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There's communication, and then there's basic human empathy. I dated a guy who would pull the "I can't read your mind" shtick, and I want to give you a hug and tell you that you deserve better. If he …
How should this sub respond to reddit's api changes, part 2 — We stand with the disabled users of reddit and in our community. Starting July 1, Reddit's API policy blind/visually impaired communities will be more dependent on sighted people for moderation. When …
My arguments against manifestation — 1. **Maladaptive daydreaming proves that manifestation isn't real**; Manifestation doctrine teaches that what you focus on expands and manifests in your physical reality. Do not split hairs and try to…
Which DevOps repositories need contributions? — I don't think I am the only one that has a little bit of a spare time in their life and would love to help out on a DevOps project in need. What are your favorite ones? Which repositories need just…
What are your favorite tools to share changelogs, roadmap & features feedback with users? — We’re a B2B SaaS platform starting with beta testers in our production environment. We’re looking to integrate a tool to facilitate communication with the users, including: * having visibility on the…
Overcoming my anxious attachment — Hi I've successfully combated my attachment style and offer some of the resources I've found. I've dealt with anxiety and insecurity across my romantic and platonic relationships throughout my life. …
I think I'm in the process of healing, but it hurts so much. Feeling very forgotten and abandoned tonight — I truly recognize and see how much I've grown and how far I've come. I have so much self awareness, gotten good at soothing myself, talking to myself, even managing anxiety attacks. It's not always pe…
🎉MEME MONDAY🎉 — Post your favorite or funny memes in the comments! Preferably attachment related but other funny memes are welcome too 😁
🎉MEME MONDAY🎉 — Post your favorite or funny memes in the comments! Preferably attachment related but other funny memes are welcome too 😁
🎉MEME MONDAY🎉 — Post your favorite or funny memes in the comments! Preferably attachment related but other funny memes are welcome too 😁
🎉MEME MONDAY🎉 — Post your favorite or funny memes in the comments! Preferably attachment related but other funny memes are welcome too 😁
🎉MEME MONDAY🎉 — Post your favorite or funny memes in the comments! Preferably attachment related but other funny memes are welcome too 😁
🎉MEME MONDAY🎉 — Post your favorite or funny memes in the comments! Preferably attachment related but other funny memes are welcome too 😁
🎉MEME MONDAY🎉 — Post your favorite or funny memes in the comments! Preferably attachment related but other funny memes are welcome too 😁
🎉MEME MONDAY🎉 — Post your favorite or funny memes in the comments! Preferably attachment related but other funny memes are welcome too 😁
Meta Dating Monday - Flowers, Candy and Wrestlemania — Welcome to Meta Dating Monday! With Valentine's Day just around the corner and my kids now old enough that I no longer have to sit there trying to write names on lumpy candy bags, I can finally focus…
🎉MEME MONDAY🎉 — Post your favorite or funny memes in the comments! Preferably attachment related but other funny memes are welcome too 😁
🎉MEME MONDAY🎉 — Post your favorite or funny memes in the comments! Preferably attachment related but other funny memes are welcome too 😁
🎉MEME MONDAY🎉 — Post your favorite or funny memes in the comments! Preferably attachment related but other funny memes are welcome too 😁
My father is sabotaging my career and medical treatments through "smear campaigns" and monitoring. I feel like I'm living in a Truman Show nightmare. — I (25F) am an Indian doctor currently preparing for NEET PG, and I am living with a family led by a malignant narcissistic father. My mother and brother are complete enablers. I’m writing this becaus…
I'm not a gnome, no seriously though — So the r/shrooms sub banned me for a short period of time because of my posts, even though they literally have a flair that says "Meme" it all started with a post about me slowly feeling like becomi…
DDay - 2/19/2026 - Online Emotional Affair Led to Full Blown Infidelity — I found out my wife was going on “solo” concert trips, but was also using them as a way to vacation with a guy she had been talking to online for years. Seventeen years together and seven years marri…
