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You likely have PTSD. (I also do, for what that's worth, so I know what I'm talking about.) I'm glad you are seeing a personal counselor. I'm also seeing some of what looks like ADHD and I'm wonderin…
This is a support sub. Be kind to each other. — Almost everyone who comes here is here because they are going through a very painful and difficult time. We're not all at our best. If you go into someone's topic, remember that they came here askin…
Start Here: Essential Resources & FAQs — The idea for this post came up in [this thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/Wordpress/comments/1cpme25/mods_can_this_subreddit_implement_a_minimum_karma/) by wiz to avoid the number of similar questions …
A Procedural Update for the Continued Health of Our Subreddit. — Hey everyone on r/NarcissisticAbuse. We get it, we really do– the U.S. political situation right now is a bloody mess with further escalation, rather than some kind of stability, on the horizon. W…
Long road to dream job and instant healing. — Bestcub called me to write this, I hope it will be helpful to someone. A story like many others. After years of wandering around shitty loa and other stupid spheres, books and forums I finally start…
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Why do so many websites of major companies suck? — I just went on [sephora.fr](http://sephora.fr) for the first time in years (I don't really shop there anymore, or I go in person). The website not only looks like it was designed 15 years ago and has …
Helping my partner — I (40f) looove my partner (36m). We've been together almost 9 months. When he isn't triggered, he presents as very secure. Loving, consistent, communicative, vulnerable, empathetic, self-reflective. …
Beginner Questions — If you're new to web design and would like to ask experienced and professional web designers a question, please post below. Before asking, please follow the etiquette below and [review our FAQ](https:…
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Why do people in LOA communities ALWAYS go to Reddit for their problems when JM advised against that? — Hello everyone. I've been into JM's (and NG's) teaching for quite some time. I enjoy it thoroughly and dipped my toes into the subreddits, so hence why I'm here instead of the NG subreddit since I wo…
Failing to Find Google Maps Scraper (that does everything) — I've built a directory listing website and I'm using WP All Import plugin to pull in data from a spreadsheet (which consists of scraped business info from their Google Maps / GBP listings). Being tha…
Shopify Free Plan? — Hey friends! I used to run my online store via Shopify (sold it last year), and now I’m recommending it to a lot of people in my marketing course. I *thought* there used to be a free plan, or maybe I’…
Voice-to-text recs for sales professionals — Happy Monday killers! Hope everyone's crushing their quota this quarter. So, I've been in sales for about 5 years now, mostly SDR roles, and I'm starting to feel it. My wrists are *screaming*. All th…
Duolingo leader throws shade at r/UXDesign — You all might remember this thread a few months ago, [debating Duolingo renaming UX to “Product Experience.”](https://www.reddit.com/r/UXDesign/comments/1j3hvkw/duolingo_renames_ux/) The VP Mig announ…
What every DevOps needs to know about DevSecOps — The FREE open-source dynamic DevOps roadmap content is extending more and more. One recent contribution was adding more content to the "growth" section of DevSecOps.  — Follow up from some of my previous posts. I’m deactivating again. I think? Or maybe lost feelings for my partner and I’m just lying to myself and not wanting to let go. The thought of that makes me cr…
I (re)earned my secure attachment this week. What a journey this has been. — I just wanted to share this diary dump with anyone who wants a success story. I believed myself to be FA/A for a long time, and this week I can finally call myself secure. TW: sexual assualt Despite …
Help me to recognise my attachment style please! — I (26F) am struggling with this a lot, since my patterns of romantic behavior don’t seem to fit neatly into any of the four categories (AA, FA, DA, SA). On the one hand, I clearly crave intimacy and…
A message to earnestly curious skeptics and non-experiencers: How to engage experiencers within this community and learn about the topic. — We are seeing an increase of activity from people outside of experiencer circles in threads as time has moved on and more and more people are starting to understand there really is a "there there" and…
Hello from your new mod — Hello from your new mod! 🤓 I’m someone who’s been on my healing journey for a long time, and I’ve had gotten so much out of communities on Reddit in my own process. The intention is to keep this s…
For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? — For avoidants (and those leaning/earned secure): is this avoidant behavior? Do you really move on—and why no closure? I began therapy 4 months into our situationship because of how strong he came on,…
I regressed so much this year — This year has been brutal since the beginning. Every single aspect of my life increased my anxiety. Multiple health issues in the family, some of them still ongoing and very serious, financial concern…
New relationship insecurities that mimic AP — The first 6 months or so in a relationship I feel like I'm an AP, sensitive to people not texting consistently or following through with planning meetups, primarily. Then I settle down, feel like I ca…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
