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Your brain is fine but may be very busy right now... In myself social awkwardness and distancing after some trauma, not being truly present with others but existing safely behind my eyes instead of "…

Can Manifestation Really Help You Get Full Marks in an Exam If You Only Wrote Part of the Answer? — Hey everyone, I have a question that might sound a bit out there, but I’m curious to hear if anyone has had a similar experience. I recently took an exam where I only managed to write answers for ab…

Too Long on First Mission And Moving On — Hello Everyone I know I'll probably be banned for this so let me explain my story. I have been on my first mission for the last 8 months using the index training guide fully and it has been a massive …

Post-quality time cool down? Is this a pattern for DAs? — My (FA) therapist and I (lol) may have noticed a pattern with my partner (DA); after an increased amount of quality time together (compared to our usual 1+ times per week), or increased amount of mess…

Question for the template flippers out there - where’s the real money? — Genuinely curious - for all the devs who “custom build” sites that are clearly just recycled templates from ThemeForest or whatever the latest place is nowadays. Where’s the *actual* money coming fro…

Am I crazy? Growing from a single freelancer to an agency with a team — Hi everyone - quick background: I'm a freelance web designer/developer who's been doing this thing now for almost 15 years. I've done it under a studio name, but it's always just been me, with some oc…

Cannot stay attracted to dating app matches — I've never been in a relationship but I've been working on myself a lot and trying to put myself out there to find love. And I've just noticed a pattern of mine. But I just keep losing interest or ge…

We open-sourced internet’s largest incident response glossary with over 500+ terms — We just published a public glossary with **500+ terms** related to incident response, on-call, alerting, SLOs, postmortems, and more. I think this is perhaps the internet's largest glossary for incide…

Am I the only one that dislikes Wireframe CC? — I'm new to web design, so take this with a grain of salt. I've been browsing around for good, easy wireframe websites so I can finally stop using PowerPoint to do them. I tried the 7 day free trial fo…

From Rejection to Redemption: How I Broke Into DevOps — Guys, I'm here sitting on my back yard on a beautiful Saturday and I am about to sign an offer letter with a Fortune 500 company — with a 25% salary increase. But just a few months ago, I was getting…

I created a free WhatsApp chat for your site — After about a year, I finished my first service which I decided to make free. It's a chat widget — https://supportiko.com — that you can install on your website in 5 minutes using copy-paste. Visitors…

Need Advice: 3x Salary Offer for Fullstack Role, But It’s a One-Man Show. Go for it? — Hi. Everyone. Please bear with me, I hope this is the right place to ask. I’m currently a jr web developer and have been working in my first proper dev job for almost a year. The pay is on the l…

What are your favorite tools to share changelogs, roadmap & features feedback with users? — We’re a B2B SaaS platform starting with beta testers in our production environment. We’re looking to integrate a tool to facilitate communication with the users, including: * having visibility on the…

Marketing for startups (I will not promote) — (I will not promote) Proven strategies to take a startup from zero to scale ($10M+ ARR). As a 3X startup CMO, I have experienced tremendous success and a ton of failure.  I have been involved in th…

What is the scope of Quant UXR or UX Data analysis skills in the market? — I’m thinking of learning this, but is there any advantage in having these skills as a UX designer or researcher? Or is this requirement usually fulfilled by a data analyst/scientist? If there are UX…

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

I made $32 after 16 months of coding. Was it all a waste of time? — Over the last 16 months, I’ve done something that sounds cooler than it really is: I built a SaaS. In my free time, at night, on weekends, while everyone else was at the beach or watching Netflix, I …

Tech Startup advice required - Hire or equity offer (I will not promote) — I’m a serial entrepreneur—what some might call "very successful,” though success is relative and I just did okay. Over the past 25 years, I’ve had some brilliant tech ideas and a brain wired for archi…

Shopify Bill Pay - international vendor payments cannot be funded by Shopify Balance anymore — Im not in love with Bill Pay as its so sloppy and support is lazy. Plus they lock down accounts left and right and don't tell anyone. Once the new balance account numbers went out I saw that they were…

UX/UI for advanced manufacturing equipment is horrible — First time posting in this sub - I’m a manufacturing engineer and just felt like I needed to point out an opportunity for any entrepreneurial UX/UI designers out there. I work in the advanced electro…

Created a website completely using firebase studio and gemini 2.5-pro — I'm primarily a Machine Learning developer with about 8 years under my belt. I've always wanted to build my own web project but had absolutely no prior experience with front-end or back-end web develo…

