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That sounds awful! Mine wasn't very good at articulating emotions or arguments. He was highly educated with a good job, which was a stark contrast to how he was at home. He'd sound so smart and articu…

Handling another crush as a FA — Hello all, spring is here and so is a new crush. I really can't get used to how excited but anxious my butterflies and fantasies make me. Sometimes they make me so anxious to the point I get dysfuncti…

Does attachment style start to shift after cutting out toxic family members? — Recently, I removed a toxic family member from my life after years of emotional turbulence and manipulation. This person liked to gaslight me, hold past mistakes over my head, and blame me for everyth…

Why do so many retail & shopping sites hide the item details/description? — I’ve noticed this on a number of sites, and I’m fairly certain it hasn’t always been this way. "Hide" is probably a strong word, but basically retailers making the details/description of a product a c…

Finding the web designer of a Site? — Hi All, Is it possible to find the website builder of a site without contacting the owner? I see lots of good sites where I'd be interested in hiring the builder. * Anyone know how to do this? TY …

Anyone? Figma ➡️ WP, XTheme — I see tools touting Figma to Wordpress, Elementor, but haven’t seen any for Figma to Wordpress, Xtheme. Xtheme has been around for over a decade and we love it as a WYSIWYG builder to hand over to c…

Cannot stay attracted to dating app matches — I've never been in a relationship but I've been working on myself a lot and trying to put myself out there to find love. And I've just noticed a pattern of mine. But I just keep losing interest or ge…

How are unemployed designers managing financially right now? — I was laid off two months ago and have been in the job search grind since - applying, interviewing, and trying to stay hopeful. But I’ve also been feeling pretty stressed and anxious, especially as ti…

The soul-crushing reason I may leave UX — You'd think I'd say because I'm over 40, because I'm exhausted by this long unemployment, that I see the the current market and impact of AI clear-eyed, yada yada yada. It's none of those fill-in-the…

Getting rejected every time during the portfolio presentation stage — Hello everyone, I seem to be unable to pass the portfolio presentation phase and now is the fourth time this has happened — Many of these companies are fintech which I have a background in but recentl…

Webflow or Wordpress for SEO, local business? — Most of my competitors use WP, but I just found someone ranked 2nd with his handyman business using webflow My site currently runs in Squarespace and I am tired of the limitations. Budget is not an i…

Research -- What makes you hire a copywriter? — Hey everyone, I'm doing some market research and would really appreciate any input you have. Also, this isn't a promo post or anything of the sort, just me diving into the market. First off, a bit ab…

What is k8s in bare metal? — Newbie understanding: If I'm not mistaken, k8s in bare metal means deploying/managing a k8s cluster in a single-node server. Otherwords, control plane and node components are in a single server. Howe…

Sitemap 404 error in Yoast — Hi everyone, I am stuck on this for 2 days. I am Getting 404 Not Found on my website sitemap, I have activated it on Yoast. Here is what I have done so far to fix this using youtube vidoes and Chatgpt…

To all the scrum masters/PMs: Would you use an AI that joins meetings, takes notes, and assigns tasks to the right teammate automatically? I will not promote — Hi! I’ve been thinking about a recurring pain I see in most teams — meetings generate lots of discussion and action items, but someone still has to take notes, track tasks, and figure out who shoul…

Different Businesses Need Different Content Formats – Here's Why (i will not promote) — Hey everyone! One thing I see often overlooked is the fact that **not all businesses need the same type of content formats**. Depending on your target audience and the type of business you run, the …

Do you feel bad working for gambling industries? — I’ve been working in the tech side of the gambling industry for a couple of years now—think online sports betting, virtual casinos, that kind of thing. The pay is good and the company treats employees…

A customers perspective of those horrible cart conversion emails — Usually a website does a poor job of informing me what shipping will be. I must add items to a cart and hit checkout and type in an address to see what shipping would be. However, this process results…

Routine to get programmatically better — Hey fellow webdevs, I have an issue. I have no problem working at my current job working with various systems/technologies e.g. Shopify Liquid, NextJS, Twitter, Astro etc. I can build components well…

How can I view all network requests in Chrome when doing a search? — Hi. I'm using Maricopa County's GIS to view property information. https://experience.arcgis.com/experience/bd50c51b89054238bfadf69e91b421c9 Their site allows only one parcel number per query. When …

Starting a powdered supplement product - what is important? what is not? — I have a clear market position and application I see working. I will probably be investing 20k to start this. I know the ROI isnt there on paid ads so i’m going for organic + affiliates. If you’ve g…

