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OP this will be hard to read but taking my experience into account as well as some buddies of mine, she's withholding a lot more information I guarantee it. She's using the one night stand excuse as a…
Avoidance seeking help: what if he’s not avoidant like me, but he actually just has a girlfriend he didn’t tell me about? — Been in contact with a guy for about 6 months now who has been pursuing me the entire time, subtly. When we first met, I had just broken up with my ex a couple of months prior to that (6-month long…
Today was the worst day of my life — I am beyond heartbroken writing this. Need any help, advice, anything because this has crushed my soul. Today I found out my (M29) girlfriend (F24) of 4 years cheated on me 3 months ago during a gir…
I Stayed For WAY Too Long — I just found this sub (after watching the Ben Affleck movie *Deep Water*, which was super triggering), so I thought I'd tell you my story. Maybe someone here can relate. My ex-wife struggled with a …
Finding out about an unknown child from an affair 28 years ago — I’ve found out I have been deceived for 28 years by 50M after DNA test I F47 and husband 50M. 29 years together, was contacted by my BIL 3 days ago , had spoken to a F27 who had take a dna test tryi…
Need to write out what I've been dealing with for 3 months now — I cannot believe how much has happened in such a short amount of time. I met this guy back in mid-December and we had both recently gotten out of relationships in which we were both burned. At first…
Trouble under the (lack there of) sheets. Me (30 F) and my bf (40 M) lack physical intimacy, how little is too little? — Me (30 F) and my boyfriend (40 M) and been together for 5 years. He has two of his own kids from a one night stand and another marriage. Sure the kids are sometimes a difficulty with having a sex life…
TheTinder curse — I (M50) have matched with a very intriguing (F41). She is amazing in all ways and she has made it clear that she is married but she says we are inevitably drawn together. couple of basic meets. casual…
Working on reconciliation, but unsure. — I found out two months ago about the affair. Two woman. One was a one night stand the other was a month of lying and sneaking around but nothing too much physical, except when we were separated for a …
How do I (20M) get over my gf’s (20F) past? — I ‘20M’ and my gf ‘20F’ have been together for around 1,5y and I love her very much. We knew each other from high school and were kind of part of the same friend group. She had a crush on me first, at…
I want to forgive my ex and get out of this toxic cycle. — I am an introvert, hardly cuss or raise my voice. But since my breakup and the discard , something worst has come out of me. His lies, love bombing, the hot and cold behaviour, treating me like one ni…
40, divorced 3 years, but feel like I'll never find a partner again. What would you do if you were me? — Location: Hong Kong Age: 40 Status: divorced 3 years, no kids Money: net worth \~US$6M (no debt), few furniture stores and a rental property. High income but stress level is insane. I could retire…
I’m (28M) having trouble with my (29F) wife because shes bisexual and still interested in women — 28M and 29F So my bi-sexual wife of 1 year and some change (4+ years together) recently after coming off birth control has had her libido increase and is more sexually active. Great for me but now she…
Recently told me she wants to end the marriage. Details inside. Long read. — Over Easter weekend my wife of 20 years told me that she really wanted to stop the marriage because it just wasn’t the type of marriage that she wanted to be in anymore. She stated that we were great …
I desperately want to be held and the idea of being touched makes me recoil and it's driving me crazy — My bf broke up with me about 5 months ago and I still feel like shit. What a looser, right? But he said he loved me and treated me with more kindness and love I've ever experienced. I've been high fun…
Day 19 — I want to start journaling daily so that I can track my progress, and I figured why not share with the internet. Maybe you’ll relate, or maybe this will just be for me. My ex cheated on me. It was a…
Thank you for responding to me. Making this post was incredibly embarrassing for me because this entire situation feels absurd and the fact that it’s making me spiral so much has been really confusing…
As someone who was avoidant in the past (10-15 years ago) and believes himself to be secure now, yet also does NOT like casual sex, I do think YES, it *is* compatible with secure attachment. What wou…
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I’m a FA leaning secure (previously leaning anxious) after leaving a long marriage and experiencing my first DA discard. I have been using casual sex as a way to explore sexually in my 40s. I lived a …
I kinda wanna hear stories of other peoples longest bouts of heartbreak and grieving. I'm not that interested in the relationship or breakup itself, just the confusing and lonely road ahead. It's be…
Had a six year relationship that messed with my head a lot. Without going into the details of the relationship, it really left me shook. Even though I broke up with her, it took me a year to feel read…
I haven't had the best luck with dating since we broke up. I had that one night stand. There was one girl where things were going well with after a few dates but then she realized she wasn't ready to …
I had a one night stand at a hotel for the first time in my life. The guy was very attentive, the kissing was amazing, he acted like I was a goddess and was just complimenting me and worshipping my …
Its definitely this for me as well. Most of the interactions we have with eachother has always been about other women, what he does with women and more so bragging about how he gets them. Even when I …
These posts are not uncommon on this sub. Majority of Reddit says almost people have it and they don't know. Majority of Reddit usually says it's not a problem. I think it's something people accept…
What I'm about to say is not what you'll want to hear. Also, I am **not** saying that she wants to break up because of what I'm about to share, it's just a possibility. This is just what *I've* pers…
Eh, men aren't going to be able to get it up for someone they don't find attractive, but the threshold for attractiveness for one night stand is lower than an ongoing casual/FWB which is lower than "t…
Ugh, at this point I think I just want a hook up. FWB is too messy and too much of a mental stress. But I think I could do a one night stand type of thing.