Tariffs: is there a place to go that posts what tariffs are currently in place? — I import from Germany a couple times a month. I just had a pkg come in ($3k average) via UPS. Didn't get hit with the bill yet. I (we all) need to keep track of this to adjust our prices accordingly. …

Shopify mysterious request — Hello, some people emailed me trying to promote that they can market my store page and products to get more traction and can drive possible sales. Can I trust them? They're asking for my collaborator …

What’s the best way to validate a niche before launching a POD store? — I've been sitting on a few niche ideas for months, but I'm stuck trying to figure out which one has real potential. Everyone says "do your research," but what does that actually look like for POD? Do …

Second fake client this month – classic invoice scam disguised as a website project — Just wanted to share this as a heads-up to other freelancers and small agencies. I recently had a potential client who reached out for a WordPress website. We even had a short phone call, everything s…

Just Launched My Dev Tools Website - Looking for Your Feedback! 🚀 — Hey Reddit! I’m excited to share my new website with everyone here! It’s designed to be a one-stop destination for all your dev tool needs. I know there are similar sites out there, but I’ve often fo…

Overtraining and being effective — Wanted to share about a recent breakthrough I had in being effective and getting things done. Like many of you, I believe that being physically fit is a huge part of operating at peak efficiency. Whe…

How do you actually feel safe believing and knowing when it comes to an SP manifestation? — Brief context: I've studied the law on and off for 6 years. Tried to manifest 2 old SP's with varying success, then eventually having them both try to contact me, but I realized that I was shooting so…

Feeling smothered by an AP friend… — This is part reflection/observation, and part question at the bottom. It’s interesting and a bit funny to me, I rarely feel avoidant in my attachments. The test I took for this sub, showed all secur…

Women I’m dating is afraid I’ll lose interest when I learn who she really is. Seeking FA perspective. — I’m ramping up my dating efforts because I’m doing well—both financially and mentally. Things have been going really well with a new woman I’m dating. We shared a nice moment on our last date, and I’m…

A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic. — We are seeing an increase of activity from people outside of experiencer circles in threads as time has moved on and more and more people are starting to understand there really is a "there there" and…

I have become obsessed with finding someone. — After my breakup in winter of last year, I went through a long period of mourning and not knowing what to do or how to move forward. Now, over the past 2-3 months, I have become obsessed with finding …

Any support groups out there for preoccupation with dating? — I think the obsessive thoughts and rumination around dating (status, ongoing situations) is a common thing in anxious attachment so seeking support here. Has anyone found any support groups or what l…

READ THIS if you want to POST here — This is a new thread with the SAME GUIDELINES as the previous post which is now archived. THIS THREAD IS ONLY FOR APPROVAL TO POST. You don’t have to be an approved user to comment or lurk. ONLY som…

How do anxious attachers know when they are truly ready to date again, rather than just trying to soothe anxiety or loneliness? — I was talking with a friend recently and we were comparing how hard it is to get an honest gauge on your own readiness to date again when you have anxious attachment tendencies. Everyone tells you to…

Self-help group for anxious attachment? — Hi folks, are there regular anxious attachment self-help group meetings out there? If not, I'd like to start one. I'm looking for something that's very specifically focused on anxious attachment. I…

Both best friends got engaged — I (27F) have never been in a relationship and struggle to form emotional attachments at all. I've gone on dates and forced myself to keep seeing a guy because he's perfectly nice and there's nothing w…

How does the process look transitioning from dismissive avoidant to secure? — I'm 44 and have slowly worked out there's something up with me, to finding out about this term and seeing a lot of myself in fellow sufferer's description of it. My life is full of unrealistic expe…

Coaches — So,we all know the scam of RAIN I wanted to talk about this other girl ‘Amara innerpower’who keeps posting in various Ng groups on Facebook. Beware of this one too and never ever pay any coach for mon…

I want love but can't push past knowing that I would be a burden in all of my relationships — Hi, I am a 26F and want to seek some advice from this subreddit because I truly do not know who else I can talk about this with, and writing has always been easier than talking out loud. Sidenote: I …

Natal ascendant in the same sign as solar return ascendant - significant or accidental? — Is there any significance to a person’s natal ascendant being the same as the standalone chart cast for their solar return year? For starters, depending on the degree, the houses would be similar, thu…

Has anyone here just gotten back with their ex after seeing what’s out there? Lol — Ok, so, I know there’s a lot of “hey she/he is back what do I do” posts on here. But, I just wanted to field a question about simply getting back with your ex by choice after playing the field in yo…

3 years in. Bro, it gets wild. — Okay, so a large part of this community seems to use SATS as a high-preparation, ritual method and yes it’s very powerful in that way. But you’re literally God. Why keep yourself so limited? Nevill…

