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I will offer a counterpoint from a man's perspective. Women have nesting instincts that men don't, and want more controlled environments because of this. Men have the natural urge to present themselve…
Think of the comments as inverted Uber ratings. (click to find out what this means) — I last posted a variation of this a little over 5 years ago. We're a little overdue for a repost. --- You know how every Uber rating is right on the verge of 5 stars unless something's particularly …
Even as an FA the one thing I'll never understand about avoidants is how they can hate someone they cared about a week ago. — I was reflecting and journaling on my past relationships, and taking full responsibility for past mistakes. I'm an FA so there were times when I thought I needed external validation to feel whole, and…
Website Rebrand and Redesign Advice — First Let me say: I have absolutely no eye for design. If it is more complex than a stick figure, I cant imagine it in my mind. However, I do know of already existing designs that I love and want to r…
Sharing my learnings as a mid-seniority job seeker — I started job-hunting in April. After two weeks of sending applications and receiving zero feedback (only ghosting), I scheduled a few calls with my mentor. Based in Eastern Europe and looking for a f…
Update on Our Journey to Export Pistachio Butter – Small Wins & Hard Lessons — Hey everyone, A few weeks ago I posted here about our family business in Gaziantep, Turkey — we produce high-quality pistachio butter and are looking to expand internationally. Just wanted to give a…
Started a Pistachio Spread Brand in Turkey — Now Trying to Go Global (Advice Appreciated!) — Hey everyone, I’m based in Turkey and help run a family business that produces natural pistachio butter — no additives, no sugar, just roasted pistachios. It’s something we’ve been doing for over 15 …
Freelance in SEO or full-time remote job: Am I making a mistake by still applying? — Hey everyone, I’m at a bit of a crossroads and could really use your advice—even if it goes against what I’m currently thinking. Since I was 18 (I’m 20 now), I’ve been building websites just for fun…
Freelance in SEO or full-time remote job: Am I making a mistake by still applying? — Hey everyone, I’m at a bit of a crossroads and could really use your advice—even if it goes against what I’m currently thinking. Since I was 18 (I’m 20 now), I’ve been building websites just for fun…
Seeking Your Input on a Tool to Boost LLM Rankings — Hey SEO community, as the title says, I’m building a new tool just for us, and I’d love your feedback. More people start using GPT and similar AI for searches. It’s still early days, but the trend is…
My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote — Hey All, A few months ago, I shared my story here (original Reddit post in comments) about starting an IT consultancy business in the Netherlands with a friend right after graduation. At that time, w…
How to Wreck Your Career: a cautionary tale from someone who has 5 years of experience.. — Context:- I am a 31 year old UX designer with a masters degree in industrial design from one of the top design schools here in India. I have almost 6 years of experience on the paper of which I hav…
To all e-commerce store owners: What tool do you wish existed to make managing your store easier? — Hello to all e-commerce entrepreneurs! 👋 In the fast-paced world of digital commerce, we know there are many daily challenges — whether it's managing orders, handling customers, shipping, analyti…
Struggling to build credibility *I will not promote* — Hi everyone. I am just starting out in web design and development, and after taking 5 extensive (and expensive) courses in web design, SEO, and development, I’m confident in my skills. The challenge I…
DevSecOps / AI CTF today - Ctf.punksecurity.co.uk — Our CTF runs today, with entry level and difficult challenges across DevSecOps and AI. No cost to play, some prizes for the best teams. CTFs are little competitive puzzle based games designed to exp…
Plan to build the healthiest farm-to-table meal delivery service. Seeking advice. I will not promote. — I WILL NOT PROMOTE. Plan on building what I believe can be the cleanest and most transparent farm-to-table meal delivery service brand, and I’d love feedback from anyone who’s worked in DTC, food or j…
Unsecured Capital Raise "i will not promote" — Hello, first-time poster looking for creative fundraising recommendations. I’m working to open a recreation + F&B "eatertainment" facility inside a large leased space. I anticipate traditional invest…
I have software business with a few customers. How should I scale? (I will not promote.) — Hi everyone, I currently have a SaaS business that provides software to local Credit Unions with the goal to enhance the member experience by building credit, offering tools to renters, and compete w…
Are you guys facing trouble in WhatsApp chat icon setup in your Shopify website? — Hey Shopify users, Which Shopify app do you use add the WhatsApp icon in your Shopify visit? Are you facing any challenge in that? Can we see metrics such as how many clicks are there in the icon an…
Intercom “design challenge” (stay away) — Please don’t give them free work…. or charge them a consulting freee. https://www.linkedin.com/posts/thomas-rimmer-73903030_%F0%9D%97%AA%F0%9D%97%B2-%F0%9D%97%B7%F0%9D%98%82%F0%9D%98%80%F0%9D%98%8…
Success comes to those that can manage 4 innovation risks (I will not promote) — As a startup, your role is to strategically manage innovation risks to unlock your business’s financial potential. To achieve this, focus on addressing the following key risks: • Desirability Risk: …