DA healing update: searching my true self, my inner child finally seen — Some of you may know me at this point. I'm (40M) dismissive avoidant, my wife fearful avoidant (41F), together 17 years, married 13 years, 3 children. I've been working on my attachment style for 5 mo…
🎉MEME MONDAY🎉 — Post your favorite or funny memes in the comments! Preferably attachment related but other funny memes are welcome too 😁
The feeling of spring. — This may or may not be related to the sub, but I have felt that the energy/essence of spring and summer came a little too early this year. It was around late February/early March when this feeling cam…
Effective ways to get lucid dreams 80% — A way that you might think is contrary to the ways on the internet, but this is actually the most effective way according to me, how? This is the way. The first way, this method often allows you to h…
Human Plus Changed amy Life — I just want to say that the Human plus series is my favorite thing about Roberts work, something about the way we go to from 10 to 11 to 20 just hits differently, I have amazing body asleep phases and…
Getting married soon help me pls — We met in high school and I have spent my entire adult life loving her. I’ve (30m) moved across the country for her (28f) career 4 times, leaving all my friends and family behind. I’ve worked 60-70 ho…
self concept got me my dream life — This is a rant, but this is a confirmation that self-concept is real and it's what changes your life. Self-concept is something that you shouldn't convince yourself of. Self-concept is something you b…
I texted her. Here's what I said. I hope this was honest and vulnerable enough. — OK so, this will be a long one. I fucked up. I have some many things to tell you, so many regrets with a heavy heart. I'll start with I miss you. I've been missing you for a long time now. I haven't t…
Is my relationship doomed? I love him, but I’m so alone. — Hey everyone, I’m Lucy (F, late 20s) and I’ve been with my husband, Rick (M, late 20s) for about 8 years, married for 2. I know he cares about me and our family, and I see that he loves us. But latel…
18 months after my husband’s affair and the “ick” just hit. Has anyone ever gotten attraction back after this? — About 18 months ago I discovered my husband had been having an 3 year long emotional affair with a coworker that he admits he was actively pursuing. We decided to try to reconcile. To his credit, he …
Manifested an Apology - Decide — I manifested an apology today from a friend who 'ghosted' me February 10th with no explanation (no replies, denied phone call, ignored me, physically walked away from me in person, didn't acknowledge …
Experienced lucid dreamers, what is your favorite dream you’ve had.
Sunken Cost Fallacy — Married for almost 27 years. Got married at the ripe age of 19. Funny thing, I thought it was a mistake on my wedding night when he got out of bed to jack off because I was so exhausted from the long …
Favorite sexual experience while on psilocybin? — For me, I loved how much more enhanced it was. That feeling when you’re close to orgasm, and you know that if you don’t get there asap—if you hit that wall—you’ll lose the ability to get there? (in t…
My (M38) wife (F34) has been very quiet since a conversation we had of why I love her. Confused about her silence. — So I'm a little bit confused about this. A couple of days ago, my wife came to me asking the question that has been asked many times during our marriage. "Do you still love me? And why do you love me?…
🎉MEME MONDAY🎉 — Post your favorite or funny memes in the comments! Preferably attachment related but other funny memes are welcome too 😁
All is now. Be Here Now. — One of the biggest misunderstandings about manifestation is the idea that you are trying to create something in the future. Neville’s teachings point to something deeper. Creation is finished. Every…
My mother is super affectionate now that I'm an adult and she has dementia. It disgusts me. — My mother doesn't remember the screaming, my mother doesn't remember her calling me stupid everyday, she doesn't remember her telling me to get out of her house. She talks to me now in a baby voice, s…
A fun hypothetical — Would you rather go back and fix mistakes or relive all of your favorite moments?