I astral projected last night.. — I astral projected last night... What was your first experience? Here's mine: We arrived in Tunisia yesterday, had some sleep, woke up, yawned, and my nose started bleeding, only mentioning this bec…

What is even going on? — I (45f) have been single and dating for a a little over a year now, and there have been some frustrating patterns emerge that I just can’t make sense of. So I’m curious if anyone else out there has. A…

My sun and rising are in Sagittarius. Why am I so shy and reluctant to express myself? — Based on my limited understanding, having your sun and rising in Sagittarius signifies being outgoing, expressive, and freedom seeking. I couldn’t be further from that. I know other aspects in my char…

The post-abuse life is rarely worth it — Losing your youth to abuse, coming out extremely fragmented and almost disabled when it comes to forming relationships, chronic illness that prevents you from work that prevents you from money that pr…

Why is the shifting community like this? It genuinely confuses me. — I have always thought this while being in the shifting community, there are so many people out there who share shifting knowledge, the methods, the ways to shift etc etc, and a lot of these people sha…

Getting rid of nihilism/pessimism — I (24M) am a pessimistic person, it is a really bad thing and i'm struggling to get rid of this thing. A lot of things happened these last years that chopped my illusions about life, such as losing my…

I (28F) am tired of constantly having to ask or tell my partner (28F) how to love/care for me. Do I just move on? — I’ll start off by saying, I completely understand we have to communicate with others on the ways we want to be loved and cared for. This isn’t that anymore. My gf and I have been together for a littl…

More pseudoscience from you (the first being that gravity is attractive- gravity is a warp in the space time continuum as it responds to mass, and only appears to be attractive to the uneducated). No…

Thank you so much for this, it’s cathartic to see the traits childhood emotional neglect can cause. I always just thought well this is how I am like I was just made this way, and seeing them as result…

There is no best method. It is a journey of discovery. Look into meditation and getting in touch with the subconscious. It's probably best to get your first book on Astral projection, many good ones o…

I really like the Gene Kim's material, such as the Phoenix Project. I so enjoyed the entertaining story. It is interesting though, careful to navigate misinformation out there. DevOps is about acce…

Any mentors out there willing to chat? I'm worried I'm digging myself into a hole working with a custom on-prem cloud solution. Anyone willing to chat, I'd be extremely grateful.

I agree. And a perspective from someone who’s sort of finally on the other side of heartbreak recently - it might not. I have no evidence that my ex even misses me. We just don’t talk anymore. Hones…

I know this post is 6 months old, but I still want to say this. I truly feel that Robert Bruce's book, called "Energy Work", (funny how the title is the name of this sub?) should be required reading f…

I broke up but she didn't want to get back. It's my fault but she wasn't a Saint either. Immaturity on both ends. I have paid for my mistakes in heartache and tears. I hope you get the person who ch…

Shut up ew that's so loser energy. He needs to get over his loser ex, idc if he's a man, he needs to get out there, because his pathetic ex loves playing head games with him. Stop discouraging ppl fro…

What does that look like??? Find a new hobby. Anything. Try learning to knit. Learn to build robots. Take a class in 17th century blacksmithing. Join a woodworkers guild. Join an improve troupe. Volu…

That's not answering her question and you are being a corrupt liar. You would download 10 languages and 20 skills in a heartbeat if you could do it to your brain just like you could load programs onto…

THANK YOU. I fucking hate the porn addiction posts every two seconds. I feel sorry for the boys suffering with it, but try SEARCHING OLD POSTS. There are amazing answers out there, just use the search…

I agree with most here, daydreaming (wishful thinking) gives you nice emotions but emotions alone gives you most often nothing in reality. But it's not necessary to have a first person view in your sc…

Tbh you’re allowed to have your viewpoints but this is attention seeking behavior judging by your posts meant to get a reaction out of the people here. Also, why go on a Murphy sub for this? You alrea…

Thank you. I will ask the op to insert these links into her other post. They are a good addenda and are a beneficial part of the record. We may make her post a part of our index as well. It is a very…

I feel you. I’ll give you my experience as a FA then suggestions. - I also transitioned from anxious to avoidant our the years. I was never full on AA but more anxious leaning FA as a child. Now I l…

The only thing I would really recommend is learning about internal family systems. That kind of work *can* be done on its own but I did the majority of mine with a therapist. The book “No Bad Parts” b…

At this point in your journey, I believe, you need two ingredients: grieving and not avoiding your emotions (somatic work, journaling, revisiting painful memories, allowing yourself to cry, etc) and s…

All this to say, anxious, avoidant, something in between. Neither style will be a great partner. They will be selfish to ease their insecurities cause they don’t have proper coping skills. Villainizi…

Your partner sounds Fearful avoidant, is he aware of his attachment style? I think all you can do is let him know in as blame-free way as possible that you notice a pattern in his behaviour that con…

" But I just keep losing interest or get unbearable anxiety around guys I meet on dating apps. As a man who has been on over twenty dates from dating apps I can say you are not the only one and you m…

I am really sorry that happened to you. Hope you can find some normal people out there.