Is WooCommerce the Right Fit for Your Wholesale Business? — If you're a wholesaler considering WooCommerce for your B2B operations, it's essential to weigh its capabilities against your business needs. Here's a concise breakdown based on insights from Qoblex :…
Passive FTP into Kubernetes ? Sounds cursed. Works great. — “talk about forcing some ancient tech into some very new tech wow... surely there's a better way” said a VMware admin watching my counter FTP strategy😅 **Challenge accepted** I recently needed to r…
How do you handle tracking updates + international shipping transparency in Shopify? — One challenge we’ve been facing is managing customer expectations when it comes to international shipping, especially when multiple carriers are involved (like packages moving from 4PX → USPS, or YunE…
Does anyone here use Humanitec? Feedback wanted! — I’ve been looking into Humanitec and I’m curious to hear from people who are actually using it. * What use case(s) you’re solving with it? * How it's integrated into your workflows? * Any wins or cha…
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
Got ghosted after 3rd round — Hey everyone, Just wanted to share my recent experience and see if others are going through the same thing. I’ve been applying for DevOps roles for the past few months, and finally landed an intervi…
Rejected in the final interview after a month long process — This is honestly just a rant post, because I feel completely deflated at this point. I’ve been actively looking for a job for over a year now, moved to Spain three months ago to start a new life, and…
What Projects Should I Build That Actually Matter?New to the community plz help 😊 — Hey everyone, I’m relatively new to Reddit and just starting to get more involved in the dev community. I’ve been learning and working with the MERN stack, and now I want to move beyond tutorials and …
What is the biggest problem your startup is solving, where are you located, are you a solo founder and what is your biggest challenge these days? I will not promote. — Please don't promote your startup, just share your main focus, from where you operate even its a global product, if you are the only founder and most importantly what is the biggest challenge you are …
Anyone here navigating entrepreneurship with ADHD? How do you manage focus, procrastination, and distractions? — Hey everyone, I wanted to reach out to the community to see how many of you might relate. I've been wondering lately if I might have ADHD — I haven’t been officially diagnosed, but I know a lot of pe…
Considering a move from big tech to a small company. Worth the risk? — I know this sub leans junior, but hoping to get some advice from senior folks. Especially people in Bay Area, NYC, or Seattle-type tech scenes. Tagging this as Job Search and not Senior Only because I…
Being a parent exposed everything bad about running a small business — Before kids, I founded and ran a small food delivery business for 5 years. It was locally loved, I had a steady stream of orders, and from the outside, it looked like freedom. But then I had my first…
Volunteering to consult on business challenges and find ways to optimise — Hello! I'm looking to find some smaller business which would benefit from some optimization in a certain area - things like processes which take to long, are too costly, duplicated effort, reocurring …
Solo founder here—bootstrapped a travel startup, no bookings yet. Influencer model failed, paid ads feel too risky. What would you do? — Hi everyone, I’m a solo founder of hopmytrip.com trying to build a travel group tour platform—basically fixed-date trips to places like Bali, Thailand, and Vietnam, where people from any country can …
Biggest entrepreneurial Challenge - Lead generation and sales — If you are founder/co-founder/owner of a marketing agency or marketing freelancer, this is for you. 1. What are the effective channels for lead generation & sales? 2. How are you converting it? 3…
Struggling with content ideas for your next LinkedIn Post? Drop your keyword, and I’ll give you 3 content ideas you can use today. — Creating content is exhausting—not because writing is hard, but because knowing what to talk about is the real challenge. Drop your niche and keyword in the comments, and I’ll reply with 3 fresh…
Has anyone used https://imgbb.com/ to host images? — We are currently looking for the cheapest and simplest way to host images. So we've stumbled upon. We are aware of using AWS S3, of large blob storage requirements and so forth. This ques…
Feedback on Branching Strategy for IAC Repository — Hello, One of the challenges I’ve faced when researching branching strategies is that most resources are focused on software deployment workflows, often emphasizing versioning and tagging. These stra…
Americans working in majority Indian workplaces. What do you need to know to succeed? — I’ve been working at my company for a year or so and it’s been great. I’ve learned a lot of new tech as well as practice old tech (Django). My team is also quite strong and I can’t really complain. I…
How are small businesses handling data analysis without dedicated teams? — Hey everyone, I’m part of a small team at a company that provides business analytics solutions. Lately, we’ve been curious about how small businesses manage data analysis, especially when resources a…
Small Business Case Study: How We Grew Our Instagram & TikTok with an AI Social Media Assistant (No Ad Spend!) — **Post Body:** Hi everyone! I co-own a small business (a boutique cafe + online store) and wanted to share our experience using an **AI “social media assistant”** to grow our Instagram and TikTok. W…
