book
issue
Evidence
Citations (101)
You mentioned coming to terms with your gender identity, well my ex is also a trans woman, she came out in 2014, not even one full year into our marriage. But it was triggered by her dad's sudden deat…
Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …
Multiple dreams/goal at the time — Hi everyone, im new here. I work the book Psycho-cybernetics for almost 2 years and last week i bought POSM and i LOVE it, i almost finished it and will start re-reading it. My question is, since i h…
Addressing Community Concerns: No Porn/Masturbation Addiction Posts and Self-Hate Posts + Revamped Subreddit Rules — Hello everyone. Over the past few months, I have noticed a significant number of you expressing dissatisfaction with the increasing frequency of posts related to NSFW/porn/masturbation addiction and …
Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading — # 6th Kill: $20,000 Money Mission **Mission**: To make $20,000 from futures trading **What I achieved:** I made $20,000 from futures trading **How long did it take:** 5 and a half months **Backgro…
Best Practice HTTP Status Code for Proxy-Level Content Validation Failure? — Working on an API gateway/proxy that sits in front of APIs. The proxy adds its own validation layer (toxicity, etc). I'm wrestling with an API design choice: when my **proxy's** validation rules bloc…
I got ghosted and I feel blindsided — I (26F) met a guy (26M) 3 months ago who was in every sense of the word my dream guy. We spent 1 week together before he left back to his country. Ever since we have Facetimed every single day, and we…
Am I crazy? Growing from a single freelancer to an agency with a team — Hi everyone - quick background: I'm a freelance web designer/developer who's been doing this thing now for almost 15 years. I've done it under a studio name, but it's always just been me, with some oc…
What is your go-to method for catching post-design issues? — After wrapping up a web design project, What is your usual approach to spotting missed details or issues? Do you have a personal system, or rely on tools, testing, or just a fresh perspective after a…
Announcement Regarding Community Safety — Dear SEO Members, We are reaching out to address a serious issue that affects the safety and well-being of our moderation team and our community as a whole. It has come to our attention that the CEO …
How to overcome lack of mobile experience? — I'm a mid-early senior product designer with over 5 years working on SaaS/Enterprise products. The issue is that they've all been for desktop. Quite a few roles i've been applying to have some need fo…
Total Newb: Backlinks & keyword research — I’m trying to launch my new company website and really don’t have the budget to pay someone to do socials and the website. Been building it out myself on Wordpress with the help of AIOSEO plugins. …
Blog built with “Projects” in Divi instead of “Posts” – Will this hurt SEO? — Hi everyone, I’ launched mta website using WordPress + Divi (still in early stages), and my site developer set up the blog section using **“Projects”** instead of the standard **“Posts”**. Now I’m c…
Do pages created from external RSS feeds (just headers, not full posts) hurt SEO? — A follow-up question on my SEO issue post from a couple of days ago. First of all, thanks everyone who replied -- this has been very helpful. Without going into all details again, the question was abo…
SEO and Digital Marketing IG accounts — Hi everyone, I'm looking for Instagram accounts run by digital marketing agencies that not only offer services like SEO and content marketing but also focus on educating their audience, particularly…
Am I Overcomplicating This Workshop? (Personas or Empathy first? — Hey everyone! I need some advice on structuring a workshop for a client’s new product. They’re unclear on the direction (app/web/game?), target audience, or features, so I suggested a workshop to alig…
Started a Pistachio Spread Brand in Turkey — Now Trying to Go Global (Advice Appreciated!) — Hey everyone, I’m based in Turkey and help run a family business that produces natural pistachio butter — no additives, no sugar, just roasted pistachios. It’s something we’ve been doing for over 15 …
Webflow or Wordpress for SEO, local business? — Most of my competitors use WP, but I just found someone ranked 2nd with his handyman business using webflow My site currently runs in Squarespace and I am tired of the limitations. Budget is not an i…
Business scaling up - what cloud provider should we use? — Our business is scaling rapidly — we’re currently handling millions of unique requests per week, and this number continues to grow. At the moment, we’re hosted on DigitalOcean, paying approximately €4…
Minimal or No Design Emails Will Almost Always Outperform Designed Emails — For most ecom owners, either spending the time yourself or paying a professional to intricately design each of your emails has to be one of the worst ROI decisions possible. I'm not exactly sure wher…
I cannot figure out why Google Search Console keeps indicating "Couldn't fetch" — I'm looking over a client's website and one of the things I found was their sitemap doesn't report being crawled since last September. I resubmitted the exact map that was crawled (happens to be plura…
Interview for associate devops role, not sure how it went, need opinions — I had a technical discussion with with a smaller company(around 100-200 employees) and they are filling out a new devops team. I have 7 YOE at large tech companies as a software engineer, but my dutie…
Inappropriate Design Task — I recently did well in an interview and have been given the most wild design task to date that I was made to feel stupid for pushing back on and would like some opinions. I was presented with a 9 pag…
MacOs HomeBrew and Open Source tooling — Hey guys! Quick question for ya, I've been at a job for awhile now but we just got transitioned over to macOS. We were on windows machines before. Software was always distributed through self service…
