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1. How did you start finding your identity again? Day by day. Some of it comes naturally, some of it you have to work for. There is a lot of healing that comes after this and I encourage you to look …
Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …
FAQs about r/AnxietyHelp — Hi guys, One of the mods here suggested creating a FAQ page for our subreddit to help eliminate confusion. **Why was my post removed automatically?** It wasn't! It has been sent to our mod queue fo…
Sharing my learnings as a mid-seniority job seeker — I started job-hunting in April. After two weeks of sending applications and receiving zero feedback (only ghosting), I scheduled a few calls with my mentor. Based in Eastern Europe and looking for a f…
Okay so marketing deadlines are just the worst right? — Okay so marketing deadlines are just the worst right? It's like you plan everything out, content calendar looking solid, then BAM design bottlenecks. Anyone else feel like waiting on graphics is alw…
Business scaling up - what cloud provider should we use? — Our business is scaling rapidly — we’re currently handling millions of unique requests per week, and this number continues to grow. At the moment, we’re hosted on DigitalOcean, paying approximately €4…
10 startup lessons I’d tattoo on every founder’s arm (in comic sans) - i will not promote — 10 startup lessons I’d tattoo on every founder’s arm (in comic sans) 1. no one cares about your idea. not even your mom. show traction. 1. 2. build fast. talk to users faster. and by “talk,” I mean…
Upwind's Cloud Security CNAPP. Is it viable? — Can anyone share their real-world experience implementing Upwind's "Runtime-Powered" Cloud Security Platform? The promise of using real-time runtime data (I think they use eBPF sensors?) to focus onl…
Anyone else rethinking bulk imports with these tariffs? — I’ve been importing apparel in bulk for a couple years now, but the new Trump tariffs have really forced me to rethink things. Between higher shipping costs and customs delays, the old model just isn’…
Duplicate Websites: One Ranks, One Tanks — I own two small‑town dental practices and spun up two nearly identical websites for them. Same structure, images, and copy, just different color schemes and logos. The site for Practice A ranks nicely…
Ready to Boost Your Business? Our Pro Team Can Help! — hope you’re doing great! I wanted to reach out and let you know we’re currently helping businesses like yours grow faster with our proven organic and paid advertising strategies. Whether you’re looki…
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
Are PageBuilders (PageFly, Gem PageBuilder, etc.) worth it? — Hi guys. I want a unique and custom layout for my e-commerce, and the possibility to build custom pages such as landing pages, unique pages for products, seasonal pages, etc. I saw a few posts from p…
Founders, Seriously, Please Don't Quit your Day Job (I will not promote) — I say this as a lifelong Founder who spends all his time trying to make other people lifelong Founders - **"Please don't quit day job" ... at least not yet.** Seriously, hold on to that steady incom…
I made $32 after 16 months of coding. Was it all a waste of time? — Over the last 16 months, I’ve done something that sounds cooler than it really is: I built a SaaS. In my free time, at night, on weekends, while everyone else was at the beach or watching Netflix, I …
q5.js v3.0 has been RELEASED! — Hi I'm Quinton Ashley and I just released q5.js v3.0! https://youtu.be/xizIG1QNc7g https://q5js.org The q5.js WebGPU renderer is up to 32x faster than p5.js v2! In typical use cases it's also signif…
Need recommendations : TMS or similar solution for a GatsbyJS site — Our GatsbyJS website (in the works to be migrated soon-ish) is partially translated into 5 languages (French, Spanish, German, Japanese, Mandarin) with just a few pages being translated into 5 other l…
1 new feature a week, approaching burnout. — At work I've been making 1 feature a week for the last 4 months. No research, no usability, no nothing. Just making screens, now that AI is a thing I also have to make it make my tickets to be faste…
How to get Millions of $$$ from ANY government for your business (I will not promote) — Experienced founder & CEO here. I'm gonna tell you how my business got straight cash (like literally millions) from the gov and how you can do that too. I've bootstrapped my last german education bu…
To-do lists in text form don’t fit our way of thinking, they are slow and unproductive. To-Do Models is the way to go. — I’ve found Projects modeled visually instead of written in flat lists to be wayy more productive and successful. Traditional to-do lists are linear—one-dimensional. You follow a fixed path: top to bot…
My current case study - Instagram Automation - is working! But how to make money? — I have a company that is doing quite well and I often have time left over. During this time, I try my hand at various case studies. This time it was Instagram's turn. I had often seen videos about Mak…
Alternate for 'Please share bank details' to transfer money — Hey folks, I’m working on a simple tool aimed at helping small service businesses — like tradies, pet groomers, caterers, mobile cleaners, etc. — get paid faster. Instead of sending invoices or shari…
Anyone know of an alternate for 'please share your bank details' (I will not promote) — Hey folks, I’m working on a simple tool aimed at helping small service businesses — like tradies, pet groomers, caterers, mobile cleaners, etc. — get paid faster. Instead of sending invoices or shari…
Webdesign and SEO — Hi I'm updating an old website with more updated/modern visual elements, but all website structure, urls and content is the same. Speed is the same if not faster, html structure/tags have some diffe…
Share some tips for start up business — How do you approach automation to help a startup grow faster and work smarter?