In Search Of Business Owners Importing via Ocean Freight — Hey e-commerce business owners! I'm conducting research on shipping and logistics processes for businesses importing products from China through ocean freight. I'd love to chat with you for just 20 m…
Where do you look for solutions for your pain points? — Hello guys This is not another post asking you for your biggest pain points. I already offer a service to solve certain pain points that companies of all sizes have. After working for years for diff…
wanted something like Duolingo but for code… so I made a prototype — You know how Duolingo keeps you practicing with streaks and tiny daily bits? I kept wondering why there's nothing like that for coding. So I threw together a small tool where you can do bite-sized …
Struggling after “healing” is challenged — I’m a late 20s AA, I have put a ton of work into myself over the years to become secure (as secure as I can be at least). Recently I was seeing a guy, likely DA, who needed some space and we agreed …
A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic. — We are seeing an increase of activity from people outside of experiencer circles in threads as time has moved on and more and more people are starting to understand there really is a "there there" and…
How to fully be present in my dating break (build momentum at the start)? — You'd think taking a break would be straight forward, but I feel like it's more challenge for us anxious attachment/pure-O OCD types who struggle with rumination or feelings of inadequacy about their …
I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
>“A good start”, LOL. ​ Ah. A chortle. Clearly, not much money in your bank. Must be because you know the law. lol ​ >I’m not reading POSM anytime soon. I already have a formula that…
Before you ban me, please understand that I’m not trying to argue with you, I was just pointing out that claiming people can’t think critically is not a wise move because it can easily be said of you…
>Before you ban me, please understand that I’m not trying to argue with you, I was just pointing out that claiming people can’t think critically is not a wise move because it can easily be said of yo…
Check out [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralProjection/comments/msprrk/this_multidimensional_model_by_jurgen_ziewe_shows/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb), [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralP…
Late reply, but FYI for anyone reading this from here on...every two hours will change your rising sign and rotate your whole chart another 30 degrees. So while all the planets will still show up in t…
Okay logic and science- so your RAS reticular activating system is basically the minds way of filtering and processing the insurmountable data that it takes in from the environment 24/7 as well as pro…
After all is said and done. My one true key belief is that YOUR BELIEFS SHAPE YOUR REALITY. Good or bad. Right or wrong. How you feel about everything in your life is what receive from it. It’s th…
This is not a competition who is far less irritating or who is more evil than the other. Its about both parties should be taking accountability. I am more than agree with you that AP’s biggest challen…
To me, the book doesn’t so much denigrate avoidants as it highlight their challenges in relationships, to help anxious types recognize patterns and seek stability—often with secure partners as an idea…
I think typically the people we get along best with, will feel boring. Conflict is where excitement stems from. When things are easy and flow naturally, there is no conflict, and thus no excitement. Y…
Love the question!! You don’t need a relationship to grow, that’s the beauty of it (you can but it will be slower, depending on what kind of partner you end up with) You could try to explore being mo…
Here's what I found helpful to figure out my own feelings. I look at three angles: 1. If they suddenly told you they were done and didn't tell you why, would it hurt you? If it wouldn't hurt at all, …
Sure! Some happen in conversation Let's take the example of a simple question to which you can answer with a yes or a no Example 1: Question : - " Do you want to go to the movies tonight? " ( You…
Thank you for offering this for a donation and scholarship - my husband and I just started getting in to attachment theory, and its the only approach to our challenges that made sense and created more…
i met my now husband on a dating app. “the wild” is a really hard place to meet people these days. most people who are looking for love are on dating apps, including people you meet in “the wild” that…
What problem are you trying to solve here. I mean, I admit it. It's a fun challenge for your self. But practically, does it even make sense?
Any interview where I have to do leet coding or take home challenges is a huge red flag. I'm currently employed so I have the option of being choosy but any employer having you do that on the spot o…
Hey, [OpsLevel](https://www.opslevel.com) CTO here. We have a ton of respect for what the Backstage community has accomplished. It's impressive how they've expanded the IDP space and created a vibra…
This is super impressive! I relate to that frustration with fragmented UK property data soooo much. I'm actually working on automating my own property investing workflow (tho not nearly as sophisticat…
Oh man, I feel this post in my bones! As someone with ADHD who built a whole business helping other ADHD entrepreneurs (Scattermind), I can tell you you're definitely not alone. The "100 ideas but ca…
* selling and marketing IS the hard part not building So true. Marketing and selling is where the real challenge kicks in, at times it feels like you are screaming into a void.
