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I think one commonality I notice about emotionally immature parents is that they do not even seem to register that they are parents. They don't register their responsibility to their kids. My parents …

I got ghosted and I feel blindsided — I (26F) met a guy (26M) 3 months ago who was in every sense of the word my dream guy. We spent 1 week together before he left back to his country. Ever since we have Facetimed every single day, and we…

My co-founder decided to quit: I'm stuck and could really use some advice | I will not promote — Hey All, A few months ago, I shared my story here (original Reddit post in comments) about starting an IT consultancy business in the Netherlands with a friend right after graduation. At that time, w…

E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…

This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…

Fed up with scattered UK property data, I built an AI tool that combines everything into one smart search — **What It Does** This is an internal tool I’ve been building to help with UK property prospecting, market research, and deal due diligence. If you've ever tried to buy or invest in property in the U…

In an avoidant-anxious friendship, how much space should I be giving before I reach out? — The last 2 posts on the sub are about friendship and that encouraged me to post here as well. This is my friend of 5 years. We’ve gone from talking almost everyday to me being given the silent treat…

Afraid of the "how" — Hi to all. I have been studying the law and this sub since many years, then left, then (1-2 months ago) came back. I had my fair share of watching coaches, reading the content proposed here (and more)…

I had a breakthrough tonight! — Hello! Brief backstory here. I recently got divorced, and dating has been an interesting experience since. I went into one relationship very quickly with another anxiously attached person. It didn't w…

how to apply skills from therapy and date like a sane person? — tl;dr how to keep a connection going with a secure potential love interest who likes to be alone when you’re anxious-preoccupied af 😭 i’m a lifelong anxious-preoccupied and through years of Doing Th…

Deactivation or undisclosed breakup? — I'm a FA woman...in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant....all was good, until past Christmas holidays , his bday and all situations when they deactivated.. he was the one who planned being wit…

No contact but want my stuff back — I put another thread on but basically he’s broken up with me and gone no contact. I initially reached out to find out what happened and if we could fix it (the next day), and a few days later asked fo…

How honest are securely attached people? — I'm curious how honest secure people are with others in their life. I'm healing from dismissive avoidant attachment and my instinct whenever something bothers or upsets me is to dismiss it as not a bi…

A lot can change, if you allow it to. — It’s my time to give back to this community. Just to put a perspective to things, I don’t mean to boast. I am not very talented, just stubborn and a hard worker. If I can transform my scenario, so c…

My (26/M) Girlfriend (26/F) Of 6.5 Years Emotionally Cheated and I Don’t Know What To Do — My (26/M) girlfriend (26/F) and I met our first year of college and started dating shortly after. We went through Covid together, graduated together, and started living together about 2 years ago. We…

My dad (56M) cut me off (21) for sleeping over at my boyfriend’s house. Now he’s blowing up at me and ruining our relationship beyond repair. — \-Sorry had to repost due to not having line breaks. I’ve always had a complicated relationship with my dad. He’s very controlling and has always been a “helicopter” parent when I was growing up. I a…

My mom called my son’s birthday party “f***ing embarrassing” because she cares more about what people think than celebrating him — **UPDATE:** Thank you to everyone who commented and shared advice. A lot of people suggested going no contact with my mom to protect myself and my son. I understand why people said that, but I want …

UPDATE: My (32f) fiancé (28m) repeatedly does not clean the house — Hello lovely reddit. First relevant links. My first post I deleted (so you can peruse the comments if you are interested): [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/18yjl0g/my\_32f\_fianc%C3%…

THE PHOENIX LIGHTS 29th ANNIVERSARY This is what I saw that night March 13, 1997. It was a totally solid piece of machinery not just lights. I could see the bottom of the UFO clearly by two light sources illuminating the bottom of the craft as it flew over my head — I posted this also in UFO sub. March 13, 1997 I was working in East Mesa, Arizona in a 10 bed Hospice inpatient unit as the Charge RN. We worked 12 hour shifts getting off at 7:30 PM but that night t…

