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A complicated (online) friendship [vent?] — Hey everyone; I don't know if this fits here or relates too much to codependency, but I can try posting it and see what people's thoughts are. People usually talk about proper IRL relationships so per…

Backend skills for a hobbyist? — Hi, I'm wondering if y'all have recommendations for backend skills that a lone hobbyist should learn? Right now I don't know everything I want to do with web design, but I know I'd like to create art…

Dating someone with a fearful-avoidant style has been unexpectedly… gentle? — I wanted to share a relationship experience that’s been genuinely interesting and surprisingly positive, especially for FAs and anyone curious about FA dynamics. If you are not interested in some per…

The "Manosphere" — Last night my wife and I watched the new Netflix documentary on the Manosphere. It was entertaining and informative, but also quite sad. My first reaction, honestly, was that with the exception of th…

My ex called me a “walking green flag” when we first started dating, and then I ruined it all — I can’t live with myself. I hate how relationships sometimes bring out the worst in people. I went from the best boyfriend (my first relationship too) and now it’s been 3 months since the breakup and …

Superpowers and governmental dispose of powerful people. — What I am about to share to my thinking could be a AP. not sure if I want to keep this up but here's the conclusion. I saw people with superpowers, who manipulate elements and have "superpowers". …

You are God. — you can manifest anything and everything. I say this as someone who has been into this community since i was 10. I used to try manifesting height, weight loss, friends, parents to stop arguing, everyt…

I (38M) was just sent proof that my fiancé (35F) has a recently active hinge profile. — My fiancé has been acting really distant lately. I'm currently dealing with some health issues and she seems more focused on her work then helping me through my current health struggles. We have bee…

Tired of toxic connections.. can my birth chart help me finding the right people? — I’ve been trying to understand how to not stay stuck in what hurt me + somehow still find people I actually feel aligned with. I also wonder if some of these patterns make sense through my chart, lik…

How can I attract genuinely aligned friendships? (my NN is in the 11th but I have a very hard time with it) — Hi! I’m very interested in the insights of this sub bc I’m not very experienced with astrology but even less with the whole sign system. Just right now while transferring my chart in whole sign notice…

Broke up with her, need to talk about it — Well, as the title says, she broke up with me two days ago. At first, I didn’t really feel anything, but ever since then it’s been a complete emotional rollercoaster. About a month ago, I was going t…

I (M31) lost the best person I'll ever meet (F26) — tw: depression, suicidal thoughts and self harm I was trapped in a horrible relationship I felt I could not get out of. I posted about that here recently. tldr: 6 years of constant crises in which I …

Why are people so cruel? - Day 13 of Recovery — Had a bad day today... *Really* bad... People are so fucking cruel. First someone sees my scars at church of all places... Not that I'm Christian, but isn't it called a sanctuary for a reason? Anyway…

I (M29) am struggling to rebuild after my (F28) partner cheated — My partner (F) and I (M) have been together for years and have two young kids (3 and 1). A while ago I found out she had been talking to another guy behind my back. When I confronted it, she said it w…

i dont know whats my issue — first of all, i dont use reddit often so im sorry if i sound 'awkward' also this post contains very sensitive topics. I never really had a good life for multiple reasons: my father was absent and my …

Do yall delete pics? — My fiancée left me a few weeks ago. We lived together for 2 years and were long distance for another 2 years, so i’m sure you can imagine the absolutely enormous amount of photos I have related to our…

Why Don't Quality Men Seem To Want To Be With Me? — I post alot on here about meeting men and figuring out what's not working for me with dating and relationships. I recently met with a friend whom my friend Paul passed on my number to and we've met an…

What should I do? — I was kinda pressurized to say yes to a marriage I kept on refusing it again and again Led to a lot of fights My family background is a bit critical so my family said it would be hard to find a go…

What to do famm?? — I was kinda pressurized to say yes to a marriage I kept on refusing it again and again Led to a lot of fights My family background is a bit critical so my family said it would be hard to find a go…

I responded to an ex of mines no contact breach, with a link to Good Luck Babe — So i 18(M) had a 2 year long weird homoerotic friendship with a guy (20M) who had a boyfriend (22M) (i know stupid ofc) but in my defense, he pretty much introduced himself to me as "tortured guy stuc…

should i tell my bf this — me (19F) and my bf (19M) have been dating for a lil while now. we were together for a month back in 2024 and then broke up for a bit and got back together last year. ( we bee together for like 10 mont…

Anyone else have their exes family member(s) add their previous ex to their social media shortly after you were blindside dumped? — I’m just posed this question as I’ve been thinking a lot for the past year after I was blindside dumped by my ex. I may be just paranoid or overthinking. But it all seemed so weird. I can give more de…

