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***I m 40+ F.. Never married, no kids.

First -- it's a man, not a male. It's cringe to talk about women as "females" or about men as "males", don't do that. But secondly -- you have more agency than this. You say that ***"I feel it will m…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/14/2026
My mother sent my childhood abuser to my home, after I have been successful at making sure he never knows where I live.

My mother sent my childhood abuser to my home, after I have been successful at making sure he never knows where I live. — Conversation is below. I have been very careful making sure my brother never knows where I live, as he beat me as a child so much police intervened and I was such a mess I was mandated to go to thera…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost3/15/2026
the narcissist catchphrase bingo list

the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…

r/raisedbynarcissistspost3/24/2026
I’m a shitty person, my demons are haunting me, and I don’t know how to deal with these emotions. [24 F]

I’m a shitty person, my demons are haunting me, and I don’t know how to deal with these emotions. [24 F] — I \[24F\] just got dumped by my boyfriend \[21M\] after 3.5 years. It all started in high school when we met. However, we didn’t start dating until late 2022. We set up boundaries and we both agreed…

r/BreakUpspost3/31/2026
Question for females: How do you manage to manifest before or during your period?

Question for females: How do you manage to manifest before or during your period? — I’m working on a manifestation right now. I want to get this job, but I’m struggling to keep my mind positive because I feel sad and depressed due to PMS. How do you handle it? I’ve tried eating swee…

r/lawofattractionpost3/31/2026
my 32f boyfriend 30m has a bit of an extreme anime interest, and i’m not sure if it’s a deal breaker.

my 32f boyfriend 30m has a bit of an extreme anime interest, and i’m not sure if it’s a deal breaker. — we have been together for 3 years and during the first year i could tell that he is really into anime.. like more than anyone i’ve ever known. it seemed a little extreme but i like some anime too so i…

r/relationship_advicepost3/31/2026
23F &23M dont know how to naturally have a formal and healthy relationship?

23F &23M dont know how to naturally have a formal and healthy relationship? — **Clarification:** Just for obeying the rules, I added 23M. I’m actually 23F and not in any relationship. I’m a postgraduate student, and I have never had a formal relationship. I’ve only experienc…

r/relationship_advicepost4/8/2026
Trying to help a friend through their resurfaced trauma

Trying to help a friend through their resurfaced trauma — Trigger warning for rape. This is a post about a friend, so not sure how appropriate it is to post here. On throwaway account, so not sure if I'll come back to this. I'm new to reddit, so sorry if I …

r/CPTSDpost4/8/2026
No contact is the only way to heal

No contact is the only way to heal — Hi everyone, I hope you are doing well. I've posted a couple of times on this subreddit about my break up (worst break up ever). To cut a long story short: Two best friends (both females) unexpected…

r/ExNoContactpost4/10/2026
The universe feels evil to me

The universe feels evil to me — I am not sure about how I wanna express this but I just cannot pinpoint to a reason for the things that happened to me. starting from when i was 15, everything took on a wrong turn. got hidradenitis…

r/CPTSDpost4/10/2026
Why do I keep encountering these karmic females that give me attention first but dont want to do anything with me?

Why do I keep encountering these karmic females that give me attention first but dont want to do anything with me?

r/vedicastrologypost4/11/2026
He Won’t Accept The Breakup

He Won’t Accept The Breakup — So I (28F) tried breaking up with him (26M) last night. I was crying hysterically and honestly had a mental break down. It wasn’t good at all. Reason was because I found out he was using a dating app,…

r/BreakUpspost4/12/2026
My (30F) ex husband (34M) is obsessed with me. How do I handle this with minimal damage?

My (30F) ex husband (34M) is obsessed with me. How do I handle this with minimal damage? — This is an.. interesting situation im having. My (30F) ex husband (33M) and i have been divorced for about 6 years. I am remarried, and he, we will call him B, is still dating the woman he cheated on …

r/relationship_advicepost4/12/2026
r/LucidDreamingcomment12/9/2023
how to deal with an avoidant's freeze response in hard times?

(DA hard pattern female here) From my perspective that issues is more down to what a human has learned up to this moment - or not. A lot men grew up with mothers/females that took care of health issu…

r/attachment_theorycomment10/28/2025
Is casual sex compatible with secure attachment?

I think that hook up culture doesn't lead to anything good and I am sort of fed up that world is these days one massive hook up culture. I know few people who immediately after they go through break u…

r/attachment_theorycomment1/9/2026
Is casual sex compatible with secure attachment?

Some excellent points, you know who would love this? r/menandfemales 

r/attachment_theorycomment1/9/2026
Is casual sex compatible with secure attachment?

Same experience for me. For both genders females and male. Especially females (but that is because my female friends were just better at getting casual sex). I have struggled with the same thing. I am…

r/attachment_theorycomment1/9/2026
Is casual sex compatible with secure attachment?

the two genders, females and men

r/attachment_theorycomment1/13/2026
What do secure bids for connection and co-regulation look like?

