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stop trying to solve the thought. call it "worry" or "mind reading," then put your attention back on what's in front of you. do that 50 times if you need to. that's basically what "noting" meditation …

A Splash of Cold-Water for you — **Background** Hey everyone, I'm a contributor to this subreddit, and spend time lurking from time to time. I'm quite familiar with every attachment style. I, myself, had to earn security from my ow…

AM silent treatment is HELL — For context- two days ago AM asked me (19F) and my sister (17F) why our cousin and our close friends are scared or intimidated by her. We started making fun of her for the things she used to do or say…

"Men Can't Be Men Anymore" — A week ago, I [posted about the Louis Theroux documentary on the “Manosphere,”](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/1rtveyg/the_manosphere/) noting my surprise at the scale of the phenomenon, u…

Important research statistics on contact experiences — Many people aren’t aware of the research that has been done on contact experiences. People often seem at least somewhat familiar with a few of the big names from early on (Budd Hopkins, John E. Mack, …

How Neville Manifested His Marriage - Do Not Meddle In The Middle. — **For Those Who Need...** From Neville's Audio Lecture. The verbatim from Neville's Lecture (*Updated*) : *“When I decided to marry the lady who now bears my name I applied this principle. At the t…

Walking meditation. Am I just ego tripping? — So I went for a 2h walk today with headphones. And as I progressed I naturally became more mindfull. Thats when I decided to slow down so I could keep more awareness. This is something I do often, but…

Currently spiralling — Is this reason enough to leave my husband? I have been thinking about this since summer, this conversation has come up 3 times and he is in agreement so I’m pretty sure I am making the right choice …

The Gaslighting is So Exhausting.. — After months of her blaming her affair on me and our “problems,” I realized she isn’t even lying anymore. Not in her mind anyway. She has thoroughly convinced herself. It took me many times of expla…

Is it worth it/valid to end a 7 month long relationship due to long distance? (19F) (19M) TLDR at bottom of post! — i feel like this goes a lot deeper than the title, but seeking advice. my bf and i met last semester when starting college. it seemed like a picture perfect relationship: spent tons of time together,…

I’ve just released the evidence to the press that NSW Police fabricated a medical diagnosis to criminalize my trauma. I am dropping the files here on Friday. — *Disclaimer: I am remaining anonymous while investigative journalists review the evidence file I just submitted to them. I have on me clinical assessments, hospital documents, and audio recordings sup…

What even is a hard life? — I was having a conversation with my mother today and I realize I had a tough pill to swallow. Maybe my life wasn't that hard? On paper it felt harsh and lonely. She said I needed to stop acting like s…

How to Change Your Mind sparked my psychonaut journey. What are good next steps? — I finished *How to Change Your Mind* by Michael Pollan a couple of weeks ago, and it was mind-blowing (pun intended). The history, the research being done to help people with mental illness using mush…

Share your role models thats helping your healing journey atm — Finding good role models when we didnt have ourselves is hard, specifically because we ourselves do not know how it looks. Im personally curious over the years u guys been continuing to learn of yours…

How do I (29F) tell my partner (29M) I don't want to go to the movies with him anymore? — My husband and I have been married for three years and together for 11. We have our lives set up for us, and we are both very busy with our jobs: we both work in an office. However, I am also pushing …

How should I (22M) bring up my porn problem to my (21F) girlfriend? Should I at all? — Just a bit of backstory, I already had a problem with porn coming into this relationship. Not necessarily an addiction or a problem so bad that it actually took away from my life, but more so that it …

I actually need physical proof or an admittance of guilt? — Pretty sure I already know. My profession involves data analysis and pattern recognition. Unfortunately, I also have residual trauma that provides a substantial foundation for self doubt, projection,…

Astral Projecting in a Dream? — Years ago I attempted to astral project when I had been going through a dark time and wanted to experience something different. I was able to feel myself coming out of my body and it scared me so inte…

I need advice on how to better myself for my relationship. — My girlfriend (20F) and I (22M) have been in a relationship for 8 months and things have just gotten rough lately. For background, I have a child (2F) to which she is a lovely step mom to(we honestly …

Is dream journaling really important for lucid dreaming? — I have attempted lucid dreams before and have a few short lucid dreams. One thing I dont really like is noting down my dreams because it really annoying for me, quit after a month of trying. Now I wan…

I will just ask simply and clear — If i was to learn progressive muscle relaxation and learn to totally relax, then, learn with meditation to concentrate freely and without problems and learn to relax also that part. Now when thi…