My ex girlfriend would like for us to get back together — I ‘25 M’ broke up with my girlfriend ‘22 F’ of a 3.5 yr relationship in early January of this year. I received a call that woke me up at 2am from her friend in January she had cheated on me with her f…

First ever heartbreak — It’s been 5 months since my breakup…I really loved that guy but he broke up with me People here have been through heartbreaks before, some even know how to deal with it but I’m really clueless …I ho…

Would you tell the partner of your ex that the person they are with not the best in the world as they think they are? — Especially when it's been years and they are about to get married. And it seems like they have seen only the good side of them. They are not the honest person that they think they are. They cheated on…

I need to make a decision — I (24M) am struggling very badly to decide if I should give my ex (23F) a chance. Sorry for the wall of paragraphs below. there is a TLDR at the end. We were in a long distance relationship. We met…

Be honest — do guys actually move on fast or just act like they do? — I keep hearing that guys move on super fast after getting dumped… but I’m not fully buying it. So be honest: When you get dumped (no cheating, no drama), what actually happens? \- Do you really sto…

Am I (M31) overthinking or is something actually off with my girlfriend (F28)? — I need honest opinions from people who’ve been in similar situations because I feel like I’m losing my mind. I (M31) am in a long-distance relationship with my girlfriend (F28). When things are good,…

What happens when they kick the bucket & you’re NC but the only next of kin? — So, my dad is a piece of shit. He’s a child molester, a bigot, a creep, and plenty of other shit I don’t feel like typing out right now lol. I am his only biological child. He is unfortunately tough …

I (22M) love my gf's (21F) family and friends... but not so much her. How do I proceed with our relationship without burning every bridge I have? — I (22M) have been dating my gf (21F) for almost five years now, and this is my first serious relationship. We started dating in high school. We continued our relationship over long-distance when I wen…

My (24m) Partner(23m) Sent Suggestive Snaps to a Past Hookup, and now I Don't Know if I Can Trust Him? — Throwaway, bc my bf knows my main account, sorry for the lengthy post. Me (24m) and my bf (23m) have been dating for a little over two years now. He has always been a bit "protective" of his phone, t…

Gf of 7 years came back just to cheat on me and take revenge — I’m 24M, she’s 22F. We were together for 7 years. D-day was 22nd March 2026. She broke up with me in August 2025 saying I was too controlling and abusive. From my side, it was things like asking her …

I'm the bad guy! And I admit it! But I'm growing. — TL;DR I did dumb shit but I've learned & grown & I want some insight from guys who've accepted accountability & made the best from the worst. So I'm gonna get this started with some backstory. STBXW …

I feel like I'm going insane; I've ruined my life — I have therapy tomorrow but for now I need to write it out- PLEASE understand I am getting help I just need to vent NOW and I'm sorry I'm sorry I shouldnt be venting online to strangers I'm just so sc…

The best of days and the worst of days! - Days 19-22 of Recovery — well, it's been a while, and a ton of shit happened. some of this is bad, some of this is good, but it ended well so that's all that matters. please, take this warning, if you read past here just be…

Just abandonment issues or should I be worried? — I \[23F\] and my bf \[23M\] have been together a little over eight months. We’ve already had discussions about marriage and moving in together sometime next year and I really love him. However, I went…

Is it normal for him to get mad at me for moving on? — So i was in a talking stage with this guy for 3 months but he kept doing disloyal things like snapping and texting other girls, texting his ex behind my back. I ended things with him and he tried to g…

Photos — I just saw a somewhat recent picture of my ex on one of my best friend’s fridge’s. I was with him for 5 years and we broke up a year ago. I’m helping her and her fiancée plan their wedding and I’m g…

Am I (24F) Self-Sabotaging Our Relationship If I Recently Brought Up I Was Hurt My Boyfriend (44M) Flew 6 Hours to See His Ex (31F) 5 Months Ago — I’m seeking nuanced opinions. Do judge me. This is my first relationship. I am Southeast Asian. He happens to be way older, nomad, and liberal American. Maybe we have different ideas of relationships.…

Finding it hard to get over separation after betrayal for 6 years! — My previous post I had to delete, so here's my story again... Married for 6 years. My wife cheated on me 5 times, with 3 different guys. The latest guy she slept with and now she says she wants to le…

I texted my ex on her birthday — So my ex & i are not together for 4 months now. Long story short, in our 4 years relationship i suffered with some personal depression & issues and projected it many times on her.. (regret that a lo…

So my sister assaulted me and I’m the bad guy — Physical assault by my sister My sister is in a field that’s kind of small but very respected and she just graduated and is teaching her peers now her craft. When my family came down for her graduati…

