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Time is fake; there is nothing but you. — Shifting, dimensional jumping, Neville Goddard, law of assumption/attraction, magick, etc. all essentially talk about the same thing: Embody the person (or entity) you want to be. This post is a bit…
Victim Blaming will not be tolerated — Hey all, Codependency can lead to a ton of behaviors and relationship styles that are less than healthy, but as we all strive to better ourselves and shed these old habits that no longer serve us, it…
Beginner's question — # Hello, I wish everyone wonders! # I need to answer a beginner's question about training. The affirmation exercise must be carried out with the affirmation presented in the index or we can replace…
Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs? — My (FA) therapist and I (lol) may have noticed a pattern with my partner (DA); after an increased amount of quality time together (compared to our usual 1+ times per week), or increased amount of mess…
The song “I love you, I’m sorry” by Gracie Abrams makes me think of the POV of a DA — I'm DA, and I just listened to this song. It feels like a DA talking about how they sabotaged a good relationship, and they regret it. This line particularly hits: "I like to slam doors closed, trust…
Helping my partner — I (40f) looove my partner (36m). We've been together almost 9 months. When he isn't triggered, he presents as very secure. Loving, consistent, communicative, vulnerable, empathetic, self-reflective. …
The market is bad but employers really shouldn't do this — Within 6 months of time frame I've experienced: - An employer who preferred to go for an offshore option for cheaper salary after showering me with compliments. - An employer that had 6 stage interv…
Sharing my learnings as a mid-seniority job seeker — I started job-hunting in April. After two weeks of sending applications and receiving zero feedback (only ghosting), I scheduled a few calls with my mentor. Based in Eastern Europe and looking for a f…
Getting rejected every time during the portfolio presentation stage — Hello everyone, I seem to be unable to pass the portfolio presentation phase and now is the fourth time this has happened — Many of these companies are fintech which I have a background in but recentl…
Am I Overcomplicating This Workshop? (Personas or Empathy first? — Hey everyone! I need some advice on structuring a workshop for a client’s new product. They’re unclear on the direction (app/web/game?), target audience, or features, so I suggested a workshop to alig…
Inappropriate Design Task — I recently did well in an interview and have been given the most wild design task to date that I was made to feel stupid for pushing back on and would like some opinions. I was presented with a 9 pag…
Best way to do Google/Meta reporting? Anyone interested in helping for a project? — I’m looking for the best way to present weekly/monthly data for both campaigns with key metrics in addition to high level P&L data like gross sales, order volume etc. Any thoughts on the best and cl…
American Sign Language in DevOps Communities and Teaching — Hello everyone, I’m a student in university who hosts workshops within our local Google Developer Groups Chapter. I go to a university that has a substantial deaf and hard of hearing population. Th…
I need you advise am i a UX Jnr Midwieght or more? — **Hi everyone, I need some advice.** I’m currently a Junior UX Designer (30years old) in the UK at one of the top for new broadcasting companies such a Sky BBC ITV etc. **A bit about my background:*…
How to Build a Site for Both Art and Ecommerce? — Hi everyone, I’m a freelance graphic designer and currently have my portfolio site on Squarespace, which also includes a small e-commerce shop for art prints. I originally chose Squarespace because …
Interview for the same company from 2 recruiters (UK) — Hey, I'm in a bit of an awkward position and could do with some advice. I had a recruiter reach out to me last week about a role that was coming up. I said they could send my CV over. On Friday a di…
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
Flora Market Mobile App — Hi! This is my 1st completed mobile App. It is a Flora Market mobile App, and it is a personal project. Summer is coming, balconies and yards are filled with flowers, so I found a good idea to des…
Why ex-tech creators are bad fit for conferences? — I haven’t been to many design-related conferences throughout my career, but I decided to give a CoCreate Conference a shot. I won’t go into the event organization here – just the speakers. From what I…
Got ghosted after 3rd round — Hey everyone, Just wanted to share my recent experience and see if others are going through the same thing. I’ve been applying for DevOps roles for the past few months, and finally landed an intervi…
Is it good to ghost people? — Hey everyone, I've been looking for client work as a freelance graphic designer and a few times now a potential client shows interest and sounds like a strong lead They ask for my portfolio I send i…
Which Caroussel? — Good morning, Which free Caroussel can I use to present excerpts from blog articles (small photo + small excerpt) Thanks in advance.
