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Why is healing from a discard taking longer than the relationship itself? It was only 2 months — I'm 3 months out from a discard with a suspected covert narcissist, but we only dated for 2 months. Is it normal for it to take longer to get over the discard than the time we dated? It feels kind of …
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My arguments against manifestation — 1. **Maladaptive daydreaming proves that manifestation isn't real**; Manifestation doctrine teaches that what you focus on expands and manifests in your physical reality. Do not split hairs and try to…
How to heal avoidant attachment? — Uhhhh hey gang. Formerly severe fearful avoidant here. The attachment quizzes put everyone somewhere on a quadrant, with the bottom being high avoidance and the right high anxiety. So I was farrrr in …
Confused about affirmations — Hey guys i am confused about self concept and beliefs. Like i am currently unemployed and want a remote job i have few beliefs like i dont have the right network connections I need to get skilled a lo…
(Desktop design) managing overall width vs images vs text container width — I am trying to figure out how to combine best practices for the following things and would love some advice on a few questions. This is for desktop devices. **What I am struggling with is:** * Ensur…
Web Programming Languages Cheat Sheets - JV Codes 2025 — Are you tired of repeatedly searching for the same code on Google? Don’t worry—we’ve got your back! The page serves as a central location to find ready-operational cheatsheets regarding [programming l…
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Web developer here, what should i learn besides UI/UX to create my own layouts for my websites? — Being more of a back-end focused developer, i struggle to create layouts of my own. Now, i know how CSS works, if you give me a layout to implement i can most likely do that, given the right amount o…
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How much web design experience did you have when landing your first job? — Just curious, when y'all landed your first web design job did you feel like you had the right experience already? Currently searching for my first full-time web design job. I graduated with an Associa…
When does maximising space/reducing elements go too far? — I'm working on an eCommerce site at the moment, and when it comes to the product category pages, I've had some feedback from my senior to suggest that space needs to be used more efficiently. To name…
Struggling to grow a small brand organically—what actually worked for you? — Hey everyone, I’ve been working on growing a small e-commerce brand for the past 8 months—nothing huge, just a niche lifestyle product I really believe in. I’ve been mostly focusing on Instagram and T…
Need Help with SEO for medium-sized e-commerce sites — I own a medium-sized e-commerce website, and we’ve never really focused on SEO. Yep, we've mainly relied on paid ads, but traffic is getting more expensive, so we’re ready to take SEO seriously now. I…
Total Newb: Backlinks & keyword research — I’m trying to launch my new company website and really don’t have the budget to pay someone to do socials and the website. Been building it out myself on Wordpress with the help of AIOSEO plugins. …
How to handle versioning in Figma? — I joined a project where the figma doesn’t match what is in the field for a mobile application. The project wants to re-baseline the app to what is in the field and keep up to date in the future. F…
What to Say When You’re Not the Cheapest Option (And Someone Pushes Back on Price) — I will not promote. This is a best practice I've found in my own works.So, you’re having a great conversation with a potential client and then you get hit with that line: “I know someone who can do it…
Is there a UX role in existence that doesn't involve so much documentation? — So I come from a background in design. I was a bit of a generalist before—branding, logos, layouts, art direction—and while that was fun, it started to feel fragile. Like I was always one trend away f…
Offering Options to offshore engineer. I will not promote — I have a startup. obviously. anyhow, my company is in Canada. I have this developer in Vietnam, and he is pretty good! I pay him decently for his hours, but as a founder, I feel like i want to offer …
Transition into a different role — Career Summary Masters in Design got me campus placed in a MNC. 2 years of UX in enterprise and I did an internal switch. Although my role is of UX Designer, the scope of work I do is mostly with educ…
[I will not promote] i built a tool to help with affiliate outreach because i kept forgetting to follow up — hey folks just wanted to share something i’ve been building on the side i’ve been trying to grow an affiliate program for a while but finding the right people is tough outreach feels like yellin…
Thoughts on a platform that can give AI suggestions layered on top of product documentation (i will not promote) — **AI suggestions layered on top of product documentation** Hey r/startups, I’m exploring a product idea and would love to hear your thoughts. **The problem:** Many users land in product documenta…
Need Guidance for Amazon Systems/DevOps Engineer Interview (Cloud Support Background) — Hope you're all doing well. I'm currently working as a Cloud Support Engineer and have managed to land an interview with Amazon for a Systems/DevOps Engineer role. While I’m excited, I’m also feelin…
[I will not promote] curious does affiliate marketing still work for early stage startups? — hey folks just wanted to share something i’ve been building on the side i’ve been trying to grow an affiliate program for a while but finding the right people is tough outreach feels like yelling in…
