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Dude from the bottom of my heart... This deeply saddens me. I can literally feel the pain in your writing, the headspace your in, the chaos in your head you deal with on a day to day, you having grown…

A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse.  We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon.  W…

Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs? — My (FA) therapist and I (lol) may have noticed a pattern with my partner (DA); after an increased amount of quality time together (compared to our usual 1+ times per week), or increased amount of mess…

What's the best free alternative to Dreamweaver for making a personal website? — I know the easiest route is to just use Wordpress, but I don't want a Wordpress blog again right now. Dreamweaver makes sense to me. I need to see the code view or what I'm looking at makes less sense…

What parts of digital marketing are most valuable to learn in 2025? — I'm gonna begin learning digital marketing (as I'm already doing non-digital marketing) but I don't feel like (and don't have enough time & energy to) learning all kinds of it, I mean for instance SEO…

Are UX Engineer jobs unpopular? — I work as a Sr. UX Engineer at a global company, we are creating an internal Design System UI library. I work with code (React and SCSS) but also as a UX UI Designer on other projects in other teams. …

MacOs HomeBrew and Open Source tooling — Hey guys! Quick question for ya, I've been at a job for awhile now but we just got transitioned over to macOS. We were on windows machines before. Software was always distributed through self service…

Cobbler/Chef Educational Resources — I’m a network engineer by day and part time lab assistant to earn a few extra bucks in the evening. They are wanting in the next 90 days to get me spun up on assisting with tickets as the physical lif…

Seeking Technical Co-Founder for Fantasy Football Punishment Platform (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I’m in the process of building an exciting startup focused on **fantasy football** and I’m looking for a **technical co-founder** to join me and help bring this idea to life. The core i…

Is WooCommerce the Right Fit for Your Wholesale Business? — If you're a wholesaler considering WooCommerce for your B2B operations, it's essential to weigh its capabilities against your business needs. Here's a concise breakdown based on insights from Qoblex :…

How do you inspect what actually changed in container images? (My Git-based approach) — Hey everyone, When working with CI images or debugging build issues, I often need to understand *exactly* what changed in a container layer - not just which files were added or removed, but what was …

What back-end tools should I focus on to become a marketable full stack developer using .NET? — Hey everyone, I've been a front-end dev for a while now, and I’ve recently started diving into back-end development. I'm interested in becoming a full stack dev using React on the front and making my…

Making the entire website a fixed-width — This is probably a stupid question, so I apologize in advance. I am working on a website for my dad that he had someone create back in 2013. Everything is fine so far, but the only problem is that he …

Changing font of only one number or letter in paragraph — Hello, I’m fairly new to Wordpress but not entirely. I am barely familiar with coding, but hoping to become moreso. I am wanting to change the font of a single number in a paragraph sentence. Any adv…

Microsoft's interpretation of Journey Map vs Storyboard — Hey all I'm doing some Microsoft UX certification coursework and am puzzled on something that they don't seem to be clarifying very well. I know large companies may define parts / components of user c…

Simple Hover Effect — **Hi,** I'm new to WordPress and I'm trying to create a hover effect for my homepage. Specifically, I’d like an image to switch to a colored version when the mouse hovers over it—the default image wo…

ELI5: What is TDD and BDD? Also, TDD vs BDD? — I wrote this short article about TDD vs BDD because I couldn't find a concise one. It contains code examples in every common dev language. Maybe it helps one of you :-) Here is the repo: https://githu…

How do you actually feel safe believing and knowing when it comes to an SP manifestation? — Brief context: I've studied the law on and off for 6 years. Tried to manifest 2 old SP's with varying success, then eventually having them both try to contact me, but I realized that I was shooting so…

antidepressants and avoidant attachment — i (22f, FA) came off venlafaxine (SNRI) about two months ago after being on it for 5+ years for depression and anxiety. predictably a lot of stuff is coming up, OCD and BDD symptoms, anxiety is a bit …

Depression and self harm needs to be discussed with professionals. — I cannot stress this enough. Please do not use suicide coded language or express intent or desire to self harm in this subreddit. These are issues that need to be addressed by trained professionals. M…

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

What I'm realizing: I relate closest to others with deep trauma and that is a troublesome recipe. — TW: addiction, suicide, physical and emotional abuse, CSA. I have CPTSD, routine struggles with depression and anxiety and the corresponding executive dysfunction. I grew up with an alcoholic parent…

For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now? — I am quite curious to hear if there are others who are at a place in their life still in their own "wound care" (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of a previous unhealthy…

