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I hear you and I totally relate. I also experienced the silent treatment plus "suicidal shows" from my mother. I learned more or less the same thing: to always fake a version of myself that others lik…

Apple-style vs Standard "Startupy" Landing Pages — One thing I'm struggling with our landing page design is whether to take an Apple style approach where the headings are — "So much power", "A whole new leap forward", etc and we have cool-focused sect…

What’s the best UX you’ve ever experienced in a product? — Hey, I’m deep in the weeds designing the UX/UI for my vibe coding platform . I’m hunting for that spark of inspiration and digging through every app, site, and tool I can find. For me, Apple’s ecosys…

Moon Question 🌙 — Hi all! I’ve been studying up on Moon placements. To me, at least lately, Moon placements stick out as the interesting spot to focus on when learning more about people I know - my family, my friends, …

What non-benzo meds are out there that I haven't tried? I already have Xanax, but want something that works all day or for lesser panic attacks — I've tried in the past: * Buspar (didn't work at all despite taking every day for weeks) * Hydroxyzine (worked amazingly at first, but wore off and no longer seems to work) * Gabapentin 100mg (I've o…

Movie List: Chinese movies where the antagonist(s) are racist/imperialist White/Westerners and get their asses kicked — I thought I would make a list of some Chinese movies(mostly martial art action films) where the main antagonist is a racist and/or imperialist white. These movies are all fun and feel good, and while …

Speaking out about my experience. The Shadow behind the Light? — Hello, I have felt compelled to speak about my experiences more. As my perspective is unfortunately a lesser narrative in our space. I have time and time again read but and pieces here and there that …

The Astral Plane: its Nature, Structure, and the Unseen’s Map found in world religions — *Disclaimer: The views expressed here are my personal opinions, except where excerpts are quoted.* # Nature of the Astral Plane The Astral Plane is the wider dream world. It’s a constant place that …

Therapist or psychiatrist? — Hello, how do I know which one to see? I’ve been told by multiple people I should see a professional but I just don’t know who I should choose. Would therapy be the safest option to start with? Or wou…

Synchronicity and the Beginning or Continuity of Experience? — To begin, I have had quite a long winded set of experiences, that have seemed to have calmed down a bit over the last few weeks. They went on for several months beginning 3 months and 3 days before my…

For those who've dealt with hierarchy being a factor of there emotional what was it in plain view as in a parent or caretaker forcing obedience or more a subconscious thing. As in your not outright being order or forced to confirm but still end up having your own desires considered lesser.

I think my ex is getting unicorn hunted and I'm stuck dwelling on it. — For background, I am part of a large online friend group, bunch of us have met in person, all relatively close, based around a game. My ex was dating someone else in the friend group, they had a prett…

DMT While on LSD-Trip Report — Close to 10 years ago, I tried DMT (specifically, changa) while on LSD. I began to vibrate like a Tibetan brass bowl & the air turned bright purple around me. I closed my eyes & some language/code/sym…

Ramblings of a lunatic (me) — This is gonna be extremely long so I don’t blame you if you don’t want to read it but I’ve been writing about it for a while and struggled with meaning and found this Reddit and thought I’d seek out s…

The New Acid Test Playlist That Will Melt Face, Enjoy <3 +5000 Trippy Tunes — I've Been Building This Trippy Music Archive For The Past 3-4 Years, It has 4 Sections Starting At Track One Will Be A Guided Trip That Will Take You On An Inner Journey, Playlist Structured For LSD …

Reality morphing — I see a lot here about moving the "person" into a parallel reality, which is a profound alteration. I haven't seen much about lesser alterations, more in line with the concept of manifestation. For ex…

Why do middle class parents care so much about name brands? — Something I’ve noticed is that way too often, people in the middle class get loans on things they can barely afford. There’s so much emphasis on going to school just for the name, but not enough empha…

Being the lesser loved twin brother — Me and my twin brother were both 21. Me and my brother said to our parents that we needed a car for transport during our college study. They agreed to buy us a car. They said this car is registered un…

Is it finally time to break off and how can I (22F) bring it up with my boyfriend (22M) when I never once expressed any discontentment/resentment strongly and openly? — I really need some advice regarding my boyfriend. For context, we met abroad in a western country. I am Chinese and he is Japanese. This context kind of matters. Our relationship started poorly as a …

How do I help my partner with his phone addiction? — TL;DR - How do you best support your partner who is struggling to break out of his phone addiction, around which he is self-aware and feels a lot of shame? I (38F) and my partner (34M) have been tog…

accepting imperfect practice instead of demanding perfect discipline — I practice vipassana meditation (a Buddhist body scanning technique). the tradition prescribes two hours of daily sitting. for years I treated this as an absolute standard and repeatedly failed to mai…

Be Gentle with Yourself — I'm writing this to myself, and everyone else who went through or is still going through something similar: *Be gentle with yourself* You did everything you were capable of doing at the time, with…

i look down on sexually active people / people with vices and i want to change that — i’m realizing something about myself that i genuinely want to work on. i tend to judge people who are sexually active or have vices, even if they’re actually kind and good people. i know it’s unfair,…