It’s a common challenge. It sounds like you might need a stronger structure for cross-functional communication. Try setting up clear documentation (like a shared roadmap), defining goals for each team…
I think the challenge with achieving that kind of multiple is identifying products that have a low cost to manufacture, but have a high value perception by consumers. I know, “Duh!”, but it happens. I…
That was a good question. In this big e-commerce platforms we are also doing price comparisons with different companies with the same products. Actually, I'm building an app, i am doing one of the fea…
Man, this post hits SO hard. Running a business is absolutely brutal, and I think we need more honesty about the real toll it takes on founders. I've gone through some of these exact same experiences…
This is super impressive! I relate to that frustration with fragmented UK property data soooo much. I'm actually working on automating my own property investing workflow (tho not nearly as sophisticat…
Oh man, I feel this post in my bones! As someone with ADHD who built a whole business helping other ADHD entrepreneurs (Scattermind), I can tell you you're definitely not alone. The "100 ideas but ca…
The first question is, why does the drugs trigger you? What are you imagining or feeling when they talk about it. Logically, it's just part of their past. If it was something that could happen again o…
I do tend to communicate pretty well with people I have not deactivated on (family, platonic, romantic). Most people that come into my life do get a heads up that I am not on my phone a lot and like m…
Wow I had my phone read out the post. You must really like her. I applaud you for not giving up.. Or is there a different reason, that like you like challenges and 'fixing' people for example?
So instead of replying individually and repeating myself, I'm just going to make a comment addressing it all. Firstly, it was interesting to read all these perspectives. I see where some of its comin…
You’re spot on with this observation and I didn’t realize how it impacts other people at all. I am extroverted and love people but when I’ve had enough, I turn off like someone flipped a switch and I …
There's no reason anyone needs to know that you see a therapist. If you don't tell people, they won't know right? Depending on your health insurance, a session usually only costs a copy ($20-40) fo…
Mostly because the information isn't necessarily what the person needs or may even be harmful or untrue. From all accounts people say it "tells them exactly what they need" and doesn't challenge them,…
Love this comment. I’ve found it to be so true. For a regular ex I was with for nearly a decade and we had a fairly normal/stable/secure attachment to each other, maybe a little bit dependent on each …
Your interactions have to do with both of you, are all avoidaints self absorbed ego weirdos.do you use work,sleep,or all things to avoid accountability. Really when you’re presented with something tha…
also, if your encounter was as brief as you say, I would urge you to challenge the belief that you got close to actual genuine love with her... obviously, I was not there so I can't say for sure, but …
I totally get it, I’ve seen corrective experiences work wonders in the moment. My background is in building real-time frameworks for clients and practitioners who deal with collapse or shutdown, espec…
absolutely! but if this person wants her in his life he’ll rise to the challenge, and if he doesn’t at least she tried… but everyone’s boundaries and tolerance for these kinds of things are different!
Yeah, I think this is definitely one of the challenges of healing. The vast majority of people are simply not that self aware about this sort of thing because these psychological concepts aren't that…
I was very careful not to speak in absolutes, and I made a very clear distinction between avoidants who are doing the work and those who are not. You are clearly doing the work, so your situation is n…
Humans find AI more compassionate than therapists because AI doesn’t challenge them. Therapy is supposed to challenge you, it’s supposed to make you better.
Oh, I see. You call people crazy if they disagree or challenge you. Well done.
God forbid someone challenges your fantasy and tries to be real with you. Shut 'em down!
I'm going to challenge you for a moment. Imagine your life without him and how you'd find happiness. Imagine what it would be like being with a partner that can truly show up for you. What that would…
Thank you for sharing. It sounds like you might be describing the 'Drama Magnet + The Citadel' trauma attachment patterns, which often come from emotional neglect childhood experience for you, and con…
You handled this beautifully. I personally though would not have accepted someone telling me they need a month’s worth of “space.” I can understand a few days, maybe a week tops. But if someone isn’t …
Agree with most everyone else who has commented here. I don't know that the act of giving 3-4 weeks of space is either secure or AA. Instead, I'd look at the motivation behind it and what the space fe…
When dating, try to be aware of the push-pull technique, the first three months, the honeymoon period is where you feel dazzled, but I'd say try to be aware of any inconsistencies, promises or plans. …
My partner is FA and I am a DA leaning earned secure. He definitely brought out some things in me that I had yet to address. We lived together for 1.5 years. Much of it was tumultuous. I moved out aft…