He calls women "females", demeans women's emotions, and made up a fake scenario that would never play out in real life, nobody sane is going to make fun of you for being sad a pet died. Its incel tal…

r/attachment_theorycomment1/15/2026
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

Hi everyone. I’m posting here because I genuinely want outside perspective and grounded advice, not validation. Background I (male, 22) have known my partner (female, 19) for about 3.5 years. We are…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment1/27/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

Nothing wrong with your expectations.... it's just that others may find them unreasonable in the early stages of dating, because for most people, a first date is a casual experience. I think you're …

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/4/2026
r/datingoverthirtycomment2/5/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

>I mean it's definitely a red flag to me and I'm a dude. I don't know any guys who don't listen to incel shit who say female. Like yeah I'm sure he picked it up from somewhere, like a shithead prodcas…

r/datingoverthirtycomment2/5/2026
Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup

Hi: I 32m and secure attachments and I tend to date alot of AP females. The love of my life is an AP attachment. She’s not borderline because of 1) she only does it to me and 2) she does it because of…

r/AnxiousAttachmentcomment2/10/2026
Women keep telling me I need to date younger and now my daughter has too.

I don't think you have to date someone younger. Actually I think it's a really good "sign " that you just want to date a woman your age. I think as females age, (I am 32) they can be scared that a men…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/2/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 03, 2026

That's why I made the comparison to a college girl on a supermarket run. I've seen males and females style and put on a good outfit with leggings/sweat pants and a top like a sweater. But all 3 times,…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/4/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 03, 2026

That's why I made the comparison to a college girl on a supermarket run. I've seen males and females style and put on a good outfit with leggings/sweat pants and a top like a sweater. But all 3 times,…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/4/2026
Stuck In My Head After Affair

Why did they cheat, it is the not knowing/understanding why that matters most. https://www.newsweek.com/why-people-cheat-relationships-infidelity-reasons-1688541 Here's Why People Cheat on Those The…

r/survivinginfidelitycomment3/8/2026
Ex going on dates and hooking up

First of all.. lemme just say this. This isn't something men do along. Both males and females do this, once they're doing the dumping. In the dumper mind, they think they're free but time would revea…

r/BreakUpscomment3/8/2026
Recommend podcasts / videos about healthy male roles and positive masculinity

Christian ideals have great principles for how to treat females with love and respect (and others). The way of giving yourself to your partner in a moral way. I don't say you have to wait for marriage…

r/DecidingToBeBettercomment3/8/2026
Am I crazy? I feel like a stalker.

My guess is he cheated with someone who he felt was "more exciting" (or at least will be during the newness phase... And rather than cop to his wrongdoings and I have to take accountability and be lab…

r/ExNoContactcomment3/9/2026
Would you stay in a relationship with someone like this?

From a guys perspective that's enough flags. At our age we all enough nearly have kids and baggage. Finances, can be hard but managed. But if dating a woman with kids, they are part of her. So that an…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/10/2026
My (28F) boyfriend (26M) has recently got back into religion and it’s affecting our relationship.

Sorry I'm dyslexic. Sometimes I write things funny. I don't think it would be unfair to say that a large proportion of females think that weddings should cost quite a lot of money.

r/relationshipscomment3/10/2026
What are your social lives like?

thats why u dont get dates, or find dates. u put yourself in a position where u atract females, or place urself in a situation where females notice u

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/11/2026
r/relationship_advicecomment3/12/2026
Somebody told me I will marry a foreigner, is it true? and will I go abroad ?

I just noticed. Usually this would not apply for female charts, but because you are Aries ascendent, there is still chance for foreign partner / cast / religion. Still good in writing etc. Venus beha…

r/vedicastrologycomment3/12/2026
Ladies: What makes you swipe RIGHT? (inspired by today's recent post)

dogs. a good father. something funny or unique in their profile- my guy had that one of his life goals was to be a Canadian Tire product tester. someone who likes a project/ is handy. that inte…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/13/2026
Block them. That's all I have to say.

Unfortunately no. Because I made the decision to end the marriage I cannot then make a decision to reconcile. It’s pathetic and shows wishy washy actions. And i made the decision because she isn’t abl…

r/BreakUpscomment3/13/2026
Dating as an Asian Australian man

Not to even mention that quite a handful of those quiet nerdy Asian guys have absolutely hot Asian girlfriends too. One can blame a subset of Asian females for having a serious unhealthy racial bias i…

r/AsianAmericancomment3/14/2026
40M My uncle has divorced and remarried, still constantly fighting with his wife. And so much financial troubles.

This guy has problematic relationship with her mother... Whether he agrees about that or not is secondary .. but he has certain bad childhood with mother. Like mom not taking extra care or not prov…

r/vedicastrologycomment3/14/2026
“Asian Men Only Like White Women” Is So Baffling to Me

I mean I've never heard that assumption, generally Asian males are either exclusively single or with other Asian women (which is slowly shrinking because most Asian females get with white men, and mos…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/14/2026
***I m 40+ F.. Never married, no kids.