Anyone find overly strict Asian Parenting methods don't build discipline — I grew up like many Asian Americans with very strict parents. They monitored my grades, homework, extra curriculars, and leisure activities. However, even though I was able to succeed under their wat…
Mom! There's a Flying Car Outside the Window + And Other DR Memories — https://preview.redd.it/qg8vkwaixvpg1.png?width=1024&format=png&auto=webp&s=ddddae1cd2fa8a918133c6c3655c21cd7e63afd6 https://preview.redd.it/am1xwmqjxvpg1.png?width=680&format=png&auto=webp&s=2814916…
I Want to Make Something CLEAR. Manifesting is easy. — Manifesting is easy. It really is. The bridge of incidents and how long it lasts is actually UP TO YOU. And how long it takes for you to manifest something is also UP TO YOU. What do I mean? I mean e…
I'm so excited to shift — So over the past couple days I've been building where I live in my DR in Minecraft and I am genuinely so motivated to shift rn because I'm done building most of everything, including the house, interi…
Are you lost? START HERE! — # Step-by step short guide So you just found this sub but you don't know anything about "The Gateway Experience", follow these steps and read all the suggested documents to avoid asking the same que…
I (21M) have survived two decades of severe physical, emotional, and financial abuse from my Indian parents. I'm finally exhausted and need to tell my story. I am not free yet. — # TL;DR: I'm a 20-year-old only child in India who has endured severe physical, verbal, emotional, and financial abuse from my parents since toddlerhood. They have beaten me, medically neglected me, …
~1 year no contact check in. It gets better! — Here’s my experience of going from never being single as an adult to single and happy (spoiler alert! It was SO hard but probably the most rewarding thing I’ve ever done). Background context: I had …
Help me please — Created this account just to talk about this I don’t know if it would reach a lot of people but I don’t feel like it’s appropriate to post on main I feel so empty right after I just felt alive I don’…
Coda Slogans — I've been attending a meeting for about 2 months and realized last night that Coda doesn't seem to have slogans the same way Al-Anon and other Recovery programs do. Or maybe there is just a lot of cr…
🎉MEME MONDAY🎉 — Post your favorite or funny memes in the comments! Preferably attachment related but other funny memes are welcome too 😁
I'm glad to hear it helped! You're welcome lol. I found it really weird that nobody on this sub was talking about that book at all. (At least back then.) It seems to have basically everything you coul…
Hello. I have been lucid dreaming since I was a young child too, though I am roughly a third of your age. I too learned very early on to wake myself up from nightmares. Recently I have been learning t…
Website “free to attach” and the book “Attached” are my two favorite resources
I understand. Glad you are working through those feelings. I hope I did not come off judgemental. I definitely don't think that your feelings are irrational (I might agree with the inappropriate part …
As a guy who’s been doing DevOps for years and years here’s a list of my favorite DevOps books https://www.gogorichie.com/blog/recommendeddevopsbooks/
You can still use artifacts and query them from a future pipeline. Or use the GitLab API with your favorite language to push to the generic repo.
I've been in these scenarios a good few times in a good few ways. And I have some hostile opinions on it as well as some good ones. So scenarios. Indian CTO or VP is hired, and almost immediately, …
For what it’s worth, you don’t really have to engage too much with the origins of FA in my opinion. What’s most important is how the echoes of it are showing up and affecting you now. Therapy is expen…
You described what it's like for the 'Favorite Person' of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. Extremely toxic, one-sided and codependent. Well done.
So many examples I can think of lol. In general, after our honeymoon phase was over, she deactivated and started pulling away. I assumed this was caused by anxiety, so instead of calling out her dism…
"The last FA I dated shit tested me early on, dumping some not so flattering info about herself just to see how I would react." • Mine has done it throughout all 4 years! I faltered a few times, yes…
I'm going to challenge you for a moment. Imagine your life without him and how you'd find happiness. Imagine what it would be like being with a partner that can truly show up for you. What that would…
I know. I know this all too well, especially feeling as though you’re sending everyone “over the edge”. I wish I had some magical potion in the form of words to help. But I’m just here on the same ri…
Really great insights, thanks for sharing your thoughts! I think you post gets to the heart of the mission of this sub in particular. Which is about healing ourselves. There is so little in life we ha…
Text of original post by u/bleepbloooopity: I truly recognize and see how much I've grown and how far I've come. I have so much self awareness, gotten good at soothing myself, talking to myself, even …
Oh gosh, I can feel your pain through the screen. What you are going through is a normal modern human experience, so please don't place all the blame on yourself. It's amazing that you are trying to b…
If it's numbness/blunting, it follows you everywhere: * You can't enjoy your favorite hobbies anymore * You can't cry. My friend had to say something profoundly comforting in order for me to break li…
This is amazing :) I'm really happy for you. I think a lot of people who have started working on their attachment think that they need to find someone perfectly secure. Absolutely not true! It's just…
That 'assume it'll end...' line reminds me of my DA mother's favorite phrase, "hope for the best, expect the worst." Sure there's some wisdom in that, but I feel like it's mostly just a way to justif…
Posted a short summary of my book *A Stoic Resurection* ([I introduced it in another comment down below](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/1obp2fx/comment/noljs2g/?utm_source=share&utm_medium…
One thing you can do is exposure therapy. Your brain is doing that because it is associating the new person with safety and making you think you can't be safe without them. This likely means that your…
How long did the intense grief + obsessive thinking last? The grief stopped when I allowed myself to understand what exactly I was grieving for. Was it that version of me, was it the safety, was it …
It's my favorite shape lol
Not necessarily. I've switched my favorites rings from my right to my left hand as I've lost weight. My left hand is larger so thats the finger that fits.
