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Hm, to me, I would take his stance on your male friends feeling and thinking a certain way toward you as projection of his own thoughts and feelings toward women. If he lacks either the imagination o…

Is there a reason why Wordpress permalink: website.com/post-name would be better than website.com/blog/post-name? — I just noticed that my website's permalink structure was set to [`website.com/post-name`](http://website.com/post-name) instead of [website.com/blog/post-name](http://website.com/blog/post-name). I as…

Why do MNCs seem to avoid the MERN stack? — I've been working with the MERN stack for a few years and noticed it's quite popular among startups and smaller tech firms. However, when I look at job openings in MNCs, I rarely see MERN listed—most …

A great copywriter is worth their weight in gold — I've been building brands for 15 years. If you just got your first $20k-$100k budget to build your brand/web/app, let me humbly offer you a tip: # In 2025, the #1 thing that will affect how 'pro' you…

Mostly healed, but I can’t stop walking on eggshells before I trust a new date (anxious-ambivalent) — Edit: I’m single but I’ve dated guys online. I’ve changed almost all of my symtoms from anxious-ambivalent to secure attachment. When I first start text someone romantically however, it’s all good un…

What qualities to look for in a therapist — Previously, I had been working with a somatic therapist for 6 years (on trauma healing, not specifically attachment related) and a few months ago they closed their practice for personal reasons on *ve…

Can I get some assurance from reformed people pleasers 🥲? — And some advice? Not necessarily on "what to do" because I know how to set boundaries in theory. It's managing the guilt and fear of fallout that I struggle with and I do because all my life any time …

Did anyone elses parents correct your reality growing up? — I just realised that whenever i would be upset and overwhelmed because of my parents pressuring me constnatly they would instead tell me that i am feelig overwhlemed because i am just too overwhelmed …

Why Manifestation can FEEL Forced and Unrealistic (Success & Guidance) — Today I came upon a realization that many people do not have for most of their lives. It was the realization that our feelings and the meanings that we attach to them are also affirmations. Right no…

How come everyone has a different view of what stoicism truly is? — Been lurking this sub for a while and I’ve noticed nearly every question has multiple people giving answers as to what stoicism “truly” is, or is in actuality/practice, but Ive also noticed a lot of t…

A person who DMed me for support replied to my latest problem with "LOL". I am livid. — I can't believe people are still acting like this to me whenever I feel low. This is the reason why people are hopeless nowadays, you treat them like a punchline. I'm sorry, but this is absolutely un…

My ex called me a “walking green flag” when we first started dating, and then I ruined it all — I can’t live with myself. I hate how relationships sometimes bring out the worst in people. I went from the best boyfriend (my first relationship too) and now it’s been 3 months since the breakup and …

Husband suddenly wants to end our marriage and says it’s because of sex. We have a toddler. I also discovered he’s been dishonest about where he’s been. Looking for perspective. — I’m 39F and my husband (34M) and I have been married a little over 3 years. We have a toddler (2). Recently, completely out of nowhere, he told me he thinks we’re “not compatible” and started talking…

The most disgusting thing they do. — Im sure I’m not the only one who has experienced this.. The most disgusting thing that my ex has done is made be believe I could trust him. We were friends for years prior to us dating, and he would …

I got into medical school but my mother is still ashamed. — I (24f, Filipino) recently got accepted to medical school away from home. For context, I had a conditional acceptance for my local medical school that did not work out in the end. After 3 cycles and 4…

Easiest way to Lucid Dream — I’ll keep this short and simple. Stay awake all day. No naps. Do whatever you normally do all day. Do not think about sleep until you are at the point where you’re struggling to keep your eyes open, …

Do you know the reason WHY have you been contacted? — Hi everyone! I am curious of the answer of those who have had contact with non-human intelligence and was told the reason by these beings why they are reaching out to that particular person? Especial…

Spent money on clothes, grooming, and a Miami photoshoot for dating apps. Still getting weak matches. What am I missing? — I’m frustrated because I actually put real effort into this. I didn’t just throw up random selfies and then complain. I bought better clothes, changed my hair, spent money on grooming, flew to Miami,…

Important research statistics on contact experiences — Many people aren’t aware of the research that has been done on contact experiences. People often seem at least somewhat familiar with a few of the big names from early on (Budd Hopkins, John E. Mack, …

Why it works. — The reason why letting go makes it manifest faster is because you no longer hold it. I was manifesting my sp and I was so desperate and needy and of course I was not able to manifest him. But when I …

WARNING do NOT do the whimhoff breathing exercise while DRIVING! (I crashed) — Before I tell the story of what happened to me let me explain what the whimhoff breathing exercise is. Take quick super deep breaths around 20 times and hold the last breath as long as you can then e…

