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The point is to **see** (observe with insight) the mechanics of the mental processes and contents that we commonly (or at least often) take very seriously from a more objective perspective. **Seeing*…
How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2 — We stand with the disabled users of reddit and in our community. Starting July 1, Reddit's API policy blind/visually impaired communities will be more dependent on sighted people for moderation. When …
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Can Manifestation Really Help You Get Full Marks in an Exam If You Only Wrote Part of the Answer? — Hey everyone, I have a question that might sound a bit out there, but I’m curious to hear if anyone has had a similar experience. I recently took an exam where I only managed to write answers for ab…
Happy New Year and Bye-bye 2024: 6th Kill - $20,000 from Futures Trading — # 6th Kill: $20,000 Money Mission **Mission**: To make $20,000 from futures trading **What I achieved:** I made $20,000 from futures trading **How long did it take:** 5 and a half months **Backgro…
A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse. We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon. W…
Website Rebrand and Redesign Advice — First Let me say: I have absolutely no eye for design. If it is more complex than a stick figure, I cant imagine it in my mind. However, I do know of already existing designs that I love and want to r…
How much web design experience did you have when landing your first job? — Just curious, when y'all landed your first web design job did you feel like you had the right experience already? Currently searching for my first full-time web design job. I graduated with an Associa…
Is there a better way to create posts that actually match your brand? — As a solo builder, I’ve been working on a small idea I think might be useful — especially for startups and B2B teams trying to stay consistent with branded content on instagram. The problem: Creatin…
How are unemployed designers managing financially right now? — I was laid off two months ago and have been in the job search grind since - applying, interviewing, and trying to stay hopeful. But I’ve also been feeling pretty stressed and anxious, especially as ti…
Announcement Regarding Community Safety — Dear SEO Members, We are reaching out to address a serious issue that affects the safety and well-being of our moderation team and our community as a whole. It has come to our attention that the CEO …
Blog built with “Projects” in Divi instead of “Posts” – Will this hurt SEO? — Hi everyone, I’ launched mta website using WordPress + Divi (still in early stages), and my site developer set up the blog section using **“Projects”** instead of the standard **“Posts”**. Now I’m c…
What could cause massive spikes in Impressions on Google Search Console? — I am getting massive spikes once a week. From 4000 to 16,000 impressions. But clicks do not increase and these are lowering my CTR. We arent doing anything special on these days - no emails - no marke…
SEO and Digital Marketing IG accounts — Hi everyone, I'm looking for Instagram accounts run by digital marketing agencies that not only offer services like SEO and content marketing but also focus on educating their audience, particularly…
The Ability to Scale Predictably Is a Superpower (Here’s Why DTC Brands Can’t Skip Performance Marketing) — The ability to **scale predictably** is a superpower—especially for DTC brands. If you’ve worked with or inside a DTC company, you know the drill: * You launch, get some organic traction, and then… …
Need an advise for my website — Hi there, I need your help because I’m struggling to get a higher ranking on Google for my website. I’m a Psychologist and Psychotherapist, and I have been working in a small city near Milan, Italy.si…
Started a Pistachio Spread Brand in Turkey — Now Trying to Go Global (Advice Appreciated!) — Hey everyone, I’m based in Turkey and help run a family business that produces natural pistachio butter — no additives, no sugar, just roasted pistachios. It’s something we’ve been doing for over 15 …
How do you generate qualified leads for a cohort-based course? — Hey everyone! 👋 I run a live, cohort-based masterclass on advanced Midjourney prompt engineering and am in the process of ramping up my lead-gen funnel for the next cohort. So far, I’ve Explored: *…
What to Say When You’re Not the Cheapest Option (And Someone Pushes Back on Price) — I will not promote. This is a best practice I've found in my own works.So, you’re having a great conversation with a potential client and then you get hit with that line: “I know someone who can do it…
Should we use Grafana open source in a medium company — I work at a medium-sized company using New Relic for observability. We ingest over 4TB of data monthly, run 20+ services across production and staging, and use MongoDB. While New Relic covers logs, me…