How hard is it really to raise money as a startup in Italy? Looking for real stories & insights - I will not promote — I’ve been working in the Italian startup ecosystem for several years — supporting early-stage founders and helping navigate the (often messy) fundraising landscape. From what I see, there’s a mix of …

Shopify Bill Pay - international vendor payments cannot be funded by Shopify Balance anymore — Im not in love with Bill Pay as its so sloppy and support is lazy. Plus they lock down accounts left and right and don't tell anyone. Once the new balance account numbers went out I saw that they were…

Best Practices for the List View — Hi all, While using Wordpress in the past few years, I've developed the habit of renaming my element bocks in the List View sidebar to make navigating the page easier for myself and hopefully others.…

Any experience running and managing many locations on POS? Switching from Square and I’ve got questions — Shopify POS as a refreshing breath of fresh air over Square on many points. However, they seem to fall short on some really obvious things. That make me think maybe I’m the crazy one and just don’…

How do apps which modify Shopify checkout work? — I see various apps in the app store that let you modify the checkout. Do they all require Shopify Plus to work? Or is there one that works without it?

Some guidance would be appreciated. Should I focus on a Linux certification first like RHCSA/LFCS first or the Kubernetes CKA. More details below. — Hi everyone. So recently i finished my a devops certification from a bootcamp and have since been spending time working on my own portfolio project. my project consists of: \- a frontend and backend…

Video camera for YouTube and digital camera for products — I have been using my phone to run my business but I would like better quality photos 📸. Not to mention, my phone storage is pretty full because of the photos and reels. Also, I want to utilize my You…

If you're sending ALL paid traffic to your homepage, you're burning money - here's why — I see this constantly: businesses dropping serious money on paid ads - Google, Meta, Instagram, only to send traffic straight to their homepage. Then they’re shocked when the cost per lead is through…

How do you actually feel safe believing and knowing when it comes to an SP manifestation? — Brief context: I've studied the law on and off for 6 years. Tried to manifest 2 old SP's with varying success, then eventually having them both try to contact me, but I realized that I was shooting so…

No one should suffer because we have trauma. — I see a lot of people accept harmful behavior, because their partner has past trauma, but in my opinion, that is wrong. I know I can come off as harsh sometimes, but we have to have honest conversatio…

It’s frustrating how often I run into women with Avoidant tendencies. — I’m at a point where I just end things early if I see too many Avoidant tendencies early, but it seems like women with Avoidant tendencies are drown to me more often than secure or anxious which I’d r…

Learning to take space, self regulate and set boundaries as an AP earning secure — I have always leaned AP but working on security and now in a relationship with an FA leaning heavily avoidant I've realised a big goal for me is learning to self regulate and set better boundaries. Fo…

Women I’m dating is afraid I’ll lose interest when I learn who she really is. Seeking FA perspective. — I’m ramping up my dating efforts because I’m doing well—both financially and mentally. Things have been going really well with a new woman I’m dating. We shared a nice moment on our last date, and I’m…

What makes an anxious attached person feel loved? — I’m a dismissive avoidant in recovery. That means I have been working on myself. I would consider myself slightly secure but not secure enough to call myself secure Anyway, my boyfriend is anxious…

Having trouble differentiating between anxious attachment / normal needs, feeling lost and alone — First Reddit post here! (It's a long one, I just really need a place to put it all down and get some support, so thank you). I (19F) got out of my first long term relationship about 3 months ago. It l…

Losing (F23, AA) my mind in my relationship with my (F22, DA) sister. — We’ve had some real struggles, and I’m at a loss for what to do. I feel generally pretty secure outside of this one relationship, but recently it’s been making my AA flair up in my romantic partnersh…

Physical Reaction — I will try to keep the backstory short. I had not known anxious attachment was a thing or that one of my coworkers had become one of only a couple people I really felt a deep connection to, until a f…

For having struggled with an anxious attachment in an earlier relationship, how does it feel for you to become more secure in a much different or more compatible relationship you are in now? — I am quite curious to hear if there are others who are at a place in their life still in their own "wound care" (healing) of being outside of an anxiously attached situation or of a previous unhealthy…

Visualization issue — Whenever I start visualizing my scene the images start getting messed up. For example I see the floor crumbling beneath my feet or people's faces become disfigured or things that I'm holding break.. e…

Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…

How does avoidance "feel" in your body? — Been thinking about this one for a bit because I see people frame avoidance as a fear, like you're afraid of love and intimacy . It doesn't always feel like a fear for me? If I were afraid I'd have a …