READ THIS if you want to POST here — This is a new thread with the SAME GUIDELINES as the previous post which is now archived. THIS THREAD IS ONLY FOR APPROVAL TO POST. You don’t have to be an approved user to comment or lurk. ONLY som…
Maintaining this piece of positivity — Alright gang, I hope everyone is well. I’m getting a lot better with my attachment. I’m so proud of myself for times recently when I’ve had a thought about wanting to play into games or behave in cert…
I have anxious attachment but I don't know how to break this loop of getting attached to people with insecure attachment styles? — My therapist keeps saying that childhood events made me like that but I also keep saying that when I can't even remember that, what can I do to unwire my brain? It has been more than 2 years now but I…
Studying attachment theory — I’ve been studying attachment theory for a couple of months now, and I’ve only recently started to REALLY look into it. I started reading a book called Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for…
Updated Rules — Hello, your mod here. The rules for this sub have been updated slightly, check them out at your earliest convenience. Basically: 1. Please remember this is not a space to make blanket statements…
I’m genuinely confused by the adverse effects since starting to do the programming — Yeah yeah, I’m one of those. I have been on a SP mission for almost three months now. We started in a semi okay place, even though it’s a long distance thing and I’m programming for us to be in a rela…
For those hurting, advice for your 2026 and my story — Hello everyone, **Preface** I am an anxious attacher, so my experience by-and-large is with dismissive avoidants and fearful avoidants. It is not my intent to villainize these attachment styles; thi…
DA Downplaying friendship — I have a self-confessed avoidant friend (I am secure). We dated very briefly but ended it because he said he couldn’t do serious relationships and I didn’t want to continue something ambiguous, catch …
8+ Months of LOB practice ( Update from my 1st post ) — Hi everyone, Some of you may remember me from my last post where I did an update of my situation at 4 months in, practicing LOB. After that post, I decided as was recommended to lower the progress g…
A letter to my fearful avoidant ex — 31st December 2025 So here we are. Another night, another thought. It’s been nearly 25 days since Eddie left me. Recently, so many emotions have been running through my mind. I never thought I would…
Deactivation or undisclosed breakup? — I'm a FA woman...in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant....all was good, until past Christmas holidays , his bday and all situations when they deactivated.. he was the one who planned being wit…
I finally realized my fear of closeness is really a fear of being known — I've been working to understand myself better as a DA, in part with the help of Reddit. I now feel the last puzzle pieces fell into place and I finally have a coherent story of why I am the way I am. …
I want love but can't push past knowing that I would be a burden in all of my relationships — Hi, I am a 26F and want to seek some advice from this subreddit because I truly do not know who else I can talk about this with, and writing has always been easier than talking out loud. Sidenote: I …
SATURN RETURN & TRANSITING SATURN/NEPTUNE IN ARIES POSTS PROBLEMS — # PROBLEMS WITH SATURN RETURN POSTS We are getting a lot of Saturn Return questions as transiting Saturn enters Aries. First, many of you think your Saturn Return just began today, Feb. 14, 2026 (usi…
Anyone have the experiance of anxious attatchment killing you as a person — I never see anyone talking about this and im wondering if its normal. Ever since i got in my relationship 2 years ago, i cant seem to find any passion within myself. The passion for my intrests and ho…
I'm not sure about my attachment style but I want to discover it right now 'cause I want to start healing!!!!!! — Sorry for the long text, I want to be thorough. So, I just ended my first ever relationship. I'm 20, I'm a lesbian from a conservative background and had a lot of internalized homophobia and religiou…
The way trauma shapes your attachment system... — I'm FA and I was reminiscing on what my love life was like as a teenager and young adult. I remember the feeling I had when someone showed interest in me, it was very much of disgust and suspicion. …
ways to stop ruminating on past relationships/friendships/situationships/etc? — hi everyone! something i struggle with a lot is ruminating on past relationships/friendships/situationships/etc. especially right after they end. even if i know that said relationship was TERRIBLE for…
Getting over approach anxiety — A few days ago, I went to a local restaurant by myself to have supper. This cute woman with a pom pom on her toque was sitting in a booth across the way, with a couple guys that looked like they coul…
March 2026 Astrology: Transits, Key Dates, and More — **Last month’s write-up, I ended with this,** *“Let’s just say we end the month in a chaotic state of energy. Nothing seems real while at the same time, there is a sense of urgency that something need…
Dressing To Impress For Dates (And Everyday Life) — My post is getting a lot of attention and since the daily discussion thread is going to be locked soon, I want to continue the discussion here. What I originally wrote: >This might sound bad, but is …