Freelance in SEO or full-time remote job: Am I making a mistake by still applying? — Hey everyone, I’m at a bit of a crossroads and could really use your advice—even if it goes against what I’m currently thinking. Since I was 18 (I’m 20 now), I’ve been building websites just for fun…
Freelance in SEO or full-time remote job: Am I making a mistake by still applying? — Hey everyone, I’m at a bit of a crossroads and could really use your advice—even if it goes against what I’m currently thinking. Since I was 18 (I’m 20 now), I’ve been building websites just for fun…
Building My First B2C SaaS Product – Learning, Struggling, and Still Going — I’ve been working on my B2C SaaS app **Gamify** for a little over a week now. It’s a habit-tracking, gamified to-do list app — a mix of fun and structure I’ve always felt was missing in other tools. …
Changing or staying? Product Designer — Hello. I’ve barely been a junior product designer for a year before I was laid off and threatened by AI. Same telltale as everyone in design/IT industries. I’ve been unemployed for 2 months now, and …
We open-sourced internet’s largest incident response glossary with over 500+ terms — We just published a public glossary with **500+ terms** related to incident response, on-call, alerting, SLOs, postmortems, and more. I think this is perhaps the internet's largest glossary for incide…
My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote — Hey All, A few months ago, I shared my story here (original Reddit post in comments) about starting an IT consultancy business in the Netherlands with a friend right after graduation. At that time, w…
What does your design director do? — I'm an IC product designer and a bit mystified by higher level design leadership. I've been looking at job descriptions for design directors, and they'll say things like "drive [company]'s product des…
Is it a good idea to start an India-based agency offering social media services (graphic design, video editing, creative work) exclusively for foreign clients due to better dollar parity? — I’ve been thinking of starting a social media service agency based in India, focusing only on international clients (especially from the US/UK). The idea is to offer services like graphic designing, v…
What plugins do you use for speed optimization? — I’m still new to the technical side of SEO and have mainly used the LiteSpeed Cache plugin since my personal site is hosted on Hostinger with QUIC.cloud CDN. But now I’m hoping to take on technical SE…
Thoughts on an image sharing tool with link permissions? (i will not promote) — **Looking for feedback: Tool for sharing images securely with permissioned domains (like DocSend, but mainly for images)** Hey r/startups, I’m working on validating an idea and would love your thoug…
How Would You Approach Digital Marketing for a Premium Food Product Expanding Internationally? — Hi everyone, I run digital efforts for my family’s pistachio butter business based in Gaziantep, Turkey — a region famous for producing world-class pistachios. We’ve been in business since 2007 and …
Bootstrapped Turkish Food Brand Exploring Global B2B Expansion – I will not promote — Hey everyone, I help manage a family-run pistachio butter business based in Gaziantep, Turkey — a city known for producing world-class pistachios. Since 2007, we’ve been selling a premium, all-natur…
Upwind's Cloud Security CNAPP. Is it viable? — Can anyone share their real-world experience implementing Upwind's "Runtime-Powered" Cloud Security Platform? The promise of using real-time runtime data (I think they use eBPF sensors?) to focus onl…
How to know you have PMF with hard tech? I will not promote — Hey, I’m in hard tech, AA battery space to be exact. Basically a better rechargeable battery for short but how do you guys know if people really want your tech? Especially at a hard tech level. Have…
Detailed Car Crash Simulation as a Service - I will not promote — Hello everyone! I am a mechanical engineer specializing in simulation (with a PhD in biomechanics) and I'm currently working on software that simulates car accidents in detail, also taking biomechanic…
Plan to build the healthiest farm-to-table meal delivery service. Seeking advice. I will not promote. — I WILL NOT PROMOTE. Plan on building what I believe can be the cleanest and most transparent farm-to-table meal delivery service brand, and I’d love feedback from anyone who’s worked in DTC, food or j…
How do you estimate the cost and effort for full ecom website builds? — If you’re building e-commerce websites for clients (Shopify, WooCommerce, etc.): → How do you usually scope the project? → Do you use fixed-price packages, custom quotes, or hourly estimates? I’m c…
SEO vets - what actually works for ranking nowadays? — Hey, So I’ve been diving into SEO for a bit now — took a dozen free courses (Semrush, Hubspot), read some articles by people like Brian Dean, etc. Thought I was starting to get the hang of it. But a…
How much is ChatGPT going to replace Google? — many people and research say that ChatGPT is going to replace Google, especially after it has the search functionality, however, I am not sure if this is true, I have seen Google ads revenue going up …