How Neville Manifested His Marriage - Do Not Meddle In The Middle. — **For Those Who Need...** From Neville's Audio Lecture. The verbatim from Neville's Lecture (*Updated*) : *“When I decided to marry the lady who now bears my name I applied this principle. At the t…

The real reason you want your ex back. — This is going to be short and brutal. Your ex broke up with you; this hurts. It came out of left field. You are using no contact to get them back? Don't. You need to use no contact to focus on yours…

My Boyfriend (28M) thinks the reason why he can't finish is because I'm (20F) too big from the inside. — (English isn't my first language) This is a bit personal, but I'm from a very conservative locality so I have no one to talk to. My boyfriend of 2 years has been great in the bed during the early sta…

No need to overthink it — When it comes to getting your desires, we tend to overthink them at times. “Does this really work? Will it happen? When will it happen? Do I need to do xyz to get my desires? What if what if what if.”…

This was what I said when we met up a week later after she said she would’ve married me while breaking up with me. Only reason we met up was cuz I asked if she was serious ab what she said and she said “yes. I would’ve married you” — I’ve had a lot of time to really think about and indulge in what happened to cause this. You are right. I shouldn’t have added her back. But what you’re wrong about is what you think what was said aft…

I don’t want to cling onto this situation — 24F. I’ll try to make this short. My ex boyfriend broke up with me in November. I keep having breakdowns and so on. The reason why I’m posting this is that, almost a year ago (before meeting my ex) i…

tw: abuse — hi. id like to start off by saying i was in a 9 year relationship with my ex. he was my best friend. i guess i’ll say everything good about us first. we laughed a lot, played a ton of video games toge…

Profile pics with partial few of their face — I matched with someone who has several photos but only partial pictures of her face. Like she's trying to hide her full identity. Her bio seems legit and mentions she's not big on lots of messaging …

M26 F24 How do I move past my boyfriend ruining sex for me? — When I met my boyfriend, I had just recently left my teens and hadn’t been with anyone in a while. My libido was high, and we used to have sex pretty often. Once we got into a serious relationship, t…

Just Deactivated all of my Social Media Platforms. Super bored. — Hi friend, Yesterday, I deactivated all of my social platforms (except Reddit of course). The reason why I did this is because being on social media has taken a massive toll on my mental health. Th…

Have I 22F have destroyed my boyfriend 24M and I's sex life? — EDIT: I was not expecting to receive this many comments and am sorry for the lack of response. I’ve been very busy with work the last 12 hours and will try my best to respond as soon as possible. (I…

Husband tried going through my phone with no reason why — I told him about 3 weeks ago that I was done and wanted a divorce. Since then, he's FINALLY been putting in effort, but it's too late. It shouldn't take me planning to leave for you to want to sleep w…

27 M my first gf left me for another man. — I don’t have my first relationship until I was 24. I met her (let’s call her Ashley) while working fast food after I stopped going to college due to Covid & tuition. She was a typical alternative type…

Do you guys say goodbye before unmatching? — Hi beautiful people, As an empty nester, 43F, Bumble and Hinge user, I'm finding myself in situations where I match with a gent, and have an interesting back and forth and great vibe, which starts pe…

Been struggling with the question of her being a narc or me coming on too strong and chasing her away? — \*\*I am sorry if this the wrong place to post this but I could use some perspective.\*\* First time dealing with a girl who may have been a narc. We met about 2 years ago during a visit to her home …

Asian Men Low Testosterone — [https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/testosterone-levels-by-country](https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/testosterone-levels-by-country) I've been edging to make this po…

What is my (35M) role in my parents (69F)(80M) dispute about chickens — I bought a large property with my elderly parents. I have a house in the back half of the lot and they live up in the front house. Since we have a few acres I thought it would be fun to get a few chic…

What are some crazy things you did to gain more freedom while living with your APs? — For the life of me I cannot remember the name of the post, but I came across a post on this subreddit on how the OP used to fight back (physically) with the parents and I think they stopped hitting th…

Manifestation shouldn't be this hard .... What's the real reason why some people are feeling stuck while others seem to have a great life, almost effortlessly? — If you have been trying to attract more money, a better relationship, or simply a life that does not feel so incredibly hard all the time, and nothing is working - then you need to stop what you are d…

My implant experience. — My abduction story: https://www.reddit.com/r/Experiencers/s/xQyjzIRjiQ This is one of several experiences I’ve had after my abduction. For context, the abduction itself happened in 2018, and this pa…

