book
notes
Evidence
Citations (101)
As someone who agrees phone passwords shared between partners isn't a big deal, he shouldn't be mad you don't want him to read your diary. Yes some stuff should be private. If he doesn't like that, th…
Welcome to r/ecommerce! Please Read Before Posting — **Table of Contents:** I. Account Requirements II. Content Rules III. Linking Policies IV. Dropshipping Guidelines V. Reporting Violations VI. Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) VII. Encouraged C…
A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse. We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon. W…
To all the scrum masters/PMs: Would you use an AI that joins meetings, takes notes, and assigns tasks to the right teammate automatically? I will not promote — Hi! I’ve been thinking about a recurring pain I see in most teams — meetings generate lots of discussion and action items, but someone still has to take notes, track tasks, and figure out who shoul…
How to add customisation order to customer notes? — We have a product you can choose to get engraved. All the apps I have found for personalisation put the customer request in the line item of the order. Does anyone know of a way to have it appear in…
After the first deployment of your products, how do you get feedback? — I launched my products and so far I've had around 100 orders, from those 100 order 4 have left a review. Apart from the fact that the reviews are shown in the website, I would like to hear feedback fr…
Good user interviews? [I will not promote] — Hey r/startups, I've had some recent pain doing user interviews, and I'm wondering if it's something that can be fixed. Every tool I've looked at for help seems expensive, and tbh, pretty shit. I'd …
Which Hosting to choose for a website with ~100 pictures uploaded per day by users — The website is mostly of the pictures posted by users. Please advice any good cloud storage that is easily scalable. My dev told me to go with digital ocean. They have so many pricings and I am lil co…
If you had to rebuild your business ops from scratch, what systems would you start with? — We've been working with small teams to rebuild internal operations from the ground up. Most of them come to us after things start slipping. The solution isn't always a new tool. It's often a few well…
Finding Like Minded Business People — **TL/DR :** Looking for people who are stuck with unsure with what business they want to pursue and end up learning a little bit about all of them; that want to partner up to stay focused with each …
To-do lists in text form don’t fit our way of thinking, they are slow and unproductive. To-Do Models is the way to go. — I’ve found Projects modeled visually instead of written in flat lists to be wayy more productive and successful. Traditional to-do lists are linear—one-dimensional. You follow a fixed path: top to bot…
Fundraising ask (+ help) — Hey all - I'm a serial founder with $50M+ raised, including from venture, PE, etc. I'm semi-obsessed with fundraising, and curious if I can make the process less painful - and more successful - for…
Fundraising ask (+ help!!!) — Hey all - I'm a serial founder with $50M+ raised, including from venture, PE, etc. I'm semi-obsessed with fundraising, and curious if I can make the process less painful - and more successful - for …
4+ Months of LOB Practice — What's up people. Discovered this sub around the start of april 2025, and didn't actually navigate trough the index until about 15-16th of April, and after reading the index, starting 20th April I st…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
Another real life example of how clear communication can be distorted into a victim narrative. Emotions can rewrite history, too. There are two sides to every story. — Receipts! Slides 1-2: Their version of events Slide 3: only a snippet of all their comments on vent/rant threads and others. Removed by automod for not having a user flair (a clear rule and automod …
Reflection on over friendly therapist? — Hi readers. This is something that has been on my mind for months and I don't know how to wrap my head around it. Some professional insight might be helpful. I left therapy a few months ago. I had …
No contact year 6 update: — Hello everyone! I’ve made some update posts in the past and figured I would make one for year 6 as that anniversary is coming up soon, and with context it will make sense why I still specifically reme…
The entire universe is frequency and our communications depend on the resonance of our quantum fields — As many of you in this community know, the "UFO/NHI" phenomenon and spiritual awakening often converge at a single point: Resonance. For years, I’ve been obsessed with a question: Is there a specific …
I (21F) Am losing feelings for my (22M) boyfriend. Any advice? — Throwaway account. I (21F) and my boyfriend (22M) have been together for a little over two years. It's been good for the most part, and i can tell you that my boyfriend is one of the best people i kno…
My therapist seems to forget? — So, I’ve been seeing my therapist for a few months now. I see him weekly, and yesterday I was discussing my struggles with being perceived without being “perfect”. I told him due to being bullied as a…
HOW TO MAKE CHARTS SO YOUR POSTS DON'T GET REMOVED — # MOST IMPORTANT PLEASE USE ONLY THESE SITES: * [Astro-Seek.com](https://Astro-Seek.com) * [Astro.com](https://Astro.com) Do not use these chart makers. All are either useless because they don’t pr…
Something I noticed after my breakup that nobody warned me about — Something I didn’t expect after a bad breakup was how confusing the memories become. When you're in a relationship, certain moments feel clearly wrong! But after it ended, my brain started replaying…