Where to get started — Hello, I’m a long time admirer of this form. I’m a “junior devops engineer” in the financial field that was a previous mid-level, sulfur engineer, I’ve been doing so-called devops work for about a yea…
To all the scrum masters/PMs: Would you use an AI that joins meetings, takes notes, and assigns tasks to the right teammate automatically? I will not promote — Hi! I’ve been thinking about a recurring pain I see in most teams — meetings generate lots of discussion and action items, but someone still has to take notes, track tasks, and figure out who shoul…
Different Businesses Need Different Content Formats – Here's Why (i will not promote) — Hey everyone! One thing I see often overlooked is the fact that **not all businesses need the same type of content formats**. Depending on your target audience and the type of business you run, the …
HELP? FAVICON — hello, no idea if this is the right sub to ask this and if it isn’t please lead me to it but : HOW DO I change my website’s (shopify) favicon so it shows on google ? please? It shows when you click…
Seeking Technical Co-Founder for Fantasy Football Punishment Platform (I will not promote) — Hey everyone, I’m in the process of building an exciting startup focused on **fantasy football** and I’m looking for a **technical co-founder** to join me and help bring this idea to life. The core i…
Is WooCommerce the Right Fit for Your Wholesale Business? — If you're a wholesaler considering WooCommerce for your B2B operations, it's essential to weigh its capabilities against your business needs. Here's a concise breakdown based on insights from Qoblex :…
Need Advice: 3x Salary Offer for Fullstack Role, But It’s a One-Man Show. Go for it? — Hi. Everyone. Please bear with me, I hope this is the right place to ask. I’m currently a jr web developer and have been working in my first proper dev job for almost a year. The pay is on the l…
E-commerce Industry News Recap 🔥 Week of May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/ecommerce \- I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter. Every week for the past 3+ years I've posted a summary recap of the week's top stories…
This Week's Top E-commerce News Stories 💥 May 5th, 2025 — Hi r/Shopify - I'm Paul and I follow the e-commerce industry closely for my Shopifreaks E-commerce Newsletter, which I've published weekly since 2021. I was invited by the Mods of this subreddit to s…
using AI for repurposing our pillar content generated 4 million impressions and hundreds of leads — I recently led a Reddit content repurposing campaign that got over **4 million impressions** and **hundreds of new user signups** for my client. Here's exactly how I did it. # Why Reddit, and why use…
I made $32 after 16 months of coding. Was it all a waste of time? — Over the last 16 months, I’ve done something that sounds cooler than it really is: I built a SaaS. In my free time, at night, on weekends, while everyone else was at the beach or watching Netflix, I …
A great copywriter is worth their weight in gold — I've been building brands for 15 years. If you just got your first $20k-$100k budget to build your brand/web/app, let me humbly offer you a tip: # In 2025, the #1 thing that will affect how 'pro' you…
We Fired a Developer But Not Because He Was Bad, But Because He Wasn't Right. Only 2 Legit Reasons to Fire Anyone. (i will not promote) — After building a small team and running a startup for a while, We’ve come to a hard conclusion: There are only two legitimate reasons to fire someone. 1. They are not the right fit for the company.…
Freemium from day one, free trial, or free for first N users? — Hi all, I am building a productivity app where you can track anything from habits (e.g. Meditate on frequency basis) to events (e.g. Social Dance/Clubbing) to build routines and track what matters to…
Should I hide my plugins in WordPress for safety? And how? — Hey folks, I've been thinking about WordPress security lately and came across this question: **Should I hide the plugins I'm using on my WordPress site to improve safety?** I’m not talking about u…
Seeking WordPress Booking Plugin with Stripe Integration for Card Authorization Without Immediate Charge (no-show fee) — **TL;DR:** *Need a WordPress booking plugin that works with Stripe to: require credit card at booking, do €0 authorization, allow in-person payment, and charge 10% no-show fee later.* I'm currently…
How would I create an active demo section? — https://preview.redd.it/z0zqo2sqq8ze1.png?width=2148&format=png&auto=webp&s=93373216fb9f7e07f32e1d3c4224c444450fc427 Something like this where you click the feature on the left sidebar and a short gi…
Ever feel like you’re doing all the right things in business, but still wrestling with doubt, decision fatigue, or just low-level burnout? — You’ve got the strategy. You’ve read the books. You’re pushing forward... but something’s off. What I’ve noticed in myself (and in others I work with) is this: It’s not always about more knowle…
Modern web dev has me on the ropes — I'm a FED, and I've been helping build websites for 15+ years. Started on LAMP stack, did some Wordpress stuff, but mostly my bread and butter has been FED-heavy, building UIs with HTML, JS, CSS/SASS …
ELI5: What is TDD and BDD? Also, TDD vs BDD? — I wrote this short article about TDD vs BDD because I couldn't find a concise one. It contains code examples in every common dev language. Maybe it helps one of you :-) Here is the repo: https://githu…
How can I let devs update their lower environment terraform while protecting production environments? — I know the title is a rather open ended question, but let me lay out where I am now, in the hopes of getting ideas on how to do this better. For a given service, we'll have one directory for environm…