Got cheated on, blamed for it, and somehow I’m the villain — Met a girl in my first year of college during tuition with my best friend. She came from a rich political background, so I ignored a lot of red flags early on. Within 2 weeks of dating, she tried to …

is it a break up or no? — I would like to have outsides view from people to understand if its a break up or no. Everything started 8 months ago when i met at my japanese school in japan, this 31 years women from the US (I am…

Need help moving on — A guy asked me out, he was not my type at all looks wise but I was really lonely so I lowered my standards and we went on a date. We had a good time and I found out he is completely opposite of me whi…

broke up with my ex about a month or two ago, felt like sharing it — preamble: i had known this person for around 6 months beforehand, we went to school together and kind of just knew each other. let's call her Lica(not her real name). now, lica was very much obsesse…

Relationship of 4 year ended up finally and I did worst maybe pls read the whole story and let me know if I did wrong? — Okay I was in a relationship for 4.5 year from 2020 to oct 2024. In the year 2023 march I found out that my bf cheated on me with his ex. How did I found out? His ex was the one who called me to meet…

Girl bsf advice pls help — I have a girl bsf whom ik since 1.5 yrs , we are super close , we call each other almost everyday talking about her day . She has a bf whom she loves a lot and her bf is my rlly good friend . The thin…

What would you call this thing that my father did? — Good Evening, Everyone. To give you all context: \-When I was 24 years old. This classes were being given in a Community Gym, located in a bad neighborhood (It was mostly for people from dangerous ne…

What would you call this thing that my father did? — Good Evening, Everyone. To give you all context: \-When I was 24 years old. This classes were being given in a Community Gym, located in a bad neighborhood (It was mostly for people from dangerous ne…

Is this weird to tell a guy? I sent it to the guy in question.... Your reputation/social-influence is far reaching 🤭 this conversation happened at the dinner table: Me: telling my parents about a…

I get what you're saying. But all those positive steps are evidence that it could happen again, with someone who is more emotionally available or likes you more for who you are, or doesn't have whatev…

Seems like you spent the better part of a year not actually seeing each other. This behavior may very well be consistent with him seeing other people and not being straightforward about it. You didn…

Fuck that guy. NEXT!

I got absolutely roasted for talking about this here yesterday because I said it seemed like an avoidant trait... Have you tried talking about it? I ended up texting that guy a good amount yesterday…

I started dating that guy again shortly after I ended things because I realized I didn’t feel like I had given things a chance. I wanted to spend another month getting to know him and just having fun …

I mean we don't know if you're friends are objectively beautiful, that's just what you're saying. We also don't know if that guy you're talking about is actually extremely good looking. It could be po…

Well I'm "only" 40 but I'm that guy, sorry 😭 I just haven't had the experience to figure these things out yet

Ok yeah I see. It's a balancing act and different with everyone I meet. My ex was abusive and my last date who asked what went wrong in the relationship I hesitated and then just said "he was a dick"…

Once you identify the reason you are upset, you can breathe and stabilize. That guy is probably a lost cause. You will find someone who appreciates your effort and brings light into your life.

You don’t have to explain anything. Being single for 7+ years is perfectly ok. That guy sounds judgmental and immature 

lol to be fair to that guy, it is kind of hilarious, I'd take that instance to mean that you were a good one and your boyfriend should hold onto you! But with "Frank", have you spoken to your boyfrie…

I haven't told my bf about Frank because to be honest I'm not proud of having dated him. I'm probably a horrible person for thinking like this but I'm kinda embarrassed that I got intimate with that g…

So if thats the case it may be deathgrip (not literally) but in that guys tend to rip on that shit as it were and can loose sensitivity and as a result becomes harder to climax, especially with penetr…

32F and tired of the apps. I went out on 11 first dates last year, the longest guy lasted almost 3 months. The 3month guy I got over him pretty quickly but it’s the one I went on a date after him that…

I’m so sorry that happened to you, what an extra shitty experience to have after a celibacy spell, jesus. I don’t blame you for wanting to swear off dating. But don’t let this asshat ruin things for y…

Single guy, early 40s , have had both committed and casual encounters ( no , not simultaneously). Tend to be asked these things by friends so chiming in. In respect of the term " emotional affair "…

not totally dating related but I finally got the ball rolling on finding a new therapist. I had put that task off for too long after my big cross country move. I wish I had prioritized it while naviga…

That last paragraph — that was my last relationship. I just turned 38 and he was 41 when I broke up with him. That was less than two years ago. It was so hard, I just never felt I was truly lovable, w…

It was one of my first online dates. I was super nervous and it was in a packed coffee shop. I was overdressed and spent the entire time sweating. Imagine if that guy got a rejection text from me out …

I mean, I'm glad you tried to go out and do things. A lot of guys refuse to even do that. But they aren't dating events so it's a bit unfair to criticize them for not producing dates. First. If you'r…

Right.... at first when he said it I felt attacked and vulnerable but now that I'm thinking back, *fuck* that guy He also just texted me good morning....

