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First -- it's a man, not a male. It's cringe to talk about women as "females" or about men as "males", don't do that. But secondly -- you have more agency than this. You say that ***"I feel it will m…
Success Story: FA/Disorganized Attachment Healing Roadmap, Resource Recommendations — **Hello, fellow Fearful Avoidants! The below post has grown out of almost 3 years of research and healing this attachment style, which in my case was coupled with Relationship OCD (ROCD). ROCD is a vi…
My mother sent my childhood abuser to my home, after I have been successful at making sure he never knows where I live. — Conversation is below. I have been very careful making sure my brother never knows where I live, as he beat me as a child so much police intervened and I was such a mess I was mandated to go to thera…
Why are my intimate relationships so rough? (unhealthy relationship w/ the masculine?) — I have a pattern of being in highly codependent relationships and usually I’m the one displaying avoidant toxic traits, and I can feel very strong masculinity even as I identify as female. My current …
the narcissist catchphrase bingo list — edit 1: jesus christ my initial 32 I wrote already look like they arent a lot lmao (the comments in total added 45 UNIQUE PHRASES HOLY JESUS) , okay heres the updated list (most of the updates will be…
How to handle this stoically? — Hi everyone. I've been reading books about Stoicism for a couple of years now, plus, more importantly, I've read Marcus, Epictetus, and a decent chunk of Seneca. I feel like I've taken in a fair bit a…
Just figured out she was cheating today — So there's a long story, I met this girl a almost a month ago, she still to this day was the most beautiful woman ever, I love her so much. I was surprised I got her attention and quickly we got into …
I’m a shitty person, my demons are haunting me, and I don’t know how to deal with these emotions. [24 F] — I \[24F\] just got dumped by my boyfriend \[21M\] after 3.5 years. It all started in high school when we met. However, we didn’t start dating until late 2022. We set up boundaries and we both agreed…
Confused — So the day he broke up with me he unfollowed me on everything (and I mean like 30 minutes after he left, he unfollowed all my accounts). And yet, he checks my Tiktok profile almost every day and views…
Question for females: How do you manage to manifest before or during your period? — I’m working on a manifestation right now. I want to get this job, but I’m struggling to keep my mind positive because I feel sad and depressed due to PMS. How do you handle it? I’ve tried eating swee…
my 32f boyfriend 30m has a bit of an extreme anime interest, and i’m not sure if it’s a deal breaker. — we have been together for 3 years and during the first year i could tell that he is really into anime.. like more than anyone i’ve ever known. it seemed a little extreme but i like some anime too so i…
I feel hurt and don’t know what to do. — \*\*TL;DR;\*\*: Girl is making relationship difficult . Me (22M) and partner (22F) have been dating for 4 months now. When we first met is was very nice and the freshness of it all made it exciting, …
I 19M have people constantly talking bad about me and my 20F gf — It’s been a long going thing with people who are all males and are all around 1-4 years older than me all I think out of jealousy chatting bad about my gf and being rude and horrible about her and to …
hi — what if you have to go a place called your own "university" after sometime just because you have a mid term exam and just after seeing the gate you realized where all of your trauma came... by covert …
How to determine if your spouse is likely to be younger than you.(An important astrological analysis.) — In astrology the birth chart often highlights patterns that deviate from what is socially considered “normal.” For men marrying a younger spouse is quite common so the chart usually does not emphasize…
How to determine if your spouse is likely to be younger than you.(An important astrological analysis.) — In astrology the birth chart often highlights patterns that deviate from what is socially considered “normal.” For men marrying a younger spouse is quite common so the chart usually does not emphasize…
My bf made a secret X/Twitter account for yk what. — I need some outside perspective on this because I’m feeling conflicted. My bf (we’ve been together 5 years) made a secret X/Twitter account where he follows porn accounts and girls who post nudes/vid…
23F &23M dont know how to naturally have a formal and healthy relationship? — **Clarification:** Just for obeying the rules, I added 23M. I’m actually 23F and not in any relationship. I’m a postgraduate student, and I have never had a formal relationship. I’ve only experienc…
Trying to help a friend through their resurfaced trauma — Trigger warning for rape. This is a post about a friend, so not sure how appropriate it is to post here. On throwaway account, so not sure if I'll come back to this. I'm new to reddit, so sorry if I …
my IMPOSSIBLE LIFE AND HOW I'M TRYING TO MAKE IT OKAY-ISH TO LIVE — Hi, I’m 16(F) going on 17, this september, and…I have a lot of issues, I’d consider this as a vent post, but I’m also going to be needing a sprinkle of advice and support. Today, yeah, around 6:30 am…
No contact is the only way to heal — Hi everyone, I hope you are doing well. I've posted a couple of times on this subreddit about my break up (worst break up ever). To cut a long story short: Two best friends (both females) unexpected…
The universe feels evil to me — I am not sure about how I wanna express this but I just cannot pinpoint to a reason for the things that happened to me. starting from when i was 15, everything took on a wrong turn. got hidradenitis…
Any Asians figured out how to make social circle game work for meeting women? — Most of my results come from online dating + cold approaching with good friends/fellow Asian bros. I rarely get results from social circle from white women, mainly black arab and sometimes Asian but …
Why do I keep encountering these karmic females that give me attention first but dont want to do anything with me?