I think all my relationships may be codependent — I was writing notes for how I was feeling last night for my next therapy session when I realized what I wrote sounded incredibly codependent. My seven year relationship had ended about a month ago, w…

why are asian parents like this — ​ Me (filipino 20M) and my gf (italian 21M) we've been together for almost 3 years. We were both born and raised in Italy, and living in two different cities. We had some ups and downs during …

it feels like therapy doesn't work for me — i'm going to try not to make this a lengthy post but I have a lot of issues. I grew up in an extremely emotionally, mentally, verbally abusive home and now I suffer from an autoimmune disease,cptsd, a…

What are boundaries? — I (M,35) have just recently been the victim of a 6 month EA from my wife (F,35) with an older man. Sometimes I feel like we play opposite gender stereotypes. I feel so hurt by what's happened and ha…

I want to know if my ex was a narcissist or not - examples — He was divorced with kids at 33yo. He told me in the beginning that he would marry again and would be open to having another kid, he knew early on that I wouldn’t be interested in a relationship with …

How do you get over letting them get away with it all? — The full extent of my ex's cheating wasn't clear to me until months after we broke up. He was on FEELD for our entire relationship but I didn't realize that because I didn't even know what FEELD was u…

How do I stop being an alien? — All my life, I have felt alien around other people. I am fairly certain of the reason why, as I have been diagnosed with autism for the majority of my lifespan. I have always watched movies where the…

All roads lead to Rome, huh? — Update to this [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/1sahmmf/this_is_it_my_final_day/). Basically, I was ready to leave. So, it's been three days since I made the post, and a l…

When should I recontact my ex? — Im trying to decide on the best time to recontact my ex. She broke up with me after being dry for a couple of days saying that she thought that we were incompatible in the way we talk when we were aro…

I’ve had a change in outlook recently, especially in terms of my self loathing and it’s weird. — So I’ve been thinking really heavily about my life recently and how much I hate myself, but more specifically my past experiences - especially at high school. One night my brain just started thinking…

>Correction: Neville taught to “feel as if”. There were many New Thought authors that taught their students to “act as if”, but Neville primarily taught how to impress your subconscious mind using sle…

Respectfully, this is what happens when you only focus on material aspects and totally disregard the "spiritual woo woo." I'm not saying everyone ever needs to be enlightened, but there's a reason why…

I'd just tag on that posters pay attention to all advice posted, regardless of the upvotes/downvotes. The hivemind here can be brutal. This is PARTICULARLY problematic when advice gets legal advice …

Hi, sorry for the long response but please bear with me. TLDR at the bottom. You are slightly correct, but drug addiction posts will also more than likely be removed. 1- There is actually another…

Love the question!! You don’t need a relationship to grow, that’s the beauty of it (you can but it will be slower, depending on what kind of partner you end up with) You could try to explore being mo…

>I get why this sub advocates for SM methods over CM methods, and I absolutely agree that it’s better for beginners, but the problem with exclusively doing this is that you can do all of the work laid…

There is obviously some way in which this happens. If there wasn't, it wouldn't be possible to write a book called POSM and to have it work for untalented beginners for generations. If you read the i…

You will find the answer here - Moonlight Mailed Me ! : The No1 reason why people fail with their alpha programming. *Hi Everybody, I am one of moonlight's new cubs and his best for sure. I have a …

IMO shops that want per hour accounting like this are doing themselves a disservice. A lot of my best work comes when I am not "on the clock". There is a reason knowledge positions exist. If I was ask…

There’s a No Doubt song called Open the Gate that I recently realized must be about a DA too: “I see you from a distance From beyond the fence you’ve made Hiding all your feelings Behind your barrica…

Everyone is different, what applies to you wouldn’t for other people. I know anxiously attached + FAs with anxious lean, and they go crazy if I’m just a little quiet one day. Anxious people aren’t al…

This post takes 5 different topics and mixes them together into a mess which would confuse someone who's new to the Law of Belief and Joseph Murphys teachings. 1.Taking conventional action towards y…

A big reason why therapists can be so helpful is because they show us different perspectives. Few people have truly changed completely in isolation. I hope you are able to try it at some point, it can…

this is the question you need to ask yourself OP. and, fix the reason why you reciprocate avoidants’ interest.

There’s probably a reason for the deactivation, like a boundary of yours was crossed or you felt disrespected or you think the relationship is moving too quickly— something like that. Imo the most i…

Your post is a month old with 251~ comments. my reply is probably going to go into the wind. I'm gay so I can't really comment on dating women but I also feel avoidants is super common in the dating p…

The reason why you keep posting this

To make sure I’m interpreting this right - you were loving one day, and then the next day you woke up feeling afraid that your trust in him was misplaced? Did he do anything between those two events t…

I tend to choose avoidants because at the very beginning of the relationships they are super invested and act basically like AA's. Reading more about attachment theory now, I understand that it's the …

I feel you First of all yes it’s SO hard to not act on it but in my opinion really well done for that. In my opinion it seems we get triggered by the “change of behaviour”, as in: - we texted oft…

i guess this is why i think you should stop trying to analyze it at all. you dont ACTUALLY know how he behaves with the others, and the WHY can never be answered. it really hurts I know, I have OCD an…

Fights happen in different ways each time. I learned to be patient right afterward to give us space. But sometimes he ignores me/takes some distance from me for what seems like forever (hours, a day o…

Is there a reason why you try to read their mind instead of communicating directly to ask clarifying questions?