My (23M) romantic partner (37F) felt like I’m blaming her for feeling insecure. How to resolve? — I (23M) have been seeing a woman (37F) for a few months now. It started as a casual fwb thing and mostly still is, but over time it’s becoming more than that sorta. We’re not officially together yet b…

Ex doing so much better without me — This is going to be a mess of a post because I'm currently spiraling rn I've (20M) been spiraling ever since my relationship with her (20F) fell apart. It's been more than a month since we last talke…

I manifested passing a really important exam — In the month of Jan I started prepping for an important professional paper I was to write in Feb. At that point in time I was going through something rough in my personal life, and I knew this test wa…

My partner says I’m abusive towards myself, but I feel like I’m too light on myself if anything — I often read the posts here and relate to them or get emotional reading them, so I thought maybe this community might know if I’m not treating myself right, and if so why? I (25TF) have a lot of bad…

My (22M) girlfriend (22F) has a tough time to stay with me. Any recommendations to save this relationship? — We are in the stage of chaos in our relationship. I made it toxic, I accepted. It started from 4months ago, where she said to me emotionally when her broke down by her working environment. She said “…

Better than average Husband or not ? — This is more for fun but I thought I’d share to see what experiences people have had regarding this topic. I came across a technique by a Vedic astrologer the other day, she set up a point system to …

Astral Projection: Quick Start Guide — This post contains guides, FAQs and the fundamentals that are suitable for both beginners and experienced members. Explore the links, videos, Astral Projection stories from experienced community membe…

Hi. My mother and father to a lesser degree were emotionally neglectful. It is a miracle that I’m still here and have been able to do all that I’ve done. But I’ve done a lot of work and healing and I’…

God, I relate to this SO much. Meeting people in person leads to me idealizing that person but anytime I match with someone online, I get the ick and ghost (not proud of it but that's the truth). Do …

Ha, I agree, I had the exact same thought! Also, to a lesser degree, 'Somebody's Crying' by Chris Isaac. But really, I feel you. I listened to it recently and was like yup.. he's me, AP, and 'she' sou…

I force myself to actively join activities and events (sports, animal shelter, and company events, which I totally skip previously). I also write journal and daily reflections to see what the trigge…

How long did the intense grief + obsessive thinking last? The grief stopped when I allowed myself to understand what exactly I was grieving for. Was it that version of me, was it the safety, was it …

It's not uncommon for people to lie about their age on dating apps. Also men are more likely to smoke than women and more likely to work outside in the sun, both of which accelerate ageing (this is a…

I see where you're coming from and it sounds like a good, practical place. I'm also independent and wouldn't accept $2k from anybody. I'm not saying this is logical or how she feels, but it would make…

that's awful! I'm sickened by the fact that someone who presumably "cared" about you for over 3 years would suddenly invalidate you as a person like that'. And then he started treating you like a "les…

The general answer is no. Pinkluminary’s response re Saturn, even in the context of modern astrology, is too simplistic. Within traditional astrology, Saturn is the greater malefic planet, and always …

Yeah this scenario is what will drive someone toward insanity for an entire lifetime... this reason (amongst many others) is why cheating is blatant abuse. Now you forever question everything, her, yo…

Yeah this scenario is what will drive someone toward insanity for an entire lifetime... this reason (amongst many others) is why cheating is blatant abuse. Now you forever question everything, her, yo…

Yeah this scenario is what will drive someone toward insanity for an entire lifetime... this reason (amongst many others) is why cheating is blatant abuse. Now you forever question everything, her, yo…

Yeah this scenario is what will drive someone toward insanity for an entire lifetime... this reason (amongst many others) is why cheating is blatant abuse. Now you forever question everything, her, yo…

Yeah this scenario is what will drive someone toward insanity for an entire lifetime... this reason (amongst many others) is why cheating is blatant abuse. Now you forever question everything, her, yo…

Yeah this scenario is what will drive someone toward insanity for an entire lifetime... this reason (amongst many others) is why cheating is blatant abuse. Now you forever question everything, her, yo…

I think there’s two things to consider on this topic… For one, being an experienced shifter doesn’t only mean “fully” shifting and spending a long period of time in your DR. Some people (myself inclu…

This is so simplistic, if you’re an adult you know things are not this black and white. I ended things with someone recently, I didn’t see another option. I didn’t want to give them a much lesser vers…

what made you think that you had to break up with them so that they wouldn’t have a much lesser version of the relationship or be in an uncomfortable position?

