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Dude from the bottom of my heart... This deeply saddens me. I can literally feel the pain in your writing, the headspace your in, the chaos in your head you deal with on a day to day, you having grown…
Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …
Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading — # 6th Kill: $20,000 Money Mission **Mission**: To make $20,000 from futures trading **What I achieved:** I made $20,000 from futures trading **How long did it take:** 5 and a half months **Backgro…
Does attachment style start to shift after cutting out toxic family members? — Recently, I removed a toxic family member from my life after years of emotional turbulence and manipulation. This person liked to gaslight me, hold past mistakes over my head, and blame me for everyth…
Long road to dream job and instant healing. — Bestcub called me to write this, I hope it will be helpful to someone. A story like many others. After years of wandering around shitty loa and other stupid spheres, books and forums I finally start…
Old vs new client website, mine got rejected — So yeah, I recently created a new website for a client but it was rejected. Not sure why, they simply said they are "working on an update". I don't consider myself an expert by any regard, but w…
Old vs new client website, mine got rejected — So yeah, I recently created a new website for a client but it was rejected. Not sure why, they simply said they are "working on an update". I don't consider myself an expert by any regard, but with t…
Website Rebrand and Redesign Advice — First Let me say: I have absolutely no eye for design. If it is more complex than a stick figure, I cant imagine it in my mind. However, I do know of already existing designs that I love and want to r…
web page concept — heya, i just came on here to share an idea i have for a webpage, to people who know more about this stuff than i do lol. It's for hosting my art and creative works, sfw and nsfw, and the different pla…
New to drupal Trying to install themes — I'm very new to web build outs I'm using Cpanel I don't know how to install composer can i do it though Cpanel? The goal is to be able to at least change themes in Drupal to start with. Any help is…
How to overcome lack of mobile experience? — I'm a mid-early senior product designer with over 5 years working on SaaS/Enterprise products. The issue is that they've all been for desktop. Quite a few roles i've been applying to have some need fo…
What's new in AI for marketing: YouTube is testing AI reviews, will it reduce clicks? Google discusses search ranking volatility, beyond — Sometimes it’s so hard to keep up with all the AI news. It seems like it's taking over every platform and us as well. But the most important thing is staying updated on everything important. So let’s …
Reddit Marketing Tips: What's your best advice for Reddit work that helps SEO? — Interest in hearing everyone's thoughts. From my experience, conversations with a high amount of engagement tend to end up ranking in the SERPs, so anything you can do to encourage conversation (like …
I cannot figure out why Google Search Console keeps indicating "Couldn't fetch" — I'm looking over a client's website and one of the things I found was their sitemap doesn't report being crawled since last September. I resubmitted the exact map that was crawled (happens to be plura…
My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote — Hey All, A few months ago, I shared my story here (original Reddit post in comments) about starting an IT consultancy business in the Netherlands with a friend right after graduation. At that time, w…
How do you deal with the spam? — I recently (4 weeks ago) started a shopify store in a niche market with my handmade products. Doing organic advertisement with product videos on tiktok, facebook, instagram and youtube. Generally spea…
Helpless( I will not promote) — I have been looking for a summer internship in the AI and ML space for two months now. I have one related to web scraping under a professor at an institution, but it will be unpaid. I also have anothe…
From Rejection to Redemption: How I Broke Into DevOps — Guys, I'm here sitting on my back yard on a beautiful Saturday and I am about to sign an offer letter with a Fortune 500 company — with a 25% salary increase. But just a few months ago, I was getting…
CSS not working in web, but works pretty fine locally. — I was rebuilding the page in a subdirectory. I was working always with at least two browsers (Edge and Floorp) to see how the page was going of course. I also tried with a live server extension in VSC…
Client has disappeared from map pack for target keyword ("More Results" button missing, only top 3 displayed) — ISSUE: I have a high profile client, with a competitive brand, authoritative website & highly optimized GBP, of which they have dozens of real locations, including this one. I have been working with t…
Marketing for startups (I will not promote) — (I will not promote) Proven strategies to take a startup from zero to scale ($10M+ ARR). As a 3X startup CMO, I have experienced tremendous success and a ton of failure. I have been involved in th…