Offering Options to offshore engineer. I will not promote — I have a startup. obviously. anyhow, my company is in Canada. I have this developer in Vietnam, and he is pretty good! I pay him decently for his hours, but as a founder, I feel like i want to offer …
Revenuecat vs Adapty vs Qonversion (i will not promote) — Building a new app and thinking which platform to go for. Features pricing and reliability main priorities. What would you suggest? I am going for a react native app! Anyone has experience with those …
Multiple currencies, markets, and google merchant center. Has anyone managed to make them play nicely together? — I sell internationally to all of Europe, Scandinavia, USA, and a lot of Asia. I’m using a currency converter since shopifys inbuilt one for markets often doesn’t trigger (I watch people on Clarity b…
Why did it take OpenAI 24 hours to roll back a faulty model? — Hi everyone, I read through [an article by OpenAI](https://openai.com/index/expanding-on-sycophancy/) and stumbled upon the following segment: >With the recent GPT‑4o update, we started the rollout …
Tons of email spam on new site. Any fixes? — Hey everyone. So basically I've just moved the ecommerce content of my squarespace site to a shopify store. Really impressed overall with the versatility of the designer and loading times (holy s…
Google Search Console issue — I’m seeing thousands of 404s, soft 404s, and 'Crawled - currently not indexed' pages in GSC. These URLs don’t exist on our site anymore — they’re from a previous owner and don’t even match our niche o…
SEO Basics Done But Not Ranking — I've been working on optimizing a page for a keyword with good search volume and low difficulty according to Keyword Planner, but it's nowhere in the top 100 results. I've done all the basics: * Met…
Issues making card payments on shopify — Hi guys, I am currently building a new store and everytime I go to either purchase a domain or select a shopify plan through shopify I enter my card details and it just keeps loading and loading on …
Can’t Access My Shopify Store Created with Google Login – Stuck in Login Loop, No Password Option — Hey everyone, I’m having a frustrating issue and hoping someone here can help. I created my Shopify store using the “Continue with Google” option with my Gmail so I didn’t set a password because Goog…
Failing to Find Google Maps Scraper (that does everything) — I've built a directory listing website and I'm using WP All Import plugin to pull in data from a spreadsheet (which consists of scraped business info from their Google Maps / GBP listings). Being tha…
Take the leap - The average business is really bad at doing business. (I will not promote) — The bar for doing business, in my opinion, has never been lower. The average business is barely capable of functioning. About 3 weeks ago I put out an request to multiple suppliers. I needed large qua…
EKS custom ENIConfig issue
Scaling from solo founder to teams of 3-5+ (I will not promote) — I will not promote! What leadership issues have you guys faced going from yourself to small teams, when scaling? Currently researching this transition phase for my own learning (former military, now…
What’s one cloud concept that took you way longer to understand than expected? — For me, it was IAM on AWS. At first, it seemed simple—just give users permissions, right? But once I got into roles, policies, trust relationships, and least privilege... it felt like falling down a r…
Client has disappeared from map pack for target keyword ("More Results" button missing, only top 3 displayed) — ISSUE: I have a high profile client, with a competitive brand, authoritative website & highly optimized GBP, of which they have dozens of real locations, including this one. I have been working with t…
Devops not using Docker (or Podman), what does your stack look like? — Edit: I have nothing against containers, I'm looking for another containerization solution / ecosystem. I hate docker with all my soul. While writing it, I'm 100% aware that "hate" is a feeling and n…
My experience winning a chargeback — Sharing my experience winning a chargeback recently. We specialize in gaming collectibles, and our store has been running online for 3ish years. We have had 2 chargebacks in that timeframe, and won bo…
For those of you that run an ecommerce business from home, which insurance company do you use for your Home and Auto? — I had some issues with getting home insurance just because my business is located at my home. Additionally, I'm an Uber driver and that needs to be on there as well. For some reason this complicated…
How should I go about looking for insurance for my home, auto and ecommerce business? — Did anyone have issues with getting insurance considering your business is located at your home? I have an at home ecommerce business and I also do gig work (Uber, doordash etc) as well. For whatev…
Routine to get programmatically better — Hey fellow webdevs, I have an issue. I have no problem working at my current job working with various systems/technologies e.g. Shopify Liquid, NextJS, Twitter, Astro etc. I can build components well…
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
Best CI/CD tool — I love TeamCity, it looks great, it's easy to setup and it's easy to work with. The issue at hand tho, it is written in Java and requires over of 4GB free RAM which is just insane. Is there a product…
How do you inspect what actually changed in container images? (My Git-based approach) — Hey everyone, When working with CI images or debugging build issues, I often need to understand *exactly* what changed in a container layer - not just which files were added or removed, but what was …
High Margin Whitelabeled Stevia Product - looking for someone to take over — Hi all. Long story short I came in contact with a manufacturer in South America for a very, very good Stevia product that I use by myself and decided I wanted to try to sell in the states which I’ve w…