About a year ago, we got new seasonal hires at my job. One of them ended up being this woman. I usually chitchat with new hires if they have questions regarding the job and that’s about it. I would ch…

I feel really immature for writing this: I try to figure out how to deal with mixed feelings of longing/jealousy, which creeps up on me sometimes. I feel jealous of my friends who are happily engaged…

I know this is an old post, I was searching FA on this sub and yours really piqued my interest. I don’t think I was ever that much of a FA except for when I was a teenager, I had childhood trauma and …

Thank you for responding to me. Making this post was incredibly embarrassing for me because this entire situation feels absurd and the fact that it’s making me spiral so much has been really confusing…

I guess that’s exactly the reason why I’m asking if time will help. I’m deciding if it would be better for my nervous system to walk away. I could see talking to him for years just for friendly banter…

This is possibly an unpopular opinion, but what's been helping me a lot is an exposure therapy approach -- doing my best to embrace the discomfort of the situation (in this case, I'm assuming it would…

Completely untrue for me. If your only source for this is chatgpt, please dont believe that. Ive never seen an avoidant including Dismissive Avoidant people describe their relationships this way. What…

when i'm alone, i feel immense peace. when im with someone who i don't want to be with, it's either visceral disgust, hyper irritation, and the need to leave. when im not with someone and just thinkin…

I used to be DA, now pretty secure. One thing I want to note is that a big part of avoidance is that we often look to "objective" measures of things to live our lives instead of touching in on our own…

Sometimes I’m aware of my body physcially tensing up, like around my adobemen , spine and ribs. And my thoughts quickly dart away from the feeling and my brains like nope! When I’ve managed to overrid…

I’ll admit, I’m not some manifestation master as I still consider myself a beginner. That manifestation is really the only significant one I achieved. I basically only have that one under my belt. B…

Here's my thoughts after being on this subreddit for a while, and I am someone who has been daily practicing for the past 8+ months with no physical results. 1. Maladaptive daydreaming proves that ma…

Because they're probably in the talking stage with multiple people, and they likely found someone who they think they have a better connection with or are more attracted to. Or they were already on th…

I mean what is the fear that is at the root of this belief. Is there a reason why you haven’t developed close friends? What is holding you back? You can’t control other people but you can control you…

In your opinion, is the lack of physical touch at a coffee date one reason why you're not developing that connection to the other person? Whether it is romantic and emotional or physical and sexual? I…

It's not that there *isn't* talk about interdependence or co-regulation. I agree that more conversations about community and the importance of social bonds are taking place now. How we metabolize cult…

You are not alone. There was probably a reason why you stayed, something the relationship gave you, something you needed to learn, etc. It was still a meaningful relationship, even when it didn't end …

What type of therapy do you go to? With how you describe your internal thought process, and correct me if I am wrong, but it sounds like you're very consciously aware of how you feel internally. Whi…

Personally? I don't stay in contact with my exes. Nor do I have any desire to spend time with them. It's also a reason why I'm very picky about who I date in general.

It's not wrong to want to date someone based on mutual attraction, but what you seem to be missing is that there is a lot more to attraction than just the physical. Sure, physical attraction can be th…

So I thought I’d make a post here just for the heck of it. Curious what others have to say… I’ve been casually keeping in touch with someone for over 2 months now. There’s a reason why I say “keeping…

I’m afraid I’ll be alone forever bc I’m too selective and/or not attracted to anyone. 😩 And even if they are attractive, I will always find a reason why it won’t work out with someone before they eve…

Wow, I bow before this very scientific-minded deconstruction of this situation as described by some particularly mope-y fellow. Of course you are absolutely right that my "lens" through which I perce…

I don't agree with this. Obviously many people are like that but you can also find people who prefer casual but also want it to be respectful, intimate, etc. There's no reason why casual needs to be d…

Gotta add, I'm a woman, but my brain works like yours - if we are a good match and have chemistry, I don't see how I could not connect emotionally to that person sooner or later. But the last guy I we…

"Don't be creepy" isn't helpful. The reason why guys who aren't creeps come across as creeps is the fear of being creepy. If you get out of your head and don't worry about how you're perceived, you're…

Hey. I went down the attachment theory rabbit hole for a while after my guy dumped me last year, looking for a reason why I wasn't good enough, what I did wrong. We had a couple chats after our breaku…