Feeling friendless — Hey guys, Sorry long vent, you can skip to the bottom if needed. Recently I have been doing great attachment-wise on the romantic relationships front. But for some reason I feel like I can’t mainta…

i feel safe with being almost loved | disorganized attachment style anthem | i want love but i'm scared | (cathartic release) — Lyrics: Love, for me, is just a hallway, Soft light, shadows drifting slow. I see a silhouette approaching Then I turn before my heart can get too close. Sometimes I feel a brush of something ten…

Letter to my ex — **7th February 2026** “You will find me, right?” That sentence is the last sentence. The one that always stays with me. Every single day I think about it, and I think that’s why I know what I have t…

"I want someone obsessed with me" — This isn't a comment on anyone specifically but I see this often on dating apps amongst women. For the record I am also a woman. I just don't get this? Like what does this mean? How is this applied in…

so what is ”healthy”? — so i’ve read over the several attachment style subs and something interesting i’ve found is that on the anxious side people are talking about how the society is pushing us to be hyper-independent and …

what do i do? my anxious attachment is getting REALLY bad. — i haven't been like this since i last had a really close online friendship w someone 2 years ago, but i recently started talking to a new friend online and we've known each other for only a few days. …

DA’s - Do You Know When You’re Deactivating? — When you’re deactivating, do you know that’s what’s happening? If you were unaware of your attachment style or attachment theory, would you still have a sense of what’s going on? Had some intimacy …

3 years in. Bro, it gets wild. — Okay, so a large part of this community seems to use SATS as a high-preparation, ritual method and yes it’s very powerful in that way. But you’re literally God. Why keep yourself so limited? Nevill…

I astral projected last night.. — I astral projected last night... What was your first experience? Here's mine: We arrived in Tunisia yesterday, had some sleep, woke up, yawned, and my nose started bleeding, only mentioning this bec…

I see. Everyone, what do you think ?

More pseudoscience from you (the first being that gravity is attractive- gravity is a warp in the space time continuum as it responds to mass, and only appears to be attractive to the uneducated). No…

>Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using sle…

>About my successes, I manifested more money than I had ever seen before. Prior to that, I thought I’d always be broke. I even had to take a screenshot of my bank balance to remind myself of that amaz…

>Before you ban me, please understand that I’m not trying to argue with you, I was just pointing out that claiming people can’t think critically is not a wise move because it can easily be said of yo…

Thanks for this. The 'element of conscious choice' bit is interesting. I see how earnest I am to teach and share now, but still see some elements of passivity that my parents had-- a permissiveness,…

So.. id classify myself as a relatively spiritual person.. over the last few months ive tried meditating 5 or so times.. ive had sleep paralysis about 5 times as well in my life.. more so in the last …

Just a few questions here - I'm new to lucid dreaming. I garden quite a bit, so I can grow Artemisia douglasiana and a few other helpful herbs and make a poultice or something. I usually don't rem…

Hello , anyone ever felt like it hurt to leave their body ? I seen fire 🔥 and some pulled me back in . Anyone have any idea what it means?

i managed to do astral projection after 2to 3 months , i usually go to the gym alot and sleep alot , i would use an alarm for my second sleep where i stay still and let my body go , i will breath in …

a) law of assumption, not law of belief. And where did you get the other descriptions from? I've been on Neville sub for a while, literally noone describes the law in those words or speak in a spiritu…

are there people still active in this group ? i see most post from years/months ago ! i need answers and advice

Hi. My mother and father to a lesser degree were emotionally neglectful. It is a miracle that I’m still here and have been able to do all that I’ve done. But I’ve done a lot of work and healing and I’…

One thing i have seen, but not learned fully yet. Is that relationships are extremely dynamic. A woman who hates you to death, who literally wants you see you dead. Or a woman who completely disrespec…

I agree that things can change, but am forever baffled/frustrated by a repeated theme I see in here: men seem to think women have it easier or have some sort of advantage. I assure you, women don’t “k…

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Same. I hung in there , at first thinking no matter what she does. Im more wise , I see her flaws, i will help her change. Me the man she “use” to say i was. She=“never give up on me”. Me-“never”. 4 w…

well the origine of our body parts , or people who look exactly like we do originate elsewhere in the lyra constellation , not earth , the lyra constellation is our true home and has planets with …

Hi there, I was wondering if anyone may have had a similar experience to me or may have an explanation which could make sense. I posted this in another forum, it was suggest by one contributer to come…

Oh I see bro. It's nice to hear you're over her, you're a good person for not feeling any animosity towards her when she's done you like that. I cannot imagine myself feeling that way, I wouldn't want…

So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…

PLEASE READ IF YOUR LOOKING INTO ASTRAL PROJECTING. About 2 months ago I was looking extremely deep into astral projecting, once I seen what it was I was instantly drawn to it and thought it was inter…

I see so many people having this "fuck them" attitude... but I don't have the heart for this.. I feel a little lost. Powerless.