Did Saturn in Aries correlate with the “heroin chic” era of the late 90s? Wondering about parallels with today. — I had a random thought earlier today while watching some video on YouTube, and I’m curious if more experienced astrologers see anything in it. There’s a lot of discussion right now about the return o…
Saw the same man I've been seeing as a kid — I'm sorry about the use of A.I but my drawing skills are bad and I don't know how to explain this but I've seen this man in my dreams ever since I was a child. I remember seeing shows like Tom and Jer…
Do narcs enjoy kissing? — It took me a while to realize that my nex never enjoyed kissing. There was this one episode where I waited till bed time to tell him "hey, it's been a while 😏" and he turned to the other side and sai…
Everything we know about shifting is probably false — So much of our communities take the knowledge we spread to be fact, when in reality shifting isn’t a science. At all. This has been said before but I NEED you guys to actually read and internalize thi…
This will definitely help. I'd recommend the FILD method, it's pretty much the first (relatively) consistent method I've tried. Just remember that you can only do this after either waking up at a cert…
Hello I just had the weirdest dream and I don't know how to look up my specific type of dream and was so shocked I decided to come here and write. I remember going to sleep around 12:30pm after wakin…
Knowing that there's a physical reason for the confusion and lack of awareness makes it easier to accept. One feels like an outsider; the people around you seem to know how to be with each other. An…
What does this mean - the fact that we astral project unconsciously anyway every night? Is this implying dreaming or something we don't remember? I'm confused
The point is to still go to sleep, if you're going for the direct method, exiting the body happens during the precise moment between wakefulness and sleep, [see this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AstralPr…
I’ve been practicing crystal medication and spiritual healing before I go to bed and last night while I was sleeping, I felt an intense vibrating feeling/ringing in my head and throughout my body. The…
So.. id classify myself as a relatively spiritual person.. over the last few months ive tried meditating 5 or so times.. ive had sleep paralysis about 5 times as well in my life.. more so in the last …
Can you get extremely tired from AP or LD?? I find myself having vivid dreams more so then AP. But I’ve noticed I’m very exhausted when I make up. But I’m only exhausted when I can remember my dream o…
Maybe I misunderstood what you were asking. A 10 minute dream feels like a 10 minute dream. The rest of your sleep you will skip and won’t remember, as usual
Just a few questions here - I'm new to lucid dreaming. I garden quite a bit, so I can grow Artemisia douglasiana and a few other helpful herbs and make a poultice or something. I usually don't rem…
A lot of sources say you have to absolutely stop moving when trying to project, but this seems impossible to me because of my adhd. The same thing with meditation, I can't just focus on my breath or s…
In astral projection do you remember how you got there? Thanks for the response!
Instead of writing them I use the notes app on my phone and voice dictate my dreams. Keeps them organized by date and I do it right when I wake up. Don’t wait because for forget small details. Like…
this has happened to me several times as well. I specifically remember a time I was sleeping, and suddenly felt the sensation of being pulled "up" by my wrist at a tremendous speed. It's never really…
I had a really concerning dream just now and fear of my boyfriend didn't wake me up something bad was going to happen to me.. It started off in a house I've never seen before the kitchen was upstairs…
What if someone remembers the hour (and P.M. vs A.M.) but not the minute? Any typical margin of error?
sharing recent experience and soliciting feedback from the experienced people here... I live in Phoenix, AZ but have close friends in Richmond, VA. On this particular journey, I had a vivid experien…
It's nearly three years in September and I feel like I'm still mentally abusing myself in situation. And there have been times especially late at night where I'm like oh I'll just do you know the week…
AGREED!!!! Let’s stay in the grey and remember that we’re all just often doing our best and there are not usually “good” or “bad guys”, except where abuse or violence is concerned. Mostly, we’re figur…
I had no idea that everyone didn’t dream like this all the time. I have had lucid dreams for as long as I can remember, and I can interact with them. I have even died in dreams to be reborn in the sam…
It’s difficult when there is something you share with the person though, like children. You’re involved to some capacity and you can see how they are doing in all aspects of life - relationships, fina…
Try focusing on your environment and not getting to excited . Tell yourself you want to explore your surroundings before and during . Don’t go straight into getting excited and trying to control every…
Does anyone know where i can find this one story where a woman said she had a astral projection that lasted years and travelled(?) with her spirit guide? I remember that it was posted somewhere on red…
Recall and awareness are linked. If you can’t even remember your dreams, how would you become aware you are dreaming while it’s happening?