Why ex-tech creators are bad fit for conferences? — I haven’t been to many design-related conferences throughout my career, but I decided to give a CoCreate Conference a shot. I won’t go into the event organization here – just the speakers. From what I…
Founders, Seriously, Please Don't Quit your Day Job (I will not promote) — I say this as a lifelong Founder who spends all his time trying to make other people lifelong Founders - **"Please don't quit day job" ... at least not yet.** Seriously, hold on to that steady incom…
I made $32 after 16 months of coding. Was it all a waste of time? — Over the last 16 months, I’ve done something that sounds cooler than it really is: I built a SaaS. In my free time, at night, on weekends, while everyone else was at the beach or watching Netflix, I …
POYLANG FREETitle: – Any Downsides I Should Be Aware Of? — Hi everyone, I'm new to WordPress and have just launched a website that I’d like to make bilingual. Here’s what I need: * Only **some** of the pages/services need to be translated; * A **blog** with…
What was your experience working in a marketing agency? — Hi, for various reasons I’ll move to an area where most of the ux work available comes from marketing agencies. It's a new environment for me so I was looking for your experiences in this regard. I'…
Are you running Exit surveys? — When your wife asks, “Does my bum look big in this?” Do you give the honest answer? Or do you say “no” to keep the peace? The truth might sting. But the people who tell you what you need to hear are …
Why almost all of libraries are free? — Like in the title. I am geniunly baffled why most of libraries are free to use. Things like react, angular, react query, redux, zustand etc... they all probably took loads of time to develop and stil…
Services which don't quite mesh with devops — Hey folks, Do you have stories about teams or products which don't quite fit into devops? - for any reason. How did your org or you approached these? - At my current org (midsized insurance enterpr…
Seeking WordPress Booking Plugin with Stripe Integration for Card Authorization Without Immediate Charge (no-show fee) — **TL;DR:** *Need a WordPress booking plugin that works with Stripe to: require credit card at booking, do €0 authorization, allow in-person payment, and charge 10% no-show fee later.* I'm currently…
Need some help with SplideJS Carousel -- auto height is not working — I've got a jsfiddle setup for review. [https://jsfiddle.net/agvwheqc/](https://jsfiddle.net/agvwheqc/) I'm really not good with code, but know enough to waste lots and lots of time trying to figure…
No conversions at all. What am I doing wrong? — Please critique my shop, [redacted]. What puts you off? Why are people not buying anything even after clicking an ad that shows the product, presumably indicating they're at least somewhat interested?…
Where does one begin with an website and app based business — As the title mentions, I've been working on a business plan that I have been cooking up for some time now. The business would be a service / listing based website that would have to be integrated with…
How do I add tariff costs? — Hi, I'm a very new U.S. Shopify seller, selling POD products (book, t-shirts mugs hats posters, mouspads) internationally....or at least trying to. Currently, if a customer places an order, the POD pr…
“No Referring Sitemaps Detected.” — **Why your web pages might not show up on Google — even if they’re indexed** I ran into this issue while checking Google Search Console and thought it might help others here. Many of our indexed pag…
Being an Entrepreneur is bloody hard — That's a quote from Dan Pena and it's absolutely right. The bum boys on Instagram, YouTube and all the rest that pretend like it's easy are 1000% full of it. The true life of a business person and e…
Solo founder here—bootstrapped a travel startup, no bookings yet. Influencer model failed, paid ads feel too risky. What would you do? — Hi everyone, I’m a solo founder of hopmytrip.com trying to build a travel group tour platform—basically fixed-date trips to places like Bali, Thailand, and Vietnam, where people from any country can …
Bouncing around a new business idea — Hello everyone. I have an idea to purchase a commercial property in my town (old government building) and outfit it to be mainly a golf simulator business with multiple bays including small kitchen an…
Spending more to potentially make more — It's hard to explain what I do but recently I spent around 2.5K to create a video game on the platform Roblox, the game is doing well and at it's current rate I would make my money back in around a mo…
How can I profit from my endless rotating hobbies? — Hey all! I’m a 24 year old who works full time and has five million hobbies. Such as… physical art in most mediums, digital art, animation, multiple instruments, theater, crochet, story writing, singi…
Small Business Case Study: How We Grew Our Instagram & TikTok with an AI Social Media Assistant (No Ad Spend!) — **Post Body:** Hi everyone! I co-own a small business (a boutique cafe + online store) and wanted to share our experience using an **AI “social media assistant”** to grow our Instagram and TikTok. W…
