for narc parents to care more about pets than their kids?

You forget that dogs also adore their favorite people even if they’re treated poorly. If the dog preferred someone else in the house or it was a cat, the narc parent would insist on getting rid of the…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment4/2/2026
Spoon bending with psychokinesis and next steps

I hope the mods take a strong stance and get rid of them. I have seen subs completely fizzle out because of coordinated attempts at this. It’s all mockery, trying to embarrass people so they will sh…

r/gatewaytapescomment4/2/2026
My ‘35F’ boyfriend ‘54M’ of 9 years broke up with me today over personal toys.

did he ask you to get rid of them or something? it's a very strange response if he already knew you owned and used them

r/relationship_advicecomment4/2/2026
My ‘35F’ boyfriend ‘54M’ of 9 years broke up with me today over personal toys.

He never asked me to get rid of them but he said he didn’t like that I had them.

r/relationship_advicecomment4/2/2026