Marketing Digest: Google tests new AI mode outside Labs along with more features, ChatGPT introduces shopping features with personalized product recommendations, Google confirms search signals used to train Gemini AI — Hey guys! A new week means a fresh batch of marketing insights. Google’s keeping us on our toes as usual, and AI is busy finding new ways to take over the digital space. Let’s read: **SERP features /…
How to approach colleagues ‘improving’ my copy with unedited Chat GPT? — Hi all, I’m a new and junior member of a very small team, we are overstretched and have far too much on the go at any given time, which inevitably leads to shortcuts being taken. I’m no stranger t…
I created this cool game in react. It's called MystiCrafter — I created this cool game using React. If you know alchemistry or ever heard of the term, then you would love it. It's essential a puzzle game about combining base elements to create new ones. The ga…
Best Practices for the List View — Hi all, While using Wordpress in the past few years, I've developed the habit of renaming my element bocks in the List View sidebar to make navigating the page easier for myself and hopefully others.…
Being a parent exposed everything bad about running a small business — Before kids, I founded and ran a small food delivery business for 5 years. It was locally loved, I had a steady stream of orders, and from the outside, it looked like freedom. But then I had my first…
Are there any free themes or plugins that facilitate creating layouts and styles for custom post types? — I am trying to build a website that is very simple in terms of content and styling. The only catch is that it has a custom post type. I created the custom post type and fields using the free version o…
Modern web dev has me on the ropes — I'm a FED, and I've been helping build websites for 15+ years. Started on LAMP stack, did some Wordpress stuff, but mostly my bread and butter has been FED-heavy, building UIs with HTML, JS, CSS/SASS …
Should I sell my design agency? — Should I sell my design agency? Growing a design agency takes time especially when most of the business comes from cold outreach. It’s a high-volume game: thousands of emails, countless calls, and co…
I made an awesome ChatGPT prompt for internal linking — I just made this prompt for ChatGPT that finds internal link opportunities on your website. It works surprisingly well. 1. Enable “Deep research” mode on ChatGPT (you’ll need a paid plan). 2. Paste t…
Where do you look for solutions for your pain points? — Hello guys This is not another post asking you for your biggest pain points. I already offer a service to solve certain pain points that companies of all sizes have. After working for years for diff…
Turns out I needed a "middleman" to have a successful relationship with a DA — Now the title may sound wild, but stick with me. # The Story So I (26M) have been dating someone (24F) who, as I came to realize, is a dismissive avoidant. It's been about a year now - though truthf…
Attachment Theory & Free Will? — Dear all, I'm very intrigued by the relationship between attachment theory (&, I supposed, any psychological theory) & free-will. They seem to me to slightly conflict. Certainly, it is a difficult p…
You know what sucks about being in the process of healing your attachment type? Dating someone who has no idea they have an insecure attachment and you're just wasting all that hard-earned security on someone who doesn't care — I've been fearful avoidant most of my life, and it's helped me in abandoning very healthy partners because I was too blind of my issues. For 2 years now I've been working on myself and seeing huge s…
Does anyone else feel like they cannot truly love? All I know is limerence and anything beyond that is excruciating — I'm constantly stuck in cycles of limerence, I feel almost nothing for anyone UNLESS I am limerent for them. I am still present in relationships and friendships but it's purely out of obligation, I'm …
I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …
Struggling with losing my best friend/coworker, anxious attachment + limerence making it unbearable — Hi everyone, I apologize in advance for this long post. I’ll just post the TL;DR at the start. TL;DR: Lost my best friend/coworker of 7 years after a conflict. He’s now cold/avoiding me but friendl…
Attachment style test — Hi everyone! I developed an attachment style test https://0uffck9a5rp.typeform.com/to/cB4lD0mi?typeform-source=www.attachmycenter.com that I would really appreciate feedback on. Do you find yourself r…
I need some FA to give me insights on this situation — Break up with a FA need some insights Hi guys, i really need some insights as someone whos desire is to be a safe space for a FA girl. Breakup context: I (M, 23) was in a 2-year relationship with my…
Having trouble differentiating between anxious attachment / normal needs, feeling lost and alone — First Reddit post here! (It's a long one, I just really need a place to put it all down and get some support, so thank you). I (19F) got out of my first long term relationship about 3 months ago. It l…
How to fully be present in my dating break (build momentum at the start)? — You'd think taking a break would be straight forward, but I feel like it's more challenge for us anxious attachment/pure-O OCD types who struggle with rumination or feelings of inadequacy about their …
I posted a while ago about being Fearful Avoidant and, since so many people reached out about how to overcome that style, I've decided to compile a sort of list of things that are helping me become more secure — (based on what is working in my life, what I've observed, what i've read, etc. They may not apply to everyone but even if it helps a couple of people I'll be happy) **These are things to practice in …