Some guidance would be appreciated. Should I focus on a Linux certification first like RHCSA/LFCS first or the Kubernetes CKA. More details below. — Hi everyone. So recently i finished my a devops certification from a bootcamp and have since been spending time working on my own portfolio project. my project consists of: \- a frontend and backend…
Organization lost access to website — (Edit: mostly solved. Consensus is there isn't a good process to reclaim a site that has been lost. Open to other thoughts, but thank you to everyone who has offered their advice already!) I've been …
Every day I try to do things right. Every day they say no. Now I duct-tape and maintain the mess I warn them about — Hey folks, Just wanted to drop this little gem of corporate masochism So I work at this company where we develop software for real state agencies, in this 'properties' sql table we have a field cal…
The dismal state of WordCamps in the US — I used to enjoy attending WordCamps for learning, networking, etc. I even helped organize one in Providence, RI years ago. I looked at the [WordCamp Central schedule](https://central.wordcamp.org/sc…
I made an awesome ChatGPT prompt for internal linking — I just made this prompt for ChatGPT that finds internal link opportunities on your website. It works surprisingly well. 1. Enable “Deep research” mode on ChatGPT (you’ll need a paid plan). 2. Paste t…
Text Input with no “submit” button — Hello, for quick context, I am a marketing student with no web design knowledge, just sort of winging this for an assignment I have due on Sunday. Part of this assignment requires me to simulate a ch…
How do you actually feel safe believing and knowing when it comes to an SP manifestation? — Brief context: I've studied the law on and off for 6 years. Tried to manifest 2 old SP's with varying success, then eventually having them both try to contact me, but I realized that I was shooting so…
Anyone Else Feel Relationships just Aren't for them? — Hello all, I'm basically pretty severely A.P. , & so far I've been unable to get close to anyone (romantically) in my life without just exploding with terror that I'll be abandoned (or feeling a stro…
Pouncemonial: 9th Kill - 30 Successful Trades — **Mission**: To accomplish 30 successful trades **What I achieved**: Accomplished 30 successful trades and learned how to execute and manage trades well. **Background**: With the previous kill, …
Starting over — Heya, I don’t want this to be a negative thread— looking for some positivity and hope maybe? I (34F) am recently out of a one year relationship. It was my first secure relationship in my entire adult…
Lol At least he does not monetise his videos. He's content with his speaking fees.
He mentioned in the opening of this lecture, I think, that he has a background in the corporate world, providing team-building programs for companies, or vanilla psychology as you call it, so, yeah, I…
I feel called out o.O But its also nice to know there's a whole bunch of people who feel the same way. It sucks that we all had to go through shitty childhoods, but at least we're trying to overcome …
I have tried this both ways, when I relax my eyes to remove the strain I start to fall asleep, or at least my thoughts start to drift into semi-dreams and I have to pull my attention back. Is there a …
No, it is not. People talk a lot of nonsense. The only demons people get possessed by are by their own egotistical psychology or some other fantasy 👍 I'll also paste an answer I gave to someone a whi…
Sorry one more, I've always wanted to know this, is it necessary to be a lucid dreamer to AP? I'm not a lucid dreamer (at least rn) so do I have to learn how to lucid dream before learning to AP?
yes you can simply train your body to go back to sleep for another time around 6:05 ,and you will notice that you are still tired , then lay down and look up ,soon it will get to a point where you can…
I had a really concerning dream just now and fear of my boyfriend didn't wake me up something bad was going to happen to me.. It started off in a house I've never seen before the kitchen was upstairs…
I once tried the exercise of keeping the mind awake and the body asleep. But at some point I just thought I fall asleep and get up from my bed and my body felt super heavy. I went to the kitchen of my…
Apologies, I know this is an old post but I just read it for the first time today and felt the need to reply. Yes, what you're saying is absolutely true. However, at least for me, this is the motiva…
I'm beginning to realize this is the only healthy option, at least the only one I can see. I still love her 3 months later and I believe we could have worked it out. I broke down and sent her pages o…
At first you tell yourself it’s the only way to get them back. You give yourself little pep talks like “I’ll commit to NC for at least 1 month” Then you realize that ur surviving without them and the…
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Hey, I am an overconfident twat that lacks any real creativity. I tend to just jump in on anything to feel included . Sometimes it's confusing cause I don't even understand what I'm trying to shit on.…
As DevOps engineers we should have the API-first mentality. By basically ruining the API, there should at least be some kind of signal.
