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THINGS TOXIC "SHIFTERS" SAY/DO (they are more normalized than you think) — Soo days back I made a post voicing frustrations about my shifting experience and mentioning a few a of my roadblocks. Two days ago I shifted successfully to the Odyssey and when I came back to my cr…

Multiple dreams/goal at the time — Hi everyone, im new here. I work the book Psycho-cybernetics for almost 2 years and last week i bought POSM and i LOVE it, i almost finished it and will start re-reading it. My question is, since i h…

Best Practice HTTP Status Code for Proxy-Level Content Validation Failure? — Working on an API gateway/proxy that sits in front of APIs. The proxy adds its own validation layer (toxicity, etc). I'm wrestling with an API design choice: when my **proxy's** validation rules bloc…

Requesting feedback on a landing page design — Hey everyone, hope you're having a great weekend! I just finished designing a landing page for a pest control company and would like some feedback on it. Particularly the bottom section, starting fro…

Anyone up to date about what's happening with TikTok? — I recently started a new venture (media publishing company) that would be a perfect fit for promoting content on TikTok. The MVP is almost finished and I’m looking to start posting and funneling my a…

Can someone explain to me why my competitor is ranking second on Google when the homepage is just the shop with no text and his menu has the shop and a contact us page? — I’ll DM links if that’s allowed and anyone would like to see both sites. I’m currently building out a site (it’s basically finishing just setting up payment gateways and adding product to the shop on…

Jira time logging for DevOps — I work at a big company and we are required to log the time we work on jira tickets to measure our productivity and for other reports for management. Some times I work the 8 hours but most of the time…

(22 M) Newbie Project Manager seeking to handle a project. | I will not promote — (Kinda promotion but eager to learn.) Whether it be a startup or an established firm. I have transitioned from marketing to project management and fortunately got a role of a project manager in a comp…

I created a free WhatsApp chat for your site — After about a year, I finished my first service which I decided to make free. It's a chat widget — https://supportiko.com — that you can install on your website in 5 minutes using copy-paste. Visitors…

CSS not working in web, but works pretty fine locally. — I was rebuilding the page in a subdirectory. I was working always with at least two browsers (Edge and Floorp) to see how the page was going of course. I also tried with a live server extension in VSC…

A customers perspective of those horrible cart conversion emails — Usually a website does a poor job of informing me what shipping will be. I must add items to a cart and hit checkout and type in an address to see what shipping would be. However, this process results…

Woocommerce and shippo broke my website! Please help a begginer! — Hi, I am new to wordpress and woocommerce, i recently was very close to finishing setting up my site, but have had issues finding a plugin to work for shipping, today I tried Shippo, which crashed my …

How do you validate your idea before building it? — Hey all, I'm a developer working on an idea aimed at helping online tutors boost productivity and manage students and lessons better. I'm excited about it, but before I start building, I want to mak…

Getting SaaS app rolling — Hey guys, So after about 1 yrs and a 1/2 I am finished building my first SaaS and a high level MVP done. Also my first round funding is secured. Now to be clear, I have done marketing, gathering pro…

General manager compensation — Hi All, I've owned a small seasonal diner for 5 years now and am planning on drastically stepping back next year. An employee who has been with me for 4 years, and who I trust / get a long with/ have…

Some guidance would be appreciated. Should I focus on a Linux certification first like RHCSA/LFCS first or the Kubernetes CKA. More details below. — Hi everyone. So recently i finished my a devops certification from a bootcamp and have since been spending time working on my own portfolio project. my project consists of: \- a frontend and backend…

What I learned building a quoting system for a construction company doing $10M+ a year — I recently finished a project for a construction company doing roughly $10M per year. They were quoting jobs using Excel and email threads, and while it technically worked, it was slow, error-prone, a…

Hey small businesses why do you make it so hard for me to buy your stuff? — So I'm making a fairly large purchase about 15 units (well trying to ) at a local tree / garden store. I picked one with a very large garden and confirmed they have lots of stock on the phone. I sent …

Small business idea for neighborhood store — Hi everyone, I'm based in europe, greece and I’m looking for feedback on starting a small, neighborhood-oriented business that I can run mostly on my own. Here’s what I have: A 110 sq.m. ground-flo…

Tried all the steps to bootstrap, without funding. I will not promote. — I will not promote. So I spent a lot of time in the local world volunteering. All with the spoken language of "here's how you get your startup funding". So I've helped with community projects, other s…

Pouncemonial: 9th Kill - 30 Successful Trades — **Mission**: To accomplish 30 successful trades **What I achieved**: Accomplished 30 successful trades and learned how to execute and manage trades well. **Background**: With the previous kill, …

Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…

Update: Self-help group for anxious attachment — Thank you to everyone who responded to my [**prior post**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AnxiousAttachment/comments/1plm1g1/selfhelp_group_for_anxious_attachment/) re starting a self-help group. (Yes, The…

Letter to my ex — **7th February 2026** “You will find me, right?” That sentence is the last sentence. The one that always stays with me. Every single day I think about it, and I think that’s why I know what I have t…

March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…

Feeling “off” after trust rupture — attachment system or intuition? — I have been dating my current partner for about a year now. Long post incoming. I’m posting because I’m noticing a significant avoidant shift in myself and I need perspective specifically on my own at…

You don't have to finish the book you're not enjoying — That's it. That's the post. Give yourself permission. Your time is more valuable than your misplaced sense of obligation to a few hundred pages of paper.