You could take a look at using a matrix for this. Instead of operating systems or other more typical matrix criteria, it would be client IDs or names or whatever. I’m not sure it is suitable for you…

There are good articles out there on scaling mariadb. Most of them start by understanding the mix of writes and reads. They end by softening the ACID constraints. Either by sharding and routing requ…

Yeah, don’t overthink it. Most of this stuff’s already out there on YouTube anyway. It’s really all about how well you execute.

Building something already out there, so you don’t need to validate the idea But you need to find your customers 😂

Sophia NLU (natural language understanding) Enging released, with full specs and online demo at: https://cicero.sh/sophia/ For anyone deploying conversational chat bots at all, and is alternativ…

Umm.. I think your % is off and there are way more lurkers here and some real people out there. I thought about doing posts, a podcast, or a book as an entrepreneur about how hard it was for years ru…

There’s a world of hype, starry-eyed optimism and straight up false promises out there. But AI systems are running in the background for many businesses and saving them a lot of time and money. We b…

Thank you for sharing, I didn’t have the feeling he was seeing other people, but I might be completely wrong 😂 anyways as you said, definitely not worth staying in this situation, definitely someone …

Yessss very well said! I’m going to move forward, definitely someone who can meet my needs better is out there :)

Hey. Interesting write up, it has some good references and shows some good understanding on modern software security. Though there are some parts I would critique for feedback: >Another layer that …

*" I am VERY familiar with the law and with NG's teachings, so no need to reiterate basics and quotes please - I'm asking about your real experiences. What made you actually believe and know? "* Repe…

But isn't it just you bending over backwards while she's exactly where she was? This sounds like a project and you can see positive results so it might feel good. But imagine, there's someone out ther…

>There is nothing conventionally rational about the LOB. Yet it works. There's just too much evidence out there to deny it and you've had it happen in your life often enough. That's why even after 6 y…

So instead of replying individually and repeating myself, I'm just going to make a comment addressing it all. Firstly, it was interesting to read all these perspectives. I see where some of its comin…

The way this made me CACKLE after I clicked the headline. Thanks for that. It's kinda disgusting how much of a market there is for this type of advice. So many snakeoil salesfolks out there promisin…

Love this comment. I’ve found it to be so true. For a regular ex I was with for nearly a decade and we had a fairly normal/stable/secure attachment to each other, maybe a little bit dependent on each …

100%. I think narcissism seems to have become this, honestly quite toxic, fad label that gets thrown around all over the place these days to label anyone who has hurt them I feel. The way I see it bei…

>While it's indeed true people (and early on myself included, until I knew better) confuse or wrongly attribute abusive patterns and narcissism to avoidant attachment, I don't think it's intentional. …

Do not enter into communication, do not rekindle. There are many more people out there with whom you would have compatibility with who don’t have attachment issues.

I feel that, but I have no intention of making her like me this will work out one way or the other. No matter how it ends up I’ll fine there’s a lot of beautiful women out there.

As FA myself I can say I’ve done this so many times. There so many girls out there who were the “One who got away.” Were they actually? Probably not, it’s just people like us have a strong tendency to…

One thing I heard that makes sense is because these women can’t hold into a relationship there are just more of them out there in the dating scene. The good ones are gone already

I think there’s some good advice in this thread, but just adding this bc I didn’t see it mentioned in your post or other comments—work on platonic relationships! I know it can be difficult to make fri…

There’s no perfect partner, the grass is green where you water it. A good relationship is one that is nurtured over time with two people making a decision to commit to each other, without worrying abo…

I would back away, but that's me, I even told my Avoidant Ex that she needs to communicate her needs because I can't read minds, and she still took off, unless they do heavy therapy you might end up b…

I had a pretty similar experience and landed in a similar spot that you did, even down to the same number of dates and spiraling when I would run into her afterwards (we work in the same building so i…

When someone stonewalls you, flips the script, seeks to erase your history together, the effect is traumatic. This is deep relational trauma. You need space to process the deep grief of loving someo…

I am sorry op. I did have smth similar, once with my colleague who was my work best friend, and we hung out outside a lot. But when he told me he is in love with me I told him no, I was really upset t…