Guys I mini shifted againn — So yesterday I shifted to a reality where I’m friends with my SPs friend n meeting his mom it was through lucid dreaming not where I wanted to go. Today I shifted to 2019 this is where I planned to sh…

Manifested a $32K scholarship with accidental SATS!!! — Hi all :) I have a pretty amazing success story that I’d love to share, and I hope it may motivate some of you in your manifestation journeys 😊 Basically, I accidentally manifested a $32,000 scholar…

Advice on how to deal with parent giving ultimatum over my relationship — I'm a 28 year old gay Asian male currently living in an East Asian country for my job, away from my home country and my parents. All my life, I had a great and loving relationship with my parents. I w…

I (29F) have cancer and my estranged father (60M) is funding my treatment but forcing me to leave my boyfriend (24M) or marry him immediately. Do I have any way out? — Please be kind. I was unable to type so used audio to text converter and ai to fix the spelling mistakes. I m already in a terrible mental state so hope this sub can be a little gentle on me. Haven't …

Do you ever think about the people who never found out about their partner cheating? — I found out my husband had been cheating with sex workers when I was 36 weeks pregnant. Dday 3 and a half months ago. He told me he never intended for me to find out, and that he planned on taking i…

My wife got pregnant and immediately turned into a completely different person. It’s like she’s trying to destroy me. — Alright lads, need to get this off my chest. Been with my missus 6 years, married 3. We planned the baby, dead excited. The second she got the positive test? Complete personality transplant. Swear dow…

I (26F) told my boyfriend (26M) I sometimes miss the freedom of being single and he broke up with me on my birthday — I (26F) have been with my boyfriend (26M) for about 2.5 years. A couple nights ago we were lying down together and having a really open conversation about different things going on in our lives. The …

(trip report) Telepathic communication through high doses of psilocybin — Dose: 8g (Myself), 5g (Brayden, first time), others 3–4g Setting: Friend’s house, nearby park, neighborhood walk Time: 3:00 PM – 9:00 PM Participants: 5 friends So a couple years ago me and my …

Husband suddenly wants to end our marriage and says it’s because of sex. We have a toddler. I also discovered he’s been dishonest about where he’s been. Looking for perspective. — I’m 39F and my husband (34M) and I have been married a little over 3 years. We have a toddler (2). Recently, completely out of nowhere, he told me he thinks we’re “not compatible” and started talking…

Discard/sudden breakup?! — Three months ago months ago I met a woman and had an intense, genuine connection. In under 8 weeks we spent 18-20 days together. She said she cared about me first, unprompted. We made future plans tog…

Welll that didn't go as planned — Reminder to anyone with an old laptop. Either plug it in or make sure you have a full charge. I was floating around in F12 waiting on Bob to call me back down... and it got real quiet for way too long…

It unfolds so naturally — I have spent a lot of time treating the Law like a science experiment rather than a mathematical equation. I thought “if I do x, then maybe y will happen” When in reality it’s more like “X + Y = Z”…

I got into medical school but my mother is still ashamed. — I (24f, Filipino) recently got accepted to medical school away from home. For context, I had a conditional acceptance for my local medical school that did not work out in the end. After 3 cycles and 4…

Need Help - Sick — Hi everyone! I’m brand new to r/energy\_work but am so ready to learn all I can! I was introduced to it through the second season of the Telepathy Tapes podcast (which I highly recommend!). I’m post…

I 49M am confused at her 43F behaviour — I started seeing this woman three weeks ago. We went out for a first date after chatting a few days and it went really well we did a few different things and and spent the entire evening together and …

Almost 1 year since I left... And I just started my own business!! I'm living in MY own apartment and I own everything I need — I decide how ALL of my days are gonna go now! FU! — I can't say it to my nex(because I am keeping absolute no-contact), but I'll say it here, hell I will scream it: #Fuck You!! Fuck you for every time you put me down Fuck you for every time you deci…