Fortunately I've taken my separation (and inevitable divorce) as an opportunity to quit drinking and make healthy lifestyle choices. I've been working really hard to practice mindfulness and radical …
So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…
I'm glad to hear it helped! You're welcome lol. I found it really weird that nobody on this sub was talking about that book at all. (At least back then.) It seems to have basically everything you coul…
I have a trick when you wake up very early to pee or something similar and you are still tired go back to sleep but turn on the tv. If for example you want to dream your batman put a batman movie on …
Wonderful information in the introduction. I would love to get some personal insight from people who are familiar with Astal Projection. I'll keep it as short as possible. I have recently discovered t…
What if you’re the one that messed up? Bad… we have a son together… its been a year and the guilt is eating me alive. I still live her too… i really want to talk to her and apologize. I understand tha…
Hi Ralumarian35 On Moonbeam's instructions, the mod team has decided to ban you for 4 months. From your post history, it is clear that you've read, thought about and understood the posts in the index…
That's not answering her question and you are being a corrupt liar. You would download 10 languages and 20 skills in a heartbeat if you could do it to your brain just like you could load programs onto…
In my opinion focusing on two goals at once before you have a lot of success is just your unbelief talking. You don't believe you'll heal your issues through manifestation (at least for a while) so yo…
i am a 51yo married man and educated with a professional degree but stuck in middle management which is fine. I have become more or less an alcoholic in some respects because i love sleeping and my…
No what I meant was that it usually takes years to build up solid faith for lob itself, to see your mind as cause and effect towards your reality and to manifest with a snap. And that happens with alo…
I’ll take a crack at it Point 1: The answer is sm vs cm thought. Daydreaming is not focused with intent, the mind often wonders and you still feel it’s not true in the end or with emotions that are …
No, mental thoughts do not become physical reality. That would be a world of chaos. *Repetitive* mental thoughts become beliefs, and beliefs do. And this can be layered. You can wake up and have a t…
Then why does MC recommend NC during SP missions? Because, many times, that is the appropriate conventional action, at that moment. Either because they are increasingly fearful of you, or unfairly ho…
I’m sorry to hear you had an experience like that. I do think my current relationship is a little more consistent than what you’ve described. We see each other usually at least once a week, more if we…
This is 100% a pattern for avoidant attachers. It’s referenced as the “vulnerability hangover” in our own spaces. It’s almost like taking an ice bath. You can do it for a while, like 10-20 minutes, an…
I get where you are coming from. I feel like though, at least for me, it can be a false sense of security trying to overanalyze things. It is masking the fear of being rejected if I ask a partner some…
Yes. Very common. As he has slowly let me in more (over many years), we will spend 3-4 days together at a time now at least every other weekend (when we don't have kids).
I agree- but also (at least in my situation), there was definitely some cartoon level villain behavior. But I also don’t think that my case was just avoidance. I think other mental health issues were …
I will have to disagree, respectfully, but while saying that I don't think avoidantly attached people mean to do what they do. But I can usually have a discussion with an anxious person (maybe not o…
I think typically the people we get along best with, will feel boring. Conflict is where excitement stems from. When things are easy and flow naturally, there is no conflict, and thus no excitement. Y…
Take time to actually get to know someone, go slow, keep things light at first, don't jump into a relationship. Instead think about true compatibility in things like communication, lifestyle, values, …
I shared a little different perspective based on the experience. This is just me and how I would feel. She engaged, asked a question. I responded and asked a question and she read it immediately. I kn…
That’s how you see it though. Some people are different and do not have the capacity to consider that, especially if they had a stressful day. Normally I respond to my friends, but the other night aft…
My experience is that cutting off a toxic family member enabled me to heal my attachment style. It basically let me put healthier, more secure communication and connection strategies into practice bec…
It absolutely can. Also can I just say all hats off to you, that is such a well reflected and intelligent post. Well done. I'm so proud of you how you kicked those people out. >Have any of you exp…
This is so interesting! I'm extremely avoidant when it comes to dating...I literally don't even attempt to. Which is insane for someone at 32 lol. At least I know I don't want kids haha
This is interesting. I think maybe for a DA who is doing the work to change and heal, you finally open up and once you are open you have a lot to unpack. My guess is that you've repressed a lot of e…
I totally relate to the awful feelings of seeing an avoidant ex move on super quickly while you are still reeling from the triggering and retraumatization of that relationship. Going through it right …
I’m FA. I hate people I cared about a week ago, yes. If they hurt me on purpose or they are revealed to be a manipulative or disingenuous person. Then the love I had for them has nowhere to go, and tu…
Hate is a strong word But I found unhealed avoidants, prob DAs, tend to at least temporarily drop or block a person to self-regulate, could be for weeks or months. The longest was an ex that blocke…
So like, if your partner were to say, "hey I need you text me at least once every 24 hours. Just to check in" how would you react? At the beginning vs the end of the relationship?
Thank you. This research at least is not wedded to what is seems to me to be a very over simplified model. I've just read the abstract and will chew through the rest of it. Then look at what else …
I don’t know about anyone else but when I’m deregulated I don’t know how to talk—full on freeze mode. Especially with conflict. I honestly need space to collect my thoughts. Communicating this is biz…
My lil cousin(20F) was having relationship issues- she is an avoidant and he is an anxious. I pointed this pattern out and she said, "My therapist said the same, does having this attachment mean I'll …