For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…

Happy and healing but still need to be "chosen." Advice welcome — I have been on a healing journey for my anxious attachment for a few years now. I am in a secure relationship where I have found a deeply vulnerable and safe connection and also know that if it ends I…

A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…

Specific Person (SP) Manifestation: No Magic, No Supernatural Forces. Just Proven Science — Hi everyone, It’s been a long time since I last posted, and honestly it was overdue. I keep seeing the same recycled LOA bullshit everywhere. Endless manifestation porn, more unqualified people calli…

What is this sign on the Aspect Grid? — [aspect sign](https://carrotcake50.tistory.com/18) Hello! I am researching various astrological symbols used in aspect grids and encountered a few that are unfamiliar. I would appreciate some technic…

Natal ascendant in the same sign as solar return ascendant - significant or accidental? — Is there any significance to a person’s natal ascendant being the same as the standalone chart cast for their solar return year? For starters, depending on the degree, the houses would be similar, thu…

A lot more people are hurt/traumatized than evil — A lot more people are traumatized/ in pain than are evil. And I won’t say that evil people simply don’t exist, they do, but there’s fewer truly evil people than there are hurt/traumatized people who d…

Will I ever not feel so lonely? (Seeking input from older folks on this platform) — I am nearly 47 years old and the emotional neglect I suffered as a kid and still suffer at the hands of my parents, still has such a profound impact on me. I know there are people of all ages in this …

I Genially Think My (35F) Husband (36M) is a Psychopath — Hi everyone, please I need help. I’m 35F and my husband is 36M. We’ve been married for 10 years and have two boys (7 and 5). I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. About three months ago my hus…

Energy healing. How it works and what does the “patient” have to do so it is successful!! — My main technique when performing energy healing is that I don’t “put” some other energy or mine into patients body. I work with their energy since I believe they have all energy they might need for a…

Dreamt the Sphinx had the head of a Goddess with a headdress. — Hello friends, Just wanted to share a dream I had two nights ago. For anyone who may be familiar with some of my experiences, you’ll know that so much of my journey has been guided by messages I have …

A Lucid Dreaming Technique I Accidentally Discovered (Using Multi-Sensory Daydreaming) — Last night I accidentally triggered sleep paralysis while drifting off, and it made me realize a pattern that has happened during several of my past lucid dream or sleep paralysis experiences. I thin…

My experience with NHI's, contact and navigating society. — # Hello! Where do i begin? Firstly, i want to give thanks to this space cultivated by Oak and the other Moderators, without this space, people such as us/me do not really have anywhere to go with a…

Accidentally Forced Into Astral Projection, Now A Beginner Who Has Several Successful Intentional Attempts — I am a beginner in astral projection and only started to AP in Dec of 2025. I have progressed rapidly within the last 2 months in intentional attempts. I was forced into experiencing "symptoms" of A…

NHI that Stop Time and Timelessness of the Oversoul; More Research that Supports how Aliens Obscure Human Memories. — Hi everyone. This is [me](https://www.reddit.com/r/Experiencers/comments/1ai4nzi/i_had_26_physical_contact_events_with_grey_aliens/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_c…

I Won’t Stop Sharing This — I’m sharing this because people deserve to know how broken the mental health system in Utah can be. I saw a therapist for two years. During that time she had me coming up to three times per week doin…

(trip report) Telepathic communication through high doses of psilocybin — Dose: 8g (Myself), 5g (Brayden, first time), others 3–4g Setting: Friend’s house, nearby park, neighborhood walk Time: 3:00 PM – 9:00 PM Participants: 5 friends So a couple years ago me and my …

Epictetus on character — I am fairly familiar with both Marcus Aurelius and Seneca by now. Just getting started with Epictetus and have been mulling this one over today: "Externals are the means by which our character finds …

I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough! — I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough I just came back from a 4 week long vacation in Turks and Caicos in the Caribbean. This was the 10th year in a row I have don…

Superpowers and governmental dispose of powerful people. — What I am about to share to my thinking could be a AP. not sure if I want to keep this up but here's the conclusion. I saw people with superpowers, who manipulate elements and have "superpowers". …

How can I make the most of a 12th house–heavy Solar Return year? — My new solar return year has just begun, and I’m a bit concerned about the strong 12th house emphasis. In my natal chart I don’t have any planets in the 12th house, so this feels like unfamiliar terri…

Visited a dive bar in an abandoned and flooded city 03/18/2026 — 03/18/2026 Several projections during the same morning, most of them mundane and not worth recording, but the total must have been 10 in a row. As soon as the astral body would forcefully return, I i…

