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Oh holy shit you've kicked off such a thought spiral for me, thank you so much for this post!! Really, us being "healed" instead of just existing as we are, who wants that? People who don't want …
What will it take? — Seriously… What does it take to land a UX role these days? My wife is graduating with her masters in UX from a good program but it seems that the industry is evolving and everyone is making it seem …
Shopify POS exchanges on discounted items — Hello shopify community, I've been scouring the internet for a solution but no good solution exists. I am wondering how other brick and mortar merchants are dealing with this. This needs to be addres…
Research Paper Help — I’m researching how transfer latency impacts application performance, operational efficiency, and measurable financial impact for businesses in the real world. Proposing the importance for optimized …
What really makes an Internal Developer Platform succeed? — Hey, I work at Pulumi as a community engineer and as we are doubling down on [IDP features](https://www.reddit.com/r/pulumi/comments/1kg3o0l/introducing_pulumi_idp/) I’ve been looking around at variou…
Developer completely changed my design — I worked so hard on it and the other developer practically said my work was ugly and hers was better. He was like "Are we going to use her work because it's better... I mean different?" He said "Maybe…
DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…
Had the most intensely beautiful lucid dream and now real life feels blurry — I was flying over an endless ocean made of liquid starlight. Every breath I took filled me with an overwhelming sense of peace I have never felt while awake. The colors were more vivid than anything i…
The Analysis Trap is a Pitfall — One of the main purpose of Meditation is to cultivate awareness. A common thing you see among meditators and also in this subreddit, is that by intending to train meditation, one also ends up traini…
Crazy experience “timeline hopper” — I’ve been lucid dreaming since I was about 12/13, and I’m now 23. I trained myself into it years ago and now I lucid dream every morning which sometimes can be annoying because it affects my sleep. I’…
After 30 years of being a people pleasing, peace-keeping, manipulative, caretaking, dysregulated, codependency "addict," I've finally reached a point where I have enough control to simply STOP. In a very short amount of time, my whole entire life has changed. It's nearly impossible to describe. — The first part of this post is just context, and you can skip it all by scrolling down to **The Proof** I'm not going to go into much detail, but just for context: I experienced some pretty major chi…
How do I change my state of being to "I have" if real world experiences are telling me the opposite daily? — This is the hardest part for me. I understand that I have to live and think like I already have it, I don't yearn for it because it's already mine. However, every day I experience the opposite. How do…
New method *Forceful- lucid dream — When you got to sleep, close and then roll your eyes upwards and focus on the middle of the forehead and don't strain much but keep them there, don't let go until last moment, when you start drifting …
the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…
I thought I died last night. — (For background) In college - about ten years ago - I took an interest in lucid dreaming for a few months. During that time and since, I've had a few lucid dreams. Not often at all, but enough so that…
The illusion of fighting your bad habits — Many people define their relationship with a destructive habit by the fact that they are "fighting" it. But the simple act of trying to stop usually fails because it keeps you trapped in a dependent s…
People trying to manifest an SP back into their life. Read this — They are already yours Not tomorrow. Right now. In your mind, before anything in the outside world has changed. This is the whole secret. The outside world is not the real world. It is just the las…
Life changing phase of life — Everyone of us had spoiled our childhood in some areas in our own way no matter how privileged or disciplined you're. There is phase in which we realise what we're doing wrong and where to improve, we…
what exactly can you do in astral projection? — like are you in the real world or some kind of dream world? if its the real world, can you basically travel space and find other galaxies or travel to the bottom of the ocean? and do you just walk ar…
huge huge rant (infantilization rant) — i'm a 20f in college (in america) rn, living 35 minutes away from home. i want to preface this by saying i know my parents love me very much (in their very own twisted ways), and i love my parents too…
This is crazy — I was thinking alot about false awakening like let's say you are awake but you are awakening in another dream and your trying to awake in real world again and again, it's like you are switching channe…