Anyone else rethinking bulk imports with these tariffs? — I’ve been importing apparel in bulk for a couple years now, but the new Trump tariffs have really forced me to rethink things. Between higher shipping costs and customs delays, the old model just isn’…
Does cold email still works in 2025 ? — Hi there, I'm a beginner to freelancing, and I make landing page designs, currently I haven't landed any clients yet, I've tried cold DM for a while but got no results, that's why I thought to start m…
SEO Strategies for Large Database Sites with Dynamic Titles and H1s — Hi ! What are the best practices for optimizing dynamic H1 and title tags on a large database-driven site with filterable pages (by year, country, artist name, etc.)? How do you avoid duplicate conte…
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[Hiring/Seeking/Offering] Jobs / Co-Founders Weekly Thread — # [Hiring/Seeking/Offering] Jobs / Co-Founders Weekly Thread This is an experiment. We see there is a demand from the community to: * Find Co-Founders * Hiring / Seeking Jobs * Offering Your Skillse…
Advice on Partnering with UK Freelancers for a Marketing Agency – Need SEO, PPC, Content Writers, and More — I’m in the process of starting a marketing agency and looking for some advice on where I can partner with skilled freelancers (based in the UK) for the following roles: • SEO/CRO Specialist: Someone …
Should I purchase multiple domain TLDs for my brand? What’s your opinion? — Hey everyone I own the main .com for my brand, but I’m wondering if it’s smart (or necessary) to purchase other TLDs too like .net, .co, .io, and so on. Some people say it helps with branding, trus…
How to Build a Site for Both Art and Ecommerce? — Hi everyone, I’m a freelance graphic designer and currently have my portfolio site on Squarespace, which also includes a small e-commerce shop for art prints. I originally chose Squarespace because …
Is anyone else feeling the pressure from new import tariffs? How is it impacting your business or ways you source stuff? — With all the recent shifts in trade policy, I’m curious how others are handling the growing pressure from import tariffs. Especially those sourcing from China, which I suspect is most of us here. For…
I built a VSCode extension that shows array sizes directly in your code—would love feedback from other devs! — Hey everyone! I’ve been working on a VSCode extension called **Array Size Extension**, and I wanted to share it with you all to get some feedback or maybe help out others who run into the same proble…
Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups (I will not promote) — **Adventures of a South African Engineer: Lessons from 3 Startups** These are a few things I have come to learn while doing "startups," maybe it will help some entrepreneurs in their startup travels.…
How do you handle tracking updates + international shipping transparency in Shopify? — One challenge we’ve been facing is managing customer expectations when it comes to international shipping, especially when multiple carriers are involved (like packages moving from 4PX → USPS, or YunE…
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No he didn't. He taught act as if as a PRIMARY METHOD to reprogram the subconscious mind (sm). This is a bad method to recommend to beginners who are not especially talented in acting etc.
He mentioned in the opening of this lecture, I think, that he has a background in the corporate world, providing team-building programs for companies, or vanilla psychology as you call it, so, yeah, I…
Early brain development is such an important topic. I'll be sure to look through more of your post history especially because it's an area I haven't delved into very much. What would you want someone …
Appearance changes, the specialised sib for that is the ng sub .
Are there people that REALLY HONESTLY get all, or most, of that from their parents? If parents did all of that, they’d be pretty special don’t ya think? Mine sucked!
>Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using sle…
>“A good start”, LOL. ​ Ah. A chortle. Clearly, not much money in your bank. Must be because you know the law. lol ​ >I’m not reading POSM anytime soon. I already have a formula that…
If you're already fast asleep, then you *should* be able to exit. Usually there's not that much of a special trick to exiting the body, simply just 'get up'. However if you might be well adjusted to a…
Can someone explain what the fuck just happened to me. I was trying to fall asleep and when i finally succeeded i woke up again at like 3 am i realised I couldn’t move it felt like i was moving but wh…
No contact feels good when you remind yourself that you're empowering yourself. No one should dictate your self value, especially an ex.
It's nearly three years in September and I feel like I'm still mentally abusing myself in situation. And there have been times especially late at night where I'm like oh I'll just do you know the week…
This was a helpful read, especially the confronting bit. I'm worried I'm told I need to confront my parents but I don't want to.