My ex used the same reason of not wanting to "give you a much lesser version of the relationship that you deserve" and I resent them extremely for it. I know it might seem nice and like the best optio…

You're the same age as my LDR partner, who I met on this sub. We've been together for 14 months. We've definitely had those ups and downs regarding the afterlife of our respective ended marriages. Ou…

>"give you a much lesser version of the relationship that you deserve" The way you read this statement as being entirely about you, and feeling somehow accused of your standards being too high is wil…

I'd read the link below when you have 2 minutes. Just evidence that no amount of time/therapy will help you let go. She chose someone else, betrayed/disrespected you and your marriage, and now you a…

For myself: there was no sexual abuse and no physical abuse, which were the only types of abuse my child / teen mind would have recognized. There was emotional abuse, but I was never educated on what …

I went for a couple of weeks and in hindsight I should've stayed with them for weekly sessions as it may have stopped the ruminating I still deal with (to a much lesser degree) faster than if I did it…

a. voting is rarely a full throated support of anybody/anything. everything is a tradeoff. everything is a lesser of two evils situation. i can be for an issue a bill proposes to support but be agains…

I'll be healed enough to be able to write a book some day about this. From my understanding so far, abuse is a tactic used to break people psychologically so they are less able to resist emotional man…

Yes yes yes! Last time, their emotions will be my priority and I will be so consumed in their emotions and have this compulsion to rescue them. I had no idea about my feelings at all. I probably was s…

What’s interesting is this was one of my mother’s lesser things. I didn’t tell her about the emotional abuse, neglect, preferential treatment of my siblings, blaming me for ‘causing’ one to become a t…

it’s okay, it’s totally normal and u aren’t alone. everyone has stalked their ex and it’s lasted for a long time. its been 4 months and i still do that now but i promise overtime it gets lesser and le…

A lot of us Conservatives are not DJT sycophants.  And many of us liked the original interpretation of the "MAGA" acronym before it was co-opted by the extreme on BOTH sides.  If you remember, it …

If the loan is in Sister's name, parents need to stop paying. Sister has brains enough to get degrees, but pretends she can't figure out how to repay a loan. Really?!! If the loan is in Parent's na…

Intimidated by beautiful women. Guys usually prefer run-of-the-mill women so guys don't hit on them and feel lesser than by a hot female. I was luckily. I was groomed at 18 by a beautiful 32 year ol…

I've done this yes for quite a long time. I've concluded though that ketamine's depth is largely a cognitive hallucination, ie, an illusion. I can quite easily accept that very, very rarely, like once…

Please don't feel bad and think you are lesser than her. You didn't do anything wrong. He didn't have the guts to communicate with you because he is an insecure jerk. it's nice that he parted with you…

There's kind of a meme about that. Women disappear at 25 and reappear at 35. I think it's mainly because that age range is when people are heavily focused on their careers trying to move up the corpor…

You’re dealing with two separate issues here. The lesser of the two is the condom issue. The main issue in my view is the one sided oral. I see absolutely zero reason for this to be one sided. HUGE re…

My problem with the apps is that everyone feels like they’re extra. Oh they’ve travelled the world and speak six languages blah blah blah. I feel lesser than them, even if I know I’m not. I have an ea…

How can you not feel lesser? I ended up giving up a few years ago since I learned I wasn’t good enough

Honestly, risking breath play at all, ever, is incredibly dangerous and stupid. Risking it with someone you've only been dating for a matter of months is insane. I am all for the consensual kink, bu…

I loved this post kind of. Can you tell me how just BEING feels to you? What about your thoughts? Are they there? Are u analyzing? I am not practicing a lot, but your post gave me a bit of motivat…

Beautiful, funny and smart are still relatively “superficial” (you would recognise them in someone you are dating, not just your wife) traits. What she was looking for are things like “I love the g…

Yesterday I was just reflecting on my own life, the shifts over the years. I was discussing with a friend how I’m not the same person in each relationship I ever had. I maybe am like your ex wife. S…

I've actually been as far as actively investigating and shopping for properties like this, or planning how an ADU on an existing property would work. Further, a non-traditional single home with mult…

Please do share it in a comment here; if it's too long, break it up into two comments and make it a Part-1 and Part-2. This is one of the lesser-discussed experiences and I'm fascinated by it becaus…

I mean, downvotes really don’t phase me here. It’s not my thesis to defend, it’s just an article, it’s academic and I cited it. Folks can read and consider it or not. I’m neither lesser nor greater …

I wish you luck! It may sound weird but it was honestly the best thing when my brain and nervous system kicked my ass and was like no you can't live like this anymore you're done. Eventually it sunk i…

It is objectively worse to go through what you are going thru vs both people being affected op It isn't fair and its the biggest hit to your ego. But just know OP, keep improving being a better vers…

i think this is a wild take. it specifies biological children because pregnancy and birth are dangerous and hard. you risk your life and health every time. it doesn’t mean the *child* is lesser.

It can certainly have an influence yes. If you grew up with some degree of neglect, you may have internalized the false notion of being lesser, worthless, unlovable, unworthy of love. You may have a…

It's hard when you realize the person you thought they were is gone. I think you're actually in mourning over the loss of the woman you thought your wife was and you need to decide if you're willing …