Narcs are weird people — They choose not to interact with the real world. They see you but they don't see YOU. They want nice things but not because they desire the beauty. They don't actively SOLVE problems, they don't d…
How Can I take More Control — I've always been able to Lucid Dream and thought everyone else could too until recently. Now that I'm exploring this more, I want to know to get more creative control and not sure how because I just d…
Reconnected with an old friend after ten months and a freak out — Hello Goddardians! I want to share my recent success story about reconnecting with a dear friend of mine after ten months, and me blocking him. I started off by deciding if I really wanted to conne…
Conditioned to be dependent? — I know this probably sounds stupid, but does anyone else here feel like they were kind of (even unintentionally) conditioned by their parents to always be dependent on them? Now maybe this is just a…
Can’t seem to AP anymore — So, I have only astral projected 4 times and now I can’t. So I would like to share my experience. The first night that I was able to AP, it felt a tug upward on my body, from around my shoulder area…
I dreamed a word today that I didn't know. Its real world meaning is oddly specific to the dream. — I saw a very strange dream today that I’m trying to make sense of and I’m genuinely curious if anyone else has had a similar experience. It wasn’t a typical, messy dream; it felt more like watching a …
Weird Childhood Experience — When I was a kid, I had an incredible level of experiences that i honestly cannot even put into words and will likely stay locked up in my memories for awhile until I can actually explain myself prope…
I dreamed a word today that I didn't know. Its real world meaning is oddly specific to the dream. — I saw a very strange dream today that I’m trying to make sense of and I’m genuinely curious if anyone else has had a similar experience. It wasn’t a typical, messy dream; it felt more like watching a …
Where Did you Go to Find Your Therapist? — I am a very experienced clinical psychologist with a PhD from a very strong university. I have recently left an agency where I was pressured to do unethical things (for example: record things in the m…
What to do famm?? — I was kinda pressurized to say yes to a marriage I kept on refusing it again and again Led to a lot of fights My family background is a bit critical so my family said it would be hard to find a go…
Looking for people with long-term lucid dreaming / awareness control (not beginner stuff) — ​ I’ve been lucid dreaming for as long as I can remember (since I was a kid), and I’m trying to find anyone else who experiences it at a deeper level—not just the occasional “I realized I was …
How to deal with unhealthy attachment? — I don’t want to go into details of this story but I want to point the problem and seek help and guidance with it I have an unhealthy attachment towards this friend of mine and because of me thinking …
Lucid dreaming or ? — So, I was trying to shift through lucid dream, and I used the wake up point to try to lucid dream. I feel myself was about to awake so I try to stable the world(?), and I successfully stay in that dre…
Manifesting good governance in the Philippines — I really want to manifest a better Philippines. I’ve seen so many people suffering and struggling just because of greedy, corrupt politicians. If you’re poor here, I honestly don’t think you get many…
Manifesting good governance in the Philippines — I really want to manifest a better Philippines. I’ve seen so many people suffering and struggling just because of greedy, corrupt politicians. If you’re poor here, I honestly don’t think you get many…
Closing the door on the sources of my parentification — I had a very eventful last week and finally told my mom and ex-husband that I don't want either of them to be a part of my life anymore. It took a lot of self reflection, introspection, empathy, and r…
Help. Someone’s constant presence in my life — I’m constantly inundated by someone’s presence, it’s always a bit different but it’s like they’re in my bones, in my body, I don’t have to be thinking about them, it’s just every pause or quiet moment…
Unusual Experience after returning to the tapes - intense sensation of “gaining altitude” — I’ve been fond of the tapes for some time, and recently began re-listening after a hiatus of about 2-3 months. I’ve only had one experience I would describe as unusual, or anomalous throughout my time…
I believe dual n-back could be an effective tool for lucid dreamers — **Edit:** Dual n-back is a brain training game popularized by Susanene Jaeggi in [her 2008 study](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18443283/). Here is a link to the free open source version of dual n-b…
I saw the news (trigger warning) — my team don't allow me watch the news it go on Instagram or anywhere i used to learn about current affairs but that i had to see my solicitor and I saw some of what's going on and my heart is pounding…