Absolutely. I see so many comments that say things like "call the police" about things that aren't illegal, like - as much as you might WANT some things to be illegal doesn't mean they actually are. …

This is a neat way to look at it! And yeah, for cases that are more nuanced, when I give advice on here, I make it a point to try and see what might be going on from the other side, then suggest cours…

I talked into detail about it in another comment [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/DecidingToBeBetter/s/D75lHngukc). Also, most if not all the porn/masturbation addiction posts are just bots or people…

Just joined and the first thing I see is so empowering. Thank you for the post.

I had a quick glance at this on my break and will chip in more later, just by point 1 alone I see you haven’t grasped it, feeling is the secret indeed. But the feeling isn’t emotions. 2 That knowing…

Yes! Agree. It's just like affirmations are just as effective, but they rarely give me "that" feeling. It took alot of time get in my head that emotions was a reaction to a present true thought. And…

1. That doesnt disprove anything. It just means it may be more difficult. That's like saying mindfulness doesn't work because some people have ADHD.  2. Decent point but keep in mind some scientist …

Yeah I gathered as much from a quick gander from their profile. Honestly it just works for me so whenever I see these arguments I don’t get triggered because I can’t explain why or how it does logical…

“If it’s isolating me, that would be my own doing” lol. You are brainwashed and in a cult. You sound exactly like the people in Jonestown did before they drank the kool aid. Cults have nothing to do w…

\>Daydreams and dreams serve a similar function. Neither involve looping a specific scene. Both involve a sort of mind wandering. Except one you are unconscious and the other you are awake. So I disag…

After all is said and done. My one true key belief is that YOUR BELIEFS SHAPE YOUR REALITY. Good or bad. Right or wrong. How you feel about everything in your life is what receive from it. It’s th…

I cannot lucid dream on purpose yet, but if i dream specific dreams(Like me driving) I can realise that im dreaming. Then I say to my self, you re dreaming, great im now going to control this dream. T…

If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, LO…

Fair question - the way I see it, victim blaming = "this is actually your fault" but victim mentality = "the way you are approaching this/life is hurting you/holding you back" ~~~as long as the commen…

Now THIS is the kind of conversation we need to be having. As a fearful avoidant who leans both anxious and dismissive avoidant I have to say I love this sub but I’m getting tired of the victimhood co…

i’m an anxious person. i honestly think that if the majority of anxious people stopped blaming their exes, externalizing their looks, and focused on THEIR problems and therapies (because yes anxious a…

That depends on where you’re reading. I see plenty of attacks on AP. It’s not a contest. You’re reading here, and like you said, folks most likely to want to post about issues are AP. Head over to the…

I think that we are talking about different points in our healing journey. I think we first recognize we’ve been betrayed and victimized, which I’ve gotten really stuck there before, then it moves to …

I think when I see AAs post, they’re told not to try to understand why a DA did something or what something means, but rather to just let it go. Good luck with that advice. As someone who’s a mix, so…

Why would you post this topic in the attachment theory sub? This is dating 101. I see you’ve been dating for a while now - what’s stopping you from realizing people don’t have to reply back right away…

I definitely have much less and less tolerance for dismissive avoidant individuals once I identified those traits in my mother, realized they’re a root of pretty much all my lifelong trauma, and start…

Lmao, no, don't worry about it. I have daddy issues as well, and I have friends with BPD that have pointed out that I may have it too (I'm not diagnosed and have no need to know though atm). And I tot…

How does that show up for you? What kind of thought patterns do you notice yourself having? How are you behaving? Are you communicating your needs? I find the FA a really interesting type so I'd lov…

It’s great that you recognize this. That’s half the battle! Like really, you’re half way there. Now you have to be your own cheerleader, “I see it, I’ve got this” and you need to do grounding exercise…

I think the attachment styles in place work well. I know it was studied exhaustively on thousands of children in the 70s/80s/90s and had there been more definitive styles we would have caught them bac…

Hmm. My experience so far is that I will use different attachment styles depending on circumstance. Most people I think have a default, e.g. A person who comes from a secure background will be willi…

Are you asking to empathize with or seeking revenge 😏 As a recovering DA: betrayal of any form. Mind you betrayal can only be felt for the few that walls were let down for. This takes awhile…for me …