DDay - 2/19/2026 - Online Emotional Affair Led to Full Blown Infidelity — I found out my wife was going on “solo” concert trips, but was also using them as a way to vacation with a guy she had been talking to online for years. Seventeen years together and seven years marri…

My (28f) boyfriend (37m) drinks to excess nearly every weekend, am I selfish for wanting it to stop? — Throwaway account. Please tell me if I am crazy for feeling this way. My boyfriend (37m) and I (28f) have what I consider to be a generally good relationship. We’ve had some issues in the past that we…

Shame has dictated my entire life for 41 years — And I didn't know it until now. It was the silent background noise, the "I'm not good enough," "Don't do that or you'll fail!" "Look how stupid you are, you can't do anything right," "Don't notice m…

"You can shorten the interval by intensity." — **"You can shorten the interval by intensity. Like boiling water…I can put on a pot of water in the morning and think I turned up the entire flame and I didn’t. So I wonder when I finish reading my pa…

Why Being Ok With Not Having Your Desire Manifests It Faster — It’s a very contradictory thing in manifesting where you desire something, but you’re told to let it go and not care about whether or not you have it (because in 4D you already have it). But let’s fo…

My boyfriend (M35) and I (F27) have not said i love you, over a year of dating — TLDR; My boyfriend (M35) and I (f27) have been together for over a year, he hasn’t said I love you despite having talked about marriage, kids, future together. In a conversation he said he was apprehe…

My first week with the Gateway Tapes — I am so grateful that I have been able to experience what I have already and I wanted to share. I’ve been doing guided meditations for astral projection for some time now with limited results. Last w…

I feel like no one talks about parental co-dependency… — My mother and I are thick as thieves and have been ever since I was born. I grew up in a household full of boys and men, my mother being the only consistent woman in my life. I had many ups and dow…

I (24f) am tired of cooking for my bf (25m) — i recently talked to my bf about not cooking dinner for him anymore. for context: we both work from home, have been together for 2.5 years, and have been living together for about 6 months. since movi…

DO NOT GIVE UP — DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!! I have so much to say. But ima try to keep it short ish. I just wanted to make a quick post about my journey. I’ve been “manifesting” for five years. I actually have not. Those f…

Recorded one conversation a week for a month and it was the most uncomfortable and useful thing I've ever done — Not secretly, I'd just tell whoever I was talking to "hey do you mind if I record this, I'm trying to work on how I communicate" and every single person said yes. Except for one so far. Then I'd list…

It worked! — I worked out yesterday, then I did the meditation with the energy healing colors. You know, green for peace, purple for healing, red for power. Today my knee hurt from the exercise. I warmed up, wor…

I achieved my dream… now what? — Hi everyone, I’m in my early 30s and I’m facing a luxury problem I never thought I’d have. I’ve basically achieved what I set out to do, since I was a kid. I have a good education, a well paying job…

Just finished reading Big Asian Energy and I'm hooked. What should I read next? — I'm not usually a fan of personal development type books, but it felt like this book was speaking to me directly. There were so many parts I could relate to, like dealing with both internal pressure t…

As an artist, I now can see the reason I loved art, nature, and music so much growing up was a form of escapism from my emotionally neglectful parents — Can anyone else relate? I think when I was younger, getting lost in a painting or paying attention very closely to the natural world around me would help me find joy in a world where I felt extremely …

My new home — Hello everyone, Since May 2025, I’ve been practicing the Law of Assumption regarding owning a home. I started out affirming for a 2-bedroom, 2-bathroom house and even began viewing properties and att…

THE PHOENIX LIGHTS 29th ANNIVERSARY This is what I saw that night March 13, 1997. It was a totally solid piece of machinery not just lights. I could see the bottom of the UFO clearly by two light sources illuminating the bottom of the craft as it flew over my head — I posted this also in UFO sub. March 13, 1997 I was working in East Mesa, Arizona in a 10 bed Hospice inpatient unit as the Charge RN. We worked 12 hour shifts getting off at 7:30 PM but that night t…

