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​Husband (46M) keeps "helpfully" rearranging, hiding, and disposing of my (46F) stuff--what tactic or wording can I use to stop it?

Also obligatory: Chuck Derry, director of the Gender Violence Institute, wrote about his experiences when he asked abusive men [why they abused their partners.](https://www.bwss.org/abusive-men-descri…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/23/2026
How do I (39F) forgive my husband (39M) for making a fake vet appt for our senior dog?

https://www.bwss.org/abusive-men-describe-the-benefits-of-violence/ men (and assuredly also women) will weaponize incompetence or use a myriad of tactics to accomplish basically one thing: they don’t…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/20/2026
30F My 30M keeps commenting on what I eat with a magnifying glass. How do I go about telling him how this makes me feel?

[He knows. He doesn't care. ](https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/17yzw35/he_knows_he_doesnt_care/) He understands what he's doing. He doesn't care how it makes you feel. There is nothi…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/26/2026
[48F] Planning a secret exit from my highly volatile partner [56M] of 10 years. Seeking advice on safely executing a remote breakup under the guise of a work trip.

This needs to be higher up. OP the most dangerous time for a woman in an abusive relationship is when she tries to leave, and for 18 months following statistically. **77% of domestic violence related …

r/relationship_advicecomment4/8/2026
What are most men like when they are upset? I (42F) am considering leaving my husband (46M) over how he acts when upset.

Your husband is abusive. Your relationship isn't healthy and it isn't normal. I don't actually know how many families are like yours. Abusers are often extremely good at hiding what they do: in publ…

r/relationship_advicecomment4/9/2026