"I quit my engineering job due to anxiety and built a small business—how do I scale from here?" — Hi everyone, I wanted to share my journey and ask for advice from those who’ve scaled small businesses. I studied chemical engineering and got placed in a great company right after graduating from S…
Every day I try to do things right. Every day they say no. Now I duct-tape and maintain the mess I warn them about — Hey folks, Just wanted to drop this little gem of corporate masochism So I work at this company where we develop software for real state agencies, in this 'properties' sql table we have a field cal…
The right way to highlight text on elementor without plugins — https://youtu.be/1WZkNkP-Kjo?si=QM6N1jEcAcKUek0O
Built Artificial Intelligence driven accounting prototype for small businesses — struggling to find beta users. Any advice?(Tried LinkedIn as well) — I’ve recently developed a prototype of an Artificial Intelligence powered accounting tool tailored specifically for small businesses — the kind that typically have just one in-house accountant or rely…
SaaS Site with 11k Visits – Meta Audience Still “Below 1,000” — **Hey everyone!** I'm struggling to understand why my website remarketing audience on Meta Ads isn't populating correctly, and I'd love your input. **Context:** I manage paid media for a SaaS clie…
What's your marketing strategy? — If you want to supercharge your sales, you need a robust sales funnel to convert prospects into buyers. And this includes creating killer content which will help move your prospect down the funnel. …
Look at the sidebar on the right the link is right there.
So, if I'm asleep... I should just wake up like I usually do? But I don't know when is the right time. 😬 Cause I'm basically hearing myself snore. I don't hear sounds or anything flashing or vibratio…
Haha what an honour to be compared to Uncle Iroh! 😆 yes I understand and I debated whether to put that in, however there are some people who get frustrated with their attempts and prayer can actually…
Hey, you guys ever visit your siblings dreams? I've involuntarily projected myself to various places when under a load of stress when younger. I've had no control over it and wondering if anyone can p…
I guess a lot of people are still in the angry stage, here. Well I guess if your ex was a POS I can understand, but we can't control people leaving. People have the right to make decisions they believ…
You are right. Saying they left because of our flaws isn’t completely right, they left too because of their flaws. The most important thing is to recognize our own flaws for the purpose of self-accept…
I can't make calls some asshole namely my pos thief and his sticky finger bitch. I'm sick of getting blamed for doing the right thing here. Rick Jeff , and the rest of those guys are pimping young g…
Yea I can’t believe that 8 months ago I would have killed to get my ex back. Yeah no thanks . Very happy with myself and my life and the stars aligned perfectly for that child to leave my life. Univer…
2 weeks ago I was taking valerian root capsules choline and a B vitamin combination powder. When i was asleep i could change things in my mind while I was dreaming ,I flew and I forgot what the other …
If you can win your ex back through no-contact then you'll have to live the rest of your life in a state of cat-like readiness to be abandoned and pretend you don't care. With the right degree of osci…
Your original post and all the replies and updates really do help me feel less alone, so thanks! I'm 2.5 months since she moved out, and I'm basically at where you were in your previous post. Which st…
Getting your medicine right will make a big change. It didn’t cure my sadness and grief and fear and all the things that came with my new circumstances but when I finally got on the right dose of the …
You have the right to your truth! And accountability is needed at times for you and for them. I think there is such a thing as loving through high expectations. Avoiding the hard truth of things means…
I realized after I read my initial response how much I repeated myself. Sigh, this shit is hard. Brain not firing on all pistons. The reason I asked for compassion is because he is acting like it’s a …
Late reply, but FYI for anyone reading this from here on...every two hours will change your rising sign and rotate your whole chart another 30 degrees. So while all the planets will still show up in t…
I'd just tag on that posters pay attention to all advice posted, regardless of the upvotes/downvotes. The hivemind here can be brutal. This is PARTICULARLY problematic when advice gets legal advice …
100% he uses it, the Law works for anyone who puts it to use, and "the rain falls on the wicked and the righteous" but here's the caveat: The universe functions on selfless giving, and all things ar…
I would imagine so, but it’s not about doing it throughout the day but rather doing it when you wake up and before sleep, maybe occasionally during the day if you need to get yourself in the right hea…
That's not answering her question and you are being a corrupt liar. You would download 10 languages and 20 skills in a heartbeat if you could do it to your brain just like you could load programs onto…
The Index is just a long list of books, post and stories (dozens of them by the way), what exactly should I be looking for in the Index? Like I said I'm already reading the books of Murphy, can't keep…
Will start reading the LOB on the Index, thought reading the actual books was more beneficial to start with, thanks a lot for pointing me in the right direction.