I (20M) want to end my relationship with my “girlfriend” (20F) but I feel trapped. — For about a month now, I (20M) have been “dating” a girl (20F). We’re not officially together, but we’ve essentially been moving as a couple for a few weeks at this point. For some further context, we…

I (27F) took my boyfriends virginity (26M) expecting him to love sex but doesn’t seem like it — He has been waiting to have sex until he found someone he could see a future with. We were dating for 6 months when he decided he wanted to with me. I was expecting him to cum right away but he didn’t…

I don’t know whether my best friend has a problem with me? — TL/DR whether my best friends actions means she has a problem with me/ lies to me. Hi, so I’m going to preface this with this is my first Reddit post so I just hope it makes sense. So I (f18) starte…

I (21M) recently found out that my girlfriend (21F) cheated on her ex-boyfriend with a friend of mine. — I have been dating a girl for about 1.5 months so our relationship is still very fresh, exciting, and genuinely fun. We’re both college seniors moving to the same city after graduation, and I really l…

My girlfriend cheated on me, should I forgive her? — My girlfriend (F23) cheated on me this past weekend. Here's the full story: She went out to a party on Friday night. It's worth noting that things weren't going very well in our relationship. We've on…

Yet they don’t question why they showed us a version like that initially and couldn’t/ wouldn’t uphold it. Then were blamed for believing in that initial version the way we did, and then for noting wh…

Of wanting to be in a relationship, if he was ready for fully committing, and he was EXTRA scared of hurting me. He knew he liked me but being in a relationship felt stressful. And I was able to stay …

You MUST build a support system. You have to. The whole point here is to get better, not perfect, but to get better you have to do it. More of a network would show you that this isn’t a doom spiral,…

I can only tell you from my own perspective and my own personal experiences. I've often felt like I was too much, that I need to be patient with my partner, that when I want to ask for more, be it in…

>It's worth noting that Anxious Attachment is also emotional unavailability. Accepting that is what allowed me to heal and grow, albeit slowly over time. Could you expand on this ? I've often read th…

Google is telling me the definition of avoidant in this context is "relating to or denoting a type of personality or behavior characterized by the avoidance of intimacy or social interaction." I'm as…

Both, I def make sure I’m communicating but she’s also picked up cues and reads me well. Worth noting that I also try to be observant of her and to be open if she wants more of me, meaning (esp during…

How exactly does our culture *reward* hyper-independence? I don’t think all discourse makes such a definitive line in the sand as to how it relates to “needs” or “withdrawal”. Such topics are highly s…

You have your whole life ahead of you, and don’t need to settle for any of this. His attachment style isn’t really relevant here, what is relevant is that he just isn’t very invested in the relationsh…

I'm so curious to know what he said "love" means to him. Please share! To me, love isn't just a feeling, it's a choice/action. It's choosing to love someone, care about them and prioritize them and t…

Yes to long term partners, but I would advise being really explicit about what you're looking for (eg relationship and not play Partner/fwb) and noting whether you are polyamorous or monogamous. Do …

I think it's fine as long as you're up front with this person that you'll end things under those circumstances. Might be worth noting some people will be uncomfortable knowing you were having a fling …

Yeahhh I think most people would be put off if on the first date someone starts noting their physical flaws, no matter how accurate and factual they may be….. Also - it just sounds like you aren’t t…

Wow, I bow before this very scientific-minded deconstruction of this situation as described by some particularly mope-y fellow. Of course you are absolutely right that my "lens" through which I perce…

It's also worth noting that men are often specifically pressured to *suppress* emotions. That whole toxic "alpha-male" manosphere culture says that men who are in touch with their feelings, who allow…

jupiter in aquarius is a genuinely tricky placement because jupiter's mode of expansion (organic, faith-based, through meaning and generosity) runs into aquarius' saturn-ruled framework (systematic, i…

the pattern across these stories is remarkably consistent: early financial instability or scarcity consciousness, followed by a slow (often painful) process of building genuine material security throu…

From an astrological perspective, the most challenging **Sun-Moon transits** usually involve Saturn, Pluto, or, sometimes, Mars. These planets tend to create pressure, emotional intensity, or confront…

I actually know exactly what this guy means. I do, however, admit that it sounds sus. I’ll explain… I (female) have also only ever had 1 outbreak to date. But I can tell when the virus is active. I w…

I think the mechanism people are describing is real but the framing is a little off. We dont grow INTO our Ascendant - we grow into actually owning it. Before your Saturn Return your rising sign is ki…

Saturn in Aries is Saturn in fall, meaning the restriction is pushing against a sign that fundamentally resists being contained. That tension is exactly what makes these periods feel extreme rather th…

*You get chlamydia, you take antibiotics, it dies and you no longer are contagious. You hump happily and dont pass chlamydia to your partners.* That’s how it goes dude… So, if everyone who had chlam…

I just used those examples bc they’re more high profile. For Danielle it was widespread backlash from netizens and there were articles about it. I agree there could be bots involved but I think widesp…

she doesn't initiate sex, she doesn't plan dates, she doesn't schedule activities, she doesn't seem to make him feel desired in any sort of way (aside from denoting herself as... 'free use' 🫤). she w…

Well, here's my complaint. She still managed to reinforce the stereotype of Asian men as quiet, scared, nervous, and lacking confidence (noting she likes her men that way).