Why ex-tech creators are bad fit for conferences? — I haven’t been to many design-related conferences throughout my career, but I decided to give a CoCreate Conference a shot. I won’t go into the event organization here – just the speakers. From what I…
Common sense from an actual founder [fully boostrap 10M$ company] about startup studios' playbooks [i will not promote] — I don't post on reddit but I've recently seen an increased influx of post or people talking about X or Y playbook about how you should startup. i will not promote Let me get this straight, I won't cr…
There aren't many but as far as I can tell there are a couple which could qualify. 1. Escapism. Just like anything fun, let alone of the "reality substitute" type, there is the potential to use it e…
Ok- I dunno how to approach this. My parents did *not* talk about feelings. Still don't-- small town German-Irish silence. I never once witnessed conflict resolution-- just behind the back bottling an…
Just a few questions here - I'm new to lucid dreaming. I garden quite a bit, so I can grow Artemisia douglasiana and a few other helpful herbs and make a poultice or something. I usually don't rem…
Most likely something subconscious Try affirming to yourself every night when you go to bed preferably when your tired since your conscious mind is more closer to your subconscious when tired Affir…
I have the same issue. I have a hard time focusing on my breath. One thing that seems to work for me is to visualize something to focus on,like a flame.
Another update: My ex did want me back, but I rejected it since I know she doesn't want to work yet on her issues, which meant that we're only going to go back to the same situation as we were before.…
This is a Fakespot Reviews Analysis bot. Fakespot detects fake reviews, fake products and unreliable sellers using AI. Here is the analysis for the Amazon product reviews: >**Name**: The Phoenix Pro…
Hi. My mother and father to a lesser degree were emotionally neglectful. It is a miracle that I’m still here and have been able to do all that I’ve done. But I’ve done a lot of work and healing and I’…
I contacted mine with a text and she didn’t respond back, it’s been 21 days. I know she probably saw it and I want anyone who reads this…DON’T! Because it’s been about 3 years about 2 with no contact …
I really do not know anything about this at all. I went to sleep at around 1130pm last night, I woke up feeling nauseous and sweaty at 530am. At around 630am I remembered my “dream?” I was floating/fl…
well the origine of our body parts , or people who look exactly like we do originate elsewhere in the lyra constellation , not earth , the lyra constellation is our true home and has planets with …
DevOps evolves around 3 key principles: 1. Automation 2. Monitoring 3. Integration The rules are simple: # Automation Don't ever do anything by hand. The only allowable manual action is configurin…
Hi! So one thing I can tell you from lots of therapy and recently spending time around her is I realized I had been only remembering her good qualities and putting her on a pedestal in my mind. When w…
I have not been public-facing but generally when people come to me with issues I take care of them. This was due to complaints about a certain comment that made people feel unsafe. It's important a co…
So I just wrote a comment today on another post that might help too: You’re being too hard on yourself. Your divorce is completely fresh and you need to give yourself grace and allow yourself to feel…
Hello, I'm Kale, and Im 34. I was just married 3 months ago after being in a loving 8+ year relationship with the kindest person I've ever met. Three days ago she told me she had developed a relation…
I just started crying as a realised I identify with every single one of the symptoms listed. I had to go from 'how on earth do they know my personal experience? how is so much of this accurate to me?'…
I totally agree that there is a general trend to project personal issues and give drastic advice, especially since... well, it's not your life. I particularly notice it when it comes to fear of a par…
I tell folks to end their relationship if it’s clear they can’t work (or don’t want to work) through their issues. It’s not a bad thing if you need to end the relationship. I’ve seen a lot of misogyn…
In my opinion focusing on two goals at once before you have a lot of success is just your unbelief talking. You don't believe you'll heal your issues through manifestation (at least for a while) so yo…
Ykw this makes alot of sense. I'm ngl i do say break up especially with cheaters but most times i try to give another option. It might be a terrible idea to break up and there goes a relationship that…
"Most of the time I feel like I'm going to die alone, like I'm not enough and oher bullshit." I suggest you take conventional action and see a therapist to sort out your self-esteem issues in the fi…
THANK YOU. I fucking hate the porn addiction posts every two seconds. I feel sorry for the boys suffering with it, but try SEARCHING OLD POSTS. There are amazing answers out there, just use the search…
r/decidingtobebetter is not therapy. If you have serious issues like that, go seek therapy. This sub is for mundane issues such as "I want to stop being lazy", etc, etc. Also, a lot of people are not …
Hi, sorry for the long response but please bear with me. TLDR at the bottom. You are slightly correct, but drug addiction posts will also more than likely be removed. 1- There is actually another…
Ahh words! Jokes aside:TY for the response! Personally I am saddened at the new rules as I feel phone addiction (and by extension pron accessibility) is a prevalent issue, and one worthy of r/Decidin…
I did not make these changes because of one member’s complains or disapproval. I made these changes over months of observation and after countless posts from members on the sub calling for mods to tak…
There are several subreddits for all of the aforementioned issues.