I read this post as I was at lunch, I was sitting and thinking about a new scene for a mission I will do - and it involves a big airballoon. Out of nowhere this college walks in and says ”have u guys …
Thanks for pointing this out, really. I recently posted my recent success story on the LOA sub, you can check it out, I specifically mention that I do not know what made it happen (god ? My subconscio…
I had a quick glance at this on my break and will chip in more later, just by point 1 alone I see you haven’t grasped it, feeling is the secret indeed. But the feeling isn’t emotions. 2 That knowing…
I think this might be part of the process of healing, and as such support the OP in that regard to move them onto the next phase. However, I also agree that nobody is qualified to give you the advice …
Thank you. I will ask the op to insert these links into her other post. They are a good addenda and are a beneficial part of the record. We may make her post a part of our index as well. It is a very…
Even if you're doing the right steps and apply it the right way, and doing that daily, it will take more time if you're new and working on a tough first mission. The lion states 4 months. If you haven…
>The objective of LOB or LOA is to build lasting faith, not just temporary faith, over the long term to effect change subconsciously in the face of obstacles in life no matter what negatives are in th…
We knew each other ten years ago… it was an easy going relationship then we didn’t end up together he went away disappeared when his father passed away he was not in a good place so it was done … then…
I think it really depends on the partner and how willing they are to communicate. In my last relationship I was avoidant leaning secure and my partner was preoccupied. There were certain things I thou…
If you want to talk, I invite DMs but I'm only here sporadically. I'm a healed avoidant. I say that, but it's not black and white. I measure now for mostly secure. I still experience the initial resp…
I actually have my doubts that therapy is ***the*** key for most avoidants, myself. I've been in and out of therapy at different points since I was thirteen, and *yes* it has helped with different thi…
I look at it from a Buddhist non-attachment point of view. Being open to more than one possibility without excessive attachment to one. You can think of someone with fondness and realise they were not…
I would like to know when the right time to know is? I’m in a VERY similar situation, and many of the comments are saying that it’s too early to tell and my thoughts are a reflection of my own attachm…
I'm so sorry, this sounds so hard. If you can, I think it would be amazing to focus on yourself right now and what you need. My long distance boyfriend dumped me out of the blue after one disagreement…
Husband and I met when I was on a business trip we dated 1 year plane ride long distance. 1.5 year car ride long distance then moved in together and got engaged a year after that. It absolutely can wo…
I've been in this exact situation when I was an FA in a LDR with another FA in another country. And our f2f time was very little like yours but we spoke daily, intensely and talked and had plans. I kn…
i can second this. my girlfriend is FA and doing well on recognizing it and NOT being so FA but there are times when she becomes disconnected and i feel like a friend to her. at times i don’t handle…
Your partner sounds Fearful avoidant, is he aware of his attachment style? I think all you can do is let him know in as blame-free way as possible that you notice a pattern in his behaviour that con…
Well, I could read several books on attachment theory and the words made sense but I couldn’t put it into practice. I was an Anxious Preoccupied and reading about how I had a fear of failure, rejectio…
I don't know if the right word is hurt but when people underestimate you or holds a bias against you, misjudges you only because you are the type of person who is loud and doesn't spell everything out…
Everyone, pay attention. 7 kills in 18 months. And she is clearly literally poised to make millions from here on. 7. Anything is possible for those who persist with the right techniques to the pract…
Increase your php-fpm worker pool. There's a dark art to finding just the right number, since fpm shares memory a lot. Look online to find out how to set that number. Then monitor performance and if y…
I don’t have an answer for you but I’m interested in what the community has to say as we will be evaluating upwind soon. I think one of there sales guys said the right buzz words to my CSIO.
I believe they wanted to understand it first, then they made an update to the prompt, then they decided to pull it. They did the right thing and likely would have pulled it sooner if the problem was …
This is the poor man’s version. For deploys, trigger your GH Action pipeline on what ever event that matches your branching or tagging strategy. That action would build/push a docker image or build an…
Hey, Your future employer knows that you are fresh out of university, they know your work experience and should have set their expectations accordingly. Breathe, take your time relax and learn. That…
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There is no single right way to do it. The right way is deciding which tools work for your workflow, and provide the least administrative overhead. Whatever helps you not copy and paste things all the…
Running a small café means juggling a lot from great service to smooth operations. That’s why having the right point-of-sale (POS) system matters. Choosing the best fit depends on your needs and budge…