Can anyone provide some insight? — I (45F) recently met a 47M online. He told me early on that he had just gotten out of a 10-year relationship about 7 months ago and wasn’t necessarily looking to jump into anything serious, but was op…

Wrong again but did I do the right thing ? — Ugh...I was dating someone the last few months. Things were going well including physical aspects. For context I'm 44f he 51m. I planned a trip away with my best friend months ago. I'm starting a new…

~1 year no contact check in. It gets better! — Here’s my experience of going from never being single as an adult to single and happy (spoiler alert! It was SO hard but probably the most rewarding thing I’ve ever done).  Background context: I had …

My boyfriend (27M) embarrassed me in public and I’m not sure how to address it — I’m F23 and I’ve been dating this guy (M27) for about 8 months. He took me to a place I’d been wanting to go, which I really appreciated, and he spent a decent amount on the date. But for most of the …

My (31M) GF (28F) Informed Me That She Kissed a Stranger At an Outing While Playing Truth or Dare 2 Months Ago. How do I navigate this? — While having a conversation with my girlfriend today, I joked that I have magic powers. To which she stated rather casually that if I did I would have seen that she kissed a guy two months ago. I tho…

My experience with Iboga — After 10 years of struggling with an autoimmune condition, I made a decision that completely changed my life. My iboga experience was one of the most profound and life-changing events of my life, and…

My boyfriend (M21) broke up with me (F21) because I won't have a baby — My boyfriend (21M) and me (21F) had been dating for a little less than a year. I had left the US recently because of some trouble with school (I'm an international student) and was back in my home cou…

You lost them, not losing them — I had a strange thought today, it hit me like a ton of bricks. An ad came up for a movie we planned to watch and instantly triggered a sad wave, That thought of "we was going to enjoy that" to "I'm g…

Update: Tried to set boundaries, now they want to be paid 25k — It's been a few months since my \[last post here\] (https://www.reddit.com/r/AsianParentStories/s/lXVFmvyxxM), but its mostly come to a resolution. I wanted to do an update because I got some really …

Question I would please like answered, if you have a good idea of what I'm asking? Serious — Technically speaking this is a strange sighting. I would really appreciate someone who may give me a proper answer and what it may mean. This is what happened, although condensed, I will stick to the …

I (24F) am pregnant by my (27M) boyfriend after a toxic relationship full of love bombing, lies, and sexual assault. I feel like i have no way out. What should I do? — Hi Reddit, I don’t even know where to start, but I’m at my breaking point and I really hope you can help me. I’m 24, my boyfriend is 27. We’ve been together for two years and have been living togethe…

I feel depressed, how do I get back to my normal self? — Without getting too much into it, I have a phobia of being sick and it's escalated so much within the past few months. I struggle to leave the house, I always feel sick, I have no appetite etc., and n…

Why does my ex have no sense of urgency with the practical stuff? — We broke up last week, and when he first initiated it he was happy to meet up to exchange our things and have a conversation then. We ended up having a conversation on the phone and he didn’t want to …

Anxious (me) + Avoidant (her) breakup — still stuck after 1 year, need honest perspectives — Hey everyone, I really need some honest advice. I’ll try to explain this clearly. I was in a 2-year relationship where I now see a strong anxious (me) + avoidant (her) dynamic. Looking back, I also …

I don’t know where to go in my life. — Im 18 years old, I graduated from highschool June 4th 2025 and im attending a community college. I wanna be an actor and im studying theater but my parents don’t think it’s realistic and i understand …

7 years later, hurts like it was yesterday — So I'm going to go right ahead and start with saying I completely realise how ridiculous and borderline cruel to my current partner (B) but I need to talk about this. I was with a girl around 9 year…

What if I ruined the chance of possibly not getting back together due to me being an emotional abuser??For example, she broke up with me because of unhappiness, goal of finishing her college degree, a…

I just want to say, I’m am so happy to have found this sub! Oh how I’ve created so much in my life, with LOB (unconsciously) and more so just belief and the movie the secret that started it all. Then …