I manifested clear skin! Pictures below. — TW: skin issues, swipe on your own risk. The first 3 pictures are taken today in daylight no filter, the other pictures show my skin before. Months ago I got really bad dermatitis and acne, the skin…
I am inthralled with learning about so many deep concepts but why do I have an inability to do anything with the things I learn? — I love learning, studying, and taking notes on many different subjects but I'm unable to do anything with it. Part of me would love to share and write, but I feel so insecure in these areas and never …
The absolute dearth of any kind of help for victims of polyamory under duress — Nobody understands. There is literally nobody to turn to. Since the APA mandated that polyamorous relationships be accepted this has become a topic I cannot bring up anywhere. Nobody wants to talk ab…
Why did I always have such a hard time making and building solid connections with people? — Ever since I was school-aged, I've known myself to have issues with connecting to people. I could get along decently, but never really had a "best friend". So no one paid attention to me or wanted to …
I will stop using ai. — So I have been using ai for like everything: homework, writing some notes and even coding for me, that's horrible for my brain and even my future. But am deciding to change - I will stop using it com…
My Divorce Journey - Hope it Helps someone — Just want to share some notes on my journey through divorce…I’ve been divorced for about two years after a 15 year marriage (2 kids) and I’m finally on firm ground with myself. Just some key points …
First “bad” trip taught me a lot - sharing my experience to help others — I’m 28m, good job, good relationships, physically fit, happy overall. Experienced tripper with several high-dose mushroom trips under my belt. Always had positive experiences. Took 4g mushrooms today…
How to bring up SI to my therapist? — (Prefacing: I am currently safe! This post just sucks to make.) I'm relatively new to having a therapist, I started last year in November. I feel like I hit the jackpot with my therapist, I think we …
I spent years trying to fix my life with discipline. Therapy showed me why that didn’t work — **My Journey** I can’t remember not being depressed. I have some memories of the time before, but they are pictures, frames of a child enjoying life. But I’ve struggled with depression almost my enti…
I (19F) told my boyfriend (19M) it’s not my job to prove I won’t cheat. — For context, my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 5 months. We met through mutual friends, and he’s my first boyfriend. We got along really well and started dating about a month after we bega…
Gateway Improves my timing — Does Gateway improve your sense of timing? I never hear anyone talk about this, but it amazes me how it works. It's worth doing it for this alone. I always seem to be in the right place at the right …
Farewell — In the last two years, I have posted to this group a few times. Last year, I posted ([“Here’s the thing: you’re dying, too.”](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/1ifz1cr/heres_the_thing_youre_…
Anyone using Gateway Tapes for Remote Viewing? Free monitor here — I’ve been using the Gateway tapes and practicing remote viewing. If you’re doing RV sessions and need a monitor, I can help for free. We can use Discord or Zoom. I’ll take notes and stay neutral. …
I’ve got anxiety, I think I need meds but I’m fifteen, can y’all help? — TW = mentioned depression, SH, s\*\*cide attempts hey y’all!! im (15f) pretty rocky, mental health wise, and I don’t wanna go super deep into it, but I’ve had trouble for like 5+ years with it. I …
Love after Love — I've been separated for seven months, after 23 years of marriage, a marriage where I slowly changed myself into the person I thought she wanted me to be. I wore a mask every day, suppressing my true s…
Ghosted at 45 — I’m genuinely heartbroken. I (45F) was ghosted by a 40 year old man after exclusively dating for 4 months. I have been divorced for 3 years, I’ve dated here and there, but really took time to work on …
She admits the lies and secrecy, but still denies anything physical — I’m posting because I feel like I’m losing my grip on what is real, and I need perspective from people who understand trickle truth, repeated minimizing, and what it feels like when someone admits jus…
I started writing things down after conversations and it changed how I see things — I started writing things down because I kept leaving conversations with my spouse feeling confused. Not just upset, but genuinely confused. Like I knew how I felt in the moment, but later I couldn’t c…
No Contact is Hard — This is just a random post to say that every time I want to text him, I stop. Then I open up my notes app and type what I want to say, close it, and try to push past the urge. It seems to be working …
I wrote the perfect text to my ex. Read it back 6 months later and couldn't believe I almost sent it. — It was 2am. I was been staring at my phone for an hour. I had everything figured out. the exact words. the right tone. the right thing to but not too desperate, not too cold. just to be honest enough …
How do I break up with my therapist? — NAT: I’ve only been keeping the current therapist I have because I was out on a short-term disability leave for anxiety and PTSD and she was helping me in providing therapy notes and needed documentat…
Has Asian parenting culture changed in the last 20 years? — How much has Asian parenting culture changed in recent decades? We hear all kinds of stories about Boomer or Gen X Asian parents from Millennial/Gen Z children. What about nowadays since Millennials a…