Duck them especially the ones who used you during their break or a short time until their need dries out and with no trace or care they disappear
I've asked two different entities, and they gave me partly conflicting answers. The self-proclaimed deity said most humans and all animals go to an enormous astral...warehouse waiting room thingy. Th…
I would agree as well. But sometimes they try to keep you as a backup option by being hot and cold. They are playing with you, while they may not even realize it, but you are getting false hope. Espec…
Because thats not how relationships work. You can’t solely be thinking of whats best for you. If I date someone yet kept myself before them all the time, that relationship would probably not last very…
Easier said than done. I have no motivation to do anything. She was a big motivation for me in life. I’m going on 13 days NC now, and I have a very very strong urge to reach out. She reached out 3 tim…
I've tried to stay of Social Media as much as possible. Not easy when other friends are trying to reach out to you l, especially for events and birthdays. Checking my birthday messages triggered me, I…
Yes, especially with Divorce. There are SO MANY variables, there is no way you know everything there is to know. The poster is here because the attorney will charge them $500 for the email, their frie…
I had no idea. I still often feel like my situation wasn't that bad especially since I don't even remember a lot of it, so this really helps to know. Thank you for sharing this :)
I totally agree that there is a general trend to project personal issues and give drastic advice, especially since... well, it's not your life. I particularly notice it when it comes to fear of a par…
From my experience the way he described it was the confusing part, especially considering the dozen translations there are of this book. Personally I think that a few things he is not right about w…
Ykw this makes alot of sense. I'm ngl i do say break up especially with cheaters but most times i try to give another option. It might be a terrible idea to break up and there goes a relationship that…
1. Daydreaming that makes you feel emotional isn’t what Murphy or Goddard are talking about. It is about feeling the reality of what you want to have happen now, that is the feeling. Emotions might co…
I do agree, but I’m my experience my thoughts change naturally. It’s like I’m just happy, and I don’t even know the reason - happens due to reprogramming. I kind of forget about it. It’s not constantl…
Uh oh…better get to affirming and visualizing before your man runs away! Imagine not being able to enjoy your time with your partner because you always need to check your thoughts and assumptions? Wha…
>Daydreaming is just like watching a movie, we just live in some place as an escape, but it doesn't change our self-concept nor the beliefs we hold about our 3D. Once we come out of daydreaming, ***th…
If it comes to new age stuff like LOA/LOB/Law of assumption I actually agree with you to a certain degree but not entirely. So let me explain where I disagree. Most people who follow Joseph Murphy, LO…
I am in a similar position to you OP. I've been seeing my fiancée for over 2 years. We live separately due to circumstances at her end, and we see each other roughly once a week, usually at weekends…
Probably...I'm not fully DA especially now, but even when I first started dating my girlfriend, I never needed time away after spending time with her. In fact, I wanted even more. DA or not, it's a…
So pardon the length (I haven't told anyone yet) and thank you for reading. I might have a crush on a good friend ("Steve") who I've reconnected with after a few years of not hanging out. We didn't …
I think taking personal time can come from different motivations. Securely attached people love their own time too, especially if they’re more introverted and have hobbies that require undivided atten…
Or before going on a rant about an "avoidant discard" consider maybe someone just broke up with you because it wasn't working for them. People aren't obligated to stick around forever trying to for…
i’m an anxious person. i honestly think that if the majority of anxious people stopped blaming their exes, externalizing their looks, and focused on THEIR problems and therapies (because yes anxious a…
This is the one. I'd also add that attachment doesn't just stop at partners — it's also at play at work, friendships, family relationships/siblings, and even children. It's really fucking hard to be …
They can be self critical, but that's actually the opposite of being accountable and aware because typically it's just another way to ruminate. I also think that tendency in general is what drives the…
Irritating the ones you love, polysecure (because it deals with a lot of attachment education), women who love too much, polyvagal theory and exercises, legit anything to do with different therapies— …
Do you have a therapist? These are questions someone who specializes in attachment theory can help answer better than a redditor comment. Also, it’s been a week - you don’t know a lot in a week.
I have a therapist but it’s not an attachment specialist and its there in a week again :/
It's a little bit soon to jump to concluding that she's lost interest. People do have (hopefully whole, fulfilling) lives separate of us, and just because we don't hear from them for a day (especially…
That’s how you see it though. Some people are different and do not have the capacity to consider that, especially if they had a stressful day. Normally I respond to my friends, but the other night aft…
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You ever hear the song “Butterfly” by weezer. As an avoidant leaning FA I can relate to hurting an AP by fleeing but after finding an attachment specialist I’m learning that our power dynamic fell hea…
This is a very different vibe, but the CTRL album by SZA was so incredibly relatable when it came out, it’s like she found my diary and put my thoughts -and feelings into song. Especially songs like G…
>I get why this sub advocates for SM methods over CM methods, and I absolutely agree that it’s better for beginners, but the problem with exclusively doing this is that you can do all of the work laid…
>Not saying you’re entirely wrong but that wasn’t the point of the ladder experiment. The point of the ladder experiment was to teach about awareness. > Ah. Conscious awareness. Complete rubbish and…
Attachment styles are not the sole factors for attraction we create. But cutting off people we have known for a long time - especially family members, to which we are bound to biologically - is a sig…
It can help you by managing your triggers, but it does not mean healing. Years of exposure to emotional turbulence sounds like a disruption to your nervous system, your attachment style. In fearful …
There are many factors to consider with regards to attachment styles, especially towards different people / situations a specific style might be more prominant. There is also a spectrum - mild, modera…