I texted her. Here's what I said. I hope this was honest and vulnerable enough. — OK so, this will be a long one. I fucked up. I have some many things to tell you, so many regrets with a heavy heart. I'll start with I miss you. I've been missing you for a long time now. I haven't t…

please, take your time to hear my story, because no one else ever did — My mom gave birth to me when she was 41 years old, I have a sister and a brother, my sister is 27 years old, but she has mental problems and behaves terribly immature, so she is always making screamin…

Is my relationship doomed? I love him, but I’m so alone. — Hey everyone, I’m Lucy (F, late 20s) and I’ve been with my husband, Rick (M, late 20s) for about 8 years, married for 2. I know he cares about me and our family, and I see that he loves us. But latel…

Exercise for you! (Strength your manifestations + my success story) — You can use this exercise to strengthen your trust in yourself and your manifesting abilities. The goal of these small exercises is to give your mind the proof it needs… to show that you can manifest…

32 years of marriage, but I'm still unsettled by an affair from 2006. Is it too late to ask for the truth? — I’ve been married for 32 years now, but there is a something from 2006 that I’ve never been able to move past. Back then, my daughters were 11 and 10. We were leaving my parents' house after a weekend…

(TW) Forced cosmetic procedures as a minor – is there a name for this kind of trauma? — TW: body shaming, child abuse, medical procedures forced on a child. Hey folks. I've been digging through some memories in therapy and I just recalled something horrifying. Heed the trigger warnings …

Has anyone experienced a static electronic crackle? — Hi everyone, I've been doing Gateway for about 6 months now. I haven't finished the tapes, because I'm probably taking it slower than most and re-doing certain ones over and over. I try to set aside t…

hey! thanks mention this video, I just checked it out, or actually still am, 45 minutes into, not finished yet. not at all slick, nor perfect, however is some useful content.

Hi, I’ve been lurking for a couple weeks now and finished my first reading of POSM at this sub’s suggestion last weekend and The Feeling is the Secret not long after. The concept is completely underst…

>If we believe with perfect faith that our desire is already ours in the subconscious mind, why would the subconscious mind not just assume the act has already been finished in the past rather than wo…

a) law of assumption, not law of belief. And where did you get the other descriptions from? I've been on Neville sub for a while, literally noone describes the law in those words or speak in a spiritu…

I had a really concerning dream just now and fear of my boyfriend didn't wake me up something bad was going to happen to me.. It started off in a house I've never seen before the kitchen was upstairs…

What if I ruined the chance of possibly not getting back together due to me being an emotional abuser??For example, she broke up with me because of unhappiness, goal of finishing her college degree, a…

So moonlight, So i just finished POSM, And I'm wondering, with the powers I have, is it possible for me to manifest an ideal job I want that doesn't exist?

Okay logic and science- so your RAS reticular activating system is basically the minds way of filtering and processing the insurmountable data that it takes in from the environment 24/7 as well as pro…

I just finished reading “Attached”, and it gave me such a better understanding of attachment styles and myself. One of the ways my anxious attachment style has been manifesting post-break up with an a…

I'm in the same boat and frankly i started kind of faking it, but also including the hours i usually wouldn't like time spent on considering the solution to the problem, finding/reading docs/SOPs, bab…

Check this roadmap (and no, it's not that one with thousands of tools that no one ever finished ... it's structured a bit differently): https://devopsroadmap.io There is no 1 source that covers the …

These interviews are getting ridiculous, hope they're not using you to finish the sprint

I was diagnosed three years ago with ADHD. My wife, who is a psychotherapist, speculated for a long time and then gave me an assessment, which was then confirmed with a psychiatrist. But I've been run…

>selling and marketing is the hard part, not building I’d distill it down to this. If you have an existing network or know soneone who does and you do they are great at sales you’re gold. The produ…

I'm in the real estate space and I'm in the process of building a shop space for a few independent contractors to run their own businesses out of, and it has taken over a year and is 80% over budget, …

Sounds like you're their manager * take them off the skunkworks - the project is no longer needed * this is why people play the agile planning card game. Have everyone vote on time of every ticket. M…

Secure here. I still do learn and learn to accept that a lot of people cant express themself and selfreflect. Long distance friend of mine and, probably DA, got into arguments with me via whatsapp. …

My simplified view (derived from a ton of research with about 80 finished books on AT, Trauma, Neurochemistry, Therapy, Mindfulness, etc) is that until one has awakened to own insecure attachment and …

Thanks qgain for such in-deep advices, I really appreciate that. No, I don't know for a fact that she's a DA, that's just my conclusion from reading different online resources (includong this sub). Th…

Well initially I thought that about this 6-7-ish mark we'll make it official. However closer to those timestamps she began to feel overwhelmed with each week (she's autistic, was finishing her bachelo…

lol “healed” and “healing” are two different things. Healed is “the healing has become past tense and is finished” which is why I translated to “fully healed”. And regardless u missed my point. No one…