***The point I wanted to make is I don't like to share a bed.. Cause many females commented how they sleep with their mothers or even mother-in-law. I cannot . Simple.

r/datingoverfortycomment3/14/2026
Did anyone else use chatgpt during the end of the relationship because they were desperate for answers ?? 😭😭😭

I used AI off Facebook and it told me that my boyfriend at the time was cheating and even gave me the names of the females and that he was married and I did not know it. Technically they’re not suppos…

r/BreakUpscomment3/14/2026
I think my 32F 36M boyfriend lied about me passing out during sex

"Sure, he actively and deliberately ignored her STOP signal and STRANGLED HER UNCONSCIOUS and then showed more concern for his dick than for her well-being afterwards, but she totally needs to give hi…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/15/2026
People of dating over 40...

I am wondering if you are male or female… I am female so I can tell you my perspective about this… females get many messages, from scammers and real men alike. Haha! It would not be uncommon for me …

r/datingoverfortycomment3/16/2026
[Update] She [F25] withdrew consent after the act, how do I [M26] move on from this?

I never understood how the fuck people can "withdraw consent" once you consent to something that's it . But apparently emotions are so powerful they can override logic , this isn't even a sexist quest…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/16/2026
“Asian Men Only Like White Women” Is So Baffling to Me

Be that as it may, aren’t there millions of white girls proclaiming they only date black males and proud themselves as ‘snow bunnies’. So even if Asian males prefer white females, big deal.

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/16/2026
Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - March 16, 2026

>The day before, my friends from high school and I got together and one of the things we were talking about were our dating experiences and married life. All the females agreed that the man needs to b…

r/datingoverthirtycomment3/16/2026
Wife (26F) scheduled cosmetic procedures we agreed we wouldn’t do before marriage, using money from our joint account. I’m (28M) struggling with the trust breach.

Ok. So, lots of younger than me ,females I know are having botox etc . I'm not I'm 64 and spending my money on travel. So or me it's not the botox it's the amount of money she has taken and will take …

r/relationship_advicecomment3/16/2026
Whats going on with TanTan?

I mean I agree but the Asian females I dated and my last ltr dated white but wanted to settle with an asian. She legit told me I wanna go back to my culture. Maybe she's off back on White boys now I h…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/16/2026
Older men who lie about their age in their dating profiles

Online dating has been so overly exploited that guys now just use it as a free sex service filled with vulnerable, lonely females that might be DTF. It’s the crowded dance club pick-up joint of the 20…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/17/2026
Did any of your parents purposely scare you?

When I was a little girl, like 9 or 10 years old, my dad would put me on rides at the county fair or amusement park, then disappear into the park on purpose. I would be on the ride and instead of enjo…

r/raisedbynarcissistscomment3/17/2026
I (22 male) slept with my colleague (30 female) and fell in love, but it was unrequited.

Man. I had something like this when I was 24. She was one of those young looking hotties around. I get your emotional shock but you are super lucky. I also lost my virginity with that hottie. She was …

r/relationshipscomment3/17/2026
r/relationship_advicecomment3/17/2026
How do I (F26) talk to my partner (M33) about casual misogyny?

Uh, what? She said he had no female friends. The use of female as an adjective is completely normal and unproblematic. Referring to woman as "females" (i.e. using it as a noun) is where the red flag g…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/19/2026
How do I (F26) talk to my partner (M33) about casual misogyny?

Hello. Sure thing. https://stanmed.stanford.edu/how-mens-and-womens-brains-are-different/ https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6418873/ http://www.conte.harvard.edu/news/2015/6/5/brain-cells-t…

r/relationship_advicecomment3/19/2026
I was the husband who didn't do enough. Sharing my perspective

Sure ask my anything :). I don't blame you I find it disgusting the amount of garbage I throw out but I'm barely surviving as it is. Minimalism is very appealing to me and we have accidentally create…

r/Divorcecomment3/19/2026
The Gift of Fear by Gavin De Becker

The author of this book is male, and he comments on how the majority of the predators in the book are male. He states yes males can be victims and females predators, but **it's statistically not the n…

r/CPTSDcomment3/19/2026
Out of curiosity, do your parents even fit the "demanding in-law" stereotype?"

You're right, and because you're right, that easily make AM one of the best dating partners in US dating market, white men know it too, but they do not want you to be the top choice over them, so they…

r/AsianMasculinitycomment3/20/2026
Saw my ex after 4 months

It’s was only your turn. They are for everyone. Just move on. Have that mindset and you won’t get hurt. None of these females are loyal. 90% of the married ones cheat.

r/BreakUpscomment3/21/2026
"You'll find someone eventually"

I don't believe anyone is in a "deserving" scenario. Each of us makes choices in life, and where we are each day is a byproduct of countless previous decisions..... both those we calculated, and thos…

r/datingoverfortycomment3/23/2026