Should I sell my design agency? — Should I sell my design agency? Growing a design agency takes time especially when most of the business comes from cold outreach. It’s a high-volume game: thousands of emails, countless calls, and co…
Overtraining and being effective — Wanted to share about a recent breakthrough I had in being effective and getting things done. Like many of you, I believe that being physically fit is a huge part of operating at peak efficiency. Whe…
Is A Personal Loan A Good Option To Get My Freelance Off The Ground? — I want to get my business off ground, it's just doing video and photo work. I don't have an LLC or any business accounts, everything I've done has been in my personal name. I need better equipment and…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
When does the relationship clock start? — I (42F) met my bf (36M) in September on a dating app. We dated for five weeks, then I ended things because he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship (mental health struggles). We didn’t talk for two …
Have your thoughts on shrooms been somewhat like this? — Yesterday I first tried shrooms. I did 15g fresh, which you can expect to be about 1.5g dry ± I've tried acid 2 times before, which were very amazing, intense and long experiences. They theached me a…
Why Being Ok With Not Having Your Desire Manifests It Faster — It’s a very contradictory thing in manifesting where you desire something, but you’re told to let it go and not care about whether or not you have it (because in 4D you already have it). But let’s fo…
Recorded one conversation a week for a month and it was the most uncomfortable and useful thing I've ever done — Not secretly, I'd just tell whoever I was talking to "hey do you mind if I record this, I'm trying to work on how I communicate" and every single person said yes. Except for one so far. Then I'd list…
No contact year 6 update: — Hello everyone! I’ve made some update posts in the past and figured I would make one for year 6 as that anniversary is coming up soon, and with context it will make sense why I still specifically reme…
Unexpected gift of healing — The unexpected and awesome gift of healing from codependency (or rather the trauma that underpins it) is the gift of time. I have so much more time for myself now when I: * don’t get involved in th…
Spiritual Awakening & Instant Manifestation (wtf???) — So as the title says, wtf? I've been using multiple different ways of manifesting, manifesting with feeling, robotic affirming, and I've realized one thing. Manifesting is an act of creation that …
Revision is where it's at. — People say that revision works faster and this is my experience as well. I'm a fairly good manifestor but there were a few things I was stuck on, namely my height. I carried a bit of disappointment …
A simple 3-minute journaling method that helped me reduce overthinking at night — I used to struggle a lot with overthinking, especially at night. My mind would keep replaying conversations, worrying about tomorrow, or thinking about things I couldn’t control. I tried different thi…
I hate how sheltered I am due to my parents. — I've never been to a party (except the occasional birthday party). I've never been in a relationship. I don't know how it's supposed to work aside from just loving and spending time with each other. A…
Doing meditation for past 100 days — Unable to do meditation for not more than 6 or 8 minutes, than increased it day by day and now do 25 minutes of daily meditation, Does anyone notice these things, which I noticed ? 1. Music feels mor…
I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough! — I was in Barbados… Well actually it was Turks and Caicos but close enough I just came back from a 4 week long vacation in Turks and Caicos in the Caribbean. This was the 10th year in a row I have don…
A couple great tips for easier Revision. — Revision is an extremely important yet underrated technique. After going through an event that "future" manifesting just wouldn't solve, I knew the only thing that would fix this situation is to chang…
Gateway Improves my timing — Does Gateway improve your sense of timing? I never hear anyone talk about this, but it amazes me how it works. It's worth doing it for this alone. I always seem to be in the right place at the right …
What if you’re the impression? — I posted here a while back asking whether the process of examining impressions ever gets in its own way. Whether progress looks like faster processing or less need to process at all. The responses hel…
Is brainrot real? — The past 10 days i went on a camping alone without my parents, the things i learned are extremely depressing. Here’s a list of then and ill provide examples afterwards. \- I cant hold up a conversat…
Breaks are as important as the attempt - from an experienced shifter ⋆˚꩜.ᐟ — hi gorgeous souls! I have seen some posts about people feeling demotivated after a lot of failed shifting attempts and I wanted to give a bit of advice on how to navigate this as somebody who used t…
the Universe works 10x faster when you’re having FUN — i don’t make the rules 🥰✨