Everyone here has great advice, and I'd also like to congratulate you on your sobriety. That's not an easy thing to achieve, so you're already doing amazing. I'm going to sort of second the suggestio…

It’s hard to say if she’s trying to convince you not to go. But it is hard to leave a 7 month old behind to attend a destination wedding when you’re breastfeeding. And she wants you to sit with your…

First -- it's a man, not a male. It's cringe to talk about women as "females" or about men as "males", don't do that. But secondly -- you have more agency than this. You say that ***"I feel it will m…

Noting. We've had aliens among us for decades. Open contact (formally) is set for 2027. Be patient. Watch how 2026 unfolds.

It's written all over my post and in the title that I don't take this particularly seriously (though I suppose everyone is allowed to have their interpretation of my tone)--it's just weird but it take…

Okay mars is best if placed in third if afflicted by saturn only gives bad mouth otherwise it is highly self controlled as mars karka third house mars also karka of impulse, anger etc third shows what…

That's a really good distinction - being more lucid in your decisions within the dream, without the full control vs the full lucidity moment. I think it is relatively easy to conflate the two, though …

As others have pointed out this is definitely not a gendered thing. I’ll also add that it appears the mods of this subreddit have a very idiosyncratic view of what posts stay and which ones are delete…

I will approach this gently because I think this comes from naivete although you probably do love her. When my ex broke up with me due to his own unfaithfulness, he actually told me what he would mi…

It's also worth noting that sometimes people can accuse you of ghosting when the truth is closer to "you weren't available when I wanted/needed you to be". I've even had that happen when I've explicit…

Noting here is medical advice is a funny typo but also maybe should be fixed lest someone land here high and panicked in the future.

Definitely give audio books a try! Sometimes trying different types of books works. My tween & teen boys started with comic books to graphic novels to now my 16 year old is reading Frankenstein in the…

ok, so hormonal fluctuations are not something you have to worry about as much. Lucky you! ;) In that case it is possible that you are sensitive towards the moon cycles, but it's also possible that…

I hate those people who just say things without having any deeper meanjng behind them. These cliches make me so angry. If you approach them asking more in depth questions they have noting to say. Ther…

Not to mention that same study notes that perpetrators of anti-Asian hate crimes are far more likely to be non-white than perpetrators of anti-Black or anti-Hispanic hate crimes. At the same time, th…

Hi OP, i went back to your post and noticed you mentioned you divulged a lot of personal material that felt like “opening up” despite “not knowing each other very well” and this led to shame. This (wh…

Absolutely not a silly question. Growth is literally the point of astrology, so yes you can outgrow the harder expressions of a placement. Your Gemini rising is doing a lot of heavy lifting here becau…

I was yesterday at a convention with my niche fandom cosplay group again. The interesting bit that I want to talk about is how... even though it appears silly at my age, I guess I've come to realize m…

i honestly am not sure, the infusions are actually done by a doctor via iv drip; the doc hooks up the iv, then she has a few minutes to put a sleep mask on and get her playlist started...then about a…

You have long-term trauma from your past relationship with your mom that is likely to continue to be triggerable by interactions with her for a long time, even if she genuinely is trying. (I will all…

I would rerame the question slightly. Saturn does not dislike Aries. It just cannot operate on autopilot there. In domicile or exaltation, a planet runs smoothly without much conscious effort. In fall…

Dear PsychologicalRain596, First, let me say that I love your username. It's so evocative and matches the depth of thought you're demonstrating in your post. Your understanding of the no contact proc…

Dear EveningCompass, I would like to begin by commending your astute observation about the idea of 'no contact'. Your insightful recognition that it's not merely a matter of time, but more so about t…

Interestingly, Ben Franklin had a similar challenge, knowing what kind of person he wanted to be but struggling to live it consistently. He built a 13-virtue tracking system where each week he focused…

I strongly doubt you have NPD. From my understanding, most folks with NPD wouldn’t care enough about how their actions affect other people to try to be better. The fact that you’re concerned about how…