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
Recovering DA trying to reconnect with FA wife — For context: * I (40M) am a DA, my wife (41F) an FA. We have three children. * Together for 17 years, married for 13 years, distant/no-touch for over 10 years but stable and no deep conflicts. * Cont…
Studying attachment theory — I’ve been studying attachment theory for a couple of months now, and I’ve only recently started to REALLY look into it. I started reading a book called Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for…
For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now? — I am quite curious to hear if there are others who are at a place in their life still in their own "wound care" (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of a previous unhealthy…
How do you know what’s secure and what’s not in a partner? — So I am anxiously attached, I’ve done a ton of work and I think I present as fairly secure now (?) but when I’m triggered it’s a mess in my brain. My question for the anxiously attached and those who …
The monster jar theory of FA or avoidant attachment. — So I was talking to a friend of mine and supporting her and my own feelings of shame and I was reiterating somethjng that isn’t anything new at all but hit on an analogy that really worked for both of…
"Love bombing" and anxious attachment — At tonight's Anxious Attachment Healing Group meeting, we read the following reading: **1. “Love bombing” and anxious attachment** “Love bombing” is a pattern of excessive, intense affection and at…
Just a few questions Mr Moonbeam. If you are so against the “act/live as if” what do you have to say about Dr. Joe Dispenza, Gregg Braden and Dr. Bruce Liptons, Napoleon Hill, Jim Rohn, Eckhart Toll…
Hi, I’ve been lurking for a couple weeks now and finished my first reading of POSM at this sub’s suggestion last weekend and The Feeling is the Secret not long after. The concept is completely underst…
>If we believe with perfect faith that our desire is already ours in the subconscious mind, why would the subconscious mind not just assume the act has already been finished in the past rather than wo…
It seems to me that there is a conflict between followers of Joseph Murphy and Neville Goddard and what they each represent, LOB and LOA, respectively. Now I am not familiar with either of these MEN, …
>Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using sle…
This was so helpful to me. I’d be interested to learn more about the potential effects of a parent who was always physically present, but whose emotional availability varied to extremes for the first …
Physically present but (often) emotionally unavailable describes my parents pretty accurately along with, I'm sure, most if not all of the parents of people reading this sub. I once heard Gabor Mate m…
Thank you so much for this, it’s cathartic to see the traits childhood emotional neglect can cause. I always just thought well this is how I am like I was just made this way, and seeing them as result…
The point is to still go to sleep, if you're going for the direct method, exiting the body happens during the precise moment between wakefulness and sleep, [see this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralPr…
i managed to do astral projection after 2to 3 months , i usually go to the gym alot and sleep alot , i would use an alarm for my second sleep where i stay still and let my body go , i will breath in …
Interesting,very revealing.I have an idea for you,what if you use something like midjourney or other stuff to somehow represent the astral beings for the unitiated to see ? Or being 4d,5d stuff ,you j…
What does that look like??? Find a new hobby. Anything. Try learning to knit. Learn to build robots. Take a class in 17th century blacksmithing. Join a woodworkers guild. Join an improve troupe. Volu…
Late reply, but FYI for anyone reading this from here on...every two hours will change your rising sign and rotate your whole chart another 30 degrees. So while all the planets will still show up in t…
Really solid points and then there's space for legitimate concern regarding abusive relationships. Basically, the “Power & Control Wheel”, like instances of sexual harassment/ assault, emotional abuse…
Yes! Agree. It's just like affirmations are just as effective, but they rarely give me "that" feeling. It took alot of time get in my head that emotions was a reaction to a present true thought. And…
1. Mental thoughts don’t become physical reality. Beliefs do. Repetitive mental thoughts turn into beliefs. 2. People in your world reflect your beliefs. Perhaps upon meeting someone you had an origi…
Daydreaming can give result, but rarely. And most of the times wether you THINK it during or not, you know it's just bullshit playing out and or wishful thinking. Your subconconcious knows. It always …
OP, I'm a much more casual member of this sub but wanted to say it's good you posted this here, even if you catch flak for it. Ultimately, the necessity to rebut your arguments will either require t…
If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, LO…
>If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, L…
That’s fair. My partner isn’t totally absent during those periods, just a little less present or social than usual when I do notice it. So it’s not like I’m going from hot to cold, more like warm and …
Avoidants are victims of their past trauma. They tend to make victims of non avoidant partners in their present life. This is a generalization and every relationship is different.