Has anyone felt themselves gaining agency in dreams before gaining lucidity? — In my journey of journaling my dreams, I have so far failed to feel super Lucid. More often than not I'll just feel like I'm playing a videogame, instead of realizing I'm in a dream. Like some kind of…
Why it works. — The reason why letting go makes it manifest faster is because you no longer hold it. I was manifesting my sp and I was so desperate and needy and of course I was not able to manifest him. But when I …
Out of a delusional episode and have quit drugs, but evidence of something "wrong" with saying it was delusional has emerged today... — First off do me a favor plz, google for "what is the electrical phenomenon some stipulate is needed for a timeline shift?" yourself and tell me if it throws in the answers anything about a change in S…
Hi Gene, the last two nights I've felt like I'm vibrating but then I notice my heart beating faster as well, so I can't tell if I'm scared and my heart is beating faster or if it's all related. It's l…
Stop stalking their socials too. Mute on instagram. It pushes their stories and their posts to the end of your feed so unless you’re following 2 people, you should never see anything from them. Muting…
Don't overthink it. When you are in SH, even if you have contradicting thoughts popping up, the solution is always to ignore them and bring attention back to the affirmation/scene and feeling of havin…
That's not answering her question and you are being a corrupt liar. You would download 10 languages and 20 skills in a heartbeat if you could do it to your brain just like you could load programs onto…
Yes it's few. Can take months, but a change or at the very least some thoughts of thinking from the desire will be noticed within 2 - 3 weeks, IF you are doing the technique correctly. And they may ev…
Well, you can believe me or not, I have no incentive in lying. But the Neville sub has messed me up. Those LOA “teachers” there are messed up - and they don’t even know what they are talking about. “L…
you can do it correctly all you want - it has to be permanent in you SM, and in response slowly changes your CM that you even start forgetting about desire. How many times you want want want smth, and…
If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, LO…
>So the formula that always works is: Getting to know yourself well + analyzing and understanding where your issues come from + realizing your weaknesses and what you need to change in your life + sta…
Simply get back to the things that give me joy in life. Nature, cycling, career progression, healthy cooking, travel, caving, gym, movie buff, research, etc. Never abandon my identity ever again when …
Increase your php-fpm worker pool. There's a dark art to finding just the right number, since fpm shares memory a lot. Look online to find out how to set that number. Then monitor performance and if y…
> Question: Does Symfony block concurrent requests by design No. PHP applications run concurrently on each child process of the php-fpm interpreter, starting with a request and ending with it - unles…
It's certainly an interesting problem... Not knowing anything really about how interpreters operate and just spit balling, would it be helpful to provide the interpreters with a quick glossary of anti…
Maybe set up a lab and start studying the stuff you don't know well. That's my best suggestion because it's what works for me. I spend a lot of time inside and outside of work hours studying, both han…
Hey, [OpsLevel](https://www.opslevel.com) CTO here. We have a ton of respect for what the Backstage community has accomplished. It's impressive how they've expanded the IDP space and created a vibra…
Start with defining your MVP what’s the simplest version of your website and app that delivers value? Once you’ve nailed that, focus on building out the core features, then test with real users. For t…
I stopped solo founding. I found the limitation is your own skillset, and if you have a down day the whole company is down. Now I look for people with complimentary skillsets and it lets us cover mor…
If the design agency is no longer aligned with your focus and the offer is reasonable, selling could free up valuable time for your growing b2b marketing agency. Letting go of what’s not working might…
If the design agency’s holding you back and the other biz is growing faster and making more, it’s probably time to sell. You’re getting a solid offer and freeing up time to go all-in on what’s workin…
I think we cannot really move on faster but definitely will bring less baggage into a new relationship. I think it just makes us more likely to heal than to gain scars we have to live with. Their acti…
I'm a dismissive avoidant. I've never broken off a long-term relationship. And being alone is not challenging in the slightest. This isn't a universal DA thing I don't think. APs and FAs rebound faste…
This is what FA attachment style people do. The closer you get the faster this person will run. I'm trying to save you from suffering. They come back just to run faster the next time.