I 27/F need advice about my 29/M boyfriend. Is he planning on leaving or? — I need a males POV please So it’s bit of a long story but i will kinda keep it short. We broke up back in June of 2025 but we were still sleeping together up until January. Last week of January he to…
He Won’t Accept The Breakup — So I (28F) tried breaking up with him (26M) last night. I was crying hysterically and honestly had a mental break down. It wasn’t good at all. Reason was because I found out he was using a dating app,…
My (30F) ex husband (34M) is obsessed with me. How do I handle this with minimal damage? — This is an.. interesting situation im having. My (30F) ex husband (33M) and i have been divorced for about 6 years. I am remarried, and he, we will call him B, is still dating the woman he cheated on …
How can I change for the better? — Warning: massive essay (life story) incoming. My profile should be open, so you could maybe browse what I’ve said earlier. They can be a little too much, and I can be judgmental sometimes. Some posts …
'People do not care as much what you say, but rather how you make them feel'. Do most neurotypicals believe this madness? — 36M, formally diangosed with autism, OCD, GAD, social anxiety. I have heard this saying so many times, especially amongst neurotypicals. Why in the hell do people think like this? Where is the thres…
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I feel this. as a female FA who leans anxious (specifically towards men) I can relate a lot because in my female friendships, a lot of the time you're expected to be an emotional rock all the time for…
(DA hard pattern female here) From my perspective that issues is more down to what a human has learned up to this moment - or not. A lot men grew up with mothers/females that took care of health issu…
I think that hook up culture doesn't lead to anything good and I am sort of fed up that world is these days one massive hook up culture. I know few people who immediately after they go through break u…
Some excellent points, you know who would love this? r/menandfemales
Same experience for me. For both genders females and male. Especially females (but that is because my female friends were just better at getting casual sex). I have struggled with the same thing. I am…
the two genders, females and men
He calls women "females", demeans women's emotions, and made up a fake scenario that would never play out in real life, nobody sane is going to make fun of you for being sad a pet died. Its incel tal…
Hi everyone. I’m posting here because I genuinely want outside perspective and grounded advice, not validation. Background I (male, 22) have known my partner (female, 19) for about 3.5 years. We are…
Nothing wrong with your expectations.... it's just that others may find them unreasonable in the early stages of dating, because for most people, a first date is a casual experience. I think you're …
'Real females' yikes lmao
>I mean it's definitely a red flag to me and I'm a dude. I don't know any guys who don't listen to incel shit who say female. Like yeah I'm sure he picked it up from somewhere, like a shithead prodcas…
Question for other males: How often do you get a match or a message on the dating sites? How often does that actually lead to a date? I tried bumble for a 1+ year and never got a match or message. I …
Hi: I 32m and secure attachments and I tend to date alot of AP females. The love of my life is an AP attachment. She’s not borderline because of 1) she only does it to me and 2) she does it because of…
honestly, I dont think there's much feedback (on my end). It could just be a location or algorithm thing. Possssibly you are a little intimidating to some males, but no way that is the reason you are …
I don't think you have to date someone younger. Actually I think it's a really good "sign " that you just want to date a woman your age. I think as females age, (I am 32) they can be scared that a men…
Hey thank you. Do you think I am just not the best looker than? Or are the algorithms really just working against males that much? Or a combo? 1-2 years never getting a match or message seems extreme.…
That's why I made the comparison to a college girl on a supermarket run. I've seen males and females style and put on a good outfit with leggings/sweat pants and a top like a sweater. But all 3 times,…
That's why I made the comparison to a college girl on a supermarket run. I've seen males and females style and put on a good outfit with leggings/sweat pants and a top like a sweater. But all 3 times,…
Why did they cheat, it is the not knowing/understanding why that matters most. https://www.newsweek.com/why-people-cheat-relationships-infidelity-reasons-1688541 Here's Why People Cheat on Those The…
Mental illness in general does not spare anyone. Humans are judgemental by nature because that's how they survived at the very early stages of human existence. Now that judgement is used to ostracize…
First of all.. lemme just say this. This isn't something men do along. Both males and females do this, once they're doing the dumping. In the dumper mind, they think they're free but time would revea…