Timing can be addressed thoughtfully, though. My ex (with whom I had gone ring shopping and planned to get married - the same ex who convinced me not to freeze eggs because it would be a waste of time…

I'm an FA that leans anxious, and this never bothers me unless I'm in romantic relationships. Platonic relationships with friends that disappear never hits the same for me. Quite honestly, and as som…

Tbh I look for someone who is able to understand my POV when I tell a story, means show empathy not dismissing/judging, someone who is able to reassure me when I have my doubts, someone who doesnt tre…

Maybe are you reversing the timeline here? Maybe he’s vulnerable and sharing and then needs to deactivate because the level of intimacy is too much? I do that sometimes, it’s not planned at all.

Tell me if this works for you: For your first problem, I you might want to wait around for the person who seems to say the things that occur in your own head. Bonus points, if they say it at the same…

I know what you’re saying, in my case I had all elaborate dates planned for me, introduced to all his family and friends as his girlfriend, our parents met, flowers, gifts, attended his friends weddin…

Why would an avoidant push me away, but then orbit me for almost 2 years — even while committed to someone else? I feel ashamed for being stuck on this.. I (32F) had a short but intense connection wi…

Hi everyone, I’m in my early 20s, and recently I went through my longest relationship so far — almost 2 years — with someone who is also my age, and has BPD. I have AuDHD on top of everything. Our rel…

Text of original post by u/DaniT0n: Hello! Brief backstory here. I recently got divorced, and dating has been an interesting experience since. I went into one relationship very quickly with another an…

Hi, I’m 22F and was in a relationship for over 3 years with an avoidant male. In June, I decided to leave the place we shared together and move home because of his emotional regulation that presented …

TLDR: Anxious(22M) seeking advice during a break with an avoidant(21F) . I am an extremely anxious person due to cheating and abandonment in prior relationships. I never used to care as much about th…

Any advice on how to calm down anxiety? I 24F have been experiencing a heightened feeling of anxiety the past week or so, especially around my relationship with my 24M boyfriend. It has gotten to th…

I think you should try to only put in the amount of energy you can give away freely without resentment. I got into this pattern for a long time; I'm a natural planner and like to have things in the d…

Yeah I feel I can't win with anxious attachment. If someone usually replies fast and then randomly takes hours one day, I wonder if the break in pattern is because they're upset or lost interest. But…

I literally have been having these same conversations with my bf the past month. There was a week or two where he wasn’t initiating— i told him that this made me feel not desired which was emptying my…

My (27F) bf (27M) broke up with me after 5 months tgt because I might have anxious attachment. How am I feeling: Feels like hell and torture. Shaking. Spiraling. No appetite/havent eaten for a coup…

If you badly want kids but are unhealed ask yourself These questions What will I do if the woman I chose to date, gets pregnant before its planned What happens the woman I'm with is pregnant an…

How do you know if it is your anxious attachment or something about the other person that is making you anxious? I recently dated a guy for two months, one month exclusively. We didn't text between t…

Is mind reading an anxious attachment trait? What I mean by that is expecting people to understand what's going on with you without having to say anything? One of my friendships ended, unfortunately, …

Tired of being the project manager of "us": I’m going through something painful and clarifying in my relationship, and I’m sharing in case it helps anyone else feel less alone. I’m anxiously attache…

Question: are you both avoidant? Just asking because for a lot of people a connection like this is ultimately a waste of time and energy. Though, sometimes anxious would do that sort of thing too just…

You’re right, I set out with “just fun” intentions & here I am wanting more. I felt myself getting sucked in. Turns out it’s an intermittent reinforcement type loop that tricks your brain. I have a pl…

I wasn't ever really planning on having children but wonder if I would feel differently with the right person if they wanted kids? My sister recently became pregnant and is older. She never planned on…

Hope someone can tell me what i did wrong or misread. I’m in my 30s, Mikaylah is in her early 20s. i transferred to her department last July. At first i wasn’t interested in her as anything more than …