I'm sorry to hear your experience, but I'm glad you learned and could heal. I guess ultimately I believe we had to go through it for a reason. We had "unfinished buisness" with that person and we need…

Why would an avoidant push me away, but then orbit me for almost 2 years — even while committed to someone else? I feel ashamed for being stuck on this.. I (32F) had a short but intense connection wi…

Hey OP I remember your previous posts. I'm sorry you're going through this. Expecting warmth from someone who's gone cold is a punishment in itself, so stop punishing yourself and stop waiting for som…

This is an interesting question, and if I understood you correctly you are asking if my subconcious belief/faith has risen? Well I have to preface this reply with one nuance. I discovered manifestin…

This is exactly it. These people can’t think for themselves. And there’s no outside source either. It’s all you. You are the beginning and end, the start and finish. Once you realise that it should fe…

So I (38M)'ve just been dumped again by someone who picked up on my attachment anxiety, and I'm extremely frustrated because I'm pretty far along my healing journey, but not finished yet obviously, an…

I know it can be expensive but you mentioned in your original post you have a good career. You also, in your own words, are desperate to date someone. Are you really not able to come up with ~$100 dol…

Forgive me for being thick, but I think I just became even more confused. I read both posts and just finished reading the link to the post by Marsh273, you shared. I have read quite a few of them in …

Hey! First time asking question but long term sufferer or anxious attachment! How do yous cope and self soothe and calm? I can never handle my emotions til after the fact. I’ve had issues with anxiet…

Yeah, we’ve both had talks how the long distance is likely putting a strain on things - especially as we both move into more full-time jobs and are showing up to our somewhat nightly calls tired from …

I find talking things out with a friend helps. Heck, I'm even chatting with ChatGPT, lol. I've been checking out an app called Relationship Anxiety Attached and I'm just about finished the free trial…

I've been checking out an app called Relationship Anxiety Attached and I'm just about finished the free trial. It has some great lessons and also a tool to self-sooth when you need it. It's a pretty i…

You are confusing "ceased contact" with "no contact". There is zero contact in both, but with different context and reasons. When you finish off all the necessary communication *on your part*, and y…

Hey everyone, I’d really appreciate some advice or perspective. Yesterday I had an argument with my girlfriend, and it left me feeling pretty low. We hadn’t talked all day, so in the evening I…

I think it's normal in anxious attachment style. That doesn't mean it feels comfortable for you - nor for him, to be honest. It sounds like you could both benefit to do work around your attachment sty…

Very astute observation with IFS: It happens infrequently, but it can actually encourage psychosis and dissociative conditions due to think of oneself as a multiple rather than integrated whole, so it…

I literally have been having these same conversations with my bf the past month. There was a week or two where he wasn’t initiating— i told him that this made me feel not desired which was emptying my…

Previously extremely anxious in relationships, have never gent calm love. But then two years ago I met a man and wewere in the most secure, loving, beautiful relationship. No anxiety, in fact he purs…

I am in a similar path as well. Glad to see you are able to identify the familiarity of the past/childhood experiences and how it makes us to feel at Home with this person. Recently finished reading …

My experience? My dad fits the clinical definition of NPD; my sister, BPD; and at least one of my exes was diagnosed BPD. I went down the diagnostic rabbit hole after that. Oh, and I'm completing a p…

Text of original post by u/TheOceanTheSun: Thank you to everyone who responded to my [**prior post**](https://www.reddit.com/r/AnxiousAttachment/comments/1plm1g1/selfhelp_group_for_anxious_attachment/…

I (22F) have been in my first real and committed relationship for a month now. And I think I’m having anxiety over it and overthinking and thinking ahead way too soon. My boyfriend (24M) have known ea…

Stop trying to control the spiral. When you spiral, that's anxiety; let it pass. Don't try to calm down or stop thinking about it because it will only frustrate you more to see that you can't stop thi…

I was doing so well until last night. Been on a few good dates, texted for over a month, then this week we finally had a first kiss. 3 days later, an evening at his place (no sex). He tried to invite …

Yes. I asked ChatGPT to make a concise summary: Anxious-Preoccupied (AP): Dwells, Replays, Ruminates APs are the most likely to: • Replay conversations over and over • Analyze what went wrong • …

I recently have begun to notice that I have an anxious attachment style with my bf of one year. Every single time we encounter a little "normal" blip in the relationship, it feels like the end of the…

Crazy to think that it took until tonight to FINALLY have my first good date of the year. Hoping there's a second, but at the very least I'm back from the depths of "oh my god I'm going to die alone".…

They're temporary and he already knows about them, and doesn't care. Most people aren't going to care. If they do, they can see themselves out. We're not little kids bullying each other because of bra…

Well, my avoidant ex-situationship giving it one last shot dating has finished. He told me he didn’t “get a consistent spark” to pursue this further. Crushing, as he also told me that 99% of when we a…