I think it’s nice to give people you are friends with a small gift. Maybe like a bag of her favorite chocolate or something. Nothing crazy, but just a hey, I know we broke things off but you did and …
All the Valentine’s Day stuff going on reminds me of how miserable I was with my ex. I’m a huge romantic and I love holidays, but he just did the bare minimum and would just get me a card. Sometimes h…
My favorite vegetable. 💍
Yes!!! Even if texting isn't your favorite form of communication I think it's reasonable to want a little beforehand. I think it helps ease nerves.
my girlfriend at the times favorite gummy bears were green ones, so I'd buy volume packs and sort them out for her.
I’m (47f) dismissive avoidant. I no longer have the people pleasing tendencies I had as a child. My favorite word is “no.” If I don’t want to do something, I just won’t. Many people are taken aback wh…
I guess the only answer I have is a (undersized) T-Shirt of one of my favorite bands, since in all the relationships I’ve ever had, that’s the only time I’ve ever been gifted anything by a partner. …
I recently reconnected with a longtime crush, who admitted he has had a longtime crush on me too. We had our first date last Wednesday (pub trivia) and our second date Friday (he cooked for me at his …
A little update since I've gone back to silently lurking instead of posting much (but I still absolutely love this thread and read it daily like it's my newspaper lmao!) - for those of you who were ma…
my second favorite city to love to hate
Picking up dessert from my favorite baker and just relaxing at home with my cat. And taking a pole class in the morning!
Yeah it was terrible, but ~hormones~ I actually only started watching rom coms because my favorite music album is based on them! I'm almost through the ones that are referenced in the album, but I'v…
If I were in your shoes, I’d probably curl up in bed with my comfort media. My go-to’s are favorite youtubers and streamers, and Studio Ghibli movies. I might try to meet up with my friend the followi…
A shirtless photo will deter women with intentions of finding a long term mate. When I was on the apps it was a dealbreaker for me because you quickly learn what men with topless photos are looking fo…
>A shirtless photo will deter women with intentions of finding a long term mate. When I was on the apps it was a dealbreaker for me because you quickly learn what men with topless photos are looking f…
I have the fortune of having been in a marriage where my ex refused to celebrate the holiday "on principle" (he wanted me to get him stuff and cook him a nice meal, he just didn't want to reciprocate)…
I’m pretty sick this Valentine’s Day (and this whole week tbh). I wanted to celebrate with my partner but alas I’m coughing and throwing up phlegm so we haven’t spent the day together since I didn’t w…
I remember they started that season off by just winning a bunch of games. Most people thought they would eventually start losing, but then January came and they kept staying in the fight. You could se…
For Valentines? I got him his favorite dessert, candy and made chocolate covered strawberries
It’s the opposite! CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) can fix avoidant personality disorder in like two years tops, and that’s at the extreme end of avoidance. If I had to describe my experience: I ac…
Thank you! And yes, let me know if you like them! They are indie pop but have a lot of my favorite songs!
>I don't want to jump straight to one's bed, but I hate the online talking stage. I'd rather meet and have a coffee to see how it goes. Yeah, I'm on like day 5 of talking to the first match that's ac…
>"Trevor loves cats." Who is Trevor? Put something like "I love my two cats Thats not a option you can change its literally favorite "interest" it would say my name loves blank for whatever chosen. …
Oh man. I went to a singles night and got a girls number. She's stunning and a film buff. I think there was a vibe there, when I said eternal sunshine of a spotless mind was my favorite film of all ti…
It's hard to think of what birthday gift to get someone you really like but who simultaneously doesn't have GF-privileges and who is also going through some personal hardships atm... So the only thing…
You shouldn't try to be everyone's cup of tea. But you should try to become someone's favorite shot of whiskey. The right woman for you will find you and your long locks totally irresistible.