I think I manifested way more than I thought was possible — Okay… so I think I just came to the realization that I manifested ALOT more than I actually knew was possible…. Whether it was positive or negative. For instance. My elementary/ middle school crush…
Wave 1 introduction to focus 10 (first timer) — Wave 1 introduction to focus 10 \- Afterwards felt very focused, aware. Face feels numb. \- During focus 10, I saw a vision of a black male outside a building walking, then hearing gunshots inside …
Document everything has to be the worst advice — When I was going through my own years long situation I kept saving everything, that's all I heard "document everything" as though anyone know what that even means. So I did, I had the screenshots, em…
What's a trip insight that sounded profound in the moment but made zero sense the next day? — I have a notes app full of things I was CONVINCED were the secrets of the universe at 2am on mushrooms my favorite is "time is just space that forgot to sit down" what even is that lol drop yours belo…
I’m fairly certain I’m being abused, this last week has been ROUGH. Lives in MY home, I’m scared. — I’ve been in a relationship (me F34; he is M34) with this person for 10 years. Relationship never went anywhere, clearly. He lives in MY home and I’m afraid he won’t leave peacefully. I’ve been slowl…
I'm already behind in life at 18 — I wasn't sure which flair to use, because I think I need advice on a lot of things. I also want to preface by saying I do not blame any of this on my parents, schools, mental health, etc, and this was…
Credit goes to /u/Amasov too since many of the descriptions under "What forms can emotional neglect take?" and under the question on common consequences come from his notes.
Instead of writing them I use the notes app on my phone and voice dictate my dreams. Keeps them organized by date and I do it right when I wake up. Don’t wait because for forget small details. Like…
does keeping your dreams in an iphone notes ok? or does it need to be paper?
I feel you. I’ll give you my experience as a FA then suggestions. - I also transitioned from anxious to avoidant our the years. I was never full on AA but more anxious leaning FA as a child. Now I l…
if someone triggers my attachment system, it's basically the worst. Usually my partners have not done that and I was mostly normal? though the fear of being cheated on has shown up with everyone who …
Brush up on the company, what they do, their market, etc. Why do you want to be there specifically. Have that answer solid. It’s really important to convince them you’ll like it and therefore try hard…
So instead of replying individually and repeating myself, I'm just going to make a comment addressing it all. Firstly, it was interesting to read all these perspectives. I see where some of its comin…
Thank you, I take notes for euphemisms. My ex DA used to minimize everything and make it look like its nothing. Dismissing & criticising my feelings too as if it was the biggest sin to have emotions. …
Was she avoidant? I dated this girl for almost a year. At first, I didn’t think she was avoidant. She was good at communicating her boundaries, was consistent with everything, and made me feel secur…
What I'm going to say is not going to sound intuitive at all and is going to be scary, but it's honestly one of the practices and shifts I made that has led me to being secure. It took a lot of therap…
I’ve so been doing this lately and saving things in my notes folder. It keeps me from dumping anxious thoughts on other people and has really helped supplement my healing journey
I'm super skeptical when it comes to relying on an AI (as an AI engineer who knows how unreliable and misleading AI can get). But I'm someone who finds it hard to open up and tell people my deepest …
Oh, thank you for such clear, coherent feedback. I might write "Stay in the present. Turn inwards to find that validation, comfort, reassurance, strength, and forgiveness within yourself." into my pho…
I lost my best friend due my anxious attachment style. How do I cope? We were really close, could be compared more to a relationship but we were (long-distance) best friends (for about 1,5 years). I’…
I have these random moments where all my feelings come to surface almost all at once which push me to want to break no contact. I feel the same regret and anxiety when there’s silence even after tryin…
>*In order to move on, you need to not only stop feeling sorry for yourself,* *but also stop feeling sorry for the world.* *That is forgiveness in its essence.* *To give up a certain lens to see…
What’s actually happening (in plain language) Roughly, your system is doing this: 1. Distance = danger. When you don’t see him (or replies slow down), your body reads it as “I’m about to be abando…
Separation/space/distance triggers feelings of loneliness and abandonment and even though you aren't breaking up, you may self sabotage to either reconnect to feel connected or to breakup first. Here'…
Hi, (18M) sorry for the long story: For context, my girlfriend and I have been dating for around 7 months now. Her and I both have avoidant tendencies but she talked to me about my avoidant tendencies…
Am I (26M) being triggered by my anxious attachment with this guy I'm seeing (25M)? Hi everyone, I (26M) am struggling to separate reality from past trauma (a toxic avoidant ex) and need a rational a…
[takes notes] I gave it a try today, giving him an update about my mental health (another can of worms really) over lunch, and allowing my eyes to get watery (and in public at that! at a bus termi…
Would love to swap notes on CBT methods!