Maybe just my anxiety kicking in, but if you go on a 2nd date with someone and it's fun, when would you expect the 3rd date to be planned? I asked him out on the 2nd date, then we went off apps and h…

OK I'm still seeing the guy from work. He's going to plan a date for Friday or Saturday. I still like spending time with him, feel safe, he's funny. I REALLY leaned out this week (not initiating tex…

I think so - we exchanged numbers and I've also been responding to texts. I've just not initiated the date myself, because I'm wary of setting a precendent of moving things forward. (I've been there b…

this didn’t get any traction in the previous thread so i’m hoping this one might get me some advice. i have to go back to work on friday so any help would be appreciated. Hope someone can tell me wh…

FWB texted me today whilst he’s on holiday. Was lovely to hear from him Shared some pics from his trip and said he’s looking forward to seeing me and going to the gig we’ve got planned This isn’t a…

Oh we haven’t even gone on a date yet lol. We had the first one planned for this Saturday, but come to find this out. I’m kind of glad in that regard though.

Had a 6th date planned tonight after coming back from a work trip. She texted me first thing this morning, “Good morning! I might have to skip today, I’m starting to feel sick 😭”. I’m a bit bummed bu…

I say go for it. It sounds fun, and if you can both afford it, why not? It doesnt need to mean more than just a fun experience.  Also, a month out isn't exactly spontaneous to me. I've done random w…

With Valentine’s Day approaching, I noticed that quite a few people are bummed out about being single, not having a romantic dinner planned, not getting a special little gift that day etc. Not gonna t…

I preferred minimal texting before the first date, and I would text a bit more often after that if we have a second date planned. I'm a pretty consistent and frequent texter and prefer the same. I don…

That's really weird, both suggesting a trip and the video she sent Sounds like she never planned to meet up with you anyway

So, I think I might have found the right person, but with the wrong timing and it's just... crushing. We met a few months ago at a mutual acquaintances party, had a great convo but I chickened out on …

I went on a first date on Saturday, an afternoon meeting at a coffee shop. We ended up sitting there talking for three hours until the cafe closed. He walked me to my car and we hugged goodbye. I text…

Second date planned. 90% sure (not quite 100%) I don't feel attracted enough for a relationship, but there's a lot of positives and I had a good time on date 1. I always stress for days before rejecti…

Posted this in yesterday's thread but it got locked shortly after, so reposting here: I went on a first date on Saturday, an afternoon meeting at a coffee shop. We ended up sitting there talking for …

Yes to 1 and 2. + lube (water based) Regarding 3: most women & AFAB carry the weight of birth control outside of condoms… I feel like hormonal birth control is pushed a lot, like a “it’s just a tiny …

Had a date planned for Sat night, sort of. She messaged me in the morning saying "Hey want to meet up tonight, I am going to see my friend play music at 8 but would be fun to meetup beforehand." I re…

It was more like a year long planned career break after 6 years of working and I just put it there to break the gap of my career lol

My bf and I said it at 6 months. But we were feeling it for real at 5 months. We started the relationship clock from our first date because I didn't have any significant dates after that. After our …

I recently reconnected with a longtime crush, who admitted he has had a longtime crush on me too. We had our first date last Wednesday (pub trivia) and our second date Friday (he cooked for me at his …

Okay! He certainly seems interested. I dated after divorce too.... effing BRUTAL. But there is life after divorce and you'll navigate it with the help of your Reddit friends =) I do think he maybe…

LITERALLY! Two guys asked for my instagram; one cancelled the date three hours beforehand and never followed up to reschedule, and the other just liked about 25 pictures and never planned a date even …

I think it depends. For me, I like having multiple hobbies but love the idea of having someone to come home to and have activities planned together 3-4 times per week.

Well, left on read again - guess I’ll just take the 3rd time as a sign they aren’t interested in really talking anymore. This hurts - alot. I want to text him and be like can you just tell me you don…