Self improvement ideas that aren't wake up at 5am and take cold showers — If you need someone to tell you to drink water and journal at this point you haven't been on the internet. Here's stuff I never see in those threads that actually moved the needle. Tell someone speci…

Something mentioned but not talked about, Serotonin. — What do we know about Serotonin? \-Its produced in the gut, \-Low levels often correlated to anxiety and depression \-Happy hormone, not to be mistaken with dopamine , the pleasure hormone where …

Cure Avoidant Attachment by Watching TV — Can watching TV help treat a dismissing attachment pattern? In Dr. Dan Siegel’s book "Mindsight,” he presents a case study involving Stuart, a 92-year-old attorney with dismissing attachment. Stuart,…

Carl Jung wasn't a psychologist. He was a shaman. — Carl Jung quietly wrote one of the most profound esoteric texts of all time, at least in my own personal opinion. Seven Sermons to the Dead was written in 1916, privately shared between a handful of J…

I stopped chasing happiness and started building contentment instead and it made all the difference — For years I was obsessed with being happy. Every self-help book promised that if I just did this one thing, happiness would follow. Gratitude journals, affirmations, visualization, cold plunges. I tri…

Seeing lizard-like eyes and being healed? — Hi everyone, I recently meditated for about 45 minutes to an hour in the \*very\* early morning a couple days ago (I never meditate that long) after waking up before the sun rose. I was in a supine…

Are you familiar with reality transurfing? If so, how does this compare to Joseph Murphy material?

Already familiar with these concepts, but I enjoyed reading this. It is succinct. Reading your descriptions of learned helplessness, trauma, complex trauma and addiction made me cry too, from identify…

It seems to me that there is a conflict between followers of Joseph Murphy and Neville Goddard and what they each represent, LOB and LOA, respectively. Now I am not familiar with either of these MEN, …

I’m just getting familiar with this and I’m intrigued by my 12th house stellium

Thank you. This resonates so deeply. The consequences listed are so painfully familiar. An early memory is my mom getting out the phone book, picking up the phone and saying she's calling the orpha…

Yes!!!! Once in one night, I kept getting pulled between here and “the other place”. I’ve been calling it that, assuming it’s another dimension or parallel universe. It was somewhere familiar but unkn…

Wonderful information in the introduction. I would love to get some personal insight from people who are familiar with Astal Projection. I'll keep it as short as possible. I have recently discovered t…

Sure. Just edit out all criticisms of the loapornstars and their lies and propagandist tactics. Also any criticisms of the loa communities and their idiot members. We're all painfully familiar with …

1. That is why it’s called maladaptive daydreaming. The person does so to escape their current reality. They are not making actual changes, thinking different thoughts, reconditioning the subconscious…

Hey there! It’s great that you’re so self aware. I would say (since you asked for advice!) is that you could work on your anxious type behaviours, otherwise they tend to just push us avoidants away ev…

>I have had conversations with my partner over time about attachment styles, and they eventually determined that the descriptions of Avoidant Attachment sounds awfully familiar to them. They have star…

You might want to look into relationship attachment styles, love bombing, and whether you're mistaking the slow burn as boring because it's stable and consistent. The excitement ppl often feel is actu…

I definitely have much less and less tolerance for dismissive avoidant individuals once I identified those traits in my mother, realized they’re a root of pretty much all my lifelong trauma, and start…

Thanks! Crazy how we are conditioned to think this anxiety and nervousness as genuine attraction and love. I've calmed down since then and getting to know this person with clear mind. Yes, the wrong…

Given that insecurely attached people tend to date people or get involved with people that feel familiar to them, you just date the opposite of that familiarity. Harder than it sLundy, I know. Plus i…

You will find the answer here - Moonlight Mailed Me ! : The No1 reason why people fail with their alpha programming. *Hi Everybody, I am one of moonlight's new cubs and his best for sure. I have a …

Increase your php-fpm worker pool. There's a dark art to finding just the right number, since fpm shares memory a lot. Look online to find out how to set that number. Then monitor performance and if y…

This is the first I'm seeing about the Backstage platform, it seems like it can do a lot, and is pretty extensible. Considering the tool belt seems to revolve around Typescript, it's giving me the imp…

Preach, brother! That's what I was saying to my friends for years. Don't listen to (almost) anybody. In the SaaS industry (that's the one I am familiar with) I think only Rob Walling (Microconf, Tin…

This kind of discount is all in the positioning. There's not much information here about your typical engagement structure -- e.g. whether it's monthly, annual, how much it costs, whether you bill by…

Good for you! Sometimes it takes a bit to realize we are back in a pattern we’re trying to outgrow, since it is so familiar.