Christian ideals have great principles for how to treat females with love and respect (and others). The way of giving yourself to your partner in a moral way. I don't say you have to wait for marriage…
If your upfront and honest about it I don’t think it’s a big deal. I a male 23 at the time gave it to my hinge date same thing as you really. But I she was just happy I told her rather then didn’t whi…
Times have changed. It's cool to embrace your culture and ethnicity now, since the 2010s, it seems. As a 2nd gen, genxer who grew up in a KKK town, even without being authentically Asian I was constan…
I would say overall, leaning towards a disadvantage, but that margin is becoming smaller and smaller everyday. I love Asian men, and definitely consider them my type. I find it really daunting and sca…
My guess is he cheated with someone who he felt was "more exciting" (or at least will be during the newness phase... And rather than cop to his wrongdoings and I have to take accountability and be lab…
Sun conjuncts Jupiter and Venus and Mercury in Scorpio here. Big personality, and in the 10th house even... Have had a bit of trouble with humility at workplaces. Or rather, they have trouble with…
That's not even the worst part of it. The people who are making those claims about elite tutoring services are also pushing the stereotype that "Asians are good at math", which also means that "Asian…
It's racism, but that's not the real story. Stuyvesant used to be mainly Jewish males. The people complaining about the current demographics are almost always Jewish parents, and they're pushing the…
From a guys perspective that's enough flags. At our age we all enough nearly have kids and baggage. Finances, can be hard but managed. But if dating a woman with kids, they are part of her. So that an…
MMA is taking off in Asia but mainstream media isn't interested because it perpetuates "toxic masculinity". 🙄 K-pop does well because there's an entire industry that grooms them from middle school …
Sorry I'm dyslexic. Sometimes I write things funny. I don't think it would be unfair to say that a large proportion of females think that weddings should cost quite a lot of money.
I love beta males, I just don’t know how to find them.
thats why u dont get dates, or find dates. u put yourself in a position where u atract females, or place urself in a situation where females notice u
I'm a 1.5th Gen East Asian American and a Gen Z, Idk if your definition of boy would fit for teenager? Or just kid under age 12? I came to US around 13 so already a teenager, I went to a middle class…
Well most of the guys whom I've talked to here were males only. So just assumed like that. Nothing else!
Well, when your primary consideration for something is based on race, that is literally racist. And also, the gay thing is way overdone when it comes to Asian males. It is very tiresome. Also, by mak…
I can't help you figure out where to find leftist males but I can tell you this... As a Straight Conservative Male, any "conservative man" who replies to an OLD profile of a female who lists HER "p…
body fat % of 15.8 is actually LOW for females.
I just noticed. Usually this would not apply for female charts, but because you are Aries ascendent, there is still chance for foreign partner / cast / religion. Still good in writing etc. Venus beha…
That’s how I deal with so called “alpha males” and gym bro bullies. I know there will come a day where the universe will make them fat and bald. Every mean comment they make is one less hair follicle …
Yes, early 20s is the age when schizophrenia usually manifests in males. Contact his family. You can't handle this alone.
Yet, males blame everything on the women in their pathetic lives. They need to step the fuck up.
dogs. a good father. something funny or unique in their profile- my guy had that one of his life goals was to be a Canadian Tire product tester. someone who likes a project/ is handy. that inte…
Unfortunately no. Because I made the decision to end the marriage I cannot then make a decision to reconcile. It’s pathetic and shows wishy washy actions. And i made the decision because she isn’t abl…
"I’ve always stated that porn isn’t an issue. I’ve had past relationships where it definitely evolved into an issue, but as long as my partner is being open and honest abt watching it - then I couldn’…
Not to even mention that quite a handful of those quiet nerdy Asian guys have absolutely hot Asian girlfriends too. One can blame a subset of Asian females for having a serious unhealthy racial bias i…
This guy has problematic relationship with her mother... Whether he agrees about that or not is secondary .. but he has certain bad childhood with mother. Like mom not taking extra care or not prov…
I mean I've never heard that assumption, generally Asian males are either exclusively single or with other Asian women (which is slowly shrinking because most Asian females get with white men, and mos…