NHI encounter and message from astral projection — This recent post (https://www.reddit.com/r/aliens/comments/1s2gjly/does\_anyone\_know\_where\_this\_picture\_came\_from/#lightbox) depicts almost exactly the NHI I met about 3 years ago in the astral.…
NHI encounter and message from astral projection — This recent post (https://www.reddit.com/r/aliens/comments/1s2gjly/does\\\_anyone\\\_know\\\_where\\\_this\\\_picture\\\_came\\\_from/#lightbox) depicts almost exactly the NHI I met about 3 years ago …
How do I stay in lucid dream? — I had my first few lucid dreams last night, but I kept on waking up instantly. I realized I was dreaming and then immediately felt my real world body laying in my bed and then woke up, so i fell back …
I feel quite lost. — I've never really had someone I could talk to about my problems. I have lots of people in my life I COULD talk to, but I feel like there's no one who could understand. I don't know where it starts. …
26M 25F - In a healthy relation 4yrs, but then came back to back incidents which haven't kept me in peace — **My fiancée (25F) had a boundary crossing/coercion incident with a coworker.** **The Background:** My fiancée and I have a long-distance relationship and are set to marry in July. We’ve fought incre…
Presentiment, triangles, anomalous body marks, and future dream contact (discussed in abstract) — Just wanted to post today as a sort of record to my inquiry into the anomalous as an experiencer. I have a history of posting to this subreddit my experiences with contact in dreams and body marks. …
Leaving the family business: I’m a high-level professional, but working for my parent makes me feel 14 again. — I spent nearly a decade in high-pressure, corporate environments in a major city. I’m used to intense expectations and difficult personalities; hard work has never been the issue. About a year ago, I …
I attribute my LD to the episode ‘What was in Blue’s Dream’ from Blue’s Clues. Home sick one day from school, watched this episode, dreamed that episode that night then not only did I know I was dream…
Don’t Try focusing on controlling too much immediately or getting Carried away trying to do influence it strongly at first . Try just remaining calm by focusing on your environment and exploring as yo…
I haven't recalled my dreams for a long time, but when I did I could easily tell I was dreaming. The problem I had was that as soon as I realised I was in a dream, it would start to end and I would wa…
I have many, many personal anecdotes that prove our beliefs create reality. Some goals/desires achieved are beyond the realm of mere coincidence and far exceed a free cup of coffee. My response to th…
Usually when I feel like this I go outside and use my hands to manipulate the real world. As for your issues with alienation, sure you are building an operating a rube Goldberg machine to run an app…
These are the kinds of things you think with fearful avoidant attachment, and when you get to the point where you want to try and start dating again after working through a considerable amount. I’m da…
You can listen to someone who just admitted they don't even have a paid account and just reads what they see online or listen to someone who's gotten more out of it in the last 30 days than four diffe…
Well, I’m really intrigued by attachment theory…and I’ve got a crush on an avoidant guy. Our connection has not been advancing beyond mostly text conversation and sort of “fantasy.” I get mixed signa…
> If you're female I'm not sure there's a limit as long as you pick the appropriate places and times. You have to ensure there's sufficient time for the crying as well as the consolation that will hav…
Hey Barf101! I feel the same way but I am 32. I dont have experience long term with dating sites, but so far the 1 year I tried bumble was horribly depressing - I never got a single like, follow, or m…
You are definitely correct. Harder to find people my age especially who I am attracted to and single. Any time I even see a pretty woman in the real world she is almost always taken. I went back to th…
It makes sense though. Anything to get a group of people together in the real world is good and healthy for us, and will increase our chances of finding someone. A lot of the hobby and forum people I…
In a LTR since Oct, but before that: When I'm in NYC: 20-30 per week between Hinge and Feeld When I'm in Pittsburgh: 3-5 per week between Hinge and Feeld I live in Pittsburgh lol. But I typ…
Im in NE Ohio, so the fact you are getting 3-5 per week with Hinge is a lot better than me! I have so far only gotten one match ever. I kind of want to see your profile just to see what you mean / are…
Hi: I 32m and secure attachments and I tend to date alot of AP females. The love of my life is an AP attachment. She’s not borderline because of 1) she only does it to me and 2) she does it because of…
Dating apps are designed to keep you swiping and keep coming back to the app, even Hinge, which claims to be the app designed to be deleted. They purposely limit your algorithm to incentivize you to p…
You now have to dig a hole and live in it for the rest of your life. Never to return to the real world. Has to be done.