I think people may be projecting a bit. Yes, FAs do tend to come back around and if they haven’t changed then the cycle can repeat and much faster than the first time. But you don’t need to just blo…
Yeah i think her nervous system needs to calm down for now and reset. I think she will run faster too. If that gives you a peace of mind then do it, but definitely don’t do it if you just want to get …
For me, being healed doesn’t mean that I’ll never be triggered by someone’s actions again. Rather, it means that when I recognize that someone is triggering me, I am able to remove myself from the sit…
A lot of what people are recommending here are excellent. I just want to contribute the gist of anxiety is if you feed it, it grows. So the more you give into your anxiety and let it dictate your ac…
FA's can really lean into DA and bail when true intimacy is on the table. Committing to a relationship can really freak them out. ***To an outside observer***, FAs look like they can discard just as e…
Hey, thanks for the reply. I'll do my best to answer as precisely as possible > 1. You say you’re in the state of “I could get up, but I do not want to.” This means you’re not fully relaxed or in th…
Attachment theory channels and healthygamergg on YouTube and discerned reddit browsing and books have been godsends to me. I'd say as a starter, if you don't already, try and figure out what about ha…
Hello, so I've recently started seeing this coworker and we've had some fun so far. I like her and I'd like to believe she likes me. We've only hooked up before and I've tried to ask if she would want…
I want to share something I’ve learned recently. I’ve always obsessed with healing and how I should stay in my relationship (to be triggered) so I can heal faster. And me being triggered is my own pro…
Hi OP! I can totally relate to this. Having anxious attachment makes fights feel huge, like your whole world is about to fall apart. I’ve done the same thing honestly, cried, begged, and felt complete…
I’m a year late but let’s be real, this is facts. The people bashing manifestation or New Thought teachings are just mad it didn’t work for them. They got half-baked info off TikTok or Abraham Hicks, …
I haven't broken no contact, but I've seen an ex about year later and she pretended not to see me, it stung so much that I felt like I was back at square zero. I was so shocked by it because we didnt…
I feel I recently made healing progress in this department. I used to feel just like you do, everything you described. I’ve been in therapy for 2 years learning how to regulate / release feelings. The…
I can only tell you from my own perspective and my own personal experiences. I've often felt like I was too much, that I need to be patient with my partner, that when I want to ask for more, be it in…
Lifestyle alignment is pretty easy to assess. Whether their emotional system is compatible, now that's the harder part. If you attach hard, apply strict process. Observe consistency. State your baseli…
For a lot of avoidants, the biggest shift isnt more insight. It's learning how to stay regulated when closeness gets uncomfortable. Reading and therapy build awareness but security comes from noticing…
I could have written this post myself. I turn 27 in a month. And well, I have never been in a real relationship (although I dated for a while in a very avoidant non-committed way that makes me feel st…
I’m really struggling to feel the same way about my partner since our disagreement last week. I feel disconnected from them and I’m not wanting to spend as much time with them. I feel like I’ve had to…
Stop trying to control the spiral. When you spiral, that's anxiety; let it pass. Don't try to calm down or stop thinking about it because it will only frustrate you more to see that you can't stop thi…
Ok chiming in as earned secure: I don’t think secure attachment automatically means “no casual sex,” but I also don’t think casual sex is some kind of requirement or proof of security either. In my …
I have adhd too it sucks I’ve come across no advice for manifesting while having adhd. All the advice that’s out there is just LOA Porn by people who don’t know the true theory of manifestation. I fee…
I'm not sure if your person is FA or DA but I'll add my view as a healing fearful avoidant. If you have lighthearted things to share, the best way to share them is to just send them to the person. Giv…
Hi there, I’m F16 and I have attachment isuess. In childhood I didn't receive enough love from my parents ( abusive, emotionally unavailable father and a toxic mother, and I don’t intend to repair tho…
Thank you for saying that🫂 I just want time to pass faster or I can feel numb, it’s too painful…
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don’t take it personally, it’s usually just a happenstance thing. it sounds like he was online swiping when you replied and decided to reply when he saw it, and it was a quick back and forth. also so…
When a guy approaches me, my knee jerk reaction is to say no or redirect/end the conversation before they can ask. I see people sometimes who I think if they ask me I’d be interested. But people who d…
I’m 33, single female, never married. I’ve done the apps. I’ve done the setups. I’ve done the “give him a chance” thing. What’s changed in my 30s is this: I’m no longer afraid of being single. But tha…