I really do not know anything about this at all. I went to sleep at around 1130pm last night, I woke up feeling nauseous and sweaty at 530am. At around 630am I remembered my “dream?” I was floating/fl…
It is so sad when it feels wrong that it ended. But if they don't want you, all you can do is value yourself and move on. You are going to find someone who will treat you right and wants to fight for …
Those who don’t add value to your life the way you add value to theirs will always be leeches feeding off your energy and your love. Mourn them cause they’re figuratively dead to you and remember that…
Fortunately I've taken my separation (and inevitable divorce) as an opportunity to quit drinking and make healthy lifestyle choices. I've been working really hard to practice mindfulness and radical …
DevOps evolves around 3 key principles: 1. Automation 2. Monitoring 3. Integration The rules are simple: # Automation Don't ever do anything by hand. The only allowable manual action is configurin…
Hi! So one thing I can tell you from lots of therapy and recently spending time around her is I realized I had been only remembering her good qualities and putting her on a pedestal in my mind. When w…
The fact that you are able to recall all of this is amazing 😮 as opposed to dreams where it can be so choppy and we can only remember certain parts and pieces sometimes
I had no idea. I still often feel like my situation wasn't that bad especially since I don't even remember a lot of it, so this really helps to know. Thank you for sharing this :)
I am sorry but when you are experiencing an astral projection you know it right away because your consciousness stay awake and powerful, I remember my first time as teenager, the first feeling that ov…
Everything is temporary people don't remember things the way things actually happen most the time. Putting too much emphasis on how somebody remembers you would be spending your wheels. In other words…
But your brain behaves differently when lucid dreaming. If I remember right, your prefrontal cortex (so you're aware of yourself and your personality) is active during a lucid dream, what normally don…
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Try therapy. Just remember that therapy can take a long time and be expensive. If you haven't already in the meantime, try looking for parenting classes. Or try parenting forums, if a specific p…
This is the way. My ex broke up with me last week on the phone before my dentist appointment. I had to cut the call short because I needed to make my appointment. I lied about watching a sad show on m…
I've seen the opposite. I've seen people encourage illegal acts. It was a recent post about a PS5. The girlfriend bought their boyfriend a PS5 for his birthday and like a week later he said he wants …
You don’t “ignore” the negative thought or brush it aside. You deal with the negative emotions using whatever means necessarily (sit and cry if you must, get therapy,etc ) and you continue to do your …
I read this post as I was at lunch, I was sitting and thinking about a new scene for a mission I will do - and it involves a big airballoon. Out of nowhere this college walks in and says ”have u guys …
No babe. I’m happy as can be, I guess you don’t realize people can get into committed relationships without having to rock back and forth in their rooms doing affirmations and visualization all day, l…
This has happened on two occasions now, where I would get premonitions of locations and I was in the setting. I remember in this quick premonition I saw red and green. Months later I realise the locat…
I was curious, I only read English, if anyone else, nice quote “I read a comment here that comes to mind, but unfortunately, I don’t remember who wrote it: Those who do not believe in the law are the…
>“I read a comment here that comes to mind, but unfortunately, I don’t remember who wrote it: Those who do not believe in the law are the living proof that it works—exactly according to their own assu…
gosh I remember this one, having started during the pandemic too. Well done.
Plus points if it’s a work meeting you can’t remember telling them about. /s
Here's what I found helpful to figure out my own feelings. I look at three angles: 1. If they suddenly told you they were done and didn't tell you why, would it hurt you? If it wouldn't hurt at all, …
It's a theory, as that'd what it is. It may work for some, it may not for others. Its essentially a basic CBT method to help you break a loop of rumination and understand you can have 2 opposing thou…
It's a theory, as that'd what it is. It may work for some, it may not for others. Its essentially a basic CBT method to help you break a loop of rumination and understand you can have 2 opposing thou…