A therapist is just going to tell them to go practice what they learn in therapy. What helped me was reframing it: what other people think of me is none of my business. That took enough pressure off …
Give me some advice!! Alright so I never have multiple dated or long term dated. Everytime I have been into a relationship was unexpectedly. First relationship colleagues to girlfriend to fiance. …
The point is to go it into the real world and engage in things you enjoy doing with others who also enjoy them. And eventually, you will run into someone either directly through such an activity or in…
Because in my experience as an attorney, certain crimes are far, far higher in terms of recidivism rates and there is a mountain of research indicating that certain crimes are the result of behaviors …
You've never seen someone you thought you knew poorly handle losing a game with 0 real world impact? Or win and act like an asshole about it? People let things go that they would normally conceal …
May I ask what kind needs of yours he wasn't meeting? I ask this because there is this constant tug of war in the advice I see all over, of "we should be meeting our own needs" vs "if they aren't me…
Haha for sure. And thank you that makes me feel a little better. I am 32 y/o male and have never had a GF or a date. It was pretty tough on my already lacking confidence to finally submit to the dati…
I appreciate your sincere post, so I will do the same for you. Think of low vs high vibration as the difference between something that pleasurable (low vibe) and something that is actually good for …
The idea described here is called replication. Client receives input, that input gets computed locally, then sent to the server. When multiple clients send conflicting computations to the sever, it pe…
This is your wild black and white cure all and YOU challenged us to find a scenario where it won’t work. I didn’t come to you with this. It won’t work in corporate america. Full stop. You say it a…
You have to read the source material, understand the arguments and critique the truth claims made by the philosophers. You have to DO philosophy. Not just swallow the doctrine. Ancient philosophy like…
So, let me be very clear, this subreddit isn't necessarily an accurate view of what you will or should be seeing in the real world. I've found myself astonished by some of the stories I've seen here…
I didn't realize until I bottled up so much and got depression much later- completely non-functioning and non-productive. Like falling face down on the floor. There were warning signs since I got high…
I went through something similar with my mother after I turned 19. I'm a dude so dynamics were a little different and it wasn't spurred on by a partner but a chronic medical condition. My mother did …
For past generations the “it’s just what you did. You go to school, get married, buy a house, and have kids” mentality. ^ A verbatim quote from my boomer parent. Not only was it “just what you did”…
Does it help you cope or let go of real world issues, for example the innocent children that US bombed and unalived?
>I have tried explaining to him that for some reason, truly unknown to me, I always just feel awkward being the one to initiate things. If you really want to know and get it from someone who's pay g…
I’ve never had any long enough to actually figure out. And I really want to know if these APs are mere constructs of my mind or am I actually traveling into the real world, one way to know that would …
As somebody with chronic pain and a recent long term injury that will heal, this is bang on. I’ve accepted the former and the latter is driving me wild. I guess it comes back to the real world and the…
I'm 51m used those apps for a minute. They are horrendous. It's weird that people use them to try to get real relationships. Personally, I'm realizing more and more that all of this digital stuff is …
I totally agree u/Danger_Muffin28. I also have experience with folks with Generalized Anxiety Disorder and agree that's not a reason to fear someone. I don't want to villainize anyone for size, health…
Depends on what you think is negative energy, though I don't believe in energy being inherently bad/good (like...hurricanes may be bad for us cause it destroys homes, but they're just natural disaster…
I have an unpopular, non-Reddit answer. I am willing to bet the vast majority of the guys that are super fit/conventionally attractive are going to have a problem, specifically about the fear the weig…
We’re both on Reddit. I’m here to get better and get real world success. Why are you here?
Low quality matches, constant enshittification and becoming less useful each year, terrible privacy policy that allows them to sell your data, and a desire to actually build confidence in the real wor…
Thanks for your deep reply. Ketamine has definitely given me real world benefits. Im not a regular user, I guess im fortunate that supply isn't regular so I get to indulge deeply then dont know when i…
"But I think this sub and site are often in denial about how some things work in the real world. " Yes.... I agree 100%. Stereotypes are the basis for discrimination but we also can't ignore the fac…
The failure rate is pretty daunting. Ideal use it's 3%, but real world it's 13-15%. If 100 couples use condoms for a year, a dozen of them end up pregnant. Do that for ten years and the numbers will …
Fair enough, but hear me out. This is a bit of a rant and I’m not trying to sound judgmental, I’m trying to explain why this would turn ME off. First of all, I can’t stand these types of questions an…
Based on Mars in your third house (sibling/peer relationships, primary schooling, communication), I wonder if there isn't something angry or confrontational in your communication style that you're not…
Decided to delete the apps today! I've been on them for maybe three weeks? I got out of a long term relationship around a year and a bit ago and only really had an itch to start dating again recently…
>Based on Mars in your third house (sibling/peer relationships, primary schooling, communication), I wonder if there isn't something angry or confrontational in your communication style that you're no…