*" I am VERY familiar with the law and with NG's teachings, so no need to reiterate basics and quotes please - I'm asking about your real experiences. What made you actually believe and know? "* Repe…

Well, if you're into them, that's the first sign. It'll be tricky to differentiate between DA and secure for you because they'll both feel like they're moving at a reasonable pace at first, but a DA i…

All insecurely attached people tend to show up the same early on in relationships. They're usually all persistent at the start, which is a sign of someone that is insecure. Secure people don't priorit…

You're not doomed, it just requires a lot of internal work. Being emotionally vulnerable can be hard when you're insecure because of how unsafe it feels, but that emotional vulnerability is what creat…

I figured anyone mentioning it would get downvoted, but I second the use of ChatGPT and other AI tools. I did a couple years of weekly therapy but it was getting too expensive. Now I use a combination…

It feels like love like that because it feels familiar to your nervous system, in some way like "home". But home is what gave you an insecure attachment style to begin with so it makes sense that the …

I'm definitely not a philosopher by any means, but here are my thoughts. The article references previous research by Monroe & Malle (2009), where it's said that people's concept of free will consists …

I understand why you'd ask. In my case, I wasn't abandoning my boundaries as much as strategically relaxing them for the purpose of understanding the situation and her. I recognized early on that her …

Okay,just by that message- i would hear him out. I would be okay to just meet and hang out and see where it goes. But going forward, his actions need to indicate their differences this time. I'm assum…

This definitely feels familiar from times in my past as well. The problem is, when we are so inward looking, and introspective about things, while that carries some really strong benefits, it can also…

Are they familiar with attachment theory? I think that I would gently suggest that they look into it, and let them know that they should do some work on themselves. That you know they care and that …

Things progressing fast is a sign of insecure attachment. Dismissive avoidant people are pretty surface level people as well. I have never found them charming, because they don’t have much of a perso…

I'm still very new to this forum, but from I can see people here tend to explain the totality of events solely based on the attachment theory. While it does explain why someone with insecure attachmen…

People who are securely attached are often more than their attachment style because their behavior isn’t constantly filtered through anxiety or emotional defense mechanisms. They’re not performing saf…

It makes total sense that coming off meds after so long would stir things up emotionally. It sounds like you’re noticing things with more clarity now even if they feel unfamiliar

I used to be an avoidant. What you are describing sounds very familiar and for me it was the part of me that was afraid of good, uncomplicated love. It made me come up with all sorts of nonsensical is…

This subreddit exists to talk about attachment theory. It's a theory that was developed to try and understand our attachments in *relationships*, which develop from infancy. It's not synonymous with e…

Oh, sounds indeed very familiar! Maybe that's what happens when you are AA but also don't want to be infantilised? Like, we compensate our vulnerability by being the dominant/leading partner and spoil…

No one has an attachment style. You engage in behavior strategies that are effective for that specific relationship. People do end up dating others that are familiar that allows for that behavior to b…

Keep working on yourself and journaling. One thing i learned in my similar journey is that anytime you meet someone and feel that “chemisty” it’s usually attachment/trauma wounding familiarity that yo…

I (F37) started casually flirting and texting a colleague (M29) a while ago. In the beginning, we wrote often and a lot, especially right before we met in person for the first time. Then, overnight, t…

Attachment theory channels and healthygamergg on YouTube and discerned reddit browsing and books have been godsends to me. I'd say as a starter, if you don't already, try and figure out what about ha…

Fairly common and explains the reason behind anxious behavior strategies in your attachment system. As I’m sure many of you struggle with fully letting go of the past and probably struggle with emoti…

Aww sending hugs. Feels familiar. Felt so in my late twenties. Cried so hard. With time and looking back, and lots of unrelated therapy, I realized two things : everything happens for you ; and life i…

This is all valid, thank you! We've been together for 17 years, this Halloween 😁 He is extremely familiar with my trauma, and could probably tell you exactly what is going on in my head during these…

Does it feel emotionally safe/secure because there is a natural distance and no real chance it can become anything romantic? There is very little risk. It’s way easy to live in the fantasy of who you …

He's really good at taking care of me in literally every other way. I think if I was recovering in a hospital bed, he would 100% be reliable and be the best person I could ever ask for. He'd probably …

I'm super skeptical when it comes to relying on an AI (as an AI engineer who knows how unreliable and misleading AI can get). But I'm someone who finds it hard to open up and tell people my deepest …

I wouldn’t send it. If you’re anything like me it will send you into an anxious shame spiral of overthinking, fretting, and self-doubt. If you’re in the midst of a breakup with some other avoidant the…