> This sub is for mundane issues such as "I want to stop being lazy" And yet the front page here is mostly about self-loathing, depression, and crippling anxiety.
When I entered this sub it was not like that. People used to post about useful things and make useful quests. Anxiety and depression are not "deciding to be better", they're straight up medical issues…
Because they were taking over the sub. If everybody who made a masturbation post had read earlier threads about it and would only post not covered issues we would have only 1% of the posts and nobody …
Yes, and that was clearly one of the most important aspects of your original post. Everyone who replied in the other comments ignored this, which is incredibly ridiculous. All members, respond to…
Sure. Just edit out all criticisms of the loapornstars and their lies and propagandist tactics. Also any criticisms of the loa communities and their idiot members. We're all painfully familiar with …
Love these arguments. Point 1: There is a difference between hypnosis (true authentic feelings of experience of here and now of the desired outcome) and daydreaming. When you give your mind and your…
It literally is, look at that essay you wrote. You’re overcomplicating things and applying 3D thinking to something that really has little to do with the 3D. The 3D is merely the result of all of this…
If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, LO…
>So the formula that always works is: Getting to know yourself well + analyzing and understanding where your issues come from + realizing your weaknesses and what you need to change in your life + sta…
I’m sorry to hear you had an experience like that. I do think my current relationship is a little more consistent than what you’ve described. We see each other usually at least once a week, more if we…
I am in a similar position to you OP. I've been seeing my fiancée for over 2 years. We live separately due to circumstances at her end, and we see each other roughly once a week, usually at weekends…
This explains how I let things get so out of control with avoidant types as I’m an introvert and quite secure independent and confident but after a year I started feeling like the relationship wasn’t …
I'm not sure but I have some FA tendencies in dating and have needed "cool down" periods in past dating situations, as sometimes they really ramped up my anxiety and I needed space to regulate again. …
I’ve experienced all of the attachment styles in one way or another. What has been working for me is finding security in my friendships first. I’ve become so severely avoidant that im not pursuing a r…
Do you feel like its much harder to start healing while in a relationship as opposed to being out of it? Diving into a serious relationship very fast, I realized I have a lot of issues with avoidance…
I wouldn’t say they aren’t aware. AP can be extremely self critical. I find the issue is that until they process the underlying trauma, the attraction pattern is hard to break. Simply being aware of i…
That depends on where you’re reading. I see plenty of attacks on AP. It’s not a contest. You’re reading here, and like you said, folks most likely to want to post about issues are AP. Head over to the…
Interestingly enough we don’t see that though. We see post after post of people wanting to fix their ex or figure out how to make it work. I rarely see posts with people venting about the issue while …
Yes I agree it’s an important topic. My issue with how you’re addressing it is that you’re creating some sort of behavior hierarchy that simply doesn’t exist. I’m not AP, for the record. I am in the…
They can be self critical, but that's actually the opposite of being accountable and aware because typically it's just another way to ruminate. I also think that tendency in general is what drives the…
Yes, that's precisely my message! And that's why I started treating myself for my issues so aggressively since my late teens (now mid/late 20s). I didn't want to keep passing on the cycle, and this go…
Seriously. I've seen more avoidants that wake up to their own issues than AA's ever do. Like, it's 50/50 folks, everyone has to do their own work. Wake up and see how your own behavior ruins your rela…