I think so! Just based on the messages I get from my Tinder matches I don’t think it would be hard to get one. I’ve just never had a one night stand before, so I’m a little hesitant. Edit: okay, I’m…
Yeah he actually seems like an ass. A casual partner is still a person. My FWB that I had for a few years (school + full time job, he had 2 jobs, neither of us had time or energy left for dates or …
I think in modern dating culture the terms 'casual', 'friends with benefits', 'short term', 'fuck buddy' are all too nebulous so everyone goes into those relationships with their own preconceived noti…
Okay, never mind on me trying to do a one night stand, I’m too much of a square. Idk how to get the conversation going without feeling awkward.
I would just enjoy getting to know them. Especially if you're looking for a life partner and not just a one night stand. The dating advice will tell you don't treat your first date or your first fe…
One night stand? Sure. If I'm looking for a long term relationship, a sparkling conversation will make me overlook a lot of incompatibilities.
Yeah, ONE night stand. So this doesn’t sound like a ONE night stand. Or someone that put their health or their parent’s health, any partner, in any priority. A HUGE 🚩 A car dealership size red flag. …
To me, yeah. Any time someone has asked me for nudes, they've only ever wanted a casual hook up type vibe. I no longer send nude pictures and no longer entertain casual/one night stands. So once I shu…
“They only had sex four times” this wasn’t a simple mistake some drunken one night stand. this was a prolonged lie that spanned over a year that’s not a mistake that’s a relationship. and fyi they had…
(44M) honestly, i think "making it very clear" might be hurting your profile and your life. i understand you dont want a one night stand or meaningless hookups, but there's something in-between thos…
i had a lot of various kinds of traumas throughout my childhood and teenage years, medical trauma/health issues and being homeschooled are indeed two things i experienced (& i'm still dealing with bad…
It’s wise. Maybe I live in some weird bubble, but people do a lot of…unique…activities these days (probably not a new thing but definitely more accepted and widespread than in the past). Lots of multi…
People can catch an STI from a single sexual encounter. People can be in long term relationships and catch something from their partner who lied about being monogamous. It's a myth that only people wh…
Unsure if anyone else specified yet but think this realization may help break the spell for you to acknowledge: she may not have physically cheated but she absolutely has emotionally. Imo those affair…
Sure I get that, but that's not me. It seems like he was bitter that he didn't have any takers when he was single, but I'm not sure how that pertains to me as a woman who he assumed would have a pleth…
So in my late 20s I did a similar thing. Met a guy at a mutual friend's birthday the same day he accepted a job in another province. (Canada - 4 hour flight for reference.) He left, we "ended it" but …
OK I appreciate your answer but let's rephrase it because it's a bit hurtful. I do value my ex: she's very academically oriented, she's supportive, pretty and more importantly the mother of my son. It…
I don't judge anyone. Sometimes I am jealous of my friends that can have one night stands. I am not wired that way and overlay cautious. I have to get to know somebody a bit before I sleep with them.…
No, I'd be pretty upset if I needed an abortion. Because that would still be my child. I mean, is it wrong for parents to be upset about a miscarriage, even if it's early in the pregnancy? Is it wrong…
Really? I haven't dated in 15 years so maybe I am out of touch. But three dates- say date one is coffee and goes for an hour, then two dinner dates at three hours- I don't think I'm jumping into bed w…
So, he's going to the movies with a male friend more often than with you? It's kind of odd behavior for guys, in my view, instead of you. I thought that was more of a girl thing. That's a flag. Can yo…
I''e had one night stands who were more attentive and affectionate than that. Yeah, he was rude. I'd move on.
Gross. Yeah he really has no intention or interest in seeing you again. I think the only reason he said anything about staying was you weren’t getting ready to go and him going out into the living roo…
Exactly. One night stands are fine, no need to be a prick about it though, don’t have to make it cold and uncomfortable.
I've had one night stands that I met at a bar and went home with treat me more respectfully than this dude.
I had this happen to me about 2 years ago. I've had other one night stands, but this one stuck with me as hurtful rather than fun (as any ONS should be for both parties) because his intentions lacked …
Yeah, but a one night stand is usually someone who you met that night- not someone who you have dated for an entire month.
Sorry, I think by what you’ve told us so far. He sees you as a sex toy. He said everything right o get into your pants but once the deed was done he discarded you. If he genuinely cared he would have …
Here’s my story as someone who took back a cheater: Taking him back was not an easy decision, and there were a lot of ultimatums in place before I would even consider taking him back. I set expectatio…
Guys can be flexible. If a one night stand is all that's on offer, OP'S wife would definitely fit the bill .
She understands why I’m leaving. I told her maybe if it was a stupid drunken one night stand MAYBE I’d be able to get past it, but this is too much to even wrap my head around. I guess I just wanted t…
i know i had one night stands cuz i just wanted someone to talk to me and be a friend
Too many variables here. First question is, Does she still work with / for this guy? If so does she intend to keep working with him? How do you know she wasnt engaging in a series of one night stand…
Original copy of post by u/Material_Wallaby_193: I (M50) have matched with a very intriguing (F41). She is amazing in all ways and she has made it clear that she is married but she says we are inevit…
Please don’t take this as me being judgmental or negative in any way, as this is NOT my intention. My advice would be to have these types of conversations with potential partners before any sexual in…
You've had one foot out the door since getting back together with your wife. Now you're acting shocked that it bit you in the a**. You are at fault here. You got back together, and now you're hurt tha…