Usually most people are a little bit chill and collected in the first few weeks of meeting each other. There are no global standards or benchmarks, but if you’re looking for general guidance maybe som…
Example 1 is something I'm experiencing from someone else so thanks for describing it so well. I agree example 2 is more common from my experience in dating. It's why I can't tell if I'm reacting to …
I recently went on a first date with someone who brought me a bouquet of flowers after meeting me for only 6 minutes at an event, and then after this first coffee date, texted me to say they brought …
I get it. As sweet as that sounds, if somebody is moving fast after one or two dates by buying presents then I'd say the onus falls on them to read the room better and take a step back. At that point …
Right, I just want to get to know someone at a steady pace. The presents felt like pressure.
They are pressure! For me there's a no presents please rule unless we're somewhat serious. After that presents are actually nice because there's a connection to appreciate.
That’s an interesting point, the possibility of dissociation. I have actually been quite conscious about remaining present through the pain. And there has been quite a lot of pain. So many emotions su…
Just read the replies and imo there's nothing wrong with asking. It's great that you did. My opinion is that if I'd only had one date with somebody and they text me saying "good morning handsome" I'd…
I appreciate your response I have been doing a lot of work on myself. I have been trying to be more self reflective,more present, and more mindful. I think I am not used to being this vulnerable,I…
But that’s the thing - I (thought) I could spot an avoidant person and he truly never showed any signs of that. He was so communicative and able to handle conflict, he said he wanted a relationship, t…
I think the idea that you can sniff out red flags like a bloodhound after a bad relationship is largely untrue. People lie. They present perfectly to you in the beginning. The insight you gain from a …
What a wise comment, thank you for this! This is reframing things for me. I’ve been hard on myself for falling for these types after thinking I should have spotted them better, but you’re right. They …
Some avoidants present as secure initially until they're deeper in and then the intimacy fears kick in and then the avoidance really shows up
Oh my god this. You’re so right. Honestly people also hide things well the first 3 months. It takes time for masks to fall. People know how to present themselves well in the beginning
FA here. All of my romantic interests have ended in a fiery blaze outside of my most recent with another avoidant. Practice being present and breathing. Learn to communicate your needs and wants. Take…
No, my statement has nothing to do with validation. I find when someone says 'that's invalidating', they haven't sat down and thought about what they're saying. And why would I need to constantly vali…
I'm currently in similar situation. Experienced in overall system administration, windows, a bit of cloud and networking but I'm not able to get through technical interviews. This post is a huge motiv…
GitOps presents an idea of reconciliation from the single source of truth: Git to paint the definition in Git repositoryto the external entity. Tool for implenting GitOps pattern for Kubernetes is Arg…
Brush up on the company, what they do, their market, etc. Why do you want to be there specifically. Have that answer solid. It’s really important to convince them you’ll like it and therefore try hard…
I had the exact same thing happen to me last year. For third round had to containerize an app and then write some pipelines for it as well as some k8s manifests I think. I presented everything (and th…
Discussing LOB with normies is generally a kiss of death, from what I have experienced... we want to share this material, but we may be casting our pearls before swine, and a lot of the swine want to …
It's simple, but hard work sometimes. 1) you find a small businesses owner 2) you talk them into letting you do a statement analysis 3) you run their statement through an AI tool that finds the sa…
You are not doomed. It sounds more like you should question your own limiting beliefs. What do you mean with "no vision". What is that you "cant do" etc. Ask your self what you are interested in…
This kind of discount is all in the positioning. There's not much information here about your typical engagement structure -- e.g. whether it's monthly, annual, how much it costs, whether you bill by…
I don't see the value in getting the CKA at this point. As of 2023, 176,000 people had registered for the exam. On top of that employers don't value it all that much. It doesn't help if you used manag…
I think we cannot really move on faster but definitely will bring less baggage into a new relationship. I think it just makes us more likely to heal than to gain scars we have to live with. Their acti…
Hey. A separate team handles this sort of thing, I handle other works but we are interested in this as a business. Feature flagging - Yes this is widely used and they pull metrics and try to correla…
I am currently an FA and I think this song represents fearful avoidance too.