I'm over here taking notes. This reply is my sign to curate a feed of silly sharks and art tips on my art dump IG. I appreciate tips on relationships and healing, but past a certain point, after s…
I googled "how to communicate as an avoidant" and got a slew of "how to communicate TO an avoidant" with a side dish of "avoidants are soooooo immature fr fr no cap" 🙄 I just wanted quick tips …
If I may offer a hint from my own experience, My fastest manifestation came during the first revision session. I was in very deep relaxation and couldn't feel my body at all, and the scene only las…
Great question and I wish I had a concrete answer. I tend to write/vent in phone notes when I’m feeling activated and that usually gets me to a place of realizing either they’re being rude/unreasonabl…
I completely agree! I remember making notes on the book and had that same conclusion. One part it was heavily implied that avoidants only trigger an anxious' activating behaviour, so the latter shou…
My date/boyfriend (not sure yet..) is going on a family trip this weekend. We won’t see each other for almost 2 weeks. I’d like to do something nice for him. I was thinking about leaving a few cute no…
I started a little experiment a few months back, just on Hinge (I’m also on Bumble). I used to say “I get no likes,” but I’m a data/evidence person… and also have the memory of a goldfish 😅 So I star…
Curious how y’all feel about voice notes? Started talking to a guy on Tinder, we switched to text, and he sent me a quick voice note earlier—nothing crazy, just telling me about his work day. Made me…
I'm a guy, but I liked it. Last person I was dating back in Nov/Dec, we were just texting since we were a drive away long distance, and she started sending voice notes similarly just to respond to som…
I hate voice notes because then if I want to check something you told me it's very difficult to find any info back
I hate voice notes with passion. They are convenient to send, but very inconvenient to receive - not all of us are wearing headphones all the time. Granted, nowadays it's getting easier with various p…
>Curious how y’all feel about voice notes? Nothing in the world I hate more
TW/CW: ICE Raid violence, imprisonment, and deportation Quyen Dinh, Executive Director of Southeast Asia Resource Action Center (SEARAC) joins me as a guest for this emergency episode on The Banh…
I’m a card person and I’ve yet to have the pleasure of being with someone who really appreciates the idea of snail mail or holding onto little love notes for a while, or at least something more than r…
It sounds like you found your perfect rhythm; hope they're taking notes on that!
A series of events: Met a man on Hinge. Went on a bunch of dates. Did lots of fun stuff. Defined the relationship (my first ever relationship). Went on a bunch more dates, and generally spent …
I mainly use WhatsApp so I don’t find it suspicious at all, and it’s great when you talk to people overseas. I guess the features that would make some people suspicious would be that you can send di…
I don't tolerate excuses for why someone can't prioritize or show up for my special moments. I truly believe there is always a way. I planned a whole surprise party for my bff's milestone bday. I ev…
Decent chance you will not match, so cross that bridge if you do and let them figure it out. Options if you match, they will both agree to go on a first date to compare notes (because they definitely …
Funny is better than boring. Take notes guys. Happy Valentine’s.
I'll save you a piece and we can compare notes. Not sure how it'll hold up to the cross-continental flight...
First and foremost,let me say it takes courage to do what your about to do. I feel your anxiousness and the lump in the throat but also the butterflies that start when you see the other person. You me…
it sounds like he won and you aren’t happy. He literally won! You cook and take care of both of you guys. you are a great girl. you guys are intimate. I feel like you are giving so much and eventually…
There’s tools available though like notes in your phone to keep track, a calendar to remember dates, etc. Do you actually want to follow through?
Plan the romance. Write down things. I don't think my partner was naturally romantic when we started dating (at least that's what he told me), but he started writing things down that I liked and was i…
Oh yeah. It was sort of dismissed with an "you know I love you". And then when he sent valentine flowers the card with it was completely blank, and I made a joke about him not even expressing feelin…
Create a note pad on your smart phone. Take notes of social places mentioned, interesting items they’ve said they liked, food places they said they have wanted to try or trips/events they want to see.…
> You’ll see a lot of them have similar jobs Cliff-notes for someone who has never seen the show (only memes using clips from it)?