I think you are underestimating the experiences of women here. I can’t think of too many times where I have felt comfortable about someone knowing where I live on date 3. And even then you could get…

Hinge algorithm is so weird. It makes my feed look like I have a fetish. "Oh, you liked one bald guy? Here's 15 more! Oh that guy is East Asian?? Here's 20 more! You accidentally liked a smoker? The n…

>but I think I may need to hold off a bit or else I'll be known as that guy that just asks women out. Definitely. I’ve gotten this reputation for some at the gym for only asking one woman out.

If I had to guess the women in your town aren’t actually into you. They’re probably matching with you because seeing other people from their small little town is a novelty and so they’re trying to tal…

Hshahahahau  It reminded me of one date I went on a few years ago.  The guy put on Hinge that he is 180 cm tall. We agreed to go for a walk late evening around our district since we lived close by. I …

Lots of venting (as I started writing this I just spiralled into journaling I guess) I am only venting as obviously I am doing things wrong. On Sunday, the guy I was / am seeing and I had a call for…

I’m a woman. I’ve had poor experiences being the first to ask a guy out on OLD. They just agree because they don’t have other options. I stopped doing this before I quit OLD, and I did notice in that …

I was always that person who said I’d never date someone who is separated/not officially divorced or even someone who is less than 6 months out of the divorce being finalized. Welp… I somehow ended …

Do it as a one-off but don't make it a regular thing. Once I was dating a guy and I asked if he wanted to go out for beers on a Wednesday night. He said yes and then on the date he told me he skippe…

Yes, this is when you need Al-Anon the most. If you’d like to get a good idea about why that’s true, this interview from Steve-O’s Wild Ride is brilliant. Alcoholism has almost nothing to do with a…

To begin with, actually suppressing emotions is impossible. In ancient texts, Seneca tells this so many times. Another important premise: emotions are NOT a bad thing for a stoic. There are positive …

Your girl is a cheater and now on a separation trial seeing if her and this guy will work out. Once it doesn't she'll realize that you're good enough and come running back. She thinks you're an idiot …

This was one of the saddest things I’ve ever heard. I’ll never forget a guy I briefly dated, I was at his house and we were making dinner and he got a FaceTime from his best friend who had just gotte…

I was in something similar although I knew he had a partner and then when they broke up he ended up going back to his ex wife. 10 years later he still comments on the Instagram. He was a complete narc…

Big lesson I can say is to also read the room and go with the flow of that. Looks do play a part, but definitely the more subtle cues will do a LOT. Things like how you're dressed does definitely pl…

Sounds like an amazing response. Must feel amazing to stand up for yourself (and all victims) like that. F that guy.

>(I never write the first message anymore because I read men just swipe on everyone so I assume it was a mistake until they write me first) I think the idea that guys swipe on everyone is pretty ov…

Oh it’s her fault 100%, no question. This has been a dysfunctional marriage, and they both should seek out marriage for love. What she said about her family is totally irrelevant, she shouldn’t …

I am 32F with very little experience when it comes to dating (just a few months relationships in my early 20s, with was emotionally abusive) I just came home from an evening spent with a guy I met a…

Tempted to fix what girl? I thought there was some piece I was missing but I went back and read your other posts... Theres nothing to fix - **YOU** dont fix any of this. You *CANNOT* fix any of this…

If you have to ask you already know. Your child should be your priority, meaning a potential partner should be kind to your child. He's not. Close to bankruptcy is scary because then he'll be asking …

Bullet dodged. Don't listen to the people saying "no one will take you to dinner". All my first dates have been restaurant dates, either lunch or dinner at my preference. Ive had guys hunt me down on …

Steven yeun is that guy from beef

Sorry to be that guy, how old are you and how soon are you wanting the family? I would be concerned at how fast your time frame is on that goal.

My GF and i have gone through similar (not withhoilding but the initiating part). I used to initiate all the time to the point it annoyed her but i get it, i was trying to do it everyday wheere she wa…

That guy fucking sucks dude 🫩

Tough times ahead of you. It’s going to be a hell of a lot worse for her very soon. Once the honeymoon phase of their sex life is over and she realizes that guy is not you and the fun and games are no…

Rottweiler knew that guy was a wrongun was trying to warn you. They don’t suffer fools gladly. That said I glad you didn’t get chomped by the dog and I’m glad you got rid of that guy. He sounds like …